The Power of Your Mind - Your History Is Not Your Future

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At the end of the day,
it's not about what you have or even

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what you've accomplished. It's about what
you've done with those accomplishments. It's about

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who you've lifted at, who you've
made better. It's about what you've given

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back than Soel Washington, Welcome to
Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is to

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elevate the lives of others and to
inspire you to do the same. Jorgian

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welcome to the show. Thank you
for having me. It's really a pleasure.

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And our time zone are so different
because you're you're in Australia, right,

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I'm in Melbourne and it's very hot
heat today in Melbourne, is it

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really? Yeah? Island and I
get so I'm so used to the fahrenheit

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trying to figure out, you know, the other one. It really is

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difficult for me. So, how
warm is it there? Center Grade?

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Well, actually it's it's a little
bit cooler today. We had a big

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storm last night. We've had ninety
eight for the line three days. Oh

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my goodness. Yeah, that's fahnheit, that's fahrenheit. Yeah, yeah,

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so it's like thirty eight thirty nine
here, But we don't live far from

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the beach. So we take the
kids down and have a great time for

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swimming. And we do have air
conditioning in some parts of the house,

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but it's the house is very warm. Yes, oh, believe me,

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I understand. So tell the audience
a little bit about yourself, and I'd

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be interested also to know what motivated
you to become a hypno therapist. Well,

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the first thing is I mean,
obviously I'm Australian, but many years

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ago, I in my twenties,
I have very low self esteem, had

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food and alcohol issues, and I
really didn't like myself. So I ran

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away to a health farm, thinking
that would solve all of my weight issues,

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but actually it opened up a can
of worms because I realized this particular

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this particular health retreat specialized in group
therapy, which I didn't know when I

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booked, and I sat in a
room full of people who were really,

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in my mind, then successful,
healthy, slim, married children, and

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I realized that we all had one
common theme is that we didn't like ourselves.

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So I left that retreat not knowing
the answers, but really feeling I

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needed to find out what was going
on in my head. And my mum

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is in the she's a writer,
and she had this book on her I

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went home and I was sitting in
my parents' house and I found this book

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and it was a Yungian psychology book
called Embracing Ourselves. And for the first

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time ever, I opened a book
and I felt like I was reading about

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me. So short version of a
long story. I ended up leaving Melbourne

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and living in the States for a
bit and I studied with the founders of

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this particular therapy, and then I
moved to London, where I trained to

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be a hypnotherapist. And I just
kind of felt like it was a bit

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like falling in love. And it's
probably maybe a strange thing to say,

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but when I discovered hypnosis, I
realized that with the combination of the psychology

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I've been train I was trained in
and I was starting to see results with

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myself. And then obviously I was
building a client base in London. But

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the one thing is when I first
trained to be a hypnotherapist, I was

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working as in those days you call
it a secretary. In these days you

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call it a personal assistant. And
I worked on a lot of the investment

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banking flaws and a lot of my
bosses or colleagues was setting me Georgia,

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can you help me to hypnotize?
Can you help me quit smoking or be

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a flying whatever? And amongst those
clients I started to build a strong base

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in the city of London, the
business district, and it just became such

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a big passion because I realized with
the power of hypnosis, because not everybody

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is. I'm very much a progressive
neuroscience based hypnotherapist. I believe your brain

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is malleable and pliable to change.
So with that principle, I started to

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work with clients who had issues with
food and alcohol, and as I was

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dealing with my own demons, I
really grew with my clients and then it

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became a big passion from there to
specialize in self esteem and anxiety and food

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and alcohol. So and that's really
what brings me here. After the years

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of living in London for twenty three
years, having two clinics, we moved

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back to my home city Melbourne with
my partner and three boys, and I

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now have online programs because I really
think that my slogan is it's the thinking

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before the eating and the drinking that's
the problem. It's the emotional conditioning and

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once people realize the true potential amazing
things can happen. Well, and it's

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and it's interesting, you know,
since I've been here in Thailand, there's

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there's a number of expects and interestingly
some from Australia, a huge amount from

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the UK uh and then you know
a queue from the US and so forth.

