Oct. 9, 2024

Treasure Map to Joy

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Mindset and Consciousness, the secret to joy and peace in our lives.
Stacie Shifflett, transformed by a significant life-changing event in 2012, embarked on a rich journey of intensive personal exploration. This experience, combined with her innate insight and compassion, underscores her mission: to empower individuals to recognize and harness their unique brilliance and chart their own Treasure Map to Joy™!
Stacie shares her insights and the 4 Steps of Being.
www.modernconsciousness.com

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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Stacy, Welcome to the show.

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Thank you, Doctor Doug. So good to be here.

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Hey, it's great to have you here. Uh, looking forward

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to this. You know what I find interesting is everyone

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that I've ever interviewed always has a particular approach to

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what they're doing. And what I have found is for

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some people one does not work, but another one does.

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And so I'm really looking forward for you sharing what

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your approach is and how does help people and how

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it's helped you. I'd love for you to share with

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the audience who you are and what is that awe

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moment or gradual moment that caused you to get to

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the point where you are today and the way that

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you're wanting to help people.

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Yes. Absolutely, my name is Stacy Schifflet. I am the

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founder and CEO of a company called Modern Consciousness. And yeah,

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let's see the idea for this company and the name

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and my theory of modern consciousness and all of that

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was gifted to me in meditation and the catalyst for

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a lot of my personal change. I'm kind of known

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as the Queen of reinvention. I've reinvented myself many many times.

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I tend to just naturally do it about every decade.

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And we'll talk about that a little bit later. But

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I had my twenty eight year marriage imploded, and that

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was in twenty twelve, which really it disrupted my life.

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I guess is is the best way, but that the

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most concise way, And yeah, I you know, I did

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all the things that I thought I should be doing

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to recover from that and to set myself up in

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a new home and so on and so forth. And

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I discovered about two years in that although things really

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appeared good from the outside, they weren't on the inside. Right.

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I was still very angry. I had a lot of resentment.

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I had adopted some habits that probably were not the healthiest.

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Right.

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I was single and out and party and having fun,

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and I had some great friends and we had some

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great times. But I really couldn't see my future, right.

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I couldn't see where it was going. I had a

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construction company at the time, and yeah, that company really

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afforded me the opportunity and the luxury. I truly was

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an owner and not an operator. It generated a good income,

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and it truly afforded me the opportunity to dive very

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very deeply into personal development. And I remember the first

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person's office I walked into that was, you know, a

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theta healer and a personal development coach. He's like, why

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are you here, and I said, well, because I'm tired

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of being angry. Right. I think often when we get

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tired of our own stuff, you know, we make a change.

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And so that was the star of that journey, which

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now has been over a decade. And you know, I

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spent two years as a Tony Rabbit, Robin's platinum partner,

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traveling the world. I've studied all sorts of modalities from

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energy healing to neural linguistic programming, you know, you name it.

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I've invested a lot of money and a lot of

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time and all of that. But that's that's how it started.

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Wow. Wow. And and you're writing a book or you've

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written a book, you've got one coming out?

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Yes, I have, Gosh, I think I have four compilation

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books that I've done so far, but I'm I'm finally

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biting off a solo book and it is okay, yeah,

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Treasure Mount to Joy. And I actually do have a

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book coming out, oh probably in about another thirty days.

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I think they've gone to print now, and that is

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a compilation book. I guess this will make five compilation books.

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And that one is Mindset Matters with Jack Canfield.

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Oh great, great, great, great. Well, you know, and it's

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fascinating how those experiences. You know, some people have those

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experiences and they become victims, and they find them their

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lives just victims, and they always make choices that prove

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to themselves that they're victims. Obviously, what you did was

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decide I'm not going to be a victim of this.

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And obviously with all of the studies that you've done,

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you come to a different field. So as you think

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about that, what is modern consciousness?

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You know, modern consciousness to me really is living life

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with intention, you know, it truly is getting to know yourself.

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It is stepping out of what I call the aspect

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I call automaton two point zero. Right, it's when we're

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on autopilot and the momentum of our lives is really

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being driven by the act activities that are already in play.

