Aug. 26, 2024

Finding Your EDGE: How to Unlock Your Talent & Purpose

Finding Your EDGE: How to Unlock Your Talent & Purpose

We all go through our lives often seeking to understand what our life purpose truly is.
I have happy to have Jeremy Haselwood on the show. Jeremy has written a book: Finding Your EDGE: How to Unlock Your Talent & Purpose in which he explains the...

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We all go through our lives often seeking to understand what our life purpose truly is.
I have happy to have Jeremy Haselwood on the show. Jeremy has written a book: Finding Your EDGE: How to Unlock Your Talent & Purpose in which he explains the key ways to discover and then act on our genuine purposes in life.
Please join us for a fascinating discussion.
https://www.jeremyhaselwood.com

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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you.

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To do the same. Jeremy Hazelwood, Welcome to the show.

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Cool. Thanks, Doctor Doug, so happy to be here.

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Hey, it's good to have you on the show. I

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always find it fascinating as people are writing different books

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and what becomes the motivation behind that. But I'd love

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for you to share with you audience, who are you?

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Kind of that quick level bio of who you are,

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But then get into the story of what aha moments

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you had in your life as you have been doing

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various things to where you decided to write this book

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and to do some of the other things that you're

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doing right now.

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Okay, cool, Well, I'm Jeremy Hayswood live in Atlanta, Georgia,

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and I'm a two time best selling author and marketing consultant,

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and my journey has been one of just figuring things out.

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I moved to Atlanta when I was twenty years old,

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really with this dream of making it in the music industry,

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and that didn't pan out, which I went pretty strong

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into almost thirty years old, and I was like priority shifted,

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had a son relationship, and I decided it was to

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do something different. And this kind of gets into answering

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your question, like that AHA moment and really looking at

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everything that I did with music, like creating, producing, writing, performing,

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but I wasn't doing that anymore. But I felt like

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these were gifts given to me, So what do I

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do now? And it's not like it was all of

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a sudden it came to me. It was a few

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years of trying to figure myself out and saying, hey,

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I want to start connecting with people in another way,

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let me write a book about my journey and the

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tools that I used to really help me tap into

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my purpose my talents, and that can help other people.

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So we can unpack a lot of our discussion today.

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That's really like the short cliff notes version.

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Okay, good, and you know you're talking. The latest book

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that you have is Finding your Edge How to Unlock

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Your Talent and Purpose. Yea, And I find that a

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fascinating title because when we talk about talents, when we

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talk about purpose, have you found that in many cases

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people just go through life really without ever having discovered

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their purpose.

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Yeah, I do, and I think that's unfortunately a majority

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of people. And I'm not saying an overwhelming majority, but

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if we were looking at a scale and a fifty

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to fifty, I do think there's more people that haven't

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unlocked and discovered that purpose than people that have. And

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I think part of that is just the culture of

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the society and how we're you know, raised, and it's

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like you work, you get it, or you go to school,

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you get a job, and you work for a living,

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and that may or may not be connected to your purpose.

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You have these talents that you haven't really nurtured in

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the work, and the job that you're doing may not

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necessarily be your purpose. It's a means to an end,

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and we get so locked into routines that we don't

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really step outside of that to discover who we are.

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Well. And you know, when you talk about purpose, what

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immediately comes to my mind? And as you were talking about,

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you know, doing this and doing that, you know, I

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came came with a family of there's five boys and

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one girl in our family, and yeah, yeah, And it

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was interesting because as we started to look at our purpose,

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it was heavily focused if we were to call that

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our purpose of you know what my dad said, you know,

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you'll all be professionals, and so, you know, we all

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went to professional school one way or the other, and

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that became our purposes. We're going to do this, we're

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going to do that. And then I've thought about that

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and thought about you know what that's It seems like

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oftentimes we say this is my purpose when it's really

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this is somebody else's purpose that has been imprinted on

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you and it's not really your true purpose. So here's

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the question for you. How does one discover what their

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true purpose? Is, and that's number one and number two questions,

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and maybe it should go before that is why is

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understanding your purpose so important in your opinion?

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Yeah? Wow, Like I already love of where this conversation

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is going because this is These are the topics and

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the kinds of combos I can have all day. So

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thank you for asking those questions. I think, how does

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one find their purpose? It's not externally kind of like

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what you were alluding to. A parent, a friend, a

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teacher can't say your purpose is to do this because

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they're not you. They're outside of you, and they may

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see some gifts, they may see areas in which you

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excel and things you know, attributes that they may deem

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to be your purpose. However, you have to really do

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the work inside yourself, and it takes stillness, it takes focus,

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and that's why I think so many people don't discover

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their purposes because they don't take the time to do

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the work. I mean, I wouldn't have been able to

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do what I do and talk about purpose and really

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lock into what I believe my purpose is if I

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didn't do the work and for that and I talk

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about different things that you can do in my book. Now,

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I do think that it is important that you consult

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with people who do know you because sometimes they can

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bring something to the service that you may not necessarily

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have seen. So if there's a parent or teacher or

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somebody in your life, a friend, it's like, hey, you're

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really good at this, And you don't necessarily think you're

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good at it because it's just something you've always done.

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It's a natural gift and you're within You live within

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your skin every single day, so you don't recognize this

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as something that you excel at more than other people do.

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And sometimes it does take an external person to recognize that.