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And what I find interesting is there
are a number of them is I've

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tried to get together with them and
so forth. Their meeting place is a

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bar in the evening and they start
to drink, and they drink and they

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drink to the point where they are
just totally totally inebriated, and and it

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just fascinates me with what you're doing, because you're you're talking about you know,

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you've got the book Seven Days to
Drink, that's that you've written,

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and I think that's a still program
that you have now. But what is

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it you talked about yourself personally?
What is it that you discovered about yourself

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personally that was causing you to drink, And what was the alcohol doing for

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you and what was it masking?
It's a good question. Well, what

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I love about this psychology is that
it's the theories that were all made up

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of many parts or sub personalities,
and there's one particular personality to rade that

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drives people to drink. It's called
the inner critic. It's the boom doom

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bloom, what's your problem? And
everybody's smarter than new slimmer than you.

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You're going to I bet you're going
to drink too much tonight, and then

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obviously you do. What a lot
of people don't understand is that when we

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drink alcohol, that negative part of
the brain shuts down. The chemical reaction

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in alcohol increases dopamine, which extinguishes
that negative thinking, and they're like,

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oh, I don't really care anymore. I'm just gonna have fun. And

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a lot of people, you know, get addicted to the feelings of alcohol.

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It's not really the alcohol itself.
I mean, don't get me wrong,

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there are people who love to I
mean, I love to drink wine.

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I'm about not this is not about
quitting. I'm talking about changing your

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emotional relationship with it. But the
inner critic is the catalyst to all procrastination,

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low self esteem, anxiety, and
it causes mayhem for a lot of

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people. So when I discovered this
particular theory that my critic kept been running

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my life and also ruining my life. With the power of hypnosis, rather

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than regressing saying, you know in
my personal life, like you know,

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did something happen in my past to
make me drink? Well, bottom line

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is I just had very low self
esteem. There wasn't anything complicated, And

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I really believe that most about drinking
problems are not complicated. They are habits

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and they are emotionally based. But
once you start to really look at the

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innocritic, and with the hypnosis I'm
talking about, train your mind to not

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feel bad about yourself, do not
feel guilty, to not feel that you're

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always in the doghouse with yourself,
and to realize that the innocritic is just

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one part and there's a beautiful aspect
of everybody, including the people who are

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listening to this. Now, that
healthy intuitive part, the part that's inspiring.

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It's motivation of all. It's charismatic
and that's really what I help people

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train their brain and body to recondition
themselves too. So you know, we

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can't get rid of the anocritic.
But I discovered that when I improved my

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sense of self worth, I didn't
need to drink for social anxiety. I

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mean, I do think social anxiety
is a very big talking about that.

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Being in the bars in Thailand is
you know, that is a great example.

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People over drink because they're in a
critic saying, oh, you'll be

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boring if you don't drink. You
know, you won't be as funny.

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If you don't drink, you'll be
much more smart with the conversations if you

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don't if you drink, and so
we tend to get hooked into these I

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call them. I call it radio
crazy in your head, you know are

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you? You know you shouldn't drink, and then you have this push me,

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pull you kind of conversation with yourself
and in the end people tend to

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cave in because it's become a learned
behavior for drinking. So for me over

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the years, I mean, I
drink, but for me, I don't

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need to drink to be sociable.
I don't need to drink to have fun.

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I don't need to drink. Like
a lot of people drink because they

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have a fear of intimacy. Because
the innocritic loves intimate moments. And so

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it's really about understanding that the language
that you speak is a habit and that

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self esteem is something that we need
to learn. We're not born with it,

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and life can a roade it pretty
quick as well. So it's an

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ongoing work in progress situation, you
know, and including myself. But when

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I discovered this particular psychology training and
how powerful it was in hypnosis, it

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was extraordinary what my clients were achieving. So I'm very much on the lines

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of being progressive rather than aggressive.
We don't need to know what happened in

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your past. We don't need to
know about the bully in the in the

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school yard. We don't need to
know. Obviously, there are people who

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feel it's I'm not saying that,
you know, psychotherapy or counseling is a

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bad thing. Talking therapies they're good, but a lot of people by the

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time they come whether they we'd see
me in my clinic in London that have

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that had enough of themselves, but
like, oh so sick of myself,

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Georgia, you know what do I
do? I'm thinking, you know what,

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You've got an incredible mind, but
you've been just very well versed,

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very well practiced, living in the
in a critic part of your brain.

