April 30, 2024

Worrier to Warrior

Worrier to Warrior

Mindset, perhaps one of the most important parts of our life that we need to develop to prevent our emotions and reaction to those emotions to rule our lives.
I am very pleased to have Martin Salama on the show. Martin will share his journey in...

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Mindset, perhaps one of the most important parts of our life that we need to develop to prevent our emotions and reaction to those emotions to rule our lives.
I am very pleased to have Martin Salama on the show. Martin will share his journey in overcoming his anger response to most unpleasant circumstances to finding the means of acknowledging those circumstances but not being controlled by them. And how we can free ourselves from the stress of life experiences.
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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted at,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Derek Johnson, Hey, thanks so much for being on the show.

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Thanks for having me, Doctor doug Hey, I really appreciate it.

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You know, this is going to be interesting because it's

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like you really focus on physical fitness and those type

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of things, and yet we're going to talk about that,

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but all sorts of other aspects to that. So what

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I'd love for you to do is to share with

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the audience who you are and how you came to

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this point in your life that you're doing what you're

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doing and helping make a difference in other people's lives.

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Yes, for sure, I appreciate it. Number One, I'm excited

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to be here. So my name is Darik Johnson. I'm

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a US Army veteran termed life coach. So essentially what

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I do nowadays. I help people break old patterns so

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they could thrive, not just survive. So if there are

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certain childhood traumas that they have and they haven't gotten over,

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if there are certain vices that are controlling them, whether

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those things are drugs and alcohol, it's start struggling with food,

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bad relationship with food, or any other negative emotion or

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past experience. I help them pinpoint what that thing is

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and what their patterns are that are holding them back.

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Because some people they crush it in one or two

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areas of their life, but other areas they kind of

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push it into the closet or slider it under the

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road and they're like, I'll get around to it. I'll

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get around to it. We pull those things out and

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then we work on it. So I have the fitness

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aspect and then the mental aspects, so we combine both

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get them in better physical condition and most importantly, help

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them and guide them to get over past traumas so

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they can feel like they're free again and they can

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fully breathe, so they're not carrying this quote unquote baggage

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with them into every single thing that they do, which

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can hold them back. So that's essentially what I do now,

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and just quick backstory on it. I grew up my

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father was US Army for twenty plus years, so he

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had the drill sergeant mentality, and he's also a farm boy,

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so that work ethic is in my bloodline. On my

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dad's side, a farm boy turned army, and my mother

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she's German, so my mother has been a kindergarten teacher

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for forty five years, So I had the teacher mom.

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I had the drill sergeant father, so that mentality was

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always instilled in me. But both of my parents they

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grew up very poor and then they became successful, and

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with their upbringing they saw a lot of violence, traumas,

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very dark times, and they had to be the parent

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for their brothers and sisters and cousins, nieces and nephews

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because they were the oldest. So they went into the

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workfield at thirteen fourteen years old and were just taking

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care of family and all that while their mothers were working.

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And so with that, they got into careers early, and

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they did not have the opportunity to do deep inner

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work of life coaching or therapy or senor psychologists and

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things of that nature. So they went all in on

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careers and serving others and making a positive impact in

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the world. But because they neglected themselves at night, they

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would start to drink more So in middle school when

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I was eleven, I noticed that between the hours of

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nine pm to one am, they would consume more alcohol

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after the cookouts, after they get togethers, and then their son,

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being the youngest, I became the physical, verbal, emotional punching bag.

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But I knew that it had nothing to do with me.

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So I was dealing with that from an age of

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eleven to seventeen, and then just at home a lot

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of abuse and then in school and I just said

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enough is enough. And so fitness was my step one

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into personal development. So I had to change that insecure

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scared timid boy into a man, and fitness was my

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inlet changing the physique. And then I was inspired to

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help others. And so with the upbringing of that, we

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have the support. We had the discipline in the home,

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but I love you and the love and affection that

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was non existent. The home was ran like a machine,

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which I mean it did help, but on the other side,

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there's things that are lacking. But it all made me

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who I am. So because I was that insecure child,

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just getting literally beat up at home and at schooled

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and bullied. I had to change my physique, which made

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me calmer. I worked on my faith, and then I

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really wanted to help elevate other people, and so I

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did ten years in the US Army and I've been

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a personal trainer since i was fifteen. I'm thirty four,

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so I've had a lot of experience working with hundreds

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of different body types, different modalities. But what inspires me

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the most is just to help people overcome the past.

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Anyone can follow a nutrition plan or workout plan with

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the right guidance and discipline, anyone can do that, but

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can we thrive long term because we're over something that

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happened from the past, we're not giving up our power.

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So that's my favorite thing to do, is to see

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that fulfillment in somebody's eye where their past doesn't find

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who they are and they say, you know what, that

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was part of my comeback story, and then they can

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help serve brothers. But there's a quick synopsis, Yeah.

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There you go. Well, and you know what I find interesting,

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Just as a side note, as I have interviewed others,

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what I find is that it's fascinating how physical fitness

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can help to alleviate some of those negativity emotions that

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exists within as subconsciously and actually and literally. By consciously

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and being mindful of those situations, physical fitness helps to

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overcome that and displace it to a point where it

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isn't affectingness anymore. So I'm really excited to talk about that,

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you know from your experience and how that works. Were

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there any other than what you've just shared, which I

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think is just fascinating. Were there any other defining moments

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where you said to yourself, you know what I'm going

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to do, what I'm going to do to make a

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difference in other people's lives or was it just kind

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of a gradual thing as you finished your service in

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the army and moved forward.

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It was, honestly a gradual thing. When I was a

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teenager because of I lived in Germany as a child,

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and when Europeans moved to America, one of the first

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things we do we always watch a ton of American

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high school movies and we wonder, is it really like that?

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The jock, the bully, the cheerleaders, all the stuff, And

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we're genue securious, is it like that, or is that's

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just in the TV shows, in the movies. So we

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moved to America and one hundred percent it's real. So

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I was getting pushed into the toilet, I was getting

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beat up, pushing to the locker, and just I was

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just it was a culture shock because in Germany I

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was living on a military base and I was going

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to German schools as well, and it was all organized

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and strategic, and came to America and it was just

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like a lot of energy, so I had to change

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really quick. And so honestly, it was just I got

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tired of being bullied by every single person in public

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and at home, and I got tired of not having

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control of my environment. So I made a promise and

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a pact with myself and said, from here on out,

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nobody else will have power over me. And so I

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didn't get into fitness to beat up anybody or to

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be violent, but I just said, I need to elevate

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myself because I had a lot of fears. I had

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a stuttering issue. I did not have any public speaking skills.

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I was always nervous. I didn't know who I was.

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So I had to create the man that I wanted

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to become. So I made that pact with myself and said,

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from here on out, nobody's going to have power over me.

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I'm going to control the situation and not give people

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the response that they expect. So family, they could expect

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you to be angry or sad, the bully at school

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expects you to be aggressive. So I said, you know what,

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let me just play chess with my words. And I

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would just play this game in my head to say,

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don't give them what they expect. Don't give them what

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they expect. And so I had to start early. But

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it's because of all the things that were happening. I

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just got sick and tired of getting beat up all

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the time. So I just had to stand up for myself.