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In a sense, be a mirror and there may be

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something there. However, there's different assessments. You can take personality

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tests just to learn a little bit more about yourself,

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and an assessment is not going to tell you your purpose.

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It's really like a data point. It's emotional intelligence and

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learning what you're good at, your attributes, what makes you tick,

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even looking at how you were raised and maybe trauma

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that you survived or went through and the resilience that

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it built up in you, and what can I do

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with that? How can I serve others with the gifts

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that have been given to me. So there's no I'm

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not going to say there's a silver bullet. Here's exactly

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how you do it. You know, It's like I can

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point you in a way to do it, and along

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this way you're going to fall into and discover what

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that purpose is for you. And it's going to take time.

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You don't just wake up and say I've got it,

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you know, it takes a little bit of time. Yeah.

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Well, and you know, as you're talking about personality profiling,

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and I actually am certified as a behavioral analyst, and

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I use a very specific one and you may be

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familiar with it. But what's interesting about it is it

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doesn't I think most people are when they do a

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personality test, you know, they're be the right brain left

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brain invert, you know, that type of thing. But there

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are some behavioral analyses that really get into what's your motivator,

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what is what are your true values? And all of

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a sudden things open up a little bit. And I

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apologize if there's a little bit of noise because you

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got somebody going the lot out front.

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Yeah, oh good.

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So one of the questions that I have is how

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do values and when we talk about values again, we

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get into is it other people's values that have been

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imprinted on you? Or have you discovered your own true values?

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But how do values relate to purpose? Number one? Because

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you mentioned values? Number two, how do talents relate to

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purpose in your experience?

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Yeah, it's actually an interesting question, and I haven't thought

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about it in that way, But I do think that

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values what you believe in how you were raised, and

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I tend to lean more towards talents. And as you

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were talking and explaining values and talents, like kind of

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the premise of my book is like, I believe that

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your purpose can lie at the intersection of your talents

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and your passions. But I do think it's an interesting

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I guess play to say, what about your values? Because

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you know, you can have a talent, but maybe your

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values don't necessarily lie in to where that you care

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about society or care about your impact. And a lot

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of people weren't necessarily raised with certain kinds of values.

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You know, maybe they didn't have a parent who attended

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to them in a way that they needed to be.

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So it doesn't make them a better or worse person,

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just their values may not be the same as somebody

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what would be considered like the generally accepted values, but

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that all kind of creates who you are as a

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character and what your personality is. Your talents are something

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that I don't necessarily think are shaped by values. These

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are natural gifts that you are given, and I think

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once you dig into what those talents are like for example,

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like I have a talent with spreadsheets, but I don't

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like spreadsheets. I despise spreadsheets, but I have a talent there.

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So I'm not going to say that my purpose it

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has anything to do with spreadsheets. But you know, I

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have a gift to connect with people. I have a

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gift to instill hope and to speak and to write,

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And these are the gifts that I nurture. And you know,

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when you talk about values, like I think about how

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I was raised and I was product of divorce, but

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there was still a lot of love between both of

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the households that I grew up in and that really

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stayed me who I am. And I have good friend groups.

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I come from a small town in Oklahoma, so it's

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a lot of community. So a lot of this did

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shape who I am and the way that I care

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about people. But that's not to say if I was

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from a busy city that I wouldn't have similar values

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as well.

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Okay, and that and that it was not meaning to

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suggest that values equals talents.

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Yeah, I think it's a conversation.

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Yeah, because I think I think that values and perhaps

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perhaps the way you're talking about it is our talents

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can give us an idea of the type of purpose

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that we can get involved in. And of course you

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have different types of purpose. Is you have purposes of

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where am I going to work, how am I going

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to support my family and so forth, then you have

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a live purpose and discovering what that might be. So

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I think that's interesting. But talents absolutely can give us

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an idea of how we can be most effective in

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doing that. But I think that values maybe reflects how

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we do it in the direction that we go. So,

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you know, everybody has one, but how do people begin

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to understand theirs? You know, I know that's what your

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book is all about. But let's talk about that just

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a little bit. Health number one. When people are going

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through life, quote purposeless, not having the purpose, how many

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people are actually doing that or are you just talking

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about conscious purchases purpose versus unconscious purpose. So there's fifty

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percent that are consciously knowing what their purposes are at

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least seeking to know, whereas those are not. What's your

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thoughts on that?

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Yeah? Now, my, So you know, the book is called

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on how to find or is finding your edge how

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to unlock your talent purpose, and edge is actually an

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acronym and it kind of answers what you're talking about here,

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because how does one start that journey to find their purpose?

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And so walking through edge is like is eliminating distractions,

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discovering yourself, generating goals, and then and acting discipline. So

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if I was just say, how do you start to

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tap into and find your purpose, it starts with eliminating distractions.

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It's just hushing the noise, it's recognizing, it's creating that

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intent and that stillness to be able to focus on

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yourself and to start to move into the discovering yourself,

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because if you're not even in a place of stillness

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where you can do the work, you can take the assessments, journal, meditate,

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pray and really take time with yourself. If you don't

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create the space to do that, then I don't believe

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that you're really going to latch onto your purpose. Part

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of that is because distraction is so prevalent, especially nowadays,

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it's only gotten greater over the years. You know, one

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thing I talk about is like we have distractions that

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are always competing, and as technology evolves, we've come to

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a place where technology doesn't necessarily replace a distraction, it

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adds on to it. So if you think about like

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the olden days with the telegraph, you know, there was

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a telegraph and then the telephone came along, and these

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were two things, two ways to communicate. But the telephone

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replaced the telegraph. You know, people weren't necessarily using both.

