July 1, 2024

Unleash Thyself

Unleash Thyself

It is often mentioned how important it is to build on a firm foundation. Sometimes we forget and forge forward without doing that in our lives. It is especially true as we embark on our personal journey of growth and self-discovery.
Constantin Morun...

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It is often mentioned how important it is to build on a firm foundation. Sometimes we forget and forge forward without doing that in our lives. It is especially true as we embark on our personal journey of growth and self-discovery.
Constantin Morun is on his own journey and in the process has discovered for himself the 5 pillars tailored for that journey and he shares those with us.
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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, Welcome to inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Constantine, welcome to the show.

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Thank you dog. It's such a pleasure to be here.

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So it's wonderful to have you here. I know that

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you have a fascinating story about how you reached the

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point of where you're at, and I'd love for you

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to share with the audience that story. And you know,

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even going back to when you were in Russia and

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those type of things.

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Sounds good absolutely that so Astua was born in Romania, which.

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Is ultimate okay, west of Russia.

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Of course still at some point had a lot of

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influence from Russia. And of course when I was born,

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the country was a communist country for the first seven

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years of my life, which meant that there was a

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time of scartity, time of fear, at a time of

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not having a lot of opportunity. So the influences that

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I had on me as a child, even though my

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parents my caregivers were looking to protect me and to

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give me the best, but the influences were unfortunately, a

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lot of them were negative, right, A lot of limiting beliefs,

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a lot of fixed mindset. I influences from people that

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didn't know they could do more, or they could challenge

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to start a squall. And I've always been someone that

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looked up at things and if something that makes sense,

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I wanted to challenge it. And of course I come

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into a lot of hot waters, so to speak.

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Over there, and so yeah, go on, I was.

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Gonna say, like the story will fast forward to about

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three years ago, because that's when things really started to

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shift a lot. Now I came to Canada. I at

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seventeen with my family. We didn't speaking in English. We

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immigrated here for a better life, and then I went

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to school here, followed in the footsteps of my parents,

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were both engineers. I went on the sciences side, and

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I just did my thing. I did both entrepreneurial adventures

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and been part of the corporate world for quite a while. However,

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how life would have it. You know how when you

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go down a path and you finally realize why am

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I even doing this? And that's what I was because

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I was following a path that was pretty much influenced

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by everyone else accept me. I listened to my parents.

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I wanted to listen to the ones that knew people

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outside of you. And then you wake up one day

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and you realize that, yes, you have the American dream,

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you have the success, you have everything you want in

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life except the most important things, which for me were joy, happiness,

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and fulfillment.

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Well, and it's interesting, isn't that how we all and

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and I'm in the same boat. I've got four brothers,

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and I guarantee you every one of them went into

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the profession that they went into. It's to some degree

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because of their interest, but major because my dad told

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us number one, you will all be professionals, and number two,

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I'm not going to help you.

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And I mean, that's what I'm seeing as well. And

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what I do today is holp people that have gone

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down this path to find where it is in their heart,

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what it is that they want to do, and define

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success on their own terms, because society has done a

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great job of defining success for us. And I would

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imagine your father and my parents and everyone else's parents

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listening to this. The only one of the best for you, right,

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so this is what would amount to success, and you

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didn't know any better, so you followed in their first

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And now some people didn't have those opportunities or someone

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a different way. But right now we're at a point

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in time when there are so many opportunities. But if

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you don't start looking at who you are, below the indoctrination,

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below the lessons and stories of society and caregivers and whatnot,

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you're not going to find that fulfillm and the joy,

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the happiness and satisfaction that you're looking for because you're

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chasing someone else's ring.

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Well, and that's so true, and you know whether it's

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someone else's society whoever? Interesting how that ego gets in

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the way. And you know, as we talk about success,

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My experience has been as I talk to people about success,

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most of it is ego driven, and I sense that

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that's not what you're talking about. So when you define success,

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what do you mean? Because I think that can be

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a universal element for anyone, regardless of their financial situation,

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their education, or whatever that happens to be.

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Yeah, you see, languages fascinate me, Doug, And I mean

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English was a language I didn't speak much of when

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I came to Canada, so I had to learn it

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all from the ground up. And what I've realized through

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all my life is that we tend to give definitions

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to words, and whatever the mainstream defines the word as

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that's what we stick by. So then we have words

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that have negative connotations, almost always even though they're not

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necessarily meant to be that way. And success is one

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of those words that someone here's success, they immediately have

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a picture in their mind of what it looks like,

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and that's usually defined by someone outside of them, and

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partially by ego, like you mentioned, because mine was no different.

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For me, success looked like, oh, I'm going to get

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a degree, I'm going to be a successful business on

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which I was, or join the corporate world, which I

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did and climb up the corporate ladder, make a lot

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of money, have the shiny toys. That what success look

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like to me, And if you look at it, that's

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mostly ego driven because it's material based, right right, Like

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the quality of your relationships, the quality of your self

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care and self talk, the quality of your environment. None

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of the stuff matters when we're looking at success from

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the outside and how most people and society define it.

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So to me, success these days is like, Okay, what

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is it in my heart that I want to achieve?

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I call it my purpose, my mission in life, my why.

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Many people have different versions of it and everything that

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I If it's aligned with that, that means it's successful.

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So last week I had a four hour masterclass on

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calm success, so achieving pig performance without any of the

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pressure that's usually associated with it. For me, the event

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was successful because at the end of the four hours

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and even throughout it, people were having transformations left and right.

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They were coming off of mute sharing the chat how

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this is shifting beliefs, So this is impacting them.

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For me that success.

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There was no looking like, oh, how many of them

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signed up to be clients, how many of them paid

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me anything? This was an event that was seven dollars

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and people got transformed, including myself, because I've learned so

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much in the process, and now that's success for me,

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Like if I can impact someone's life that success, and.

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How do you show. I'm curious as you got to

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that point, because I know you were very successful, as

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you say, both in your own business as well as corporate.

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What were the elements that finally reached you and helped

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you to become a fair enough that you were able

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to say to yourself, you know what, this is not

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what I really want, This is not who I really am.

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What were those elements that finally cause you to have

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that awakening.

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That's a great question, Doug, And for me it was

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back in twenty twenty one, you know, coming out of

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the pandemic, having worked sixty plus hours a week in

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my corporate job, in a very fulfilling job because I

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was enabling people to work from home during the pandemic

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st sixty plus hours. My entire identity was my job,

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to the point that I had it outside of it

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was what escaping the reality. So you know how when

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you wake up, you're like, oh, I gotta go to work,

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so you dread waking up, but then you go to work,

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you work ten twelve hours how long this plus the commute,

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and then you come home and you are like, well,

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I don't have time to cook healthy, I don't even

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have the energy. I don't have time to spend any

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minutes with my loved ones. I'm just going to order

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something out, play some computer games, watch some Netflix, and

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then wait till the weekend to hope to catch up

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on sleep so I can do more things. And that

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was my life for I don't know, probably like six

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seven years up to that point. And I've realized that

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working hard for success and sacrificing my well being, sacrificing

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my relationship, sacrificing pretty much everything I hold dear to

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me was no longer an option because it was an

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awakening moment. He's like, wow, I just visas I got

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the promotion at that point, more money, about the same responsibility,

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and I was like, this doesn't do anything for me anymore.