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And once I did that, I I started helping people

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because people asked me, were like, hey, who are you?

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Did you go into it like a hyperbolic chamber. You

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used to be that shy kid in the class. Now

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you're in shape, you look like Captain America. You're really calm,

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you're really confident, you speak well. It like what happened

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in these two years. And then I told them I

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was like, you want to learn how? And then I

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started teaching people. So it was honestly just by time

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being scared for so long, I just got tired of

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feeling that way, so I said enough is enough. I

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made the change for myself, which then motivated me to

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help change and elevate others.

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Okay, so let's let's talk about that pain that you experienced.

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And obviously we all experienced some type of pain, suffering,

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whatever terminology you want to use. I like the concept

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of suffering, particularly because I'm here in Thailand, and I

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love that Buddha talks about that. But yes, but the

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reality is is that we all have subconsciously in our memory,

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in our brain that level of pain, fear, suffering that

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then comes out in the reality of what we experience

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in life. And you, as you shared with your story

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just a while ago, that's part of what you experienced

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as a child. So my question for you is, what

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did you do? How did you turn that pain suffering

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into a positive fuel based situation that allowed you then

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to make decisions, conscious decisions that put you in an

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entirely different modality.

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Great question. So one of the big things that I

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did is I legitimately got obsessed with comeback stories, learning

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people's comeback stories, athletes, designers, artists, parents, just anyone that

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was crushing it in their field. I loved learning their backstory.

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How did he become the way he is? Why is

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she so good at that? Why do they have this

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quote unquote killer instinct to just dominate their path and

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overcome any traumas. And so learning all these different stories,

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I saw many similarities, and I said, I can relate

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to him because of the upbringing or his relationship with

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his mother. I can relate to them because this happened

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in schooling. And I would just see myself and other

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successful people, and then I would just tell myself on

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autopilot and my subconscience, this is happening for me. This

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is part of my comeback story. This is happening for me.

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This is part of my comeback story. So I just

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ran that narrative in my head. So anything that would

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happen in life to me or around me, I just said,

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challenge accepted. Anytime something would happen, I'd literally say it

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out loud, challenge accepted. This is happening right now, and

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I feel this way, this is real. The challenge accepted.

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The only way to it is through it and so

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I just had that mentality and just kept pushing. But

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it was because I immersed myself in people's comeback stories,

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whether those were books, movies, music, and I just really

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fell in love with that because I would see everyone

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that's at a high level in life, they have skills

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and confidence that they earned because they pushed through dark times, traumas,

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pain and all that. And so that's one huge thing

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that helped me in my teenage years was just learning

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these stories. So I was never one to complain. Nobody

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ever knew anything really that I was going through because

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I knew ten people that had it way worse. I

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had both parents, Yes they were drunks, but at least

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I had both parents, and we lived in a beautiful

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house in Florida. So I was like, I can't complain.

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condition in Florida. Yes, I get my ass beat at

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night because they're drunk, but I can't much because somebody

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else has it worse. So I would always just look

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at perspective, so I would never bash anyone or complain.

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Okay, and you know what's fascinating about that is that

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you know, as I've really studied this interviewed, is so

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many people that I have had the opportunity to. In

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my mind, what you're really talking about is what I

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would term mindfulness and true consciousness to where you are

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observing those things coming up. You know, whatever situation or

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event occurs that brings up those emotions. If I'm understanding

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what you're saying, is you you observe that, you accept

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that as real, and then you take the steps to

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do something that is going to move that aside so

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it does not affect you. Is that a fair accurate description.

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Yes, that is a very accurate description. I would not

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give the response to the situation that was a normal

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auto response. I would just zoom out, take a breather,

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and then assess the situation. Because my younger version would

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just react. Something would happen to not react, and then

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after the reaction, then I'd say, okay, let me do

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it differently. This time I got too angry, or I

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got too annoyed, or I got too sad and scared,

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whatever happened back then. But once I made the decision

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to no longer give the situation or people control over me.

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In regards to my response, I was always calm, and

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after a while I noticed people are like, man, you're

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always so chill. Anytime that there's chaos, it's like, you

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just get calmer. And I love that because I would

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just see that I was calm in those situations because

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I was just used to a lot of yelling and

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screaming and violence, and anytime that normal life stress would happen,

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I would thrive in it because I would just be

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even calm tempered. But I'd always guide people through whatever

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was happening. So it was almost like things would slow

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I said, Okay, this is happening, let me zoom out

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at a higher perspective and let me control the room

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and just stay calm. So it was very interesting. But

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years later I realized that as a teenager, I was

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doing shadow work. I was doing deeper her work, and

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at the time I didn't know what I was doing.

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I was just playing this game.

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We're just doing it, yeah, exactly.

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and I said, this is what I was doing. It

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was just phrase differently you know.

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the other day and they were explaining how all of

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that trauma from the early years without handling it I

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actually started to create some real health issues to their body.

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And ultimately the only way that that was able to

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heal was to be able to figure out what you're

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talking about. So, as you work with people from a

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physical fitness standpoint, and as you observe the people around,

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what have you found and what have you observed as

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some of the very common things that happened to people

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who do not deal with those early emotions what happens

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to their body. And I know one of them is

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obe because I've never I've never seen, you know, over

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my years the tremendous existence of obesity in the United

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States that we see now. And I struggle with myself.

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You know, I work, I am constantly working at it myself.

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What is the deal?

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Great question. So, one of the biggest issues that people

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have nowadays is their lack of attention span. So they

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don't have time and control of their attention. And so

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now in human history, humans have a lower attention span

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than ever because everything and everyone wants your attention. Facebook ads, YouTube,

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your uncle, your dogs, your kids, your neighbors, the presidents.

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Its election season, like just everything, and everyone wants our attention.

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So on the flip side, the person who has the

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most control of their attention is going to be the

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one that makes better decisions. And I know it's very straightforward,

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but a huge issue is they don't have control of

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their attention because they're running and living in fight or

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flights and their cortisol levels, their stress hormone are always

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so high that they're very reactionary. They live in such

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a heightened state of fear or survival, fear or survival

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where there's not really a healthy balance with many Americans.

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So because of that, they just don't know what to do.

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So food has become the most consumed thing to overshadow,

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to mask, to escape, to hope, to get the edge off.

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Yes there's alcohol, Yes there's drugs, but the most prevalent one,

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the common one, is food. And it's not discussed enough.

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And you're absolutely right that now obesity is more common

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in America than it has ever been. But it definitely

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stems because people they live in fight or flight and

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their cortisol levels are sky high twenty four to seven,

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so their stress hormone. So an example, I could give

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and recommend a nutrition plan that is holistic that would

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help this individual. But if their microbiome in their is

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all out of whack, if they consume a healthy meal,

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their body can't even absorb it because their body for

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so many years has been running in fight or flight,

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and their cortisol levels are so high that their gut

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biome and their mind are affected by it. So what

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brain health is gut health. So if we're eating healthy,

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but we've been very stressed for years on end, our

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body at some point can't even absorb all the nutrients.