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I mean there was a time period where people may

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have used both, but ultimately both of these were not

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a part of lifestyle. So you know, you move on

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to now we have cell phones and telephones, and now

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we're like most people have a cell phone. Like I

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don't know what the percentage is, but most people have

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a cell phone. And this now didn't replace anything. This

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added on and now within the cell phone, within the tablet,

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we continue to add on distraction upon distraction upon distraction,

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like social media news, there's so many It could be

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toxic relationships, it could be television shows, it could be food,

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it could be a lot of different things that are

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distracting you. And we find comfort in these things because

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a lot of people want to check out. You know,

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they work hard, and when they're done working for the day,

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they don't necessarily want to come home and quote unquote

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do more work. But that work that you do on

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yourself can actually create a better life for you. So

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the path to really starting to discover your purpose is

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to be intentional about getting rid of those distractions. And

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one way that I recommend do that is like, let's

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write down, let's make a list, and literally, like if

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you really want to do the work, like really go

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all in and let's keep a log of how we're

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spending our day and do that for two weeks, like

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from nine am to whatever time you go to bed.

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but you just want to every day be conscious of

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how you're spending your day. If you spent two hours

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on your cell phone scrolling or on social media, or

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three hours watching news or whatever, it's like, let's keep checking.

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Let's be aware of what these distractions are, and then

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let's create a plan where we can either let's find

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out which ones are healthy. Because I'm not saying you

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don't need any outlet. I think it's important to have

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an outlet. However, if this distraction is really delaying your purpose,

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then that's a problem. So we need to put some

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boundaries around that and in some cases completely eliminated.

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Okay, So here's the thing that comes to my mind,

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and let's just guessed to a very basic question here.

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Why is it so you know, as you say, fifty

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to fifty, some do, some don't, why is it so

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important that we discover our purpose? And well, that'll be

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my first question. I'm not going to keep it any Yeah,

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so yeah, why why is it so important that we

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actually have discover our purpose versus as you say, there's

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fifty percent of the population out there in the world

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that are probably going alonger in their lives without ever

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even thinking about purpose.

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There's kind of an internal component and then there's the

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external component. So selfishly, I think when you really find

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your purpose, you really do find a joy, you find

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happiness because you've actually unlocked something and discovered something and

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almost a freedom in knowing who you are and what

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you're here to do, and when you're living that lifestyle

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that really supports your purpose, like you're just in a

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better state, Like you filled with gratitude in a way

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that you may not necessarily be. I mean, and I'm

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not saying you can't be happy if you don't discover

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your purpose, because there's a lot of people that are

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happy but having aren't necessarily living their purpose. But I

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do think there's some kind of freedom that comes with

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doing that. Now, externally, finding your purpose means that whatever

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gift that you were blessed with, like this is something

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that is supposed to be shared with the world, and

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it may not be the whole glow, but your world

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may be your community. You know, it may be your neighborhood,

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but there's somebody else that benefits. Like I'm a very

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big believer that we're not all just put here to

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serve ourselves. Like there's other human beings on this earth,

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and I think that we're all here to have some

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form of community or servitude amongst each other, even if

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it's just the grocery store clerk at your local grocery store.

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It's like kindness and that could be a purpose. A

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purpose doesn't have to be some big life changing thing,

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but when you recognize what can you do to add

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to society to make something better than what it was

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before you were here, Like, that's the piece where you're

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creating a better world, a better environment. You're uplifting people,

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you're encouraging and I mean just think like when you

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get a compliment, like you remember that compliment and it

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could be someone random that you never met before, will

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never see again, but someone said they liked your shirt

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or your shoes or your smile, and that sticks with you,

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and that's a gift. All those little things are gifts.

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So I think there it's important to know your purpose

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so you can be a better human to better serve people,

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and also to find the happiness that you wouldn't necessarily

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have if you didn't find your purpose.

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Well, And as you're talking about that purpose, work particular

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work direction is not necessarily your true purpose. From what

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I'm hearing you, it's almost there's more of what we

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could refer to as kind of a spiritual sense of

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who am I and what am I really here to accomplish?

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How am I going to touch the lives of other people?

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Is that a fair assessment.

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Yeah, I would say that because honestly, like because you

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discover your purpose doesn't mean that you're nine to five

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or your occupation is your purpose. I think you can

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work a nine to five that may not be connected

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to your purpose, but as long as outside of that

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you are living that and contributing to society, because I

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don't want it to be confused. Like, you know, if

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you work in a factory or if you work in

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an office all day, like you know, you've totally thrown

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your life away. And that's not what I'm saying at all.

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You know, It's like, yeah, you have this and you're

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supporting yourself, supporting your family, But this other gift that's

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been given to how are you finding ways to share

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that with the world?

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Well, and as you do that, I know that in

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your book you talk a little bit about five forces

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of balance. What are you trying? What are you trying

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to accomplish with that? Because I'm not sure that that

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necessarily gives you your purpose. But as you look at

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the five forces, as it possible that you're talking to

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different purposes within each of those individual five forces.