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It's like I worked so hard for the promotion and

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then it was huh, was a gurud awakening call, right,

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because you're like, Oh, I want this shiny thing, and

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then you get a shiny thing and you're like, hmm, yes,

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So that was I would say the biggest pivotal moment

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in my life.

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And I know that you developed something called the three

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foundational pill. Can you go through those step by step

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and talk about how do they apply to someone's transformation?

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And as you talk about, you know your own transformation story,

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what do you really mean by transformation? Let's get into

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that first.

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Oh I love that, and I'm picking up some papers

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here because I actually I presented on this last week

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at my event, right, and it's very fresh in my mind.

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But transformation for me means looking at your own life.

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If you're unhappy with anything in your life, and most

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of us have one or two things that were not

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happy with. And the people I serve high achievers, many

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of them listening to your show right now. These are

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people that have seen some success in life. It doesn't

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matter if it's in the corporate world, if it's as

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an entrepreneur, or maybe you're an artist or an athlete,

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it doesn't really matter. You've seen success in your life,

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but it almost always came with a sacrifice of sorts.

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So you might have the successful business, but your work

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sixty hours a week and your relationships are falling apart,

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and yourself care is in the gutter because you don't

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have time for it nor the energy. Or you have

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the success. You have the successful business, you have all

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the money in the world, but you don't have the

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relationships you would want because nobody understands what you're going through.

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You have everything on the out side, So why would

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anyone empathize with your lack of fulfillment or lack of joy,

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or lack of clarity or lack of happiness. Right, So

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that's what I would say transform. That's where transformation starts.

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You know that something isn't aligned, isn't working for you

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in your life, and you want to get to a

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different place.

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So the process of.

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Getting from point A, so being too busy, overwhelmed, stressed,

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burnt out, depressed, anxious, all of those things, that's the

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starting state. Through some system and process, you're going to

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end up in the next step, which is essentially what

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I would take people or I help people get to,

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which is a state where you stress less, achieve more,

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and create time for what you love without any of

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the usual sacrifices. You don't sacrifice what you care about.

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And that's what I would call it transformation. Right, you

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go from pointing to point B. What is tangible, but

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it's aligned with who.

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that you know, once achieved all of a sudden, it's

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just a remarkable life experience that you can have. Let

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me let me ask you a question. I was on

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we were talking about values and how how often we

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find ourselves doing things that really don't connect with what

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our true values are. In fact, I think a lot

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of times people just don't think about their values, you know,

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and what what what is my real value? We were

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talking about using uh and I'm sure in the corporate

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world you've heard of the disk tests and some of

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those where you're using those to hire people or understand

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their personality. And we were talking about that and talking

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about the fact that this particular one that we used,

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it really goes in and helps to identify what people's

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values are. In other words, they're responding to the evaluation,

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but they're really really clarifying what their values are, and

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so often their values are not matching their behavior, what

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they're doing in profession or in life or whatever. What

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have you found? How do people number one, discover what

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their true values are? And then number two, how do

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they correlate that in their life to where they are

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really now living their values? Oh?

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What a beautiful question that, Doug.

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that we haven't had a chance to look at, which

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is those three pillars or the five steps in my system. Yes,

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that's a crucial part to it. And when I look

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at values right now, I was in the same boat

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you just explained. I wasn't clear on who I was

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and what I valued in life. And my values are

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actually tied to the external world, meaning that I I

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just picked from people that I admired, perhaps and I said, oh,

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that's my value, And in most cases it was.

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It was an okay value.

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that value was something that I wanted to be, not

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something that I was. And when you're talking about values,

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is who you are at your core versus who you was,

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where you're like, oh, I want to be this person,

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so that's my value. Well it's not yet your value. Yes,

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you can pull it from the future into your present,

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but there are some steps you have to take, because

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then we have this false idea that we are something

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that we're not, and then our life is going to

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reflect that the not and then we're going to wonder

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what the disconnect is?

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Yeah, what's done with my system?

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When I look at how so I mentioned to you

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that twenty twenty one was when I finally realized going

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down the wrong path. And at this point I was

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investing a lot in my personal and professional development. I

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and in a very very senior role. I was successful,

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but I had to compete against many high achievers, so

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I invested a lot in my own personal development, but

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it was always external. What I had realized at that

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moment is that I have to start looking internally. I

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have to pull by the curtain and realize that I

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have been suppressing emotions and feelings all my life. And

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some of my foundational pillars were not very strong, including

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the one you just mentioned, their own values around who

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I am at the core level, at the heart level.

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start what I should have started because I didn't know,

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and I started what I would call.

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Are you familiar with a with a A gentleman by

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the name of Simon Sinek.

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He's a mind I'm not.

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I'm not.

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but one of them is called Start with Why. And

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that's a book I read maybe a decade ago now,

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and it was really really powerful because it told you,

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essentially to get within and find out who you are

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at the core and start with that purpose, start with

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the why.

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Did back in twenty twenty one, twenty twenty two. But

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what I hadn't realized is that, like most people listening here,

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when you read the books, you watch the podcast, you

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listen to the videos or watch the videos, and you

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start implementing things in your life, they don't always work

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out the way you'd expect them to work, even though

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they worked really well for someone else, and then you

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end up blaming yourself. And then you go look for

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the next shiny object and you try to implement that

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and that's going to fail again. Well, I was the same.

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What happened that is idea realized that the most important

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aspect of us as human beings is our foundation. And

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what I mean by foundation done, it's your psychology, your

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thoughts and beliefs about yourself, about others, and about the

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world at large. Because you see, on top of the

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foundation comes the mindset, comes who you are and how

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you're going to show up to the world. Because if

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you don't have a solid foundation, so your belief system,

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your thought patterns are not in line with who you

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are and who you want to be, everything's going to

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fall apart to some point because you get storms in

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your life. You may lose a job, You maybe get

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passed on for a promotion. You may lose a life

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partner because they decide to move on from you. You

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may lose a lot of one like things happen that

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ore outside of your control. And when those happen, they

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will bring down the house of cards really quickly. And

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you now are starting back a square one. And that's

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what I was time and time again despite my success.

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Well, and so as you tie as you talk about

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those three foundational pillars, and I know that we were

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going to start there, and then I kept asking you

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different questions, but how did you how did you come

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up with those three foundational pillars? And then we're going

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to talk about each one specifically if we can.

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Yeah, absolutely absolutely.

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So the way I the way it all came up

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to me, is that I simply went through life and

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as a high achieve but I was like, I need

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to figure this out. You know, as a high achieve

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here you go in and you're like, well, I'm smart,

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I've done many things. I'm not going to bother other people.

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I'm going to do it all myself. And that's what

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I did. So instead of going out and saying, hey,

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you know what, put my hand up, I need some

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help help me in this area, I decided to do

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it all myself. So that's why it took me years

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instead of taking me months. Had I had the system

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I'm going to talk to you about right now. And

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the way I discovered this simply reading books, listening to

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podcasts re queers, watching videos, and trying things in my life.

