Life Hacks for Healing & Harmony. The Labels We Carry, and How to Set Them Down

0:01 Thank you. Thank you. I have spent years in conversation with people who are successful by every measure and still quietly restless, not broken, not lost, just aware somewhere underneath the noise that there is a version of their life that feels more honest, more grounded, more genuinely theirs. This podcast exists for those people, for the ones who are done performing and ready to go deeper. My name is Dr.

0:56 Doug. Welcome to Inspire Vision. I'm glad you were here. Tara, welcome. Thank you for having me, Dr. Doug. Hey, I'm really excited about this. You know, as I looked over your profile and the things that you've been going through, it's just fascinating to me. And one of the things I find so interesting, I was thinking about this before we got on, is everyone has a different story. Everyone has a different background. And you know, people that are listening and obviously the whole goal of this podcast is to help individuals to become better, to really learn to love themselves and to be able to make a difference in their own lives and in others.

1:42 And I realized that everyone has a different story. And I think that's so important because not everyone, you know, connects with a particular story, but being able to Being able to have an individual story such as yours, someone is going to be listening and someone is going to connect with that. And that's going to be great. So anyway, share a little bit with the audience, a little bit about your background. Yes. So I'm Tara Mae Temple, author of Life Hacks for Healing and Harmony. And You know, I wasn't always an author. This was five years in the making. I, you know, was at the height of my career, doing marketing and healthcare fundraising. And I was in that world for 15 years in the corporate world. And I thought, you know, I had made it and I checked all the boxes of having that ideal career and raising a young family, but it was not fulfilling to me. And I knew that I didn't want to be trapping myself in this box forever.

2:44 So yeah, I went. Through all the hoops of going through a health crisis and just listening to my inner voice and inner knowing about this message of telling my story to help people find inner peace, because I was yearning for that for so long. And long story short, I just journaled about all the struggles I've went through in my life. And they're all universal themes that we deal with as human beings. So many people can resonate But I did the research in ways to find healing strategies and peace practices that would help people come to a place of self-actualization and find a little bit of joy and peace in their lives.

3:30 So I can go on forever, but I just want to keep that little snippet short and then get going here. Well, and I love that. And you have so many interesting talking points that I think will be fun to talk about, but Talk a little bit about your book and what was the motivation to write your book? Yes, the whole motivation, Dr. Doug, was the fact that life doesn't come with a manual. And a lot of times we're living through the challenges that we're up against in life. I always tended to wonder, why didn't my elders or friends speak about their challenges openly? and find a way to give each other advice to give each and every one of us guidance. So it's a guidebook that I wish I had 10 years ago when I was going through some of the toughest times in my life dealing with anxiety, dealing with identity crisis in becoming a new mother, and just not having the tools to deal with my mental and emotional state. And I always wondered, you know, how could I... explained this message to people to, to help them come up with rituals that are easily doable in their day to day lives, that would just help them in big and grand ways, to help them think differently, and to, you know, let them explore about

5:03 who they really are. And knowing that, you know, you are not your thoughts, and you're not your past. So it's a healing journey, you know, if you're brave enough to take that step forward into a healing journey path, it will do wonders for your mind, body, spirit. And not only that, it will help, help you thrive in your relationships. Well, that's great. And, and I want you to share your journey because what I find is, you know, so often a story is so much more effective than anything else. You know, we can talk about this and that, but your journey is, if you can share that with the audience of what the struggles were and everything that you experienced, not everything, but the struggles that you had and how you ultimately overcame that to get to the point that you are now. And again, I realize even with myself and everyone else, we're on a journey. The journey never ends.

5:59 So it's not like it's all done. But share with the audience your journey up to this point and what were the challenges and ultimately how How did you get to this point in your life? Yes, I love that question because everyone's journey is very different, but we can find many common threads throughout our journeys to learn from one another's stories, right? So for me, I was a Filipino-Canadian growing up in Canada, and I always felt like I didn't belong. Where I lived was a very. Small town, and it was mainly not very many people from my culture that lived in that town is mainly Caucasian people. So I didn't feel like I was the ideal fit for when I was going to school and in my community. I didn't look like the other girls or speak like the other girls. And I thought, you know, at the time, that was almost like a downfall of mine.

