The Power of Your Mind - Your History Is Not Your Future

0:01 At the end of the day, it's not about what you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted at, who you've made better. It's about what you've given back than Soel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you to do the same. Jorgian welcome to the show. Thank you for having me. It's really a pleasure. And our time zone are so different because you're you're in Australia, right, I'm in Melbourne and it's very hot heat today in Melbourne, is it really? Yeah? Island and I get so I'm so used to the fahrenheit trying to figure out, you know, the other one. It really is difficult for me. So, how warm is it there? Center Grade?

0:53 Well, actually it's it's a little bit cooler today. We had a big storm last night. We've had ninety eight for the line three days. Oh my goodness. Yeah, that's fahnheit, that's fahrenheit. Yeah, yeah, so it's like thirty eight thirty nine here, But we don't live far from the beach. So we take the kids down and have a great time for swimming. And we do have air conditioning in some parts of the house, but it's the house is very warm. Yes, oh, believe me, I understand. So tell the audience a little bit about yourself, and I'd be interested also to know what motivated you to become a hypno therapist. Well, the first thing is I mean, obviously I'm Australian, but many years ago, I in my twenties, I have very low self esteem, had food and alcohol issues, and I really didn't like myself. So I ran away to a health farm, thinking that would solve all of my weight issues, but actually it opened up a can of worms because I realized this particular this particular health retreat specialized in group therapy, which I didn't know when I booked, and I sat in a room full of people who were really, in my mind, then successful, healthy, slim, married children, and I realized that we all had one common theme is that we didn't like ourselves.

2:25 So I left that retreat not knowing the answers, but really feeling I needed to find out what was going on in my head. And my mum is in the she's a writer, and she had this book on her I went home and I was sitting in my parents' house and I found this book and it was a Yungian psychology book called Embracing Ourselves. And for the first time ever, I opened a book and I felt like I was reading about me. So short version of a long story. I ended up leaving Melbourne and living in the States for a bit and I studied with the founders of this particular therapy, and then I moved to London, where I trained to be a hypnotherapist. And I just kind of felt like it was a bit like falling in love. And it's probably maybe a strange thing to say, but when I discovered hypnosis, I realized that with the combination of the psychology I've been train I was trained in and I was starting to see results with myself. And then obviously I was building a client base in London. But the one thing is when I first trained to be a hypnotherapist, I was working as in those days you call it a secretary. In these days you call it a personal assistant. And I worked on a lot of the investment banking flaws and a lot of my bosses or colleagues was setting me Georgia, can you help me to hypnotize? Can you help me quit smoking or be

3:55 a flying whatever? And amongst those clients I started to build a strong base in the city of London, the business district, and it just became such a big passion because I realized with the power of hypnosis, because not everybody is. I'm very much a progressive neuroscience based hypnotherapist. I believe your brain is malleable and pliable to change. So with that principle, I started to work with clients who had issues with food and alcohol, and as I was dealing with my own demons, I really grew with my clients and then it became a big passion from there to specialize in self esteem and anxiety and food and alcohol. So and that's really what brings me here. After the years of living in London for twenty three years, having two clinics, we moved back to my home city Melbourne with my partner and three boys, and I now have online programs because I really think that my slogan is it's the thinking before the eating and the drinking that's the problem. It's the emotional conditioning and once people realize the true potential amazing things can happen. Well, and it's and it's interesting, you know, since I've been here in Thailand, there's there's a number of expects and interestingly some from Australia, a huge amount from

5:26 the UK uh and then you know a queue from the US and so forth. And what I find interesting is there are a number of them is I've tried to get together with them and so forth. Their meeting place is a bar in the evening and they start to drink, and they drink and they drink to the point where they are just totally totally inebriated, and and it just fascinates me with what you're doing, because you're you're talking about you know, you've got the book Seven Days to Drink, that's that you've written, and I think that's a still program that you have now. But what is it you talked about yourself personally? What is it that you discovered about yourself personally that was causing you to drink, And what was the alcohol doing for you and what was it masking? It's a good question. Well, what I love about this psychology is that it's the theories that were all made up of many parts or sub personalities, and there's one particular personality to rade that drives people to drink. It's called the inner critic. It's the boom doom bloom, what's your problem? And everybody's smarter than new slimmer than you.