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Yeah, that's not necessarily what I'm saying, I t off

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my book talking about the five forces of balance with

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your family, your professional life, your health, your spiritual life,

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and then your personal life. And when you have some

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balance in between these, you know, I believe it's connected

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to how and may even be going back to the

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earlier part in our discussion kind of like the values,

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because I do think that there's values in balancing all

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this and how you execute your purpose. Because let's look

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at it like this again, family, professional, health, spiritual, personal

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If one of these is out of balance, then you

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probably can't be the best version of yourself to really

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live the purpose in its highest state. So if your

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family life is wrecked, like your professional life is great,

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like you're making crazy money, you're getting promotion after promotion,

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but at home it's a mess, then, in my opinion,

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like that's going to hold you back from really being

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the best person that you can be when it comes

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to accomplishing your purpose. Or let's say your family life

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is great, professional life is great, but you're just not healthy.

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You're not eating right, you're out of shape, you're not

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taking care of your health. Well, now you can't really

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be there for your family in a way that you

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need to be. Even though it may be balanced now,

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the long term is you may have health complications. You

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may I mean ultimately, it may affect your ability to

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live and to fulfill this purpose in a way that

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you were not intended to. It's cut short because you're

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not taking care of yourself. So I look at these

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five forces of balance, of the five areas of your

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life that you really need to pay attention to and

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to have balance, and I have some tools in there,

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like here's how you can can measure it, because I

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don't just necessarily say here's the five forces. It's like,

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let's dig into each of these and let's rate ourself

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on these, like on a scale of one to five,

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how's my family life doing?

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You know?

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And if it's a three, how can we get it

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to a five? How's my spiritual life doing? If it's

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a one, how can I get it to a three?

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You know?

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It's just being aware of these different areas that when

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we're all in balance with these five forces now we

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can actually even fulfill our purpose even better. And can

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you fulfill your purpose when these are out of way?

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Sure you can, But I think that there's levels where

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you can execute in a much better state if you

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have this balance within these different areas of your life.

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Well, and so it sounds like there's some foundational issues

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that you've got to have in place if you're as

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you say, is you're really accomplishing to the highest degree

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or purpose. Now here's a question that comes to my

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mind because I know so many including myself, you know, intertally,

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how am I going to touch the lives of you know,

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hundreds of thousands of people and so on and so forth.

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And it finally hit me, you know what, It doesn't

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make any difference, because what's important is just the one

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Can you make a difference in one other person's life,

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And if that's part of the purpose, then you're accomplishing something.

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Right now, I agree with that completely, And that goes

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back to like everyone's purpose isn't to be a world changer.

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It might just be that one person that needs you,

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you know, it may be the community. So I think

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when we talk about purpose, a lot of people get

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maybe overwhelmed because purpose is such a heavy word. It's

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a big word. And yes, the weight of purpose is heavy,

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but it's not necessarily supposed to be heavy for the

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whole world. It's just let's find out what that is.

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And it could be something simple. Again, it could just

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be going back to values like this is what was

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put in me. I'm going to be kind of people.

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I'm going to help people find joy, I'm going to

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serve people like I want to connect people. You know,

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it could just be something very small, and it could

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just be for that one purpose or for that one

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purpose that one person. My mind wants to say purpose

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in person at the same time, but it's the same

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purpose for that one person whose life you're able to

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change just by either encouraging them or helping them. And

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maybe more than words, there may be something physically you're

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helping them with getting a job or mentoring or something

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like that.

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So in your book, in your book, what is your

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book going to do for people? Is they start to

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read that step by step, what's it going to do

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for them in order for them to help them to

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achieve an understanding I guess of what their purpose is

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number one and then number two actually accomplish it.

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Sure, yeah, And my book is meant to be really

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as like a workbook. It's not something that you just

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read and set down at the end of every chapter.

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I have questions for reflection, and my book is definitely

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something like you'll get out of the book what you

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put into it. So if you're just reading it, there'll

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00:25:00.359 --> 00:25:02.279
be some good tips in there for you and you'll

465
00:25:02.359 --> 00:25:05.359
learn some things, and you can set it aside and

466
00:25:05.400 --> 00:25:08.720
reflect and maybe do a few things from the book. However,

467
00:25:08.759 --> 00:25:11.240
if you're really want to change and do the work,

468
00:25:11.920 --> 00:25:15.640
like you're going to participate in the reflection exercises at

469
00:25:15.680 --> 00:25:17.640
the end of each book in one or two of

470
00:25:17.680 --> 00:25:22.440
my chapters, I have other additional questions, but really approaching

471
00:25:22.440 --> 00:25:25.880
this like this is a book that it literally can

472
00:25:26.000 --> 00:25:29.720
change your life. And at the same time, I know

473
00:25:29.799 --> 00:25:33.599
I'm not the only self help person or life transformation author,

474
00:25:33.640 --> 00:25:35.839
and that helped me back for a while from writing

475
00:25:35.839 --> 00:25:37.519
a book, because there's like you can throw a rock

476
00:25:37.559 --> 00:25:40.480
and hit tons of people who write a similar book.

477
00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:43.559
So I don't ever want to be in a state

478
00:25:43.640 --> 00:25:46.359
of arrogance where I'm like, this book will change your life,

479
00:25:46.400 --> 00:25:48.279
and this is the only book that will change your life.