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Oftentimes we're still executing against decisions we made decades ago,

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and we're really not taught, at least I wasn't, uh,

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you know, really not taught to sit and contemplate and

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reevaluate our lives in a holistic manner. As we proceed

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through life, right, we we keep chasing things that we

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think will make us happy, and we think they'll make

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us happy because we've been taught that that is, you

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know that that level of success or whatever it is

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you know will will make us happy, whether it's if

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you have six children or a career or you know,

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whatever it is, and all of that is, it's it's natural.

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Right.

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We're born into this world helpless, so it's it's it

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has to be that way, right. We have to have

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people care for us and bring us up, and then

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we're put into institutions, whether they're are you know, we're

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raised in a church or school, and you know, we

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have to be molded and shaped because we come into

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this world completely helpless. And I think it's just a

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natural transition of things, right. And at some point I

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find that a lot of people that little voice in

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their heads starts, you know, saying, gosh, there's got to

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be more to life than this, right, There just must

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be more than this, because we're running ourselves ragged trying

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to keep up with what. I don't really know because

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you know, we haven't sat and really reevaluated it and

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thought about what is it that we want in this

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season of our life? Right, because the seasons of life change.

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Well, that's true. We have multiple lives in this life,

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don't we.

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Yes, Oh, gosh, I've lived Mini. I've lived Mini.

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Yes, you know, I laugh about that. It was interesting.

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I've spent a lot of time in Thailand and and

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as I've been there. I've you know, obviously loved to

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study different religions and so forth. And one of the

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things I found was that there was an individual that

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took the original Buddhist teachings and really explained those in

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an English way. And one of the things I found

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fascinating is that, you know, he says, you know, Buddha

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talks about multiple lives, and everyone talks about multiple lives, says,

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but what he's really talking about is multiple lives within

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this life, how we can literally change and create a

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new life for ourselves. And I thought that was fascinating

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because you know, I've never heard that before.

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You know, I've never heard it put that way. I

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have often said I feel like I've lived multiple lives

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in this life. But I have chills running through my

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body as you say that, and you know it's true.

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I mean, I've done so many different things, right. I

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started out as a as a cocktail waitress and a bartender,

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and you know, was waiting table bulls and I was

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making good money, I thought, so I quit college, right,

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you know, and sort of stumbled into the it world

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trying to get a job. It was a friend of

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my mother's from church that actually, you know, welcomed me

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into her office, a small woman owned contractor government contractor,

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and she was a very small company. I had studied

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a little bit about computers when I was in college,

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but I didn't really know. But I just learned and

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learned quickly and just soaked it up. And as she

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lost people, I kept growing. And within a year of

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starting in a completely new career in a completely new area.

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I actually this is going to date me, but I

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installed and supported the installation of the first IBM PC

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XTS desktop computers at the Department of Health and Human Services,

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and I did all of the user training, I did

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all of the you know, help them with all of

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the applications as far as how to transition their job

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to use them. I didn't do the technical pieces right.

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And that was within a year, within a with a

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complete career change.

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Well, and you know, it's fascinating. The one thing that

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comes to my mind is as I've observed people who,

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for instance, in your case, you know, you were doing

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well with your construction company, which gave you the ability,

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which was a real blessing, to be able to go

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out and start researching more. And it's fascinating how I

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think there are many people that say, well, I don't

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have a college education, so you know, I need to

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have that in order to be successful, And yet those

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that have had college educations or partial college educations. I

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can't tell you how many of our leaders right now

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in personal development were chiropractors who quit their chiropractic practice

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and started doing the same type of studying that you're

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doing and following different you know, gurus and now have

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done an entirely different thing and are making an entirely

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different type of difference in people's lives. And that's what

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you did. And I think it's important for people to

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understand that. You know, what all you have to do

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is be curious, and ultimately with curiosity, and if you're

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willing to really look into whatever his industry you you

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can find yourself as successful as you choose to be.

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You know, I agree with that one hundred percent. And

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I often say our own personal development even when we

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look within, you know, I use the word curious a lot.