6:42 You're going to I bet you're going to drink too much tonight, and then obviously you do. What a lot of people don't understand is that when we drink alcohol, that negative part of the brain shuts down. The chemical reaction in alcohol increases dopamine, which extinguishes that negative thinking, and they're like, oh, I don't really care anymore. I'm just gonna have fun. And a lot of people, you know, get addicted to the feelings of alcohol. It's not really the alcohol itself. I mean, don't get me wrong, there are people who love to I mean, I love to drink wine. I'm about not this is not about quitting. I'm talking about changing your emotional relationship with it. But the inner critic is the catalyst to all procrastination, low self esteem, anxiety, and it causes mayhem for a lot of people. So when I discovered this particular theory that my critic kept been running my life and also ruining my life. With the power of hypnosis, rather than regressing saying, you know in my personal life, like you know, did something happen in my past to make me drink? Well, bottom line is I just had very low self esteem. There wasn't anything complicated, And I really believe that most about drinking problems are not complicated. They are habits and they are emotionally based. But once you start to really look at the innocritic, and with the hypnosis I'm talking about, train your mind to not feel bad about yourself, do not feel guilty, to not feel that you're

8:13 always in the doghouse with yourself, and to realize that the innocritic is just one part and there's a beautiful aspect of everybody, including the people who are listening to this. Now, that healthy intuitive part, the part that's inspiring. It's motivation of all. It's charismatic and that's really what I help people train their brain and body to recondition themselves too. So you know, we can't get rid of the anocritic. But I discovered that when I improved my sense of self worth, I didn't need to drink for social anxiety. I mean, I do think social anxiety is a very big talking about that.

8:54 Being in the bars in Thailand is you know, that is a great example. People over drink because they're in a critic saying, oh, you'll be boring if you don't drink. You know, you won't be as funny. If you don't drink, you'll be much more smart with the conversations if you don't if you drink, and so we tend to get hooked into these I call them. I call it radio crazy in your head, you know are you? You know you shouldn't drink, and then you have this push me, pull you kind of conversation with yourself and in the end people tend to cave in because it's become a learned behavior for drinking. So for me over the years, I mean, I drink, but for me, I don't need to drink to be sociable. I don't need to drink to have fun.

9:41 I don't need to drink. Like a lot of people drink because they have a fear of intimacy. Because the innocritic loves intimate moments. And so it's really about understanding that the language that you speak is a habit and that self esteem is something that we need to learn. We're not born with it, and life can a roade it pretty quick as well. So it's an ongoing work in progress situation, you know, and including myself. But when I discovered this particular psychology training and how powerful it was in hypnosis, it was extraordinary what my clients were achieving. So I'm very much on the lines of being progressive rather than aggressive. We don't need to know what happened in your past. We don't need to know about the bully in the in the school yard. We don't need to know. Obviously, there are people who feel it's I'm not saying that, you know, psychotherapy or counseling is a bad thing. Talking therapies they're good, but a lot of people by the time they come whether they we'd see me in my clinic in London that have that had enough of themselves, but like, oh so sick of myself, Georgia, you know what do I do? I'm thinking, you know what, You've got an incredible mind, but you've been just very well versed, very well practiced, living in the in a critic part of your brain.

10:56 You just need to show it, teach it, train it, give it a bit of exercise so that your mind is actually in a bit of place. Okay, So this will be an interesting discussion here because I look at it from a couple of different perspectives. Now you're focusing on drinking. You're focusing on, as you said, helping them with smoking, drinking and so forth. But there's a lot of people that are just experiencing a life of pain, suffering those types of things, and as you really trace back to what is creating that personality for them, so many people, even if it's not necessarily psychologists, will go back and realize that a lot of those childhood experiences really can cause a problem. I personally worked with the client who was really making bad decisions about work in general, and we did some NLP neural linguistic programming, went back identified a very specific time and moment that he had while he was in school, and we were able to modify the thinking process and the perception of what was actually happening. And as we did that, it's made all the difference in the world to his life. So my experience has been to some degree, being able to go back and identify some of

12:28 those things can make a difference However, as I'm listening to you, and as I've been doing a lot more research, reading and so forth, there's also this concept of mindset. There's also the concept of meditation, which is probably not quite as strong for some as hypnosis would be hidden therapy would be. But in general, now I'm hearing a little bit more and reading a little bit more about this mindfulness is conscious business to where as you are. And it sounds to me like this is kind of what you're talking about, So correct me if I'm wrong, But it sounds like if you can get to the point where you are mindful enough to recognize when those emotions start to surface in a reactive way, you can recognize that, you know what, that's the past. I'm going to move forward, and you put those to the side and they no longer are affecting you to the degree that they are.