6:56 So I never feel like I fit in. And then as I grew up and I was going to grade school, I, you know, had trouble making friends my age. I would always tend to gravitate toward making friends with younger people and toward being friends with people that I could uplift and help them see the good in. Themselves, right? So I was going through a lot of bullying and it really made a big dent in my self-esteem and my self-worth. And I believe that when I went to high school, I started to, you know, carry that with me and kind of bottle that up. And I tried to speak about it to close friends and family, but I didn't feel like I was understood enough. in any way possible because at the time people would just shrug that stuff off of being bullied because it was very common.

7:54 A lot of people went through it, right? But what I noticed after time, because I like to study human behavior and how certain things that affect us in childhood can be carried into adult relationships. So I noticed as I was entering the workforce that And I was in the corporate world, a lot of the same patterns of feeling like I was a victim or having the same dynamics of feeling like I was being spoken down to and spoken to in a condescending way by, you know, my superiors in the office and all that. I kind of felt like I was projecting outwards my experience of having that bullying happen. And What I noticed is, you know, like having that mindset of, you know, always being stepped on and, you know, the world is cold and I have, there's nobody to trust that, that really put me in a bubble of isolation as it does many people. And they don't think they're good enough to have a fulfilling relationship with others. So it took me a long, long time to just explore, you know, reading other self-help books, how to learn about how to become a self-realized individuals through my study of social science and just learning how

9:24 to build my confidence through my writing. I would always keep a journal writing practice throughout my life to express my thoughts and my feelings because A lot of the time when I was growing up, I felt like I didn't have a voice and that really created a lot of resentment toward the external world for me. So I think it's important now that when I was writing my book, I was thinking, okay, how can I observe my behavior and other people's behavior and how people overcome these challenges that they deal with either socially, mentally.

10:05 And emotionally? And there's strategies that come up within there on how to be a better, clearer communicator with others and how to be a better active listener and how to be more firm in our communication with others to stand up for ourselves. So the first time I started to feel liberated from this, you know, state of, you know, always being looked down upon or bullied, um, you know, that I didn't carry that label with me anymore. Once I started writing the story and finding different ways we can be, feel more fulfilled in our relationships with others.

10:47 Um, so there's, there's different instances. I could talk about, but that's, that's one thing that I know a lot of people deal with and, um, That's what I wanted to share. Okay. And, you know, one of the interesting things that I've come to realize personally, and this is, again, my own opinion and experience, is that as we seek to overcome a lot of these issues, and we all have them, it doesn't matter what our experience in growing up has been, but ultimately they're always there. And a lot of that is because we actually experienced it, such as yourself. And in other cases, it's the perception that we had as a child. You know, a parent can say something. In fact, I've just, you know, been looking at this a lot.

11:38 You know, a parent can say something. My dad was, you know, good dad, very successful in his, you know, in what he did, more focused on his job and his profession than he was his kids. And yet he taught us some good things. But What was interesting about him was that when we would come home from school or whatever, the question was, well, how was school? How did you do? How are your grades? And his focus was, you know, you boys, and there were five of us, you boys will all be professionals. And that was just kind of the expectation. And what that does to you subconsciously is just amazing. And so talk a little bit about how these imprints, at least in your experience, occur.

12:26 And you've already shared a little bit about what happened with you. But also, how do you detach yourself from these labels? How do you detach yourself from these imprints that are literally, in my mind, controlling our lives? Yeah, I love that question because I tackled with it for many decades. And what you speak of here with the labels, I'll give you an example, was I picture that as the nobody likes me kind of self-talk that I had for myself for the longest time. And I carried the label being shy forever. And the way that I detached myself from that is I came up with a technique called negative thought cancellation because my thinking was distorted about myself, right? I do have many friends and family that love me and they know that I'm kind, but how this negative thought cancellation works is once you catch yourself thinking a negative thought about yourself or replaying this label that you have about yourself, I want you to try and experiment. Lightly pinch your hand to create a pattern interrupt. And I'm not advocating for self-harm here, but just a light pinch on your hand when you're thinking that thought. And then, for example, with me, I would picture a heart balloon eating up that negative thought.

13:51 And instead, the. Phrase would be, I am kind, I am caring, of course people like me. And I. You know, I would say it over and over again consistently whenever I would get a bad thought about myself in my mind. And if you're not a visual person or you're not verbal, what really works as well is writing the phrase down that you want to cancel out that negative thought or label you have about yourself. And for me, this was a game changer because. This started to shift my lens and onto what's possible for me to see the good side of myself and to build up that self-esteem so I practice it to that to this day it sounds a little silly but um it's definitely what we need to do because we need to discipline our minds otherwise our thoughts will ruminate and they take.