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It's with open curiosity and it's mindset and it's belief. Right,

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So I believed that I could do well at that

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first office job, right, And I did, and I actually

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that career took a number of course changes for me,

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and I ended up in federal government acquisition. We had

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software that automated all of those processes, and I ended

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up just by chance, really as a subject matter expert

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in that field because I stayed with it and I

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did well with it, and that culminated talk about you

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really can do anything. That culminated for me in doing

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an acquisition of a fifty million dollar software company without

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investing a penny. I literally just woke up one day

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and said I need to buy this company. I didn't

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know how. I have goosebumps again as I'm telling you that,

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I just knew it was meant to be and I

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did it. You know, I pulled in an associated mind

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that had things that I did not like. He had

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an MBA and you know, I had no college degree,

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and we did it. It took nine months, and we

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had a lot of opposition, but it that way. People

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thought we were absolutely crazy. He many many times he

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was like, we're never going to be able to do this,

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and I said, We're doing it. And we did it.

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Wow wow, And you know, and that brings up the

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point of how can we literally change our lives, create

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a new life for ourselves. And I think so many

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times people create new life sure themselves and find that.

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You know, it was the statement you better be careful

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what you wish for because you may get it. And

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so what what makes me curious is as you were

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talking about things, you talk first of all about how

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in a meditative state, a very important message came to you.

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And I'd love to talk about that a little bit more.

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Sure, Sure, what would you like to know about it?

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What happened? You know?

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It's it's it's uh. That came through for me after

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a trip for India. Uh to India really that I

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went to with Tony Robbinson. It was a spiritual trip

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and I also did a mission trip there with an

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organization called FREEO Girl that works with human trafficking victims.

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And wow, what an eye opener that is.

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Right.

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One way to open your mind and to appreciate and

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have gratitude for the things you have and to have

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compassion for other people is to expand your worldview to

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see what others in the world experience. That was. That

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was such a profound, profound trip for me, and I

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can talk to you more about that if you want.

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But you know, I I this idea came in, as

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they do for me. I will, I will get the words,

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I'll get an instruction. And it was like, you know,

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you need to start this company. And I'm like, what

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is this modern consciousness? I have no idea. I felt

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compelled to start writing the information that I was receiving,

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and that included aspects of modern consciousness, which are automaton

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two point zero and then we move into an awakening

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soul and you know, illuminated adept and transformer and it's nonlinear.

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You know, all this all this information. So I started

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capturing it and it was a very interesting concept. And

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then I was like, okay, let me start researching this field.

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by heart. So I started, you know, researching the personal

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development field and coaching and you know, like companies and

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who I might like to model and and you know,

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I was sort of told some of those things, and

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I resisted it. I resisted it for probably two years really,

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and I kept arguing with spirit or I would say,

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I am not your girl. I'm not your girl, right,

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I'm you know, sixty years old or what I'm sixty

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seven now, so I was in my you know, mid sixties,

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and you know, I'm like, oh my god, I don't

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I don't know that I want to start another company.

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I don't. I don't know that I want to do this.

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I don't know that I can do this.

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So I had a lot of internal resistance. And I'll

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tell you something about resistance, and that is the opposite

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of that which is surrender. So I was here in

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my home one day, and this was probably a couple

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of years ago, maybe a little bit more, and the

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idea consumed me and it would not leave me alone.

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So it was something I was doing all the time, right,

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I would write and get information and try to assemble

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it and you know, listen to what I was hearing

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and make sense of it, and you know, so that

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body of work and beliefs of began to grow. So

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I finally was meditating here one day and I said,

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I for cried out loud. I have some of the

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most interesting conversations with you know, with whoever's up there. Right, Oh,

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you're not going to leave me alone, tell me what

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to do, right, just you're not leaving me alone. The

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idea literally would not release me. And so I got

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one word, which was right, and I said, okay, all right,

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you've told me to write before. But I surrendered, And

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I literally said, I surrender. I will write. I don't

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know what I'm writing for or two I've been writing,

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but I'll write some more. And within an hour of

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me surrendering to accept this mission. I guess it still

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sounds crazy, but I got a text message from a

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friend of mine that said, Hey, I've got a friend

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that's a publisher in Canada and she's doing a compilation

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book with Les Brown. Would you like to be on

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the project. I'll introduce you. So at that point I

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kind of rolled my eyes up to the sky and said, well,

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that's kind of cute, right, very funny. Obviously I joined

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the project. I could not say no. And it was

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that chapter really released in me what I thought would

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be a book about my recovery from my divorce. And

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it was during the time of writing that chapter that

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I realized that I could launch a company in conjunction

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with the launch of the book. So that's what I did.