13:28 So what are your thoughts about everything I'm just battling about. No, I mean aggressive understanding where the root cause is. It can be very beneficial. But I think you know this. I mean, a lot of hypnotherapists and oly NLP practitioners can do that can take that route. My belief is a lot of it is about moving on and that sometimes understanding where it comes from in itself can can do the healing process. But I find a lot of people don't necessarily Sometimes it doesn't work because they go to the wrong memory or they don't go to the right place. And if you've got to have somebody who's very intuitively able to go there, and a lot of people who in a trauma state are highly anxious, they may find a point of that this is it, but it isn't really it. I mean, timeline therapy works very very well, don't get me wrong. So, and there's just different ways of getting there. And I think that, you know, I'm a bit more like we don't need to know the why, we need to know the how, because you know, as we evolve as people is and you know, and I do believe a lot of it comes from childhood.

14:43 Absolutely, you know, moments when when we aren't able to articulate that sense of lack of understanding or not being understood by people older than us. So it's just a different way of looking at things. And I think in terms of meditation, I mean, meditation and hypnosis are the same brain weigh activity, you just do different things when you're there, and I think it's a lot of because there are other personality traits that are a part of that. You know, there's there's the pleaser personality that you know, wants to make sure everybody's okay, and they overdo things and they have an inability to say the word no, and they can get themselves into they actually attract bullies and narcissistic type people. And then you have the perfectionist personality, which is pretty much all or nothing that either drink oblivion or they just abstain and the same goes with food kind of thing, this all and nothing syndrome. So really, you know, with the inner cretic, it's got some friends that likes to get into bed with and so it's kind of like an umbrella. You've got the end critic there, and then you've got the pleaser and the perfectionist and you could be you could be both. You can have both of those personality traits. But what happens sometimes is the perfection wants to know the answer and it doesn't necessarily come the way that they expected to remember it as so it's just a maount of just working with what works for you intuitively, as a practitioner at the end of the day. Well, and I love how

16:17 you, you know, said that you really approach it from a progressive rather than a regressive situation. And and again, as you say, you know, there's so many behaviors other than just alcohol that there's alcohol, there's drugs, there's there's overeating, and and then beyond that, there's just experiencing life in a way that is not very peaceful and not very happy. And you and you you see that going on. How do you take someone who has really experienced abuse in their life. Let's let's talk about that, okay, because that's an ongoing thing. Someone who's experienced either emotional, physical abuse, sexual abuse, whatever that happens to be, how do you help them to look in a progressive way and start to take those experiences, which are both conscious and subconscious in many cases, and help them to just kind of set them aside. And as you say, when we talk about the neurological capabilities and the fact that we can create new neurological pathways and put some of the existing ones to decide, how does your approach from a progressive hypnotherapy standpoint help them to the point where those experiences are no longer affecting their lives. Well,

17:51 I would make it even more powerful than that, say, infecting their lives, and I think that that's a big you know, I think first of all, the courage to realize so goes back to that in a critic, but I call it quite demonic in nature, where it's just constantly nagging that person when somebody recognizes that that history is something you know. And this is a very may sound very blaze, and I do apologize if it does sound that way, but but really we can't change our past. It's about how you evolve understanding that that's where you've been. And one of the good, the really lovely ways to do that is to train somebody's mind to understand that that is a bit of their life that's there, but it doesn't have to infect them so much. It doesn't have to be who they are, it doesn't have to be their identity, and that they can evolve as a person with adult skills to be the person they really want to be. So I always say to people, you know, your past doesn't have to define you, and I find it really you know. For example, when I lived in London, I had a meeting with head of the Priory, which is a very posh, expensive private clinic in London, and I met with head of psychiatry there and I said to him, what percentage of your patients,

19:23 whether it's sexual addiction, gambling, food, alcohol, cigarettes, inappropriate behaviors, whatever it is, what percentage of your patients do you think their addictions are emotionally based? And he said around about eighty percent, And I said, well, what about the twenty percent? And he said it's probably one hundred, but can't we can't confirm that. We don't have that information. And I just said to him, well, so if somebody's gone through a lot of trauma, and they've gone through horrific life experiences, that means that a part of their mind has used those substances, all that particular behavior, all that type of thinking as a form of protection or a form of what's wrong with me? And also, more importantly, that person genuinely thinks that that history is them. So what hypnosis can do is to train them emotionally and physically, because the emotional part of the mind manages the physical body, train them to recognize that that was then, that was something that really happened and that to build a new foundation from now and into the future with new coping strategies, training them to feel that authenticity, that sense of inspiration, that sense of being who they really are with all that stuff, with

20:56 all of the stuff that's hindering them. So what hypnosis can do very quickly is to stop the mind from going there as often or as deeply. It doesn't mean that you lose your memory of it. It just means that with the wisdom of adult eyes, you can see that it's something that doesn't define you and that you can start to build inner resources that are very separate from that conditioning. Does it make sense, Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. And you know what, I'm just over the last number of days, I've been thinking, you know, because I do a lot of meditation, or at least I try to not every day, but I try to get it in every day. And one of the things that has really created a question for me, a curiosity, is the difference between a meditation where you know, I observe many of the Buddhists here that will just you know, Neil, close their eyes meditate for a few minutes here and there.