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call the second pillar of my system, which is that

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why that purpose, that mission. I call it the peak

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clarity system aspect of it because it's all about getting

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clear on who you are. That includes your values right,

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that includes to who you are. And I started there

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and I remember finally figuring it out and I'm like, oh,

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this is amazing. But I did nothing with it for

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about sixty seven months because it also coincide to be

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the worst time of my life in terms of my

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mental health. I was depressed, suicidal, I was working sixty

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hours plus a week, and I was like, I don't

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know what to do with this. I found it, but

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now what? And then fast forward about six seven months.

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and I realized the wait a second, what's really holding

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it back is essentially these thought patterns. I would get

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into what my beliefs, like, maybe I'm not good enough

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at that imposter synde of the kick saying that fear

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of failure, the fear of success that creeps up occasionally.

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psychology related material, because psychology has been my passion all

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my life. The way we interact with people, the way

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we talk, the way we do things. So I dove

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deep into neuroscience, and at the time there was a

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lot of research coming out on neuroplasticity, your ability to

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rewire the brain and whatnot. And I stumbled upon one

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of my mentors that I work with right now, Jason mcclanna,

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the third, who is all about something called neuro encoding,

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which is the language of your nervous system. It has

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a basis in neuroscience with NLP and hypnotherapy and a

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bunch of other things, and it's the idea of rewiring

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your brain, rewarding your thoughts and believes about self others

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in the world, to be able to build a strong

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foundation so that it can hold anything you want to

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build on top of it. So think of it as

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I had a foundation for a two story home, but

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I wanted to build a skyscraper on it. So you

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can imagine what happens when you start doing that. Oh yeah, so, Doug,

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I guess to bring it all back.

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I started with step number two.

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Took me seven months or so to realize that step

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number one was missing, went back figured out step number one.

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That took me again months to learn it all, and

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then I realized once my foundation started to get solid.

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It only took weeks for it to really see big impact.

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Everything else just flowed from there. And so the first part,

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I say, the first pillar, the biggest one, is the foundation.

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The second pillar is that identity of yours and getting

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very clear on it and then amplifying what I would

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call your gifts and strengths.

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Because I'm not sure.

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About you, Doug, but anyone listening to this, if I

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asked you the question, here's a piece of paper. You

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have five minutes write down what your gifts are and

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write down what your strengths are. How many people can

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do that? Everyone I talked to, from my clients to

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friends to aquaintances, very few people can answer that question

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more than just like, oh, I know a couple of

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things I'm really good at. But no one actually spent

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the time to realize why there is a Seals demopart

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from others. Why is it they are greater? Because it's

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very hard for you as a human being to really

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see how amazing you are your greatness.

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Well, and I think you know as you talk about that,

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what comes to my mind is the ego comes in

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and place an extremely invalid and unfortunate role in that

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because you know, if you ask me, you know, what

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are your strengths? What are your gifts? First thing years

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ago that would have come into my mind was, you know,

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I'm a great dentist. I'm really good at diagnosing and

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so on and so forth. But what that is is

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that's not who I am. That is what I do.

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And you know, and I love. I love this whole

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concept of being versus doing, and the ego comes into

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that when you say, you know, what are your gifts

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or what are your strains? Well, this is what I do,

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and this is what I do, and therefore I'm really

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good at that versus as you're saying, you know, really

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figuring out internally, really talking about the being as I am?

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What are those gifts and what are those strengths? And

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you're right, not a lot of people are able to

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really sit down and identify.

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That yes and when.

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And I love what you just said that because you're

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one hundred and fifty thousand percent right because I was

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the same way.

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Right.

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You look at life like what I do is my identity.

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It could be that you're a father or a mother

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and that's what you're It could be that you have

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a job, like you said, in your field, and that's

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your identity. That that was me too, and no judgment,

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that's most of us. But when you realize, when you

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go below the surface, there are some gifts. And I

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truly believe that each of us were born with a

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unique set of gifts that we brought into this life

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with and we may have a bit of an overlap,

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but they are unique to me.

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And the strengths could be the.

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Tools and techniques you've discussed a bit, which is like

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I've decided to go down this path because.

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That's what my parents told me.

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And in the process, in my case, for example, I

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learned how to code, I learn how to do project management,

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organization and change management. Those are strengths that I learned

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along the way. Let's not who I am. And the

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reason that part is so important, Doug, is that there's

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a lot of research out there now that has taken

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different groups of people and have them either focus on

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their gifts and strengths or focus on their weaknesses, as

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in like spending time to improve those two you see

470
00:24:29.920 --> 00:24:33.599
results now everywhere that spending time to just be here.

471
00:24:33.839 --> 00:24:35.880
They what's called your zone of genius. Like what you're

472
00:24:35.880 --> 00:24:38.920
really good at and doubling down on your strengths and

473
00:24:38.960 --> 00:24:42.200
your gifts is going to yield you significantly bigger return

474
00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:45.759
on investment than anything else you do. Right, So, your weaknesses,

475
00:24:46.279 --> 00:24:47.920
if you spend too much time on them, they're going

476
00:24:47.960 --> 00:24:50.839
to take time away from your spending time on what

477
00:24:50.960 --> 00:24:53.359
you're really good at. And guess what, If you spend

478
00:24:53.359 --> 00:24:56.519
time in what you're good at, your gifts and your strengths,

479
00:24:56.559 --> 00:24:59.039
once you identify them, it's also a place where you're

480
00:24:59.039 --> 00:25:03.160
going to find more joyfulfillment and satisfaction because if you're

481
00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:09.079
good at something, almost always there is some form of

482
00:25:09.119 --> 00:25:12.039
fulfillment or pleasure around it. Now, I want to preface

483
00:25:12.079 --> 00:25:13.799
this that it's not always the case if you're coming

484
00:25:13.799 --> 00:25:15.839
from the ego like you mentioned, meaning that if we

485
00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:18.440
have the false sense of what we're good at it's

486
00:25:18.599 --> 00:25:21.519
all ego driven, then of course it's going to be

487
00:25:21.559 --> 00:25:24.720
a bit of fakeness around it. But once you get

488
00:25:24.759 --> 00:25:26.319
clear on what it is that you're really good at,

489
00:25:26.359 --> 00:25:28.480
if you're really good at spending time with people like

490
00:25:28.519 --> 00:25:31.680
you are Doug and asking amazing questions, why would you

491
00:25:31.720 --> 00:25:33.599
not want to spend more time doing that and getting

492
00:25:33.599 --> 00:25:35.960
even better and better at it because.

493
00:25:35.920 --> 00:25:40.920
Well, yeah, yeah, it's really fascinating, you know, may aha moment.

494
00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:43.920
And that was I grew up with a father who

495
00:25:44.039 --> 00:25:48.599
was just an amazing classical voice teacher, ended up teaching

496
00:25:48.640 --> 00:25:53.000
at Northwestern University, which is one of the top universities there,

497
00:25:53.079 --> 00:25:56.960
and he was very ego driven. As I look at

498
00:25:57.000 --> 00:25:59.640
it now, you know, we lived in a house that

499
00:25:59.680 --> 00:26:04.039
I knew couldn't afford. You know, everything was really ego

500
00:26:04.119 --> 00:26:08.000
driven for him, and at least that was my perception

501
00:26:08.400 --> 00:26:10.839
and to some it was probably true for a while.