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they can reset, and then once they are eating healthy,

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their body can start to actually consume what they're eating.

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they can start to be calmer. They notice they're feeling better,

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they're sleeping better, they're reacting better, and then they look

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in hindsight and say, wow, I used to be so

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reactive and I didn't realize that I was living on autopilot,

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just really jerky and just all over the place, So

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we just give them that calmness, still this and most

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importantly the presence. The presence because nowadays people they're either

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stuck in the past or creating the what if scenarios

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of the future. What if this happens and then by

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age thirty five, I need to be married with kids

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and I need to be a millionaire about forty and

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then I got to do this and then or person

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two is just thinking about the past. Nobody understands me,

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my father did this, this happened, foster care, child home,

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et cetera, et cetera. So they're either living back here,

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they're creating the what if of the future. Cortisol levels,

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higher survival mode, cortisol a hide and they're just like,

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they don't know what to do. So the job is

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to reset their microbiome and their stomach, because gut health

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is brain health. And I think that's the topic that's

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not discussed enough because people just think, oh, I could

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eat healthy and just feel better. Sounds great, But if

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somebody has been living in this high state of fight

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or flight for five plus years, that meal for a

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week or a month is not going to make that

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much of a difference. They literally just have to have

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a total reset and lower their cortisol levels. So big

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picture is gaining control of our attention again and being

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mindful that what we're eating actually affects our brain health

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more than anything. It's not the outside environment as much

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as we think. It's actually what we're consuming and how

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and how we respond to things well.

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And you know, I think you had mentioned drugs, alcohol,

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and then you know, obviously the food. It's really an addiction,

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isn't it when you think about it? And you know,

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as I've studied it a little bit more, what I've

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learned and recognized is that many times, whether it's drugs,

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whether it's alcohol, whether it's food, we're trying to cover

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over some emotions that are affectingness. And as you say,

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those emotions bring about that fear, that fight or flight,

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which then raises the cortisol. I love that. And really,

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as you talk about you know, the future, the past,

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how many people people are able to actually live in

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the now. And if I'm understanding what you're saying, that's

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what we need to learn to do is to live

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in the here and now and not be affected negatively

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either about the pastor or the potential of what we

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worry about in the future.

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Yes, you absolutely ride Doctor Dougs, so that presence. It's

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so rare for people to be present. If you go

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to any restaurant right now anywhere in the world, everyone

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at the table's on the device. The kids, grandma, there's

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a tablet, there's an iPad, and nobody's actually there speaking

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to each other. They might speak for one minute and

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they say, you know, they get fidgety and they have

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to pull the phone out. We're all, even if we

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don't want to admit it, we're all addicted to our devices,

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myself included. We're all addicted. We have a pattern loop.

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phone within three minutes, we start getting fidgety and we

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grab our phone. If we really zoom out of ourselves,

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we all have a pattern loop. A pattern example could

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be she opens up email, Amazon, Car, Facebook, Instagram, TikTok.

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That is her little loop. It's just an autopilot. She

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doesn't know why she does it. She just goes in

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that order. This guy has a different order. Everybody has

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a pattern loop that we do on our phone just

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to like distract ourselves. So our job is to see

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am I grabbing my phone intentionally? Or am I just

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grabbing it because I'm bored, because I'm stressed, because I

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want to mindlessly scroll. Because all these sub and micro

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decisions are going to help us a ton, because we're

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not just running an autopilot letting these phones, devices and

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situations control us. So I always challenge people to say,

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before you grab your phone, what are you about to do?

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Are you strategically opening it up to check your notifications,

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to send the email, to reach out to somebody, or

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are you just like, ugh, I just feel blad. I've

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been working for ten minutes, I hit my ten limit,

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attention span limit, Now need to scroll, and then they

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just go from there. So it's very common to see

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that because if you just look in public, somebody will

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be eating and out of know where, they put their

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fork down and grab their phone, even though nobody called them.

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Nothing is urgent. It's just such a loop. We can't

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even be present to have a meal without touching our phone.

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week without touching your phone. And at first we're like,

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I could do that, and then when they catch themselves

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are like that, that's one of the hardest things, and

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they realize that they don't even eat a meal without

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touching their phone.

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So we look at what you're doing, all right, What

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are some of the methodologies that people can apply in

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their lives to really learn to be present? And I

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would assume that attention to physical fitness and some of

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the things that you're doing with your training and so

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forth is certainly one of those. I have a son

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that is just so focused on physical fitness, and I

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think it really makes a difference from the standpoint of

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helping them to be present. Do you talk about other

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modalities that might be a value also, and if so,

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what would they be?

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Yes, a great question. So they recommend grounding. Grounding meaning

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taking care of our inner child, taking off your shoes

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and socks and just feeling the dirt, the grass, the sand,

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wherever you live in the world, and just being present

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in nature and going back to the basics. Leave your

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phone down if you have kids you have to bring

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it with you, or a business understandable, but keep it

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on silent, but really use all five of your senses,

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and taking your surroundings. When was the last time people

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have dunked their head under a body of water, just

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like put it under in a pond, in a lake

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at the beach and just let the wave hit them

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and just splash water and just release their inner child

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and we're just present and then watch the bird fly

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for one minute. I wonder where it's going. I was

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going to that tree, a squirrel, a book, like whatever

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it is. I know this sounds funny, but in general,

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it's like as a kid and as a teen, we're

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always so present and involved in the environment, really there,

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and as an adult we're never present. We're in public

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and we're sitting there on our phone or thinking about

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our next go. So a huge thing will be grounding

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and just really feeling nature wherever you are, but using

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all five of your senses to take in what you

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see here, smell, taste, etc. And really just being present

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and seeing what comes to mind. And after a couple

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of minutes that person will start laughing and say, Wow,

462
00:24:19.880 --> 00:24:21.680
that was the first time I've watched a bird fly

463
00:24:22.480 --> 00:24:25.920
in months or years. I've never even noticed that tree, Like, wow,

464
00:24:25.960 --> 00:24:27.880
this is actually beautiful view. And I've lived here for

465
00:24:28.279 --> 00:24:30.240
x amount of years, and we don't really take into

466
00:24:30.279 --> 00:24:33.319
account where we live because we're just go go go. Bills,

467
00:24:33.480 --> 00:24:35.000
got to go, got to take care of people, and

468
00:24:35.079 --> 00:24:37.400
everything is go go go. So I challenge people just

469
00:24:37.440 --> 00:24:41.480
to take ten to thirty minutes sit outside, even if

470
00:24:41.519 --> 00:24:44.039
it's raining. If it's raining, even better, I mean, don't

471
00:24:44.039 --> 00:24:47.359
walk in a thunderstorm, especially in Florida. But going on

472
00:24:47.440 --> 00:24:49.279
a walk or just standing in the rain, it's very

473
00:24:49.319 --> 00:24:53.039
therapeutic and that person will feel refreshed, so taken in

474
00:24:53.119 --> 00:24:55.240
your environment and being more present. That is going to

475
00:24:55.279 --> 00:24:56.920
help them a lot. If they can add that into

476
00:24:56.960 --> 00:25:00.279
their daily routine for ten to thirty minutes and just

477
00:25:00.279 --> 00:25:03.599
doing that, the other thing would be their morning routine.