21:56 I hear the stories about the months that are metating for you know, hours, but then you know, for me, I have there's the meditative music where you listen to this music that's supposed to help the brain waves and so forth, and then you meditate with just trying to eliminate everything from your mind, and then you have the guided meditations where they're really trying to guide you into a certain direction. And one of the questions that's come up in my mind, and I know we're not talking about meditation here, but the question is is there one better than others? Because sometimes I listen to a guided meditation, and sometimes it's really good, and other times it's like, you know what, I don't really You're trying to get me to go someplace that I really don't want to go. And yet I recognize for anyone to really overcome those challenges of early childhood and all those things that are going on, having someone to guide you is so essential. And so as you tell me about your hypnotherapy where you really are guiding your clients through hypnosis and what you're doing with them in a progressive way, which I really really appreciate and think is fantastic, what are your thoughts about that? You know, for someone who someone who says, you know what, I can handle this just through meditation. And at the same time, sometimes that works for some others don't.

23:26 But for you, you're finding that through hypnotherapy and doing it in a progressive way that you're really helping your clients in that perspective. What are your thoughts on that, Well, it depends in particular. If you're a perfectionist, then sometimes the goal of meditation, I'm not getting it right. What's wrong? You know? What do I do? So hypnosis is a better way to start the process because if somebody has a very critical mind, then they probably won't be It may seem like a lack of bull power, but it's really a deeper protective mechanism, you know, because the innocritic doesn't like people to change. It likes to run the show. And so hypnosis with the particular techniques that I use with my recordings, will allow the person just to relax and go to sleep if they want to. Mean, some people have got a really busy brain and they you know, say Georgia here, every single word that you say, it doesn't make any difference. You're still going to that deeper part of the mind where all of your habits are stored.

24:26 So meditation can and I think meditation is fantastic, it just needs I think a lot of people feel a bit under confident about it because it has to be a self started situation, whereas hypnosis tends to be I'm doing the guy. I mean, I'm facilitating, and that person's just absorbing obviously in their own space and time. So but I also think that sometimes depending on the time of the day and depending on your mood, having different recordings is great, you know, whether it's you know, work sometimes with with oh the hurts music. You know, I'll come around. I forgot what it's called now, but a lot of my recordings have the different vibrational energy music what's kind of called I'm not forgotten now. But when you actually use music to stimulate your brain, you were stimulating that sense of change, and I think that if the music feels right, it's a good thing to do.

25:34 I remember once when I many years ago, there was a guy in the UK, and this is when we were going back to when people manufactured CDs, and he had a whole range of CDs from losing weight, getting on the plane, quit smoking, creating abundance. So I bought the whole block of the CDs, and one of the things about it his voices very irritating, which annoyed me. But secondly he was saying, you know, when you put the abundance one on, imagine driving down your country lane when your bright red sports car to your manor house and like, oh my god.

26:15 You know, And I think my conversation about this is you can't set the scene for other people that they have to make those choices themselves. I don't like red supports cars. My partner does. He'd love one, but you know, we've got three kids. It doesn't make sense. But it's more the fact that, you know, I think we've got to make sure, as the practitioner, is that the audience really is allowed to be guided by themselves with the right tools and the right wording to structure their own their own way forward. And I think that goes to meditation. Sometimes sometimes it doesn't work for people. Sometimes this feels right today or this one. So I think having a combination is a good idea. Well, and you're talking about you know, so I want to clarify something here for me now and for the audience. So initially you in particularly in London, you worked with clients one on one. Is that correct? Correct? Okay, now you're talking about recordings. Well, I would make my private clients recordings, so that was very specific. But in terms of my product range of the things I help people with, there are different recordings. Yes, okay, all right, So are you are you still working with private clients at this point in time. I do see some clients. I don't actively see clients like I used to in London. I got burnout, to be honest, it just got too much. I mean, I get it, I totally get it.