502
00:26:11.480 --> 00:26:14.759
And when he passed away back in twenty ten, and

503
00:26:15.039 --> 00:26:18.039
they actually held a memorial service for him at Northwestern

504
00:26:18.119 --> 00:26:22.119
University and he was ninety two at that point in time.

505
00:26:22.279 --> 00:26:25.880
But what was fascinating is as the students got up

506
00:26:25.920 --> 00:26:30.359
and started talking and sharing experiences and so forth, I

507
00:26:30.440 --> 00:26:33.799
walked out of there with tears in my eyes because

508
00:26:34.519 --> 00:26:37.640
I heard a different message than I really anticipated I

509
00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:40.319
was going to hear. I heard, yeh. Yeah. Norman was

510
00:26:40.359 --> 00:26:43.160
a great voice teacher. And you know, they tell stories

511
00:26:43.200 --> 00:26:45.079
about he'd come down to the opera, but he really

512
00:26:45.160 --> 00:26:47.440
hated the opera. But he was a classical voice teacher.

513
00:26:47.480 --> 00:26:49.400
He'd sit in the corner and raise his hands very

514
00:26:49.400 --> 00:26:52.519
gently when he needed to guide them on something. But

515
00:26:52.599 --> 00:26:55.359
their message was, yeah, he was a great teacher, but

516
00:26:55.480 --> 00:26:58.160
more importantly, and they told us then interesting stories about this.

517
00:26:58.400 --> 00:27:03.519
He gave us the will to win, to love, to succeed.

518
00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:10.359
And I walked out of there thinking, Holy cow, my dad.

519
00:27:10.400 --> 00:27:12.880
Even though yeah, I had assumed that there was some

520
00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:17.119
ego driven things about that, somewhere along the line, that

521
00:27:17.319 --> 00:27:21.359
genuine gift and strength that he had came through and

522
00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:25.240
he touched his students in a way that probably most

523
00:27:25.680 --> 00:27:28.880
college professors would never be able to touch their students

524
00:27:29.759 --> 00:27:32.920
because he was being genuine in really helping them to

525
00:27:33.000 --> 00:27:36.720
learn to love, to succeed, to win in their lives.

526
00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:41.240
And for me, that was the aha moment that changed

527
00:27:41.279 --> 00:27:44.359
my whole perception of who I was and who I

528
00:27:44.440 --> 00:27:46.039
really truly wanted to become.

529
00:27:48.319 --> 00:27:51.960
No, that's such a beautiful story, and it reminds me

530
00:27:52.000 --> 00:27:54.759
of a quote who said this by something. It's like,

531
00:27:55.319 --> 00:27:58.640
it's not people will remember how you made them feel

532
00:27:59.440 --> 00:28:03.279
first and foremost before anything else. And that's what you're

533
00:28:03.279 --> 00:28:05.960
talking about there, right, Because those students are made to

534
00:28:06.000 --> 00:28:09.480
feel a certain way. They were empowered, they were inspired.

535
00:28:09.799 --> 00:28:11.920
They were motivated to be able to be themselves and

536
00:28:12.240 --> 00:28:14.759
be able to grow. And that's such a huge testament

537
00:28:14.799 --> 00:28:16.799
to your father and what.

538
00:28:16.839 --> 00:28:20.440
He did well, and I think for everyone they can

539
00:28:20.480 --> 00:28:23.119
achieve that. As you talk about, so number one is

540
00:28:23.160 --> 00:28:26.279
really clarifying your drive, your vision, your why. That's that's

541
00:28:26.319 --> 00:28:29.160
your first foundational pillar if I understand that correctly.

542
00:28:29.799 --> 00:28:31.039
Number two I would say, because.

543
00:28:30.880 --> 00:28:33.440
So I say that's number two first step is.

544
00:28:34.079 --> 00:28:36.839
Is that those thoughts and beliefs about yourself others in

545
00:28:36.880 --> 00:28:41.440
the world, because that's what defines really how you start.

546
00:28:41.480 --> 00:28:43.480
I mean you can say that the why, that.

547
00:28:45.920 --> 00:28:47.960
Vision, and of course the Valles and all that are

548
00:28:48.039 --> 00:28:50.079
part of the foundation. But I would say this is

549
00:28:50.119 --> 00:28:54.480
like a layer below because if your thoughts or patterns

550
00:28:54.480 --> 00:28:57.680
of belief that I cannot do this because I'm a

551
00:28:57.799 --> 00:29:00.480
B or C. Right, I'm too white, I'm too black,

552
00:29:00.519 --> 00:29:04.039
I'm too fat and too skinny, I'm not rich enough,

553
00:29:04.079 --> 00:29:06.920
I'm not in the right category, right, If that's your belief,

554
00:29:07.279 --> 00:29:09.119
and that's going to hold you back from being able

555
00:29:09.119 --> 00:29:11.799
to even do anything which are why you know if

556
00:29:11.839 --> 00:29:14.200
you know it, or your gifts and strengths right, and

557
00:29:14.240 --> 00:29:16.839
would even prevent you from being clear on those because

558
00:29:17.119 --> 00:29:19.480
your beliefs and your thought patterns are holding you back

559
00:29:19.519 --> 00:29:22.160
from realizing the amazing potential.

560
00:29:21.680 --> 00:29:22.240
That you hold.

561
00:29:22.240 --> 00:29:27.079
And I truly believe that every human being has infinite potential.

562
00:29:27.599 --> 00:29:30.279
It's just that our thoughts and beliefs, our ego are

563
00:29:30.319 --> 00:29:33.519
holding us back. So unless we get to start there

564
00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:37.119
and what we do after, it's not going to yield

565
00:29:37.160 --> 00:29:37.960
the same results.

566
00:29:38.079 --> 00:29:38.240
Right.

567
00:29:38.240 --> 00:29:41.079
You may see some success because again I've been successful,

568
00:29:41.079 --> 00:29:46.079
you've been successful. Many people are successful, but what cost right,

569
00:29:46.160 --> 00:29:49.880
And if you start there, you'll start to see that gots.

570
00:29:50.000 --> 00:29:53.960
So it's really achieving that consciousness, that mindset, and being

571
00:29:53.960 --> 00:29:58.559
able to identify those lemony, those beliefs, those subconscious things

572
00:29:58.559 --> 00:30:02.279
that come out and then okay, I appreciate what you're

573
00:30:02.279 --> 00:30:04.680
saying there, and then you can start working on the why.

574
00:30:05.400 --> 00:30:08.880
And that's number two. And then number three is really

575
00:30:08.920 --> 00:30:11.519
more about your gifts and strengths exactly.

576
00:30:11.559 --> 00:30:13.519
So I broke it down into five steps now, so

577
00:30:13.559 --> 00:30:17.039
it's a bit more. Okay, the first one is a foundation. Now,

578
00:30:17.079 --> 00:30:19.680
the way if let's say you and I work together, right,

579
00:30:19.720 --> 00:30:21.799
the way we start is we start with the foundation.