478
00:25:04.119 --> 00:25:07.240
I challenge people to only choose two things, one for

479
00:25:07.319 --> 00:25:10.519
the body, one for the mind. The body, they can

480
00:25:10.599 --> 00:25:16.000
choose any modality, walking, running, way training, CrossFit pilates, they

481
00:25:16.039 --> 00:25:19.039
choose their thing for the mind. If they work on

482
00:25:19.079 --> 00:25:21.160
the mind after the workout, it's going to be way

483
00:25:21.200 --> 00:25:23.279
more effective. So if you go on a walk or

484
00:25:23.400 --> 00:25:27.400
run and afterwards you hydrate, your mind is open, Ideas

485
00:25:27.440 --> 00:25:30.759
come to you, names, opportunities, and it's just easy to

486
00:25:30.839 --> 00:25:33.400
do anything mental because you've opened up and you've moved

487
00:25:33.400 --> 00:25:38.799
the body. Once you go into your prayer, meditation, journaling, visualization,

488
00:25:39.000 --> 00:25:41.960
whatever modality somebody chooses, it's going to be way more

489
00:25:42.000 --> 00:25:45.880
effective because they move the body first, and so those

490
00:25:45.880 --> 00:25:49.160
things are being more present in nature and only choosing

491
00:25:49.160 --> 00:25:51.519
two things for their morning routine, one to move the body,

492
00:25:51.599 --> 00:25:53.960
one to open the mind. And the whole intent is

493
00:25:54.000 --> 00:25:56.799
to be in an empowered state. So the rest of

494
00:25:56.799 --> 00:25:59.960
the day that individual they respond better to the world,

495
00:26:00.119 --> 00:26:03.920
to situations, customers, clients, reviews, whatever they do. But it's

496
00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:08.039
just more so having them present and calm so they're

497
00:26:08.039 --> 00:26:10.240
in control of the situation. And I know it sounds

498
00:26:10.240 --> 00:26:12.720
so straightforward, but people are always looking for the secret nowadays,

499
00:26:12.759 --> 00:26:14.359
and no, there has to be something else. There has

500
00:26:14.359 --> 00:26:16.000
to be this. It's like, no, lay your phone down,

501
00:26:16.279 --> 00:26:18.440
go stand outside and follow a bird for one minute,

502
00:26:18.960 --> 00:26:22.599
fuel the water, just thank God or whatever you believe

503
00:26:22.640 --> 00:26:24.960
in that you're here, like take in your surroundings. So

504
00:26:25.000 --> 00:26:26.720
I just challenge people to go back to the basics.

505
00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:30.359
We don't need all these new modalities and stop overcomplicating things.

506
00:26:30.839 --> 00:26:33.880
That's just my reminder to people because we all know

507
00:26:33.920 --> 00:26:35.640
what to do well.

508
00:26:35.680 --> 00:26:39.960
And I love how you focused on the fear and

509
00:26:40.039 --> 00:26:42.920
how that creates the higher levels of cortisol, which has

510
00:26:42.960 --> 00:26:47.160
all sorts of effects on It's not only from obesity,

511
00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:52.599
but other things. So as we focus on that particular

512
00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:55.640
aspect of fight or flight fair what it does to

513
00:26:55.680 --> 00:27:00.000
our bodies, what are some of the other elements besides

514
00:27:00.920 --> 00:27:07.880
the recollection or emotions that have existed subconsciously within our brain.

515
00:27:08.599 --> 00:27:11.640
What are some of the other things that occur that

516
00:27:12.160 --> 00:27:17.039
we need to be able to take control of and

517
00:27:17.319 --> 00:27:20.960
make sure that those are not going to also affect

518
00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:26.480
that fair response to the point where the corterosoll continues

519
00:27:26.519 --> 00:27:28.039
to rise and maintain.

520
00:27:29.079 --> 00:27:33.680
Great question. So the concepts of trauma being stored in

521
00:27:33.720 --> 00:27:36.400
the body. Trauma is stored in the body. So if

522
00:27:36.400 --> 00:27:38.559
we know this, no matter what the trauma was, it

523
00:27:38.599 --> 00:27:41.119
could have been a military veteran, somebody that grew up

524
00:27:41.119 --> 00:27:43.279
with the crazy family, whatever it was in their past,

525
00:27:43.880 --> 00:27:45.960
they just have to know that trauma is stored within

526
00:27:46.000 --> 00:27:49.480
the body. Humans are the only mammal that stores trauma

527
00:27:49.480 --> 00:27:52.359
in the body. So if animal gets hit by a card,

528
00:27:52.440 --> 00:27:54.640
not killed, but if they get hit by something, if

529
00:27:54.640 --> 00:27:56.920
they get into a fight with another animal, what they

530
00:27:56.960 --> 00:27:59.839
do They just shake it off. They start shaking and

531
00:28:00.039 --> 00:28:01.839
then they try to get the trauma and release it.

532
00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:04.519
So if you watch any mammal, they shake, they do

533
00:28:04.599 --> 00:28:07.960
something to release that trauma. Humans, we're the only mambals

534
00:28:08.000 --> 00:28:10.880
that actually store it. And once we store it, that

535
00:28:11.000 --> 00:28:13.799
human if they never actually fully release it, they mask it.

536
00:28:14.240 --> 00:28:18.960
But the drugs, alcohol, sex, unnecessary, dating, apps, unnecessary, sleeping,

537
00:28:19.319 --> 00:28:22.400
sleeping and escaping from reality. It doesn't always have to

538
00:28:22.400 --> 00:28:25.599
be something extreme and unhealthy. It could be sleeping. Some

539
00:28:25.640 --> 00:28:28.319
people they just love their apps because they escape. But

540
00:28:28.720 --> 00:28:31.119
by us knowing this, we store trauma. So it is

541
00:28:31.160 --> 00:28:33.759
our job to release it so that way we can

542
00:28:33.799 --> 00:28:36.200
have controlled again and it doesn't affect our mental health,

543
00:28:36.559 --> 00:28:40.240
our physical health. And so being aware of these things, Yes,

544
00:28:40.279 --> 00:28:43.240
this thing happened, Yes I stored this. Why am I

545
00:28:43.279 --> 00:28:45.559
so stiff all the time? Is it because I work

546
00:28:45.559 --> 00:28:47.559
out a desk all day? Is it because I'm so

547
00:28:47.680 --> 00:28:50.640
stressed and it started making my posture worse and I'm

548
00:28:50.680 --> 00:28:53.759
standing in fear. So if we see that, weld say, okay,

549
00:28:53.960 --> 00:28:56.880
when was the last time that somebody got a deep

550
00:28:56.920 --> 00:29:01.279
muscle tissue massage, or went hiking or really got outside

551
00:29:01.319 --> 00:29:04.559
of their shell to move their body. So if they

552
00:29:04.559 --> 00:29:08.000
start to do these modalities of whether it's a massage,

553
00:29:08.079 --> 00:29:11.799
whether it's foam rolling, whether it's acupuncture, there's many modalities

554
00:29:11.799 --> 00:29:14.720
that are all natural but really to help release those things.