14:47 Over well I drive my kids crazy you know I've got I've got poor kids and The thing that I do that drives them crazy is when they start to say something. I always come up with an alternative thought. And I'm going to do that now. I love that. I'm going to do that now. Because one of the things, at least from my experience in my studies, and you say something that I think is so essential, that when those thoughts come up, number one, you do become aware of them. But There's a saying, and I use it a lot in my podcast as we're talking about these type of things, that which we resist persists.

15:29 Yes, I love that. And so often as we talk about personal transformation and discovering that peace and so forth, there's such a focus on doing this and doing that and overcoming this and putting this away and so forth, that in fact, that's a little bit of resistance, which means it doesn't go away. And one of the thoughts that's come to my mind, and a lot has been influenced by people I've talked to, is that rather than trying to eliminate it, we just set it to the side. And I think from a standpoint of neurological issues, that as we just set it to the side, those neurological pathways are still there, but we start to develop the new one. And I love what you said about now you have something that you say four to five times and you're developing a new neural pathway. But for me, I think it's important to realize the mindset of I'm not trying to eliminate it because you're never going to eliminate it, but you can set it to the side. And by setting it to the side, you're no longer resisting it. You're merely controlling it and you're developing your new mindset. Tell me your thoughts on that. Yes.

16:43 Oh, I love that so much because, you know, all of us want a magical button where we want to just press it and erase the past and erase all the difficult things that we went through. And it doesn't work that way, right? And you're right, like we really, by setting it aside, we could just detach from it and know that it doesn't define us. And we don't need to let it affect every aspect of our life. And, you know, if you don't let that thought control you, you are in the driver's seat of what you can control in your life. And that's your mind, body and spirit. And I think it starts with the mind, and really working on our perception of others, the world we live in and ourselves. And I think, you know, that awareness is have number one, and we need to have that awareness in order to set those very difficult thoughts aside.

17:42 So I love that you mentioned that because those neurological pathways are very important. We need to reset those negative thought patterns in order to create a shift. In the way we think. Well, and you grew up, as you say, as a Filipino in a major Caucasian situation. And how much of that was perception? Perception? And how much of that was reality when you look back and see how you were treated? Yes. I think it was 100% perception because, you know, the friends I made along the way and all of my teachers that I found very influential in my life, they weren't from the same background I was.

18:31 They were all, you know, they were either mostly. Caucasian or of a different background as well. And, um, you know, I think I had all of these thoughts in my head, these cognitive distortions of, you know, um, being influenced by media because growing up in the eighties and nineties, um, we all know media was a huge thing and it still is to this day. So, you know, seeing. Magazines and the way other women looked and all these things, I always thought I had to fit that ideal box. And that could, you know, when you're stuck on those thoughts of being, you know, wanting to be like everybody else, it can really put you in a state of struggle and and not being able to accept yourself and it's you know because it doesn't feel like home there you're always trying to attain something else externally in order to get to a place of fulfillment but that that isn't the place and I learned over time that you know it's a lot more liberating when I could just speak my own perspective and my own stories and experiences and not worry about comparing them to someone else's story because we're all unique in our, own very individual ways and we all have something to teach the world and the people around us and so I embrace that now you know I don't I don't look at my my background

20:02 and my nationality as you know something that is holding me down I see it As a benefit to teach others that no matter what culture or background you're from, whatever gender you affiliate with, and all these different things, we can all unite together and teach each other something. Well, and as you were growing up, one of the things that fascinates me is that so often we have grown up in an environment that says you are. this and so you know as we talk about how do we overcome how do we eliminate these imprints and so on and so forth one of the things that in my mind is so important is the foundation the foundational understanding and when you were growing up what what were those areas and elements that really were causing you to become imprinted as far as beliefs about yourself. I know that you mentioned a little bit about being bullied, and that's certainly one. You know, being kind of in a group where you just don't feel like you fit in because of your nationality, that's another one. What was your religious background, if any? And were there other areas that you found really did create your vision of who you were?