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You just need to show it,
teach it, train it, give it

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a bit of exercise so that your
mind is actually in a bit of place.

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Okay, So this will be an
interesting discussion here because I look at

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it from a couple of different perspectives. Now you're focusing on drinking. You're

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focusing on, as you said,
helping them with smoking, drinking and so

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forth. But there's a lot of
people that are just experiencing a life of

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pain, suffering those types of things, and as you really trace back to

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what is creating that personality for them, so many people, even if it's

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not necessarily psychologists, will go back
and realize that a lot of those childhood

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experiences really can cause a problem.
I personally worked with the client who was

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really making bad decisions about work in
general, and we did some NLP neural

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linguistic programming, went back identified a
very specific time and moment that he had

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while he was in school, and
we were able to modify the thinking process

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and the perception of what was actually
happening. And as we did that,

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it's made all the difference in the
world to his life. So my experience

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has been to some degree, being
able to go back and identify some of

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those things can make a difference However, as I'm listening to you, and

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as I've been doing a lot more
research, reading and so forth, there's

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also this concept of mindset. There's
also the concept of meditation, which is

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probably not quite as strong for some
as hypnosis would be hidden therapy would be.

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But in general, now I'm hearing
a little bit more and reading a

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little bit more about this mindfulness is
conscious business to where as you are.

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And it sounds to me like this
is kind of what you're talking about,

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So correct me if I'm wrong,
But it sounds like if you can get

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to the point where you are mindful
enough to recognize when those emotions start to

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surface in a reactive way, you
can recognize that, you know what,

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that's the past. I'm going to
move forward, and you put those to

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the side and they no longer are
affecting you to the degree that they are.

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So what are your thoughts about everything
I'm just battling about. No,

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I mean aggressive understanding where the root
cause is. It can be very beneficial.

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But I think you know this.
I mean, a lot of hypnotherapists

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and oly NLP practitioners can do that
can take that route. My belief is

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a lot of it is about moving
on and that sometimes understanding where it comes

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from in itself can can do the
healing process. But I find a lot

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of people don't necessarily Sometimes it doesn't
work because they go to the wrong memory

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or they don't go to the right
place. And if you've got to have

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somebody who's very intuitively able to go
there, and a lot of people who

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in a trauma state are highly anxious, they may find a point of that

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this is it, but it isn't
really it. I mean, timeline therapy

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works very very well, don't get
me wrong. So, and there's just

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different ways of getting there. And
I think that, you know, I'm

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a bit more like we don't need
to know the why, we need to

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know the how, because you know, as we evolve as people is and

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you know, and I do believe
a lot of it comes from childhood.

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Absolutely, you know, moments when
when we aren't able to articulate that sense

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of lack of understanding or not being
understood by people older than us. So

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it's just a different way of looking
at things. And I think in terms

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of meditation, I mean, meditation
and hypnosis are the same brain weigh activity,

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you just do different things when you're
there, and I think it's a

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lot of because there are other personality
traits that are a part of that.

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You know, there's there's the pleaser
personality that you know, wants to make

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sure everybody's okay, and they overdo
things and they have an inability to say

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the word no, and they can
get themselves into they actually attract bullies and

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narcissistic type people. And then you
have the perfectionist personality, which is pretty

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much all or nothing that either drink
oblivion or they just abstain and the same

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goes with food kind of thing,
this all and nothing syndrome. So really,

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you know, with the inner cretic, it's got some friends that likes

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to get into bed with and so
it's kind of like an umbrella. You've

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got the end critic there, and
then you've got the pleaser and the perfectionist

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and you could be you could be
both. You can have both of those

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personality traits. But what happens sometimes
is the perfection wants to know the answer

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and it doesn't necessarily come the way
that they expected to remember it as so

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it's just a maount of just working
with what works for you intuitively, as

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a practitioner at the end of the
day. Well, and I love how

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you, you know, said that
you really approach it from a progressive rather

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than a regressive situation. And and
again, as you say, you know,