555
00:29:14.720 --> 00:29:18.000
They'll be surprised. And if they release that stiffness in

556
00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:20.640
their shoulder, they might think it was from a workout

557
00:29:21.000 --> 00:29:24.279
or where they worked, but deep down, they've been this

558
00:29:24.359 --> 00:29:27.880
way for years because life kept happening to them. But

559
00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:30.000
they have to flip and say, life is happening for me.

560
00:29:30.359 --> 00:29:33.440
So if they release those traumas by elevating the body

561
00:29:33.519 --> 00:29:36.839
and realizing that their posture can make their traumas worse

562
00:29:36.880 --> 00:29:41.039
and their stress worse by being slumped over, So training

563
00:29:41.079 --> 00:29:44.519
that core to be stronger and more erect in your posture,

564
00:29:45.039 --> 00:29:47.319
and then on top of that is just knowing that

565
00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:49.880
whatever area you're stiff in, you have to train or

566
00:29:49.880 --> 00:29:54.640
release that area with a modality a workout, acupuncture, sitting

567
00:29:54.640 --> 00:29:56.680
in the sauna, and things of that nature. But when

568
00:29:56.680 --> 00:30:00.240
people take these things into their routine, they'll realiz how

569
00:30:00.319 --> 00:30:02.880
much control they have and that instead of just holding

570
00:30:02.880 --> 00:30:06.200
onto this thing and masking, masking, masking and escaping and running,

571
00:30:06.799 --> 00:30:10.000
they face that thing, but then they also have positive outlets.

572
00:30:10.200 --> 00:30:11.839
So I just like to look at it in that

573
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:15.119
regard as we all as humans, we store trauma, but

574
00:30:15.119 --> 00:30:18.039
it is our job to release that with any of

575
00:30:18.119 --> 00:30:21.279
these modalities. It could also be faith, but always recommend

576
00:30:21.480 --> 00:30:24.359
doing something for the body as well, because if somebody

577
00:30:24.400 --> 00:30:26.359
is only working on the mind in their faith and

578
00:30:26.359 --> 00:30:29.200
they lack their body, they're not going to fully recover

579
00:30:29.480 --> 00:30:31.119
or be an empowered individual.

580
00:30:32.279 --> 00:30:37.440
Okay, so those are internal aspects. Let's talk about the

581
00:30:37.720 --> 00:30:44.000
external aspects. Let's talk about people around us, things that

582
00:30:44.039 --> 00:30:46.480
are said to us, those type of things. What has

583
00:30:46.559 --> 00:30:50.920
been your opinion of that year? Expertise on that and

584
00:30:50.960 --> 00:30:52.160
your evaluation of.

585
00:30:52.039 --> 00:30:56.000
That great question. So with our environment, our environment can

586
00:30:56.039 --> 00:30:58.799
definitely hold us back, and sometimes we're born into that

587
00:30:58.880 --> 00:31:01.839
crazy family. I have no control of that. But after

588
00:31:01.920 --> 00:31:04.440
a while, once we're of age eighteen plus and we

589
00:31:04.440 --> 00:31:08.279
start making decisions, we have to realize that in the beginning, yes,

590
00:31:08.319 --> 00:31:11.039
something might happen to us, but we have to raise

591
00:31:11.079 --> 00:31:15.200
our standards. So I would ask people to rate their circle.

592
00:31:16.000 --> 00:31:18.759
Is your circle pouring into your cup or do you

593
00:31:18.799 --> 00:31:22.400
only pour into them? Does your circle actively listen to

594
00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:25.440
you when you're excited talking about your passion. I just

595
00:31:25.480 --> 00:31:28.039
close the deal, I just lost five pounds, I just

596
00:31:28.039 --> 00:31:32.599
did xyz. Do they respond with a nice positive energy

597
00:31:32.640 --> 00:31:35.799
and excitement for you or do they do little side

598
00:31:35.799 --> 00:31:38.960
comments cycle well we can all have that easy, Doug.

599
00:31:39.319 --> 00:31:42.079
Well now, Derek, I mean your dad was army, So

600
00:31:42.119 --> 00:31:44.559
what do you I mean, you're just blessed? Oh, must

601
00:31:44.640 --> 00:31:47.200
be nice, must be nice. Do they respond like that

602
00:31:47.440 --> 00:31:50.640
or with little slick side comments and then on un reverse,

603
00:31:51.000 --> 00:31:54.200
are you just as excited for them? And also does

604
00:31:54.240 --> 00:31:58.039
your circle actively listen? Do they actually listen to hear

605
00:31:58.079 --> 00:32:00.720
you or do they just listen to respond and you

606
00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:02.759
see their body language they're just shaking their head ready

607
00:32:02.799 --> 00:32:06.000
to just interrupt you. And if you're talking about your passion,

608
00:32:06.559 --> 00:32:08.759
do the people in your circle actually listen to you

609
00:32:09.319 --> 00:32:12.200
or are they just scrolling their phone? And next you know,

610
00:32:12.240 --> 00:32:14.079
you're like, well, that's why I don't tell people about

611
00:32:14.079 --> 00:32:17.480
my passion because nobody's listening anyway, there's scrolling. So take

612
00:32:17.519 --> 00:32:21.240
into account your circle and your environment, and you have

613
00:32:21.319 --> 00:32:23.319
to realize that you have to raise your standards. So

614
00:32:23.359 --> 00:32:25.920
if nobody is listening around you, it's just time to

615
00:32:26.000 --> 00:32:29.279
accept those things in the beginning. Yes, it might be painful,

616
00:32:29.440 --> 00:32:31.400
but some people you have to love from a distance

617
00:32:31.440 --> 00:32:34.079
because those people will start to drain you. And your goals,

618
00:32:34.119 --> 00:32:37.079
dreams and aspirations were up here and if you're around

619
00:32:37.079 --> 00:32:40.960
these lazier, negative people, you'll start to question yourselves and

620
00:32:41.079 --> 00:32:43.960
their limitations will be placed onto you. And they were

621
00:32:43.960 --> 00:32:46.880
never your limitations. They just started to listen too many opinions.

622
00:32:46.920 --> 00:32:50.240
So really rate your circle and assess it because they're

623
00:32:50.240 --> 00:32:51.880
going to start to pull you back and drain you.

624
00:32:52.559 --> 00:32:57.720
But that internal voice on autopilot, that negative voice, usually

625
00:32:57.960 --> 00:33:00.880
it's not even our voice, it's something to somebody in

626
00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:01.839
our past said to us.