480
00:25:48.279 --> 00:25:50.359
There's many books that can change your life, but for

481
00:25:50.440 --> 00:25:53.279
this book, I can tell you I've lived this book

482
00:25:53.319 --> 00:25:56.480
and this is what helped to transform my life. But

483
00:25:56.880 --> 00:25:59.880
back to continuing to answer that question because of the

484
00:26:00.200 --> 00:26:02.359
the book is laid out, the structure is there. It

485
00:26:02.400 --> 00:26:06.960
walks you through the edge model, eliminating distractions, discovering yourself.

486
00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:09.799
It has the different assessments that you can take and

487
00:26:10.200 --> 00:26:12.640
where you can take those. I don't include the assessments

488
00:26:12.640 --> 00:26:14.759
because I don't own those. But here are the assessments

489
00:26:14.759 --> 00:26:16.440
you can take. Here's a summary of what they do,

490
00:26:16.759 --> 00:26:19.799
and here's where you can take them. Learning about yourself,

491
00:26:20.279 --> 00:26:23.160
learning frameworks to generate goals, because I think if you

492
00:26:23.200 --> 00:26:27.559
discover yourself, if you eliminate distractions, discover yourself, that's one thing.

493
00:26:27.640 --> 00:26:30.039
But now what do we do now that I learned

494
00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:32.279
a little more about me. You don't just sit back

495
00:26:32.680 --> 00:26:35.839
and become still and go back to what you used

496
00:26:35.880 --> 00:26:38.079
to do before. Now we need to take some action,

497
00:26:38.279 --> 00:26:41.160
and that's where we talk about setting goals that align

498
00:26:41.200 --> 00:26:43.880
with what you've learned about yourself. And then there's that

499
00:26:44.480 --> 00:26:48.240
discipline piece where I can create a goal. But if

500
00:26:48.279 --> 00:26:53.240
I'm not doing something to everywhere, at least consistently going

501
00:26:53.319 --> 00:26:57.160
after those goals to accomplish, then I'm still not necessarily

502
00:26:57.240 --> 00:26:59.079
living in my purpose. Because I can know who I

503
00:26:59.119 --> 00:27:01.880
am with my talents, what my purpose is, and have goals,

504
00:27:02.319 --> 00:27:04.359
but none of that means anything unless we're going to

505
00:27:04.400 --> 00:27:07.720
take action and do it. So in my book and

506
00:27:07.799 --> 00:27:11.160
that discipline piece, I talk about different ways to you know,

507
00:27:11.279 --> 00:27:13.680
just stay consistent. And I think that's the hardest part

508
00:27:13.720 --> 00:27:16.799
for a lot of people, is just getting up every

509
00:27:16.880 --> 00:27:21.319
day or getting up consistently and having that purpose or

510
00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:23.200
that goal in mind and going after it. A lot

511
00:27:23.240 --> 00:27:25.799
of people fall off, which is why you know, people

512
00:27:25.799 --> 00:27:29.079
that work out at a gym, like January first, everybody's there,

513
00:27:29.160 --> 00:27:32.680
but by January twenty eight, people have fallen off because

514
00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:34.839
they don't have the discipline to stick to it. So

515
00:27:34.920 --> 00:27:37.160
I have different tips in the book to talk about

516
00:27:37.160 --> 00:27:38.359
that well.

517
00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:40.680
And do you have some stories that you could share

518
00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:44.240
about how people who have followed those steps in your

519
00:27:44.240 --> 00:27:47.119
book how it's actually made a difference for them in

520
00:27:47.160 --> 00:27:47.680
their lives.

521
00:27:49.079 --> 00:27:53.680
Yeah. Well, one story that I'll share is one that

522
00:27:53.880 --> 00:27:56.680
I shared offline with you, which was about when I

523
00:27:56.680 --> 00:27:58.480
was in New York one time and I was in

524
00:27:58.519 --> 00:28:00.880
Times Square with a friend of mine. We were up

525
00:28:00.920 --> 00:28:04.799
there on business and just hanging out in Times Square

526
00:28:05.000 --> 00:28:08.359
drinking coffee, and you know, Times Square can be really

527
00:28:08.359 --> 00:28:13.000
busy people are trying to solicit tickets and all kinds

528
00:28:13.039 --> 00:28:15.279
of things. So this guy came up. It's like, hey,

529
00:28:15.319 --> 00:28:17.799
you know, I've got this comedy show, and you guys

530
00:28:17.799 --> 00:28:20.359
went tickets to a comedy show. And there was something

531
00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:24.720
about this guy and I was like, this isn't necessarily

532
00:28:24.880 --> 00:28:27.079
it was the way he talked or the way he looked.

533
00:28:27.079 --> 00:28:29.000
There was to me. I saw this guy and I

534
00:28:29.039 --> 00:28:32.839
saw him more than someone who's a ticket salesman. And

535
00:28:33.119 --> 00:28:35.640
I paused him and I said, hey, look real quick,

536
00:28:35.680 --> 00:28:39.640
I said outside of ticket sales, like what do you

537
00:28:39.720 --> 00:28:42.559
what do you do? What are you interested in? And

538
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:45.519
he said, well, you know, I moved from I think

539
00:28:45.559 --> 00:28:49.279
it was Philadelphia. I moved from Philadelphia, and I'm selling tickets,

540
00:28:49.279 --> 00:28:51.119
but I really want to do music, you know, so

541
00:28:51.160 --> 00:28:54.240
I'm an artist, I'm a musician, but this helps me

542
00:28:54.279 --> 00:28:57.519
pay my bills. So I was like, yeah, there was

543
00:28:57.519 --> 00:29:00.440
something about like your style or what you looked like.