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there's so many behaviors other than just
alcohol that there's alcohol, there's drugs,

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there's there's overeating, and and then
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in a way that is not very
peaceful and not very happy. And you

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and you you see that going on. How do you take someone who has

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really experienced abuse in their life.
Let's let's talk about that, okay,

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because that's an ongoing thing. Someone
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sexual abuse, whatever that happens to
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look in a progressive way and start
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conscious and subconscious in many cases,
and help them to just kind of set

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them aside. And as you say, when we talk about the neurological capabilities

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and the fact that we can create
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existing ones to decide, how does
your approach from a progressive hypnotherapy standpoint help

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them to the point where those experiences
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I would make it even more powerful
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lives, and I think that that's
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of all, the courage to realize
so goes back to that in a critic,

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but I call it quite demonic in
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that person when somebody recognizes that that
history is something you know. And this

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is a very may sound very blaze, and I do apologize if it does

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sound that way, but but really
we can't change our past. It's about

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how you evolve understanding that that's where
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the really lovely ways to do that
is to train somebody's mind to understand

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that that is a bit of their
life that's there, but it doesn't have

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to infect them so much. It
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it doesn't have to be their identity, and that they can evolve as a

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person with adult skills to be the
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lived in London, I had a
meeting with head of the Priory, which

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is a very posh, expensive private
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head of psychiatry there and I said
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whether it's sexual addiction, gambling,
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behaviors, whatever it is, what
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addictions are emotionally based? And he
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said, well, what about the
twenty percent? And he said it's probably

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one hundred, but can't we can't
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a lot of trauma, and they've
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that a part of their mind has
used those substances, all that particular behavior,

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all that type of thinking as a
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what's wrong with me? And also, more importantly, that person genuinely thinks

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that that history is them. So
what hypnosis can do is to train them

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emotionally and physically, because the emotional
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train them to recognize that that was
then, that was something that really

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happened and that to build a new
foundation from now and into the future with

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new coping strategies, training them to
feel that authenticity, that sense of inspiration,

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that sense of being who they really
are with all that stuff, with

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all of the stuff that's hindering them. So what hypnosis can do very quickly

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is to stop the mind from going
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doesn't mean that you lose your memory
of it. It just means that with

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the wisdom of adult eyes, you
can see that it's something that doesn't define

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you and that you can start to
build inner resources that are very separate from

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that conditioning. Does it make sense, Yeah, that makes a lot of

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sense. And you know what,
I'm just over the last number of days,

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I've been thinking, you know,
because I do a lot of meditation,

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or at least I try to not
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get it in every day. And
one of the things that has really created

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a question for me, a curiosity, is the difference between a meditation where

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you know, I observe many of
the Buddhists here that will just you know,

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Neil, close their eyes meditate for
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I hear the stories about the months
that are metating for you know, hours,

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but then you know, for me, I have there's the meditative music

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where you listen to this music that's
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forth, and then you meditate with
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and then you have the guided meditations
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into a certain direction. And one
of the questions that's come up in my

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mind, and I know we're not
talking about meditation here, but the question

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is is there one better than others? Because sometimes I listen to a guided

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meditation, and sometimes it's really good, and other times it's like, you

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know what, I don't really You're
trying to get me to go someplace that

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I really don't want to go.
And yet I recognize for anyone to really

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overcome those challenges of early childhood and
all those things that are going on,

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having someone to guide you is so
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about your hypnotherapy where you really are
guiding your clients through hypnosis and what you're

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doing with them in a progressive way, which I really really appreciate and think

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is fantastic, what are your thoughts
about that? You know, for someone

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who someone who says, you know
what, I can handle this just through

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meditation. And at the same time, sometimes that works for some others don't.

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But for you, you're finding that
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progressive way that you're really helping your
clients in that perspective. What are your

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thoughts on that, Well, it
depends in particular. If you're a perfectionist,

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then sometimes the goal of meditation,
I'm not getting it right. What's

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wrong? You know? What do
I do? So hypnosis is a better

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way to start the process because if
somebody has a very critical mind, then

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they probably won't be It may seem
like a lack of bull power, but

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it's really a deeper protective mechanism,
you know, because the innocritic doesn't like

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people to change. It likes to
run the show. And so hypnosis with

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the particular techniques that I use with
my recordings, will allow the person just

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to relax and go to sleep if
they want to. Mean, some people

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have got a really busy brain and
they you know, say Georgia here,

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every single word that you say,
it doesn't make any difference. You're still

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going to that deeper part of the
mind where all of your habits are stored.