627
00:33:01.880 --> 00:33:06.440
So really, and you know it's tough. I mean you

628
00:33:06.480 --> 00:33:08.640
think about you know, you grew up in a very

629
00:33:08.680 --> 00:33:13.000
toxic family and obviously at some point in your life

630
00:33:13.039 --> 00:33:15.519
when you reach the age that you could you just

631
00:33:16.119 --> 00:33:18.200
did you disconnect from them completely?

632
00:33:18.839 --> 00:33:19.680
Yes? I had to.

633
00:33:20.279 --> 00:33:24.480
Okay, And again as you talk about the environment, people

634
00:33:24.559 --> 00:33:28.440
who we surround ourselves with, uh, if they continue to

635
00:33:28.519 --> 00:33:33.160
pull us down, which can be so devastating in our lives.

636
00:33:33.720 --> 00:33:36.519
But here's the challenge. How easy, well I know how

637
00:33:36.559 --> 00:33:40.079
easy it is. It's not to be able to disconnect,

638
00:33:40.160 --> 00:33:44.680
to make a conscious decision to disconnect from those people

639
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:49.000
who you have been used to having around you, because

640
00:33:49.039 --> 00:33:54.119
now you're recognizing that they are literally pulling you down,

641
00:33:54.160 --> 00:33:57.119
because you've reached that level of consciousness to be able

642
00:33:57.160 --> 00:34:00.480
to recognize that. How do you how do you help

643
00:34:00.480 --> 00:34:02.400
your clients as you're working with them and as you

644
00:34:02.440 --> 00:34:05.039
find that you know what, they're being surrounded by that

645
00:34:05.200 --> 00:34:08.159
negative type of situation. How do you help them to

646
00:34:08.199 --> 00:34:10.960
get to the point where they have the courage and

647
00:34:11.039 --> 00:34:15.840
the strength to literally walk away and to find people

648
00:34:16.320 --> 00:34:19.960
and friends and surroundings that are more uplifting and going

649
00:34:19.960 --> 00:34:22.239
to help make a difference for them in their lives.

650
00:34:23.280 --> 00:34:26.400
Great question, So I challenge them to see the pattern.

651
00:34:26.719 --> 00:34:31.119
And the pattern could be what does your mom, dad, uncle, boss,

652
00:34:31.199 --> 00:34:33.559
or whoever in their circle? What do they say that

653
00:34:33.639 --> 00:34:37.320
actually pushes your buttons or triggers you? What is it?

654
00:34:38.280 --> 00:34:41.000
So w step one, look at what does somebody actually

655
00:34:41.079 --> 00:34:43.880
say where the energy in the room shifts or you

656
00:34:43.920 --> 00:34:47.119
feel smaller or less than two? What is your auto

657
00:34:47.199 --> 00:34:49.280
response when you hear that thing or when that thing

658
00:34:49.360 --> 00:34:52.159
is done to you? Is your auto response aggression? Is

659
00:34:52.199 --> 00:34:54.480
it to close in and get really quiet? Is it

660
00:34:54.519 --> 00:34:59.760
to run? So what is hidden me verbally or whatever's happening.

661
00:35:00.079 --> 00:35:03.000
What is my reaction and then say okay, when this happens,

662
00:35:03.039 --> 00:35:05.320
I do that, When she does this, I do this?

663
00:35:05.800 --> 00:35:08.880
All right? What is a better response? What would my

664
00:35:09.480 --> 00:35:12.159
best version of myself? How would he or she respond

665
00:35:12.280 --> 00:35:15.039
to say situation? And usually that person is going to

666
00:35:15.079 --> 00:35:17.639
say things along the lines of I want to respond calmer,

667
00:35:18.559 --> 00:35:20.679
I want to do killer with kindness. I want to

668
00:35:20.719 --> 00:35:23.159
be able to make a conscious decision and put my

669
00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:26.719
foot down and be intentional. Because sometimes people they'll say

670
00:35:26.840 --> 00:35:29.320
I'm fading away from these people, and two weeks later

671
00:35:29.440 --> 00:35:31.079
they go back out to lunch with them, and then

672
00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:33.440
the cycle starts again and they got sucked in. It's

673
00:35:33.440 --> 00:35:35.079
the same thing like people that break up and get

674
00:35:35.079 --> 00:35:37.360
back together break up and get back together. They're not

675
00:35:37.400 --> 00:35:39.480
intentional and they don't make a conscious decision. They just

676
00:35:39.559 --> 00:35:41.960
kind of put their foot in the water. So the

677
00:35:42.000 --> 00:35:45.519
goal is are you in for yourself or are you

678
00:35:45.639 --> 00:35:49.320
just dabbling? Because if so, that relationship will be even

679
00:35:49.320 --> 00:35:52.119
more toxic because they know what to say to pull

680
00:35:52.159 --> 00:35:55.599
you back in. And so high level is that anytime

681
00:35:55.639 --> 00:35:58.480
that you've surpassed the level of person that they thought

682
00:35:58.480 --> 00:36:01.039
you would become. That's when they try to pull you back.

683
00:36:01.400 --> 00:36:04.239
So it's like the crabs in a barrel or crabs

684
00:36:04.280 --> 00:36:06.400
in a bucket mentality. Once you start going up and

685
00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:08.440
they see you're about to get out of the barrel

686
00:36:08.679 --> 00:36:11.840
or break the generational curses or stop drinking and stop

687
00:36:11.880 --> 00:36:14.760
doing XYZ, they don't like that, so they want to

688
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:17.480
pull you back down. So think of that analogy. When

689
00:36:18.000 --> 00:36:21.159
you're elevating yourself, you're working on your faith, your finances,

690
00:36:21.159 --> 00:36:24.599
your body, your relationships. Anytime that you're elevating, somebody in

691
00:36:24.639 --> 00:36:27.079
your circle, usually your family, is going to start to

692
00:36:27.079 --> 00:36:29.559
try to hold you back. But you have to identify

693
00:36:29.639 --> 00:36:32.039
and say, you know what, instead of me being angry

694
00:36:32.119 --> 00:36:36.360
or sad, let me just accept this. They're projecting. They

695
00:36:36.360 --> 00:36:39.000
are projecting you surpass the level of person they thought

696
00:36:39.039 --> 00:36:41.280
you would become. So they want to hold you back

697
00:36:41.320 --> 00:36:45.239
because your success and your progress is shining a light

698
00:36:45.239 --> 00:36:48.960
at their missed opportunity, their laziness, their bad habits, etc.

699
00:36:49.400 --> 00:36:52.079
And that's not your job to fix them. Most people

700
00:36:52.119 --> 00:36:53.920
are going to be stuck that way, so they're living

701
00:36:53.920 --> 00:36:55.920
that same year over and over, so they really have

702
00:36:55.960 --> 00:36:57.920
to zoom out to say, am I going to take

703
00:36:57.960 --> 00:37:00.119
advice from somebody that I don't want to end up like?