544
00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:02.599
It seems like there was something else that you were

545
00:29:02.599 --> 00:29:05.079
here for. And he's like yeah. He's like, well, one day,

546
00:29:05.240 --> 00:29:07.839
you know, I hope to make it big. And I

547
00:29:07.880 --> 00:29:09.880
stopped him. I said no, say hold on, I said,

548
00:29:09.920 --> 00:29:12.119
one day you're going to make it big. Tell yourself

549
00:29:12.160 --> 00:29:13.880
say one day I'm going to make it big, not

550
00:29:14.000 --> 00:29:16.319
I want to. And he's like wow, and like his

551
00:29:16.359 --> 00:29:19.880
whole demeanor changed, and he's like, oh, you're right, you know,

552
00:29:19.920 --> 00:29:21.880
one day I will make it. I will make it.

553
00:29:21.920 --> 00:29:24.680
And he said thank you for that, and he got serious.

554
00:29:24.720 --> 00:29:28.000
He's like, no, seriously, that means a lot to me

555
00:29:28.079 --> 00:29:30.000
that you said that. And I think a lot of

556
00:29:30.079 --> 00:29:33.000
times we can find our purpose in just the language

557
00:29:33.000 --> 00:29:36.519
that we use, you know, instead of we kind of

558
00:29:36.519 --> 00:29:39.440
take the power away from ourselves when we say, you know,

559
00:29:39.559 --> 00:29:41.720
I hope to do this, or one day maybe this.

560
00:29:41.839 --> 00:29:43.960
It's like when we can speak with certainty and say

561
00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:47.000
I will do this, I am going to do this,

562
00:29:47.519 --> 00:29:50.680
then we give ourselves the power and the permission to

563
00:29:50.920 --> 00:29:55.640
actually have that gift, and we kind of take out

564
00:29:55.680 --> 00:29:59.039
the loose ends and the exits of going after that

565
00:29:59.079 --> 00:30:01.480
goals like sing, I will do something. Now you've told

566
00:30:01.519 --> 00:30:03.440
yourself that I'm going to do it, and you can

567
00:30:03.480 --> 00:30:06.200
hold yourself accountable a little more. So a lot of

568
00:30:06.240 --> 00:30:08.720
times it's what we can say. And there have been

569
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:12.359
several instances like that from the book or from people

570
00:30:12.359 --> 00:30:14.400
that I've met along the way, just like, let's correct

571
00:30:14.440 --> 00:30:16.519
how we talk about ourselves and what we say we're

572
00:30:16.519 --> 00:30:17.000
going to do.

573
00:30:17.799 --> 00:30:19.599
Okay, so words are very important.

574
00:30:20.440 --> 00:30:23.000
Oh my gosh, yes, So let's talk.

575
00:30:22.880 --> 00:30:24.720
About that a little bit, because you're really talking about

576
00:30:24.799 --> 00:30:31.519
affirmations and people do that in different ways. But where

577
00:30:31.559 --> 00:30:35.640
do the words come in? And there's even a different

578
00:30:35.720 --> 00:30:39.240
level that comes to my mind is instead of I

579
00:30:39.279 --> 00:30:43.680
hope to, I am going to or I am I

580
00:30:43.720 --> 00:30:47.000
am In other words, you get into the meditation aspect

581
00:30:47.079 --> 00:30:49.480
of it, and all of a sudden, as though you

582
00:30:49.599 --> 00:30:54.079
already it's already happened. So I guess the question becomes,

583
00:30:54.119 --> 00:30:57.599
how do people what are the words that they need

584
00:30:57.640 --> 00:31:01.599
to use and the phrases, what are the positive phrases?

585
00:31:01.640 --> 00:31:04.160
What are those phrases that they think maybe positive but

586
00:31:04.319 --> 00:31:09.519
in fact are negating their actual experience of attracting what

587
00:31:09.599 --> 00:31:10.319
they're looking for.

588
00:31:11.720 --> 00:31:20.920
M Well, you've got me stumped there, because I think

589
00:31:21.039 --> 00:31:24.559
more about what aspect of that, which is what are

590
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:29.599
the words that we can say that will position us

591
00:31:29.680 --> 00:31:34.200
to achieve and that at the same time, you have

592
00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:36.880
to have the wisdom to know that failure is possible,

593
00:31:37.200 --> 00:31:41.839
you know. But let's not speak uncertainty. Let's not speak doubt.

594
00:31:42.759 --> 00:31:45.039
What I found even in myself is when I speak

595
00:31:45.079 --> 00:31:49.079
from a position of I will do this, or speak

596
00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:53.440
with certainty, it builds a confidence in me that I

597
00:31:53.480 --> 00:31:57.759
didn't necessarily have before. So when I change my words

598
00:31:57.799 --> 00:32:02.480
to say one day I'm going to do a podcast, too,

599
00:32:03.160 --> 00:32:05.480
I'm going to start a podcast, Like those are two

600
00:32:05.640 --> 00:32:07.759
very different We're saying the same thing. The goal is

601
00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:09.519
the same thing, but one is like I'm going to

602
00:32:09.680 --> 00:32:13.400
versus one day I will. But when you put that

603
00:32:13.519 --> 00:32:15.880
certainty and like I'm going to now, it's like, let's

604
00:32:15.880 --> 00:32:19.039
put some barriers around that, and let's put some goals

605
00:32:19.079 --> 00:32:21.279
around that, like when are we going to start a podcast?