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So meditation can and I think meditation
is fantastic, it just needs I

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think a lot of people feel a
bit under confident about it because it has

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to be a self started situation,
whereas hypnosis tends to be I'm doing the

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guy. I mean, I'm facilitating, and that person's just absorbing obviously in

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their own space and time. So
but I also think that sometimes depending on

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the time of the day and depending
on your mood, having different recordings is

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great, you know, whether it's
you know, work sometimes with with oh

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the hurts music. You know,
I'll come around. I forgot what it's

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called now, but a lot of
my recordings have the different vibrational energy music

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what's kind of called I'm not forgotten
now. But when you actually use music

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to stimulate your brain, you were
stimulating that sense of change, and I

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think that if the music feels right, it's a good thing to do.

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I remember once when I many years
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UK, and this is when we
were going back to when people manufactured CDs,

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and he had a whole range of
CDs from losing weight, getting on

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the plane, quit smoking, creating
abundance. So I bought the whole block

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of the CDs, and one of
the things about it his voices very irritating,

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which annoyed me. But secondly he
was saying, you know, when

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you put the abundance one on,
imagine driving down your country lane when your

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bright red sports car to your manor
house and like, oh my god.

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conversation about this is you can't set the

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scene for other people that they have
to make those choices themselves. I don't

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like red supports cars. My partner
does. He'd love one, but you

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know, we've got three kids.
It doesn't make sense. But it's more

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the fact that, you know,
I think we've got to make sure,

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as the practitioner, is that the
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themselves with the right tools and the
right wording to structure their own their own

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way forward. And I think that
goes to meditation. Sometimes sometimes it doesn't

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work for people. Sometimes this feels
right today or this one. So I

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think having a combination is a good
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you know, so I want to
clarify something here for me now and for

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the audience. So initially you in
particularly in London, you worked with clients

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one on one. Is that correct? Correct? Okay, now you're talking

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about recordings. Well, I would
make my private clients recordings, so that

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was very specific. But in terms
of my product range of the things I

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help people with, there are different
recordings. Yes, okay, all right,

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burnout, to be honest, it just

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got too much. I mean,
I get it, I totally get it.

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look at a recording, a guided

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recording, what you're doing which puts
someone if they're listening and puts them into

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a hypnotic state, which is similar
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the way, I think the word
you're looking for is semisync, where the

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vibrations of the music actually take both
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so that you're using both the right
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recordings with music. Yeah, yeah, But when you look at that versus,

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for instance, when you're working with
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would assume that you get some feedback
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the direction that you're going to go. So how does an individual choose one

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of your recordings that is going to
help them and do they need to actually

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experience a number of them to discover
intuitively which one seems to be helping them

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the best. Well, from a
private client perspective, I would I completely

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make all the recordings for them,
so it's a reflection of what their journey

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is. So I mean hypnosis very
short term therapy, So we would expect

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like two three sessions, and then
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the progress that they've made. So
they would come and see me and then

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we would do hypnosis together, and
then I'd go and make them private recording,

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put some lovely music behind it,
just editing on it, and then

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I would send it to them.
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point of view, with my programs, whether it's self esteem or anxiety,

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it's a stage, like a seven
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on each day and particular things I
want to explain to that person that's decided

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to buy the program self Fregio,
that's it. That's it's kind of my

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head. Selfreggio is the hurt soon
about selfreggio. Okay, it's Google It's

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amazing. So I put them at
the back of all of my recordings.

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I do live events every month and
I hypnotize group a group of people who

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ever decides to sign up and selfreggio
could you spell that for the audience?