580
00:30:22.359 --> 00:30:25.400
But that's actually appealer the once you start with it,

581
00:30:25.519 --> 00:30:28.079
you're going to see that, like an onion, layers and

582
00:30:28.160 --> 00:30:30.119
layers will keep coming off, and you're going to work

583
00:30:30.160 --> 00:30:32.240
on it for the rest of your life because your vision,

584
00:30:32.759 --> 00:30:34.319
which is step number four we'll talk about it in

585
00:30:34.400 --> 00:30:36.799
a second, will grow and grow, right, because the more

586
00:30:36.839 --> 00:30:39.400
you accomplish, the more you realize you can do anything

587
00:30:39.400 --> 00:30:41.119
you want, and the more you can do anything you want,

588
00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:43.240
the more you're going to do which and the more

589
00:30:43.279 --> 00:30:46.000
you're going to be which means that, let's say you

590
00:30:46.119 --> 00:30:49.359
start with the one story home as an example here,

591
00:30:49.799 --> 00:30:52.119
and then eventually your vision is that you want to

592
00:30:52.119 --> 00:30:56.519
have this skyscraper that's like ten stories high, maybe twenty. Right,

593
00:30:56.640 --> 00:30:59.400
your foundation that needs to grow with you to be

594
00:30:59.400 --> 00:31:01.000
able to sust say in whatever it is that you're

595
00:31:01.000 --> 00:31:04.559
trying to build on top of it. Yes, this step

596
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:07.319
is the first, but it's also the step that carries

597
00:31:07.359 --> 00:31:10.559
out throughout the entire process that we work together and

598
00:31:10.640 --> 00:31:14.319
your entire life as you move through it. Now, step

599
00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:17.759
number two is getting clear on your why. Because now

600
00:31:17.759 --> 00:31:19.559
if you have the foundation and we're working on those

601
00:31:19.599 --> 00:31:23.759
limiting beliefs, we're instilling new beliefs. So using neuroplasticity. Right,

602
00:31:23.920 --> 00:31:28.519
using neuroscience psychology back methods, you start to build that.

603
00:31:28.599 --> 00:31:30.680
Now you have trust in yourself, you start to eliminate

604
00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:36.400
things like imposter syndrome, self doubt, hesitation, procrastination, fear of failure,

605
00:31:36.440 --> 00:31:40.359
fear of success, self loathing. All these things that hold

606
00:31:40.440 --> 00:31:43.640
you back start to get eliminated. Now your why starts

607
00:31:43.680 --> 00:31:46.599
to appear out of your own stories. So, in other words,

608
00:31:46.640 --> 00:31:50.000
we're looking internally, not externally, to find out who you are,

609
00:31:50.319 --> 00:31:53.680
not who you want to be. And as you do that,

610
00:31:54.680 --> 00:31:57.759
the gifts and strengths begin to reveal themselves. So the

611
00:31:57.799 --> 00:31:59.759
idea here, Doug, is that let's say you and I

612
00:31:59.799 --> 00:32:02.759
did process together. We will sit down and you will

613
00:32:02.799 --> 00:32:05.559
bring stories from your life, and we would dig into

614
00:32:05.559 --> 00:32:08.640
those stories to get to the stuff below the surface,

615
00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:12.519
because when any of us recount a story, we usually

616
00:32:12.680 --> 00:32:15.559
only stay at the surface level. We want to get

617
00:32:15.559 --> 00:32:17.880
out of the feelings level. The feelings are for you

618
00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:20.720
and the feelings for those involving the situation, and they

619
00:32:20.759 --> 00:32:23.839
will start to show patterns. And those patterns if you

620
00:32:23.960 --> 00:32:26.799
look at enough stories, which is usually about seven, eight stories,

621
00:32:26.880 --> 00:32:29.920
maybe ten, you start to see that there are different

622
00:32:30.279 --> 00:32:33.480
buckets that start to show up, and those will give

623
00:32:33.519 --> 00:32:35.920
you a glimpse into who you are at the core level,

624
00:32:36.599 --> 00:32:38.960
like why your gifts are, what your talents are, what

625
00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:41.119
your strengths are, and from there you can pull out

626
00:32:41.160 --> 00:32:44.519
your wife very very easily. Now, for example, mine when

627
00:32:44.519 --> 00:32:46.759
I went through my exercise, and it's something that involves

628
00:32:46.839 --> 00:32:50.279
all the time, is to inspire and empower individuals on

629
00:32:50.319 --> 00:32:54.720
their life journey so they too can find joy fulfillment, success,

630
00:32:54.759 --> 00:32:57.559
abundance in life and make the world a better place.

631
00:32:58.079 --> 00:33:01.559
And ultimately it's about its final empowering people to shine

632
00:33:01.720 --> 00:33:05.640
their light. And that's how I look at mine. And

633
00:33:05.680 --> 00:33:09.359
then so once you have your why, so let's look

634
00:33:09.400 --> 00:33:12.599
at the gifts and strengths and amplify them. Because you

635
00:33:12.839 --> 00:33:15.279
said something so beautiful. I mean, there's so many amazing things,

636
00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:16.680
but one of them that stuck up with me is

637
00:33:16.720 --> 00:33:21.440
that doing versus being the why? Is being the gifts

638
00:33:21.480 --> 00:33:26.039
and strengths is being the doing comes after? Yes, So

639
00:33:26.079 --> 00:33:27.799
how do I take my why and my gifts and

640
00:33:27.799 --> 00:33:32.240
strengths and do something with them? So I'm going to

641
00:33:32.319 --> 00:33:34.160
do a podcast like in my case, right, I'm going

642
00:33:34.160 --> 00:33:36.759
to be a podcast. Yes, I'm going to host master classes,

643
00:33:36.759 --> 00:33:38.680
I'm going to coach people, I'm going to mentor people,

644
00:33:38.680 --> 00:33:41.480
I'm going going to speak on public stages, you name it.

645
00:33:41.759 --> 00:33:45.400
That's how I do things or what I do versus

646
00:33:45.480 --> 00:33:46.759
who I am.

647
00:33:47.119 --> 00:33:49.720
Well, and you know, it's interesting, I smile because what

648
00:33:49.799 --> 00:33:52.039
comes to my mind immediately. I used to get in

649
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:54.119
real trouble once in a while when I was at

650
00:33:54.160 --> 00:33:56.319
church and they were, you know, going into some kind

651
00:33:56.319 --> 00:34:00.160
of lesson, and occasionally I'd raised my hand when they're

652
00:34:00.200 --> 00:34:02.119
just talking about you need to do this, you need

653
00:34:02.160 --> 00:34:04.920
to do that, and I'd raise my hand and obviously,

654
00:34:05.160 --> 00:34:08.159
you know, well not obviously, but you'll understand I am Christian.

655
00:34:08.920 --> 00:34:11.559
And I would raise my hand and say, I've got

656
00:34:11.559 --> 00:34:15.719
a question here for everyone. Did Christ do what he

657
00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:20.159
did so he could become Christ? Or did he do

658
00:34:20.239 --> 00:34:25.599
what he did because he was Christ? And people would

659
00:34:25.639 --> 00:34:28.039
look at me, and you know, I'd got all sorts

660
00:34:28.079 --> 00:34:31.760
of stairs. But but the reality is, and I think

661
00:34:31.800 --> 00:34:35.599
you just hit on it so well, our behavior, our

662
00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:40.280
actions are doing, is merely a reflection of the level

663
00:34:40.400 --> 00:34:41.239
of our becoming.