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That's what you did. So here's the question, is you

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work with people, And we were referring to this a

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little bit earlier. When you work with people and you're

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helping them to quote create a new life, because obviously

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the life that they have, that we've all created to

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a large degree, has to do, as you say, with

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our upbringing, with the religion, with the school, with the parents,

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with the family, with the society, all of that. When

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you're working with people, how do you help them to

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get to the point where they really understand what their

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genuine internal values are rather than what they've been told

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they should be. Okay, how do you help them to

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get to the point where they can identify what those

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values are so that they can start to align their

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new life with those values, so that you know, as

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we said, you know, be careful what you wish for

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because you might get it. Well, this time, what they

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wish for they actually love because they got it well.

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You know. It's interesting to use the word values because

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I believe that when we become so out of alignment

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with our values, are deeply held values, and we sort

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of lose track of those along the way, right, They're

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always there, but we lose track of them a little bit,

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and our deepest desires, you know, when the further away

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that we get from those and we have clues throughout

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our life that tells us that I think that that's

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when we go into crisis or when you know, when

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we have a lot of anxiety or unhappiness. I start

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all my clients with a whole life assessment. I mean

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we really everybody's seen a wheel of life probably that's

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done any personal development work, and it's a five minute exercise,

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and you know, the object is if any portion of

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that wheel, you know is out of balance in your life,

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is like this. But I go much much deeper into

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that and really look at every component of your life right,

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your your financial, your relationships, your family, your job, you

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know whatever. There's a whole number of life domains there,

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and I look at those and really ask people, you know,

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when when's the last time that that you perhaps have

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stopped and really looked at all of those things in

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great detail and meditated them and thought about them and

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journaled about it and really dug deep to reveal what

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was going on in that area of your life. And

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the other thing that I do is, you know, people

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tend to know what's irritating them, but they lose track

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of what's going really well, right, what's irritating us and

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aggravating us seems to outweigh all the goods. So I

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really look at the good as well, and I think

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that that's important. And so that's kind of the foundation

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for the work, is really taking a good look at

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what's going on. And then we move to those life

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domains and we start looking at aspirations. What would you

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like to be doing in that area of your life?

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And I look at it not just in terms of activities,

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but how do you want to feel about it? Right,

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we lose track of how do we really want to

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feel about something? So we delve into that and then

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the next piece of my process I call architect the bridge.

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So we start to look at all of that. Now,

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I'm one thing that has served me really well throughout

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all my different careers is you know, I can kind

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of see a big picture and I can see the details,

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and I can see patterns very very quickly, and it

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has served me really well. So we start looking at patterns,

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because if something showing up in one area of your life,

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it's showing up somewhere else. It probably just looks different

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and it's disguised. So we start looking at those patterns

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and then you know, we create a bridge, We architect

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a bridge to move you in a practical and efficient

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and effective way toward your aspirations. And if we find

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patterns in there, which we always do, we can choose

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a pattern to work on and bring your awareness up

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on that and realign your life with the way you

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would rather that pattern be working and make it work

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for you instead of against you, to move you in

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the direction that you want to go in.

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How many times when you're doing that, and where you

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start to observe patterns, because we all have patterns in

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our lives, right and oftentimes those patterns are not really

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doing this well. In other words, sometimes these patterns are

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really causing us grief and we're not really happy with

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the outcome, and so on and so forth. And as

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you do that, if do you often come up against

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a situation where you realize that that pattern was based

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on a quote purpose or value or whatever that happens

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to be belief, and that it goes the very pattern

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that is causing negativity in their life is actually something

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that came as a child or as growing up, And

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how do they recognize that that pattern has to be

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changed and that belief that they've been living with for

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their entire life may not be the correct belief for

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their life.

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Yeah, it's you know, it almost it is almost always

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tied to a belief or some sort of self sabotaging behavior, right,

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