606
00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:23.960
As an example, one thing that I found for me

607
00:32:24.079 --> 00:32:27.559
is been a game changer of how you carry yourself.

608
00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:30.160
It builds a lot of confidence to know that you're

609
00:32:30.200 --> 00:32:33.680
actually claiming that power for yourself. Like one example, like

610
00:32:33.720 --> 00:32:36.680
when I used to do music. My friend and I

611
00:32:36.720 --> 00:32:39.000
that I did music with, we had a show that

612
00:32:39.039 --> 00:32:42.519
we are doing down in Florida, and our manager up

613
00:32:42.519 --> 00:32:46.400
here in Atlanta, he's like, hey, like, you know, we're

614
00:32:46.440 --> 00:32:49.480
open up for At the time, they were a pretty

615
00:32:49.480 --> 00:32:52.319
good sized group and our managers like, hey, just go

616
00:32:52.400 --> 00:32:55.279
in there like you're already stars. Just act like it.

617
00:32:55.400 --> 00:32:57.599
Just act like your stars. You're no less than you're

618
00:32:57.640 --> 00:33:00.000
not a local artist, you're not independent like you're a store.

619
00:33:00.279 --> 00:33:03.599
Like carry yourself, walk in, work the room like that,

620
00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:07.079
and that's who you are. And just to have someone

621
00:33:07.200 --> 00:33:09.759
say that over me, because we in our minds, we

622
00:33:09.799 --> 00:33:11.640
can create so much doubt of who we're not, and

623
00:33:11.680 --> 00:33:14.960
we discount and disqualify who we are not as opposed

624
00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:16.640
to really looking at who we are and know we

625
00:33:16.640 --> 00:33:19.359
were not stars. However, that's the goal that we were

626
00:33:19.400 --> 00:33:22.039
going after. So we're going to present ourselves in a

627
00:33:22.079 --> 00:33:24.599
way of confidence and like we've been here before, this

628
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:26.960
is not brand new to us, which it wasn't. But

629
00:33:27.079 --> 00:33:29.759
when we start comparing ourselves to others, then we start

630
00:33:29.799 --> 00:33:32.759
to look at ourselves like we're not good enough or

631
00:33:32.759 --> 00:33:35.119
we're not as good as them. But it's like you're

632
00:33:35.160 --> 00:33:37.920
exactly who you're supposed to be, and just have the

633
00:33:37.960 --> 00:33:40.920
confidence that you are creating in a way that this

634
00:33:40.960 --> 00:33:43.160
is your journey, this is your path, and it's not

635
00:33:43.279 --> 00:33:45.359
everything that you're not, it's everything that you are. Because

636
00:33:45.359 --> 00:33:47.839
those people who are quote unquote stars they're not you either,

637
00:33:48.200 --> 00:33:50.920
and there's parts of you that they would be envious

638
00:33:50.960 --> 00:33:52.759
of if they really got to know who you were.

639
00:33:53.799 --> 00:33:57.319
Well, that's true. And you know, as you talk about

640
00:33:57.319 --> 00:34:00.720
the words, what comes to my mind is how we

641
00:34:00.759 --> 00:34:04.599
can literally sabotage ourselves just by the phrases of the

642
00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:07.359
words that we're using the self talk as well as

643
00:34:07.519 --> 00:34:11.119
the affirmations in those tides of things. How important is

644
00:34:11.239 --> 00:34:16.039
the expression of gratitude in realizing those affirmations. What are

645
00:34:16.079 --> 00:34:18.000
your thoughts on that, because I hear that a lot,

646
00:34:18.119 --> 00:34:20.320
What are your thoughts about the gratitude part.

647
00:34:21.679 --> 00:34:25.960
Yeah, I think gratitude is what keeps you grounded, you know.

648
00:34:26.039 --> 00:34:29.480
For me, like my practice, like I pray every day

649
00:34:29.519 --> 00:34:31.320
throughout the day, and even at the end of the day,

650
00:34:31.320 --> 00:34:34.320
I just reflect back and give thanks for what was

651
00:34:34.360 --> 00:34:37.920
accomplished that day. You know. I think it's taking inventory

652
00:34:38.079 --> 00:34:41.199
of things that happened in your life that didn't have

653
00:34:41.280 --> 00:34:43.440
to happen, you know, in a good way. And even

654
00:34:43.519 --> 00:34:46.559
the trials that you have. It's like, I don't necessarily

655
00:34:46.599 --> 00:34:48.760
say celebrate, but in a way, it's like you have

656
00:34:48.800 --> 00:34:50.880
to honor the trials that you've gone through and have

657
00:34:50.960 --> 00:34:54.440
gratitude because even for me, like I wouldn't be where

658
00:34:54.480 --> 00:34:58.719
I am without trials that I perceived as setbacks, but

659
00:34:58.760 --> 00:35:02.000
they really set me up for something even greater than

660
00:35:02.000 --> 00:35:07.039
I thought. So when something bad happens, I don't you know,

661
00:35:07.280 --> 00:35:10.239
we react to it and we reflect and say, oh,

662
00:35:10.320 --> 00:35:12.199
this is a bad thing. I don't feel good about this.