21:36 Yes, I love this question, because there's so many different aspects of our lives that can affect us. And in terms of other imprints that were imprinted upon me, my culture, I come from a culture that's very, you know, the elders speak openly. And it's very. Common in Filipino culture to have an elder. Kind of comment on appearance. And there is a lot of body shaming and, you know, which I find funny because in Filipino culture, it's always about, you know, having a feast and gathering together and having all the food and enjoying each other's company around a dinner table. Yet elders would kind of insult the younger girls in the family and say, oh, you know, you've gained weight or, you all this different stuff around what our bodies look like, and all this stuff. And I think that really had an effect on me in terms of self image struggle. And so I identified as being Filipino, but I also had this inner conflict of, you know, there's some parts of my culture, like I appreciate, but some that I would rather not, not put up with, you know, so There's that. And then the expectation in terms of like my religion, I'm Catholic and I'm very

23:11 true to my faith to this day. I'm very spiritual as well. So in my culture, they put an emphasis on religion and our faith. And I think that actually helped strengthen all avenues of my life. as well so um there's all these different things but i think with these cultures as well immigrant families um immigrating to north america or canada back in the 70s you know um they they made a better life for us um immigrating but then that also comes with the expectation of um being who our parents want us to be in terms of roles and what professions to take um to pursue as we become adults. So I really struggled with expectation. And to this day, I know I don't fit all the boxes of staying with a career for more than 20 years at the same corporation because I truly believe in continuous learning.

24:18 And I was very curious about learning different industries. So I tried everything from logistics, advertising, marketing, healthcare, fundraising, And in all those roles, I've always did my writing. So I was tired of checking all the boxes of doing what others expected. And when the pandemic finally hit, that was the very beginning of my book writing journey. And I could tell you it was very liberating because I knew it was my call to write. And I like to teach people how to achieve their dreams as well. So... And I think my whole point is, and I'm very much into theology also, is that I think it's so important. And people that are not quite into that, and yet they use the term spirituality or divinity or whatever.

25:16 In my mind, I think one of the most important things for people to understand is they truly are divine. They have that inner spark within them. That's who they are. And all of these labels and all of these imprints have been merely things like an onion. You know, it's just, you got all of these layers and all of these layers. And as you're able to peel these back and set them to the side, inside is that individual who was born good, who was born, you know, you talk about Catholicism and in general, all of that, you know, were born in sin. And how many people grow up their whole lives thinking, you know what, I'm a sinner because I was born in sin. And yet, at the same time, realizing that, you know what, these are things that we've been taught. But the reality is, is if we get to the foundation of who we are, there's an incredible amount of goodness, divinity, kindness. And so we're merely seeking to come back to that. And then as you say, you have developed ways to do that. So I know you developed something called the three elements of ease framework.

26:32 I want you to talk a little bit about that. How does an individual really reach that peace and harmony in their lives? And you mentioned three things I'd love for you to share. Yes, I created the three elements of ease framework because You know, I think they're all integral parts to our well-being and our healing journey and coming back home to ourselves. As you mentioned, Dr. Doug, we have that core, you know, essence of ourselves, which is love and acceptance. And when you go on a self-healing journey, you discover yourself. And this is what I discovered. So the three elements of ease, the first one is change your environment to promote healing. And I'll come back to that in a second. And the second one is reframe your mindset. And the third one is having compassion for yourself and others. And the first one, changing your environment to promote healing, I actually experimented with that in the first phase of my healing journey because, you know, I really assessed my environment. I was living in the city for 15 to 20 years. And the noise and the, you know, the hustle and bustle of the rat race was really draining me. And so I like to encourage people to look at your environment, your home environment, and where you're living, and try to discern, is it, you know, giving you energy? Or is it

28:04 really draining you and creating negative emotions within your mind, body, spirit? And for me, what I decided to do with my husband and my young family at the time was to move out of the city to smaller town. and get started on my healing journey towards convening. With nature again. And that really did a really, really big 360 in my life because, you know, before I wasn't connecting with nature, I was basically going from building to building from my home to my corporate office. And all I would see was four walls and my computer the entire day. I wouldn't walk to a park or any kind of green space or body of water. And it really drained my spirit.

28:56 And I noticed as I changed my environment, I noticed the anxiety started to lift. I could breathe easier. The symptoms of anxiety began to dissipate and my stress levels came down. And then the health scare. The health issues I was dealing with, you know, it only took a year until I was finally better. So I made lifestyle changes and all these different things. But I just noticed a complete reset of my life, of my environment really helped me to see clearer and to become not only a better mother, but a better person for myself and to come no place of self acceptance and, you know, confront myself in a way of, you know, not only I was feeling lost, so I was like looking for my purpose of what my calling really was.