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sound that the monks used to chat
with, okay, And there are different

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vibrational levels, and so one of
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hurts it's called h E R t
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done some incredible research on selfreggio hurts. So what I do is I kind

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of choose you. There are nine
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you can have up to six of
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they want. It's quite incredible because
what I mean, the heavy sink is

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is very effective as well. But
I kind of like the spiritual side of

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the self regio because you can choose
which ones you want like you want to

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one's about improving communication with people you
love, you know, one is about

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healing physical illnesses and lifting it's all
about vibrational energy. And what's interesting about

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music without something like conspiracy theorist here
is that the levels of music aren't there

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anymore in all of the tracks of
music, so they've been taken out.

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they used to make records, for example,

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whatever, So we all have that
monotone sound whereas before, like as

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you know, when you go to
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the music, whether it's classical music
or whatever, and that's not there anymore,

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so we're missing that bit. So
getting it back in there is actually

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really quite instrumental. And I think
in a part of people's healing process that

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they don't have to work. We
worked hard at, you know, trying

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to get rid of our thinking or
unwanted thoughts and behaviors. But it doesn't

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have to be an't I always it
doesn't have to be this duous experience to

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do it, because the deeper part
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really lovely way without having to be
this sense of willpower. And so I

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always say that if your conscious wishes
don't match your unconscious wishes or your subconscious

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wishes. There's got to be an
argument, and unfortunately, the deeper part

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of the mind, the subconscious mind, tends to win it most of the

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time. And so it's really about
getting both parts of the mind to be

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in harmony with each other, to
really recognize that it's safe to make those

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changes. So you have found and
again I have a tough time pronouncing this,

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so it's so soul veggio. I
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think it's started of an Italian monk
chanting, and they've measured the vibrational level

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of it. And then a particular
scientists came upon this research and started to

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work with these vibrations in his clinic, testing with people with the different vibrational

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healing healing methods of which vibration you're
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interesting to arter on it. It's
a lot of research on it now.

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together that this is another way to
lift the vibration the energetic field of the

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body. Yes, and I really
love that because really, when we think

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about it, life is a vibrational
experience, where as you say, there's

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healing that is a different vibration than
experiencing the ability to love or you know,

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to forgive or all of those type
of things. So you have actually

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nine different situations that you address in
your recordings and identify that, and to

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me, it's really amazing for people
to understand. You know this, this

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sounds a little bit wool, but
the reality is, as you say,

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there's that scientific basis now to recognize
that as you bring those vibrational aspects into

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your life and into your mind and
into your whole experience, that it literally

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affects the brain. It affects that
and it can change in their own pathways.

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It can affect the penial land,
which allows for a number of things

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to occur. To me, that's
just amazing that you're able to do that.

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And I'm actually wanting to look at
this a little bit further because you

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know, I love I love that. Let me ask you this question.

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You talk about the inner critic,
the pleaser, the perfectionist. What is

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the cause of those are are they
are they innate that we're all born with

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or are they things that have been
kind of created upon us? Based on

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our experienperiences as a child, or
is there some genetic or epigenetic aspects to

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that. What what are your thoughts
about you know, am I a perfectionist?

421
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Well as you know, is it
because I'm a left brain you know

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type of thing, or you know
I'm a pleaser. Does that mean I'm

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more of a right brain or or
are those experiences that as a child my

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parents didn't the proof of anything,
so I kept trying to please them and

425
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therefore I became a pleaser. Yeah, I mean I think I think in

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the family system, we all were
all born than in critic, and that

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happens. It really starts to develop
itself at the age of seven. You

428
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know, they have that saying,
give me the child to the age of

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seven, I'll create the adult.
It's the same principle. So we all

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have an an a critic, and
that's when we start to become less subconscious

431
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and more conscious. But along the
path, you know, if you had

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a very I was talking to somebody
other day. I used to see a

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lot of lawyers in my London clinic, and no offense to lawyers with a

434
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lot of lawyers there that you know, and I know this firsthand being in

435
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the clinic space. Don't really like
what they do, but it was kind

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of bread into them that they had
to go to university call college in this

437
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day and they have to do this, you know. So a lot of

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children become adults thinking that they have
to please their parents to be loved and

439
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to be liked. You know,
Little Johnny who was the great artist.