664
00:34:42.320 --> 00:34:47.159
Yes, yes, oh my god, I love Oh my god.

665
00:34:47.199 --> 00:34:48.000
That's that's amazing.

666
00:34:48.280 --> 00:34:52.599
And I couldn't agree more with that, because what's happening

667
00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:55.920
is we have this illusion from society, perhaps from the

668
00:34:55.960 --> 00:34:58.880
way we grew up, that we gotta hustle, hustle, right,

669
00:34:58.920 --> 00:35:00.760
we gotta work hard, we gotta do all these things

670
00:35:00.960 --> 00:35:03.960
before we can be something, when it's really the other

671
00:35:04.000 --> 00:35:07.599
way around. You you beat first, then you do it, yes,

672
00:35:07.639 --> 00:35:09.760
and that's why it brings us to the so beautiful.

673
00:35:09.880 --> 00:35:12.800
The next part of my system, this is the vision aspect.

674
00:35:12.800 --> 00:35:15.519
I call it a dynamic vision, and in other words,

675
00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:19.000
it's about designing a vision worthy of your life. So

676
00:35:20.280 --> 00:35:23.960
like seeing yourself who you are at some point in time,

677
00:35:24.000 --> 00:35:27.280
and then pulling from that into your present moment. And

678
00:35:27.320 --> 00:35:29.840
again we can use science here because everything I talk about,

679
00:35:29.880 --> 00:35:34.000
everything I do is backed by science, neuroscience, psychology, they

680
00:35:34.119 --> 00:35:36.639
Bruce Lipton, You're not sure if you're familiar as scientists.

681
00:35:36.639 --> 00:35:39.880
It's also very spiritual in nature. He was able to

682
00:35:39.960 --> 00:35:45.280
show how whenever you're thinking about something or bringing up

683
00:35:45.320 --> 00:35:48.039
a beilieve or anything, usually does a picture associated with it.

684
00:35:48.360 --> 00:35:50.559
Right, So you may have something.

685
00:35:51.679 --> 00:35:54.880
Based on what you're seeing in your mind's eye, your body,

686
00:35:54.960 --> 00:35:58.199
so your brain. This is a chemical stack that then

687
00:35:58.679 --> 00:36:02.079
matches or mirrors whatever thinking right. So if you're always

688
00:36:02.079 --> 00:36:05.840
thinking how bad things are, if you're always imagining that

689
00:36:06.920 --> 00:36:09.119
you know you can't achieve something, you can't do something,

690
00:36:09.159 --> 00:36:11.920
that's exactly what your body is going to mirror. And

691
00:36:11.920 --> 00:36:14.239
then of course your experience studied are going to mirror that,

692
00:36:14.280 --> 00:36:18.840
because how can you get something that you're not right.

693
00:36:18.320 --> 00:36:22.400
Well, yeah, we're creating the frequency. We're creating the I'm

694
00:36:22.440 --> 00:36:27.840
sorry to interrupted there, but we're creating that frequency. And

695
00:36:27.880 --> 00:36:30.480
I love how you explain how the body just becomes

696
00:36:30.599 --> 00:36:35.159
a frequency that we then attract. It's like magnets, and

697
00:36:35.199 --> 00:36:37.760
so we will attract the frequency that we give out.

698
00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:40.440
And as you say, and it's amazing to me how

699
00:36:40.480 --> 00:36:45.280
I observe people who constantly are victims and are constantly victims,

700
00:36:45.360 --> 00:36:47.639
and the next week they have another experience in their

701
00:36:47.719 --> 00:36:51.119
victim and yet on the other hand, people who are

702
00:36:51.159 --> 00:36:55.679
really manifesting a positive experience in their lives, you can

703
00:36:55.719 --> 00:37:00.400
see that they're really consciously doing that. So anyway, I

704
00:37:00.559 --> 00:37:02.199
didn't mean and interrupt you.

705
00:37:02.239 --> 00:37:05.360
There, interrupt whenever you wanted. This is a beautiful conversation.

706
00:37:05.440 --> 00:37:09.719
And you're one hundred percent right, because I've been in

707
00:37:09.719 --> 00:37:12.119
the same spot to playing the victim mentality, because if

708
00:37:12.119 --> 00:37:16.800
you look at society, that's what is promoted, and there's

709
00:37:16.840 --> 00:37:18.760
a good reason why it's promoted. I mean, from a

710
00:37:18.840 --> 00:37:21.519
marketing point of view, you can say people are evil

711
00:37:21.559 --> 00:37:24.559
and they're praying on us because they're promoting all this

712
00:37:24.679 --> 00:37:28.719
negativity and divisiveness and all this stuff, but really goes

713
00:37:28.760 --> 00:37:32.719
below that because there's something called negativity bias that's pre

714
00:37:32.760 --> 00:37:34.559
built in all of us human beings for a really

715
00:37:34.639 --> 00:37:37.480
good reason because up to like what sixty seven years ago,

716
00:37:37.559 --> 00:37:41.039
it wasn't very safe out there for us. So I

717
00:37:41.079 --> 00:37:43.320
guess if you believe we've been alive for ten thousand

718
00:37:43.440 --> 00:37:46.519
years or less or a million years, you realize that

719
00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:50.280
we have been safer for a very small amount of time,

720
00:37:50.719 --> 00:37:54.039
which means that our brains and our physiology hasn't had

721
00:37:54.039 --> 00:37:56.400
a chance to adapt to the new ways of the world.

722
00:37:57.000 --> 00:38:01.000
So anything negative will make its way you much much

723
00:38:01.079 --> 00:38:04.559
faster than anything positive, because it's easy to take a

724
00:38:04.559 --> 00:38:08.920
look at an example in our lives from before, like

725
00:38:08.960 --> 00:38:11.920
you're sitting with your tribe on the campfire, and then

726
00:38:11.960 --> 00:38:14.239
all of a sudden, a pack of lines jumps out

727
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:17.840
and starts attacking people. If you're just enjoying the moment.

728
00:38:17.920 --> 00:38:22.760
Then you're just focusing on the positivity of having fun

729
00:38:22.760 --> 00:38:25.760
with your tribe, you're gonna get eaten, and of course

730
00:38:25.840 --> 00:38:28.760
your gene doesn't get passed on, so then negativity has

731
00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:31.320
to hit you first. So you can start doing something

732
00:38:31.320 --> 00:38:32.880
with us so you can react, You can go into

733
00:38:32.920 --> 00:38:37.280
that flight, freeze, fight mode and do something. So that

734
00:38:37.400 --> 00:38:40.960
means that in today's society or social media is so prevailer,

735
00:38:41.039 --> 00:38:43.599
right like bad news is so easy to get a

736
00:38:43.639 --> 00:38:46.239
hold of. We start to get into a pattern where

737
00:38:46.440 --> 00:38:49.440
all we see is the negative, which means that if

738
00:38:49.440 --> 00:38:51.400
we want to see the positive, that's something that we

739
00:38:51.440 --> 00:38:53.840
need to train. It's not something that's just going to

740
00:38:53.920 --> 00:38:57.119
magically happen. Sure, if you've had an amazing upbringing and

741
00:38:57.159 --> 00:39:00.519
you had some amazing mentors and amazing people in your life,

742
00:39:00.599 --> 00:39:03.480
you can probably do it because you've trained yourself. Essentially,

743
00:39:04.880 --> 00:39:07.440
if you're like most of us, you need to train this.