704
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:02.559
They just have to look at it that way. The

705
00:37:02.599 --> 00:37:04.840
person telling you these things, look at their life. Do

706
00:37:04.920 --> 00:37:07.360
you want to end up like them? Your mother, your father,

707
00:37:07.400 --> 00:37:10.320
your uncle, your professor, And ninety nine percent of the

708
00:37:10.320 --> 00:37:12.079
time that person does not have a life that that

709
00:37:12.159 --> 00:37:14.880
individual wants, And we really have to ask ourself, well,

710
00:37:14.880 --> 00:37:18.599
why am I listening to this? They're just miserable, honestly.

711
00:37:19.039 --> 00:37:22.320
So realize that many people are just projecting and projecting.

712
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:24.599
So there's our job to say, you know what, they're

713
00:37:24.639 --> 00:37:27.159
going through something internal right now or ten years ago

714
00:37:27.440 --> 00:37:30.400
that has nothing to do with me. I have to

715
00:37:30.480 --> 00:37:32.320
keep control and I have to just keep going because

716
00:37:32.360 --> 00:37:35.280
people depend on you to stay in that empowered state.

717
00:37:35.960 --> 00:37:39.480
And you literally have to disconnect sometimes. But here's the

718
00:37:39.519 --> 00:37:42.920
other element too that I've found, and I think it's interesting,

719
00:37:42.960 --> 00:37:46.960
and I think this art of communication and being willing

720
00:37:47.079 --> 00:37:52.920
to be very open and transparent is an element that

721
00:37:53.039 --> 00:37:56.440
we all just struggle with. But as I was working

722
00:37:56.480 --> 00:37:59.679
with a coaching program a while ago, it was really

723
00:37:59.760 --> 00:38:03.159
kind of funny. They were talking about how do you

724
00:38:03.320 --> 00:38:08.039
deal with these situations where an event occurs from someone

725
00:38:08.559 --> 00:38:12.039
that brings up all of these emotions again. And we

726
00:38:12.039 --> 00:38:14.599
were talking about how it's so important to be able

727
00:38:14.639 --> 00:38:17.719
to communicate and say, hey, Derek, you know what, when

728
00:38:17.800 --> 00:38:22.719
you say this, it it brings up I allowed these

729
00:38:22.719 --> 00:38:26.920
emotions to come up within me, and I'm working on that.

730
00:38:27.400 --> 00:38:30.039
But could you help me by being a little bit

731
00:38:30.079 --> 00:38:35.760
more cautious and conscious about not doing that? Now? There

732
00:38:35.760 --> 00:38:38.239
will be those that just laugh at you, and those

733
00:38:38.280 --> 00:38:40.519
are the ones you need to disconnect from. But there

734
00:38:40.519 --> 00:38:43.519
will be those. There will be those that also say,

735
00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:46.159
you know what, I had no idea, and so I

736
00:38:46.159 --> 00:38:49.039
don't know that it's necessarily that we have to disconnect

737
00:38:49.039 --> 00:38:53.159
from everyone until we've taken the opportunity to communicate and

738
00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:56.559
see if others will rise to our level and give

739
00:38:56.599 --> 00:38:59.119
them an opportunity to do that. When I was saying,

740
00:38:59.119 --> 00:39:02.239
I was laughing about training because the trainer at the

741
00:39:02.239 --> 00:39:04.639
time said, here's one thing you never want to do

742
00:39:04.880 --> 00:39:10.320
with your spouse, and it is, honey, what emotions just

743
00:39:10.599 --> 00:39:14.119
came up within you when this occurred? And how are

744
00:39:14.159 --> 00:39:17.719
you dealing with it? You know, challenging someone to take

745
00:39:17.800 --> 00:39:22.480
responsibility for their own emotions and own responses is really tough.

746
00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:26.079
And yet you know, if we're willing to say, hey,

747
00:39:26.159 --> 00:39:29.519
I take responsibility for this, but could you help me?

748
00:39:30.159 --> 00:39:32.480
And like I say, I think that those that are

749
00:39:32.480 --> 00:39:35.920
really willing to raise themselves up continue to be good

750
00:39:35.920 --> 00:39:38.880
friends and a good environment. Whereas if they don't, then

751
00:39:38.960 --> 00:39:40.719
you know, this is the time that we need to

752
00:39:40.800 --> 00:39:43.679
disconnect from those particular people.

753
00:39:44.159 --> 00:39:46.920
Exactly one hundred percent, because the better quality questions we

754
00:39:47.000 --> 00:39:49.480
asked them, we might be the wake up call that

755
00:39:49.519 --> 00:39:52.000
they needed because they're going through their own things, so

756
00:39:52.039 --> 00:39:54.719
their auto response to you might've been like, wow, I

757
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:57.440
never realized I speak like that, I apologize, I thinks,

758
00:39:57.719 --> 00:40:00.320
and we get better together as friends in a relationship.

759
00:40:00.599 --> 00:40:03.920
And also three questions people can ask their environment or

760
00:40:03.960 --> 00:40:07.639
their people. Is a situation is happening, and you ask

761
00:40:07.679 --> 00:40:10.760
themselves these three questions. One do you want to talk

762
00:40:10.760 --> 00:40:14.480
about it? Two? Do you want me to listen? Three?

763
00:40:15.280 --> 00:40:18.000
Do you want solutions? Do you want to talk about it?

764
00:40:18.599 --> 00:40:20.239
Do you just want me to listen? Or do you

765
00:40:20.280 --> 00:40:23.519
want solutions? And the person asking the question, we have

766
00:40:23.559 --> 00:40:26.880
to push pride and ego aside with whatever they choose.

767
00:40:27.519 --> 00:40:30.199
The person chooses one, two, or three and if they'd say,

768
00:40:30.320 --> 00:40:32.880
they just want you to listen, don't say a word,

769
00:40:33.280 --> 00:40:36.760
and I want advice right now.

770
00:40:37.800 --> 00:40:39.719
I've learned to do that with my kids. I have

771
00:40:39.760 --> 00:40:42.480
to tell you, I learned that years ago because I

772
00:40:42.519 --> 00:40:45.320
happen to have a very strong personality and it's like,

773
00:40:45.400 --> 00:40:47.440
you know, something happens I immediate and the men they're

774
00:40:47.480 --> 00:40:49.719
giving my opinion, and all of a sudden I finally

775
00:40:49.760 --> 00:40:53.719
realized and learned from other coaches that you know, bottom

776
00:40:53.719 --> 00:40:55.599
line is you've got, as you said, you've got to

777
00:40:55.639 --> 00:40:57.800
sit back and say, hey, you want me to listen

778
00:40:58.119 --> 00:41:00.679
or do you want my opinion? And as I've done that,

779
00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:03.960
it has just entirely changed my relationship with my kids

780
00:41:04.360 --> 00:41:07.280
to be able to do that and with other people. So,

781
00:41:07.599 --> 00:41:10.119
you know, as we get closer to the end, here

782
00:41:10.880 --> 00:41:14.239
a couple of questions that I have. Number One, do

783
00:41:14.320 --> 00:41:19.199
you strictly and mainly work with people within the surroundings

784
00:41:19.199 --> 00:41:23.840
of Florida or do you have a broader reach with

785
00:41:24.000 --> 00:41:25.639
what you do and how you help people.