29:53 And I really began to study what it was to begin writing my book. So I'd have this inner knowing and these messages that would always tell me, begin writing your story. And then I started to study other authors, listen to podcasts, other people's stories, and really listen to what really lit me up in terms of that. So there's that. I'm getting off course now, so I'll. Wrap it up. I want to go back to environment. You talked about location. Believe me, I understand that. I grew up in Chicago. I hate big cities. I will just say that.

30:36 So do I. I found that made such a difference in my life. I agree with you on that. There's other things about environment besides just location. You've got the people you associate with. Sometimes, unfortunately, and this is very sensitive issues, sometimes it's family. I want you to share what your thoughts are about the other parts of environment besides just location, the people you hang out with, the family, the society that you happen to be in. Yes, I think that is so important because who we surround ourselves with really can help us thrive or really could drain us.

31:21 And for me, I'm an empath. So I really feel other people's energies when I'm around them. And so I think it's really important to surround yourself with a circle of people that you trust, people you can learn from and, you know, evolve your thinking and based on having these relationships. So I kept a very small circle with just my husband, my young daughter, and, you know, my brother and my parents, and my mother-in-law as well, and sister-in-law, and my best friend who was my friend from grade school on where we see each other at least a couple times a year, but we always understand. and are very supportive of one another.

32:14 So I. Knew that it. Was important to cultivate relationships that would be uplifting and help me to grow and make sure that I blocked out the relationships that were feeling toxic to me. And that is very important in the healing journey because You know, you need people to teach you. You know, you're going to run into people that will either be toxic or you'll run into people who will be maybe like a mentor to you. And what you want to do is when you meet someone who happens to be a mentor who wants to guide you along, embrace that, you know, get out of your comfort zone.

32:59 All right. So then number two, reframe your mindset. And you've talked a little bit about that already. So just go briefly a little bit more into that. Yes. So that's basically the negative thought cancellation. So anytime you have a negative thought pattern about somebody. Or the world around you, you'll always. Want to replace that with a more positive and uplifting thought. And I talk about using meditation as a daily practice to connect with the divine in your source and that really is a way to achieve a bit of harmony in your life, in your day to day, no matter how chaotic it is, it will clear the cobwebs and help you to see everything clearly. Because when, once I started that meditation practice, it was a guided one.

33:48 That was a. Huge game changer for me and helped me in my transformation process. And I highly encourage everyone to do that. Well, and you know, it's, I love that. I try to walk at least three times a week for three miles. So it's usually an hour to an hour and 20 minutes. And during that time, I'm meditating. And for me, I found on YouTube the chimes, the bowls and the chimes. Oh, yes. I've used different kind of guided meditations, but I found that for me over a period of time, that's what really gets me thinking. And as you say, what's amazing about that is thoughts come up and oftentimes things that you need to put to the side. But also you start to get curious and you start to receive information that in my mind is so amazing as you do that. And, you know, people will meditate in different ways, but I think you've hit on such an important thing. is that as we take the time to, quote, meditate and really do that, it's amazing how that can bring that sense of peace and joy in our lives and how we can literally feel that element in our lives. So I appreciate you bringing that up. All right. And then nurture compassion for yourself and others. Talk a little bit about that. Yeah.

35:12 So with that third one, we all know that we tend to be hard on ourselves and we're our worst critic, right? So when it comes to life and we're going to fail, we're going to make mistakes, but why not try a different approach? Instead of beating ourselves up, why can't we give ourselves grace and compassion to know That yes, we may have faltered in one way or another, but can we use the next day as a fresh start to begin again and take it easy on ourselves and try to do better now that. We know better. And, you know, put our egos aside. And when we do that, you know, we start to see everything differently.

35:57 thriving and blooming and just flowing in the right way of your life in terms of your relationships and what you want to manifest for yourself. And then when you put that energy out there in doing an act of kindness, of compassion for somebody else, and just trying to see everyone putting yourself in their shoes, what could they be going through? You know, we could see a stranger that may have reacted poorly, you know, some road rage or something out there and, and we could just say silent blessing towards them to, to give them a little bit of peace. And I think not putting our energy towards conflict and seeing that we're all just human at the end of the day, that could help people to really shift the way that they treat others and themselves.

36:50 Well, and you know, you bring up an interesting point and something comes to my mind. And again, we get into a little bit of theology here, but I think about the great commandment in the New Testament. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, mind, and strength. And then the second is love thy neighbor as thyself. And I look at that second one and I think to myself, you know, he's saying love your neighbor as yourself. But the reality in my mind is we can only love our neighbor to the degree that that we love ourself. Yes, that is so true. And so that becomes the key, is learning to love ourselves. And I appreciate that. So real quick, you talk a little bit about fear. And we don't have a lot of time, but I want you to take just a few minutes and talk about how fear can literally control our emotions and our experience.