744
00:39:08.199 --> 00:39:10.400
And I know it may you know, when I say training,

745
00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:12.280
it may sound like it's complicated or it takes a

746
00:39:12.280 --> 00:39:12.760
lot of time.

747
00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:13.280
It does not.

748
00:39:14.280 --> 00:39:17.840
Within days and weeks, you can see immense impact into

749
00:39:17.880 --> 00:39:21.119
your life by starting to ship perspectives because there's always

750
00:39:21.119 --> 00:39:25.039
this idea and you touched upon it that you're the victim,

751
00:39:25.079 --> 00:39:28.400
which means that something happens to you. And then there's

752
00:39:28.400 --> 00:39:31.960
the second idea where it's like, okay, so yes, you

753
00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:34.119
could say that something happens to you, but what if

754
00:39:34.159 --> 00:39:38.079
you flip that and say something happens for you? What

755
00:39:38.079 --> 00:39:40.400
what good can you find in that and that negative

756
00:39:40.400 --> 00:39:43.960
that you just experience. And I can guarantee you that

757
00:39:44.000 --> 00:39:45.719
if you start to sit down and ask questions, you

758
00:39:45.719 --> 00:39:47.960
can always find at least a few things that are

759
00:39:48.000 --> 00:39:51.880
positive in it, lessons doors that opened up, Like you

760
00:39:51.960 --> 00:39:54.760
lost your job, that's very negative, but by losing your job,

761
00:39:54.800 --> 00:39:57.039
you got to spend more time with your kids or

762
00:39:57.039 --> 00:39:58.800
your family, and then a door opened up and you

763
00:39:58.880 --> 00:40:02.440
got a better job, for your mental health, for your relationship,

764
00:40:02.480 --> 00:40:05.280
for whatever the case. Right, But we always focus on

765
00:40:05.280 --> 00:40:08.079
the negative. And then there's a third level there, which

766
00:40:08.079 --> 00:40:10.559
you could say it's more spiritual, doc but it's essentially

767
00:40:10.639 --> 00:40:13.880
the level of how am I.

768
00:40:13.880 --> 00:40:17.280
Creating this or co creating this? Right?

769
00:40:17.320 --> 00:40:19.280
And so those are the three levels. I'm somewhere in

770
00:40:19.320 --> 00:40:21.800
between the second and third. What I'm like everything that

771
00:40:21.800 --> 00:40:23.880
happens in my life I'm like, okay, how is this

772
00:40:23.920 --> 00:40:26.760
happening for me? Or how is this happening of my creation?

773
00:40:27.320 --> 00:40:29.320
And when you start looking at it that way, all

774
00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:32.400
of a sudden, so many more opportunities and doors open up.

775
00:40:32.840 --> 00:40:35.960
Okay, And so we go back to that level of

776
00:40:36.639 --> 00:40:41.119
your dreams and that really becomes a co creation type

777
00:40:41.119 --> 00:40:45.400
of experience. So that's number four, right, is your dreams

778
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:47.840
all right? And what's number five?

779
00:40:48.800 --> 00:40:51.400
The number five is bringing it all together because you

780
00:40:51.440 --> 00:40:55.800
see you've now fortified your foundation, you keep building at it.

781
00:40:55.920 --> 00:40:57.760
You're very clear on who you are so that you're

782
00:40:57.800 --> 00:41:01.639
why your identity. You're very clear on your gifts and strengths,

783
00:41:01.679 --> 00:41:05.119
you're amplifying on them. And you have a vision now

784
00:41:05.159 --> 00:41:08.760
that you want to work towards right to be it

785
00:41:08.960 --> 00:41:12.760
so you can get to it. So what's left it's

786
00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:14.599
putting it all together. And I'll side to look at

787
00:41:14.599 --> 00:41:17.000
your life and say, okay, well we're implementing these things.

788
00:41:17.000 --> 00:41:20.440
We're integrating what's happening or what we've learned. So how

789
00:41:20.559 --> 00:41:23.880
is life happening for us? So we now start to

790
00:41:24.239 --> 00:41:26.639
apply things. We take a look at our life and say, okay,

791
00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:29.719
if my why is in my case to inspire and

792
00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:32.840
empower people on this journey. How much does it show

793
00:41:32.920 --> 00:41:36.159
up in my life? Is it show up in my work?

794
00:41:36.320 --> 00:41:38.519
Does it show up in my relationships at home and

795
00:41:38.639 --> 00:41:42.039
with my friends and family? If it doesn't, how can

796
00:41:42.079 --> 00:41:44.239
I bring more of it to the world? Say, with

797
00:41:44.280 --> 00:41:47.159
my gifts and strengths? Am I spending twenty percent of

798
00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:48.679
my time or my gifts and strengths? Or am I

799
00:41:48.719 --> 00:41:52.000
spending five percent or fifty percent? How can I increase

800
00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:55.639
that number? So as many things that I do actually

801
00:41:55.679 --> 00:41:57.440
come from a place of my why and come from

802
00:41:57.440 --> 00:41:59.880
a place of this is my gift or my strength.

803
00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:01.920
So I'll give you an example from my life to

804
00:42:01.960 --> 00:42:05.480
consolidate this for people. In twenty twenty three, at the

805
00:42:05.480 --> 00:42:08.039
beginning of twenty twenty three, when I was halfway through

806
00:42:08.039 --> 00:42:09.840
my journey, let's say, you know, halfway, because I mean

807
00:42:09.880 --> 00:42:13.639
it never ends. But somewhere in the middle of the

808
00:42:13.679 --> 00:42:17.079
first two years of transformation or towards the end of it,

809
00:42:17.119 --> 00:42:20.559
I should say I started a podcast because that was like, Oh,

810
00:42:20.639 --> 00:42:23.519
that's how I'm going to deliver on my whye by

811
00:42:23.559 --> 00:42:27.039
being a high achiever, being someone that's always performed really

812
00:42:27.119 --> 00:42:29.239
well with many different things and I'm a technical guy, said,

813
00:42:29.280 --> 00:42:32.199
you know what, I'm going to learn how to edit

814
00:42:32.280 --> 00:42:35.840
the videos. I'm going to learn how to do both

815
00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:37.800
the audio and the video. I'm going to do shorts.

816
00:42:37.800 --> 00:42:39.840
I'm going to do all these amazing things right that

817
00:42:39.920 --> 00:42:42.519
I have never done before. Y sure it was not

818
00:42:42.639 --> 00:42:45.000
hard to learn, and I was doing it, but guess

819
00:42:45.000 --> 00:42:46.719
what dog it was taking up Because I do two

820
00:42:46.719 --> 00:42:49.000
episodes a week, he was taking up ten to fifteen

821
00:42:49.000 --> 00:42:51.159
hours a week of my time on top of my

822
00:42:51.199 --> 00:42:54.280
full time job and other commitments. So here I am

823
00:42:54.400 --> 00:42:57.000
spending ten to fifteen hours a week on a weakness

824
00:42:58.440 --> 00:43:02.119
that was not my strength nor my gift, and that

825
00:43:02.159 --> 00:43:04.599
meant that I took away ten to fifteen hours from

826
00:43:04.960 --> 00:43:10.519
something that I could have put into like more psychology stuff,

827
00:43:11.400 --> 00:43:14.079
more talking or speaking or interviewing because I love to

828
00:43:14.400 --> 00:43:16.719
do that stuff. Any of the gifts and strengths I have.