663
00:35:12.360 --> 00:35:15.199
But when you distance yourself a little bit and have

664
00:35:15.320 --> 00:35:19.920
gratitude for the trials or you know, the negativity, then

665
00:35:19.920 --> 00:35:22.599
you can grow from that. You know. Adversely, when you

666
00:35:22.639 --> 00:35:25.760
look at things that went right, it's like celebrating your wins,

667
00:35:26.000 --> 00:35:29.400
Like I'm really big on promoting that, but I don't

668
00:35:29.440 --> 00:35:31.400
always do a good job with that myself, and so

669
00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:34.320
I promote it because I'm trying to get better at it.

670
00:35:34.400 --> 00:35:36.760
Like when I accomplish something, it's like, all right, I've

671
00:35:36.760 --> 00:35:39.000
done it. It's time to move on to the next thing.

672
00:35:39.840 --> 00:35:42.079
But I have to get better at really reflecting and

673
00:35:42.119 --> 00:35:45.119
celebrating the small ones, like if I get a new client,

674
00:35:45.239 --> 00:35:47.199
like that's a big deal. Like I didn't have to

675
00:35:47.199 --> 00:35:49.360
get a new client, so let's have gratitude for that.

676
00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:53.000
Came home today, My wife came home today, Like somebody's wife,

677
00:35:53.079 --> 00:35:56.119
somebody's husband, didn't come home today. You know, it's little

678
00:35:56.159 --> 00:35:59.440
things like that, and so it's like, let's have gratitude

679
00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:03.360
for just being alive. If you put your head on

680
00:36:03.400 --> 00:36:05.679
that bed at nighttime it went to sleep, you had

681
00:36:05.679 --> 00:36:08.440
a whole twenty four hours that you just experienced and

682
00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:11.079
not everybody did. So let's have gratitude in that.

683
00:36:11.880 --> 00:36:14.199
And it changes your whole life, doesn't It changes your

684
00:36:14.199 --> 00:36:17.119
whole meta gosh aspect that allows you to really start

685
00:36:17.159 --> 00:36:19.519
to accomplish those purposes, if that's correct.

686
00:36:20.400 --> 00:36:23.599
Yeah, yeah, because you can wrap yourself in so much negativity,

687
00:36:23.800 --> 00:36:26.280
you know, and everything is bad, the sky's following, the

688
00:36:26.280 --> 00:36:29.440
world's ending. But it's like, hold up, yeah, there's a

689
00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:32.119
lot of negativity in the world. There's no denying that,

690
00:36:32.159 --> 00:36:35.239
there's matrocities that are happening. There's also a lot of

691
00:36:35.280 --> 00:36:39.119
good in the world, and you know, let's also acknowledge

692
00:36:39.159 --> 00:36:42.159
that if we're going to I think life is a balance.

693
00:36:42.400 --> 00:36:44.719
You know, you can acknowledge the good, be aware of

694
00:36:44.760 --> 00:36:47.400
the bad, but your mindset and where you choose to

695
00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:49.840
live and put your energy, you one hundred percent can

696
00:36:49.880 --> 00:36:52.159
control that, and I think you will find a little

697
00:36:52.199 --> 00:36:55.199
more peace, a little more happiness, and even connecting it

698
00:36:55.280 --> 00:36:58.199
with your purpose, like a more fulfilled purpose if you're

699
00:36:58.199 --> 00:37:01.199
putting your energy towards something positive.

700
00:37:02.440 --> 00:37:05.760
Perfect. So as we come to the clothes, if you

701
00:37:05.840 --> 00:37:08.840
wanted to put a message together for the audience, just

702
00:37:08.880 --> 00:37:10.559
a short message, what would that be?

703
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Yeah, I like to consider myself like a messenger of hope,

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like through the work that I've done on myself through

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my book, because I've gone through things like unemployment, through

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following a dream and a dream not happening, but I

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always say like I followed my dream and found my purpose.

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So for you the listener, I would challenge you, like

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this week, like, what is that thing that you've been

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putting off? Something's been stirring inside of you, and maybe

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you haven't paid attention to it because of work responsibilities

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or family responsibilities. But what would your life look like

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if this week you put some time on your calendar

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and dug into that a little more. Maybe it's a

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skill that you have, a talent and interest you have,

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but what if you did that this week? So that

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would be my challenge. Let's do that and let's find

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some hope for seeing what that talent or that gift

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can maybe actually bloom into and that would be my

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advice for you.

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Oh, wonderful Jeremy, thank you. How do people find your book? Yeah?

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I can find my book on Amazon. It's how to

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Excuse Me, Finding your Edge, how to Unlock your talent

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and Purpose. You can also find it on Apple Books

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on Kendle. If you like my voice, I actually did

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the audio book, so if you don't like my voice,

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just get the regular old paperback or hardcover, but it's

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available there. You can also connect with me on Instagram

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at Jeremy dot Hazelwood and LinkedIn also, so I do speaking,

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I do workshops, so if you're interested in connecting with

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me there, I'm happy to help out.

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Wonderful Jeremy, thanks so much. It's been a fascinating conversation.

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I really appreciate it.

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Cool. Thanks doctor Doug. I appreciate you having me on

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your show today.

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Oh you bet, And folks, thanks for listening. I hope

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you really enjoyed it. And there's a doctor Duc saying

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no mista