786
00:41:26.639 --> 00:41:28.440
I have a broader reach, so I work with people

787
00:41:28.440 --> 00:41:32.400
in thirteen different countries. So essentially there's two parts of

788
00:41:32.440 --> 00:41:35.679
the coaching. One they have access to my private coaching

789
00:41:35.719 --> 00:41:39.559
app where they get the workouts, they have their calendar, nutrition,

790
00:41:39.960 --> 00:41:42.559
everything is on their fitness is all in the app.

791
00:41:43.159 --> 00:41:45.800
Everything mental in regards to life coaching we do via

792
00:41:45.880 --> 00:41:48.400
zoom once or twice a week, depending on their goal,

793
00:41:48.679 --> 00:41:51.679
and that's where we dive deep into set topics. So

794
00:41:51.719 --> 00:41:54.559
the workouts, they open it up, they know exactly what

795
00:41:54.559 --> 00:41:57.440
they're doing in the gym or training at home. Nutrition,

796
00:41:57.639 --> 00:42:00.639
everything is in there, very straightforward, and that's where we

797
00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:04.719
track all analytics. Everything mental we do via one on

798
00:42:04.719 --> 00:42:07.559
one conversation and then we track everything that we do

799
00:42:07.639 --> 00:42:10.880
mental digitally. So two things. One is the coaching app

800
00:42:10.920 --> 00:42:14.400
for fitness, nutrition, and everything mindset related and personal related

801
00:42:14.400 --> 00:42:16.800
we do via zoom, and we dive deep into set

802
00:42:16.880 --> 00:42:19.480
topics to see exactly what they need, because if they're

803
00:42:19.519 --> 00:42:22.000
only working out and eating healthy and not taking care

804
00:42:22.039 --> 00:42:24.639
of the psyche, they're not going to win long term.

805
00:42:24.679 --> 00:42:27.159
That is, the person that loses twenty pounds, gains it again,

806
00:42:27.360 --> 00:42:30.039
loses thirty pounds, gains it again. The person that hops

807
00:42:30.039 --> 00:42:33.519
from relationship to relationship. They're doing all these things or

808
00:42:33.719 --> 00:42:35.800
quitting this job to go somewhere else, so then quit

809
00:42:35.840 --> 00:42:38.679
that job. They're going through a pattern, So we have

810
00:42:38.760 --> 00:42:42.320
to elevate the psyche and improve their mindset. So that's

811
00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:44.599
why I focus on both the body and the mind.

812
00:42:44.840 --> 00:42:47.760
And then that person does well and thrives in most

813
00:42:47.840 --> 00:42:51.400
areas of their life and they positively affect everyone they

814
00:42:51.480 --> 00:42:53.159
come in contact with. So I'm just trying to drop

815
00:42:53.199 --> 00:42:56.199
the bark in the pond and create a positive ripple effect.

816
00:42:57.159 --> 00:42:58.719
So, Derek, how do they find.

817
00:42:58.480 --> 00:43:02.280
You can find me on social media. They can search

818
00:43:02.519 --> 00:43:06.079
fit with Derek too, and I have my coaching website

819
00:43:06.159 --> 00:43:08.840
is fit with Derek dot Com, and they would see

820
00:43:08.960 --> 00:43:12.239
hundreds of males and females their transformations per body and

821
00:43:12.400 --> 00:43:15.159
also mind. And when they watch their videos, they will

822
00:43:15.199 --> 00:43:18.559
see the light in their eye, their confidence or happiness,

823
00:43:18.559 --> 00:43:21.239
what they've overcome. So I just love showing real people

824
00:43:21.280 --> 00:43:23.320
with real results. But they could find me a fit

825
00:43:23.360 --> 00:43:26.159
with Derek dot com or just search fit with Derek

826
00:43:26.199 --> 00:43:29.199
on social media and I'll pop up. And my home

827
00:43:29.280 --> 00:43:32.000
sale with social media is a plant seeds. Plant seeds.

828
00:43:32.199 --> 00:43:34.599
If you use part times every morning, you're gonna see

829
00:43:34.599 --> 00:43:36.199
my videos. You gonna be like, ooh, yeah, he was

830
00:43:36.199 --> 00:43:38.239
talking to me. I'm not calling you out. I'm just

831
00:43:38.239 --> 00:43:40.599
calling you up, because that's what it's about. So I

832
00:43:40.639 --> 00:43:43.280
just plant see every day the media.

833
00:43:43.079 --> 00:43:46.840
Well, as we close, and as you consider the audience

834
00:43:46.920 --> 00:43:50.360
listening to us, what would be the message that you

835
00:43:50.400 --> 00:43:54.320
would like to share with them as a final message?

836
00:43:55.800 --> 00:43:59.239
Great question. Everything that has happened to you in your

837
00:43:59.280 --> 00:44:02.559
past all happen for you, and it is our job

838
00:44:02.599 --> 00:44:05.519
to see the light in the darkness. Because when you

839
00:44:05.519 --> 00:44:08.760
can heal yourself, you can help heal other people and

840
00:44:08.800 --> 00:44:11.880
everything comes full circle. So our job on earth is

841
00:44:11.920 --> 00:44:14.840
to say, yes, these things happen to me, but I

842
00:44:14.840 --> 00:44:17.559
can make myself better. And once you elevate yourself, you

843
00:44:17.599 --> 00:44:20.480
can elevate others and everything comes full circle and you

844
00:44:20.519 --> 00:44:23.599
have fulfillment. Your younger child is proud of your current youth,

845
00:44:23.719 --> 00:44:26.320
and you become a better person. So I challenge everyone

846
00:44:26.360 --> 00:44:30.000
to see what can you do internally and externally to

847
00:44:30.039 --> 00:44:32.559
become the man or the woman that you always needed?

848
00:44:33.159 --> 00:44:34.719
What can you do to become the man or woman

849
00:44:34.719 --> 00:44:37.119
that you always needed? And once you become that person,

850
00:44:37.519 --> 00:44:38.840
give that person to others.

851
00:44:40.719 --> 00:44:44.159
Wonderful. Thank you so much, Derek. I really appreciate your

852
00:44:44.199 --> 00:44:45.599
insights and being on the show.

853
00:44:46.239 --> 00:44:46.920
Thank you for having me.

854
00:44:46.960 --> 00:44:50.360
Doctor Doug and folks, thanks for listening. Hope you really

855
00:44:50.440 --> 00:44:53.639
enjoyed it, and reach out to Derek if this rings

856
00:44:53.679 --> 00:44:55.480
true for you, because I think that could be of

857
00:44:55.519 --> 00:44:59.000
great help. Does Doctor Doug have a wonderful week. We

858
00:44:59.079 --> 00:45:02.199
look forward to having a and this again soon. Take care,

859
00:45:12.400 --> 00:45:12.880
m HM.