829
00:43:17.599 --> 00:43:19.920
Now when I realize that, of course, going through this process,

830
00:43:19.920 --> 00:43:23.159
that's like, huh, Now I can delegate that by myself

831
00:43:23.199 --> 00:43:23.519
some time.

832
00:43:23.559 --> 00:43:24.440
I buy myself ten.

833
00:43:24.320 --> 00:43:26.840
To fifteen hours every week, and now I can put

834
00:43:26.840 --> 00:43:29.159
those ten to fifteen hours in what self care. So

835
00:43:29.280 --> 00:43:31.840
meditation is a huge part of my life, spending more

836
00:43:31.840 --> 00:43:35.440
time with my dogs and my partner, and building my business,

837
00:43:36.039 --> 00:43:42.199
which resulted in exponentially I given say, exponentially better results

838
00:43:42.719 --> 00:43:45.440
across all areas of life, from satisfaction to fulfillment to

839
00:43:45.519 --> 00:43:48.760
joy to success in business. And that's what I mean

840
00:43:48.800 --> 00:43:50.639
by this is bringing it all together, because once you

841
00:43:50.679 --> 00:43:54.079
have the pieces, you got to put them together and

842
00:43:54.599 --> 00:43:56.840
make adjustments as you go. Because you're a human being.

843
00:43:57.559 --> 00:44:00.800
Life happens, but now you have the tools not allow

844
00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:02.079
life to derail you too much.

845
00:44:03.079 --> 00:44:04.960
You know, I've got a dozen more questions that we

846
00:44:05.000 --> 00:44:08.840
could go another hour, but we are getting close to

847
00:44:08.880 --> 00:44:12.760
that time. Uh. And and this has been amazing. And

848
00:44:12.840 --> 00:44:16.039
I know that your podcast is called What Unleashed Myself?

849
00:44:16.440 --> 00:44:16.960
Yes it is?

850
00:44:17.039 --> 00:44:20.079
Yes, Yeah, and you do that well twice a week

851
00:44:20.159 --> 00:44:21.280
or how does that work?

852
00:44:21.960 --> 00:44:22.320
Yes?

853
00:44:22.840 --> 00:44:24.880
Okay? And and I love the whole purpose of that.

854
00:44:24.960 --> 00:44:28.400
I think that's great. So as we close, and you've

855
00:44:28.480 --> 00:44:31.320
really said so many things there are such value. But

856
00:44:31.840 --> 00:44:36.199
if you could just put it into a shorter type

857
00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:41.039
of message for the audience, what would be the culmination

858
00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:43.480
message that you'd like to share with the audience.

859
00:44:47.079 --> 00:44:50.159
Yeah, that's I love the question, and it got me thinking, because,

860
00:44:50.199 --> 00:44:52.280
like you said, we talked about all the things. There's

861
00:44:52.320 --> 00:44:54.719
so many, so many things we can we can say here,

862
00:44:54.760 --> 00:44:57.400
but I'll say I say one thing, And for those

863
00:44:57.440 --> 00:45:00.199
that can see this to see of that, I have

864
00:45:00.199 --> 00:45:02.639
a sign that says follow your heart. But to be

865
00:45:02.679 --> 00:45:04.519
able to follow your heart, you need to know what's

866
00:45:04.559 --> 00:45:08.239
in your heart. So I invite anyone listening to take

867
00:45:08.280 --> 00:45:10.800
a moment, take a deep breath in and drop in

868
00:45:10.880 --> 00:45:14.119
and ask yourself why it is that I want to

869
00:45:14.199 --> 00:45:18.480
do with my life, and better yet, who do I

870
00:45:18.559 --> 00:45:19.199
want to be?

871
00:45:19.320 --> 00:45:20.039
Who am I?

872
00:45:20.920 --> 00:45:23.880
And let us see it, see what comes up, because

873
00:45:23.880 --> 00:45:27.039
often enough we don't ask enough questions, and when we do,

874
00:45:27.079 --> 00:45:29.920
we don't ask the roy questions. And I promise you

875
00:45:29.960 --> 00:45:32.840
that if you start asking the right questions, you will

876
00:45:32.880 --> 00:45:37.199
get some amazing answers coming back from within and your

877
00:45:37.239 --> 00:45:39.920
life will start to shift. And it's all about asking

878
00:45:39.960 --> 00:45:44.000
the right questions. Is this belief serving me? Is this

879
00:45:44.199 --> 00:45:46.039
thought coming up that I'm not good enough?

880
00:45:46.239 --> 00:45:46.679
Serving me?

881
00:45:48.519 --> 00:45:51.840
Well? I love it. I'd love it. And you know

882
00:45:51.880 --> 00:45:54.119
what's interesting is you do that. And as you mentioned,

883
00:45:54.119 --> 00:45:57.079
you love to meditate, so do I. As you go

884
00:45:57.159 --> 00:45:59.599
into the as you work a little bit on meditation

885
00:45:59.719 --> 00:46:02.840
and then and ask those questions during your meditation state

886
00:46:03.320 --> 00:46:07.760
that information comes up, which is just amazing. Well, thank

887
00:46:07.800 --> 00:46:09.840
you so much for being honest. So how do people

888
00:46:09.880 --> 00:46:12.960
find you, Constantine? How do they find you? What's your website?

889
00:46:13.639 --> 00:46:16.199
Yeah? So the website you so a couple of things.

890
00:46:16.320 --> 00:46:18.840
If you want to connect with me personally, best thing

891
00:46:18.920 --> 00:46:21.119
is go to LinkedIn where you see my profile I

892
00:46:21.159 --> 00:46:25.840
posted regularly. That's Constantine with no e bow moron. Now

893
00:46:25.880 --> 00:46:31.320
the websites are unleasheddoself dot com and cal Successive dot com.

894
00:46:31.360 --> 00:46:33.840
That's for my events, the ones I was talking about.

895
00:46:33.920 --> 00:46:37.000
What we go deep into my system and equip you

896
00:46:37.119 --> 00:46:39.920
with the tools to be successful in life. And of

897
00:46:39.960 --> 00:46:42.760
course you can find us on social media across all

898
00:46:42.960 --> 00:46:46.320
platforms that unleash myself or Constantine Bomron.

899
00:46:47.639 --> 00:46:50.159
Wonderful. Thank you so much. This has just been a

900
00:46:50.199 --> 00:46:53.639
great conversation. I appreciate it, and folks, I hope you've

901
00:46:53.719 --> 00:46:56.960
enjoyed this as much as I've enjoyed it, and really

902
00:46:57.000 --> 00:46:59.559
that it's making a difference for you and perhaps giving

903
00:46:59.599 --> 00:47:03.159
me some fun on how you truly can become and

904
00:47:03.320 --> 00:47:06.480
uplift your life. So this is doctor Dog saying no

905
00:47:06.639 --> 00:47:06.960
mista