440
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Is the parents that want little Johnny
to be an artist because you know artists,

441
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you know, they live in squalor
and they end up being drug addicts,

442
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right and they end up being poor. You know. So parents don't

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necessarily mean to do it for their
own sense of parental self esteem, although

444
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a lot do. My child did
this and I feel proud of myself.

445
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It's also the fact that they can
be protecting them. But a child then

446
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grows up feeling who they are doesn't
get love, and so they create conditions

447
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where they can get acceptance, and
often with a critical parent who says you

448
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need to get trade. A's will
work tirelessly to make sure that they get

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accepted. The pleaser, for example, will make sure that they say yes

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to everybody to make sure that they're
loved, and they don't for they're going

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to get rejected. So it's it's
it's a it's a way psychologically to feel

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that they can belong in the family
system and in society. And so a

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lot of perfectionists. A really good
example of perfections. They're high achievers,

454
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obviously, and you'll find they'll be
very much into sport or they'll have something

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they have a really big passion for, and they'll make sure that they're really

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good at what they do. But
being a perfectionist is exhausting and so and

457
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they also don't like to attempt things
that they feel they can't can't succeed at,

458
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so they often will procrastinate with experiences
that make them look like they actually

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aren't perfectionists. But it's because the
inn acritic and the perfections get into bed

460
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together and say, but we don't
have any history of you being successful at

461
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this. And that's why hypnosis is
very powerful, because it can set some

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really good scenes in the mind emotionally
to create a reality that this is what

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they actually can experience. So it's
a combination of I mean, somebody can

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be a really strong perfectionist in their
professional life but be very much a pleaser

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in their personal life. Or you
know, mix a match, but pleasers

466
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pleasers because they have low self esteem, they tend to attract bullies, and

467
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they tend to attract people who have
very bad behavior and tend to be narcissistic

468
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by nature. So really that person
always thinks, it's what's wrong with me.

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So growing up in an environment where
you were always in trouble or you

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couldn't get it right, or the
expectations of you was that you had to

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do it this way to please other
people, that's how they develop. And

472
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for some people, I mean,
it's horrific what they had to go through.

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And then you know, we're talking
about trauma, also talking about psychological

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abuse of children that is so subtle
but so powerful. And you know,

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from you know, my clients in
London. You know, I used to

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see a lot of well known people
in different industries and I was just shocked

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at how the parental style was and
the expectations were so high. So that's

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really where they come from. Well, and to me, that's fascinating.

479
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You know, I probably grew up
in that kind of situation. I have

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five brothers and there's only one that
doesn't have a major advanced degree. And

481
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you know, my dad is like, you know, this is what you

482
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will do, and so on and
so forth. So I really appreciate what

483
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you're talking about there. You know, it's fascinating as we look at those

484
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three areas of the inner critic that
leads to the perfectionists. And I assume

485
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that that is part of the very
specific type of technotherapy that you do from

486
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a progressive standpoint, Is it really
focused on that and explain a little bit

487
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more about that, Yeah, sure, so, I mean I would.

488
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So I just finished a sixth week
boot camp with people are Hypnotize Alive,

489
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and they have different recordings to listen
to every week, and so over the

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six weeks. It's really about first
of all, understanding the power of the

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mind and how change is possible.
So I don't, like, you know,

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I don't want anybody to need to
come in and think that I'm waving

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a magic want because I'm not.
You know, their mind is doing all

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of the work. So it's really
about them understanding the resources they have.

495
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Because a lot of people, you
know, think that stage hypnosis, you

496
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know, that's all set up,
that's all planned. But you know,

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there's real science behind the power of
hypnosis. Now there's so much research has

498
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been done on on on how quickly
and effectively it can work. But it's

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not just about the pleaser, no
and the ane critic and the perfection is

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thereah particular techniques. One in particular
is about future training, which a lot

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of people in the sports and performance
the artistic world, public speaking, they're

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a flying I would take them through
a particular technique. That is another kind

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00:41:17.719 --> 00:41:27.599
of style. We do protective hypnosis
time distortion because a lot of people talking

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about talking about trauma, a lot
of people when something's been highly negatively charged,

505
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they have their brain because they've been
in that feeling for such a long

506
00:41:37.119 --> 00:41:40.639
time, it feels that they're in
it forever. So hypnosis is very good

507
00:41:40.679 --> 00:41:45.840
at shifting time, as you would
know with your talk about ANALP before and

508
00:41:45.920 --> 00:41:54.119
then working with that time so that
the really unhelpful memory moments become contracted and

509
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that the inspirational moments become expanded.
So there's lots of things you can do

510
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with a client. Well, and
you said something that really fascinates me.