37:44 Yes, I find... because I had so much fear before my healing journey, when my thoughts tended to gravitate towards those fears and to fixate on those fears, they tend to expand and. Create more chaos for me. So what I came up with was, I have a chapter in my book called Freeing Yourself from Paralyzing Fear And what it is, it's basically fear hacks. So we all have fears of maybe the worst case scenario, maybe a loved one getting ill or losing someone we love. Or, you know, being afraid of what's happening with the climate and the state of the world nowadays.

38:34 And what I. Like to enforce is to override those fears is to think of a happy thought or positive thought, or desire that you want to override those fears and visualize that in your mind for at least five minutes a day. And, you know, if you can visualize it, it can you can make it happen. And, you know, create those positive energy frequencies within your mind, body, spirit by just holding that visualization for at least five minutes a day. And that's done wonders for me. So to get people out of that fight or flight kind of feeling, I like to enforce visualization to override what you're scared of because it creates a big shift. And instead of focusing on on the threat. the perceived threats around us, we are more inclined to think about our desires, what we truly want, and you can best manifest that through visualization. So I always say, if you can see it, you can be it.

39:47 Well, and you know, it's interesting. I really have a focus on this emotional scale. I've developed a whole quiz on it. And what I find is that so often that we find ourselves stuck. So you think about fear. And if someone is emotionally stuck in fear, that pulls down every other experience that well down below a level of happiness and contentment and that type of thing. And yet it's okay to fear. It's okay to experience fear. It's just a matter of, can you experience it and then move out? So I think the freedom of movement is so important in our emotions and recognizing that it's okay.

40:30 You're going to experience fear. You're going to experience anger. You're going to experience all those lower levels. But the key is, is you don't get stuck there. So So as we close, what I'd love for you to do is kind of share with the audience, what would be kind of a message you want to share with them that they can think about? Yeah, I want you, I love this question because I think we're all curious beings, right? Most of us are curious. About, you know, a lot of other people's lives, but why not get curious about yourself? and what you're capable of, because I truly believe that you can reach your highest potential.

41:11 And the number one relationship that you'll ever have in your life is the one with yourself. So why not cultivate that in order to get to a place of harmony and joy? Because at the end of the day, these places of harmony and joy is not a destination, but they're glimmers of positive things that you can experience throughout your day. And so I don't like to teach peace practices in a way of, you know, getting to it overnight, but just little tidbits of what you can do for yourself to get to a place. Of more peace and you have it in you to heal.

41:51 And a lot of people, you know, you just need to have the courage to step forward and begin to ask questions about what it is you want in your life, what energizes you, and what dreams do you want to fulfill for yourself. And, you know, five, six years ago, this idea of writing my book was planted in my heart and my mind through through God, I, you know, had this inner voice tell me that you are meant to write this book, and you need to share your messages with the world. And right now, each and every one of you need a little bit of peace and know that you can have contact with that within and try to go within because externally we, we have a lot of noise around us nowadays. And, um, you know, sometimes you need to block some of that out to have a little bit of silence and, um, uh, a sense of fulfillment and freedom within yourself.

42:54 Okay. Let me, and how do, what's the name of your book and how do people find it? Yes. So I'll, I'll grab it here so you can see it, but it's called life hacks for healing and harmony. And it's by Tara Mae temple and you can find it in all Amazon marketplaces, barnesandnoble.com, uh, bookstart. Or books a million. Uh, I believe, um, You can also order it at your local bookstore by just giving them the title and the author name, and they'll be happy to order it for you. Yeah, Tara Mae, thank you so much. You've just shared some amazing insights, and I so appreciate it.

43:35 Oh, thank you. It was a pleasure to be here, Dr. Doug. Well, I appreciate it. And folks, thanks for listening. I hope you've gained something out of this. I believe you will. So this is Dr. Doug, along with Tara Mae, saying have a wonderful week. Find some peace and harmony in your life and namaste. Every conversation on this podcast eventually comes back to that same question, not how do I get more, but is this actually who I am? If something you heard today moved you just a little closer to an honest answer, that is enough. I'm Dr. Doug. This is Inspire Vision. Until next time.