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We talk about reality and the truth. I believe mitruth is that you can

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change your reality an individual, and
as you say, you know, you

513
00:42:17.599 --> 00:42:22.280
may be the guide, but they're
the one that's doing the work. But

514
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the reality for people to understand is
that they can change their reality. They

515
00:42:27.159 --> 00:42:31.440
can change the movie of their life
by going through these processes that you're talking

516
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about. Now, as we're coming
to a close, I wish we had

517
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more time. As we're coming to
a close, if you could think of

518
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a short message that you would like
to share with the audience from your heart

519
00:42:45.960 --> 00:42:53.440
less than a minute. What would
that be? You more than your thinking.

520
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You're so much more than what you
think you are. And you know,

521
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with the post of your mind,
anything is possible. With a bit

522
00:43:02.639 --> 00:43:07.320
of passion and a bit of trust, you can you can change. You

523
00:43:07.360 --> 00:43:10.519
know, you don't have to be
your history is not your future. You

524
00:43:10.559 --> 00:43:15.239
know, That's what I really believe. You can change all of that mindset

525
00:43:15.320 --> 00:43:20.480
and that belief. So that's my
big passion is to help people really understand

526
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that self esteem is something that we
need to learn. We're not born with

527
00:43:22.360 --> 00:43:28.519
it and that's you know, that's
that's wonderful. And so how do people

528
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find you? You know, I
want to go to your website and look

529
00:43:31.400 --> 00:43:37.159
at those recordings you're talking about.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well My

530
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website is Georgia Foster dot org As. Georgia is in the state of Georgia,

531
00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:46.880
Foster as in the beer Georgia Foster
dot org o r G. You

532
00:43:46.920 --> 00:43:50.880
can find me there. We're just
about to change. The website's a holding

533
00:43:50.920 --> 00:43:54.920
website at the moment, just launching
a whole new Shopify websites so that there'll

534
00:43:54.960 --> 00:44:00.079
be some more products on there coming
up. But yeah, thank you for

535
00:44:00.119 --> 00:44:05.039
having me. Oh well, and
the book Seven Days to Drink Lusts,

536
00:44:05.079 --> 00:44:07.039
how do they find that? Yeah, they can get it through my website,

537
00:44:07.159 --> 00:44:12.320
or they get they can get the
PDF and the recordings directly from a

538
00:44:12.360 --> 00:44:15.599
website. I appreciate that the book
may be quite a personal thing for a

539
00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:19.960
lot of people. We can fine
obviously through Amazon, but if you want

540
00:44:20.000 --> 00:44:24.559
to buy it through the website,
you'll get all the details and the hypnosis

541
00:44:24.559 --> 00:44:28.960
recordings that come with the book,
because the book is not just a book

542
00:44:29.000 --> 00:44:32.239
to read, it's actually it's a
whole program in itself. Do you get

543
00:44:32.239 --> 00:44:36.840
into the membership ere Georgia. Thanks
so much for being on the show.

544
00:44:36.880 --> 00:44:40.639
I really appreciate your time, and
I really appreciate what you're doing for people.

545
00:44:40.960 --> 00:44:45.800
It makes such a difference and the
thought process that you're using and the

546
00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:51.360
innovation that you're for many people,
this is a major innovation. What a

547
00:44:51.440 --> 00:44:54.519
blessing to those that will find that
everything else that they've done is you say,

548
00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:58.679
a lot of talk, therapy and
so forth, it hasn't helped them.

549
00:44:58.719 --> 00:45:00.599
And here's a way in which so
they can really get the help that

550
00:45:00.679 --> 00:45:05.679
they need. So thank you so
much, pleasure, any questions, let

551
00:45:05.679 --> 00:45:08.480
me know I'm here all right.
Thanks for listening. Hope you enjoyed it.