27:41 So here's my question. When you look at a recording, a guided recording, what you're doing which puts someone if they're listening and puts them into a hypnotic state, which is similar to meditation to some degree. Probably by the way, I think the word you're looking for is semisync, where the vibrations of the music actually take both sides of the brain and bring it together so that you're using both the right and left brain. That's another form of recordings with music. Yeah, yeah, But when you look at that versus, for instance, when you're working with an individual client through hypnotherapy. I would assume that you get some feedback from them, which allows you to know the direction that you're going to go. So how does an individual choose one of your recordings that is going to help them and do they need to actually experience a number of them to discover intuitively which one seems to be helping them the best. Well, from a private client perspective, I would I completely make all the recordings for them, so it's a reflection of what their journey is. So I mean hypnosis very short term therapy, So we would expect like two three sessions, and then every week I would update that recording with the progress that they've made. So they would come and see me and then we would do hypnosis together, and then I'd go and make them private recording,

29:12 put some lovely music behind it, just editing on it, and then I would send it to them. So, but from a from a generic point of view, with my programs, whether it's self esteem or anxiety, it's a stage, like a seven days stage, where you have different recordings on each day and particular things I want to explain to that person that's decided to buy the program self Fregio, that's it. That's it's kind of my head. Selfreggio is the hurt soon about selfreggio. Okay, it's Google It's amazing. So I put them at the back of all of my recordings.

29:55 I do live events every month and I hypnotize group a group of people who ever decides to sign up and selfreggio could you spell that for the audience? S O L F E G G I. Selfveggio is. It's a vibrational sound that the monks used to chat with, okay, And there are different vibrational levels, and so one of them is about working intuitively. One particular hurts it's called h E R t Z is about healing trauma, and they've done some incredible research on selfreggio hurts. So what I do is I kind of choose you. There are nine of them, and on any given recording you can have up to six of them, and people choose the hurts that they want. It's quite incredible because what I mean, the heavy sink is is very effective as well. But I kind of like the spiritual side of the self regio because you can choose which ones you want like you want to one's about improving communication with people you love, you know, one is about healing physical illnesses and lifting it's all about vibrational energy. And what's interesting about music without something like conspiracy theorist here is that the levels of music aren't there anymore in all of the tracks of music, so they've been taken out.

31:29 They were naturally in there the wea they used to make records, for example, whatever, So we all have that monotone sound whereas before, like as you know, when you go to a concert, you feel the vibration of the music, whether it's classical music or whatever, and that's not there anymore, so we're missing that bit. So getting it back in there is actually really quite instrumental. And I think in a part of people's healing process that they don't have to work. We worked hard at, you know, trying to get rid of our thinking or unwanted thoughts and behaviors. But it doesn't have to be an't I always it doesn't have to be this duous experience to do it, because the deeper part of the mind will do it in a really lovely way without having to be this sense of willpower. And so I always say that if your conscious wishes don't match your unconscious wishes or your subconscious wishes. There's got to be an argument, and unfortunately, the deeper part of the mind, the subconscious mind, tends to win it most of the time. And so it's really about getting both parts of the mind to be in harmony with each other, to really recognize that it's safe to make those changes. So you have found and again I have a tough time pronouncing this, so it's so soul veggio. I think it was an Italian. I think it's started of an Italian monk chanting, and they've measured the vibrational level of it. And then a particular scientists came upon this research and started to

33:02 work with these vibrations in his clinic, testing with people with the different vibrational healing healing methods of which vibration you're at, And there's a lot of really interesting to arter on it. It's a lot of research on it now. So it's just another way HEMI sink once again will confuse the brain to work together that this is another way to lift the vibration the energetic field of the body. Yes, and I really love that because really, when we think about it, life is a vibrational experience, where as you say, there's healing that is a different vibration than experiencing the ability to love or you know, to forgive or all of those type of things. So you have actually nine different situations that you address in your recordings and identify that, and to me, it's really amazing for people to understand. You know this, this sounds a little bit wool, but the reality is, as you say, there's that scientific basis now to recognize that as you bring those vibrational aspects into your life and into your mind and into your whole experience, that it literally affects the brain. It affects that and it can change in their own pathways.

34:22 It can affect the penial land, which allows for a number of things to occur. To me, that's just amazing that you're able to do that. And I'm actually wanting to look at this a little bit further because you know, I love I love that. Let me ask you this question. You talk about the inner critic, the pleaser, the perfectionist. What is the cause of those are are they are they innate that we're all born with or are they things that have been kind of created upon us? Based on our experienperiences as a child, or is there some genetic or epigenetic aspects to that. What what are your thoughts about you know, am I a perfectionist?

35:08 Well as you know, is it because I'm a left brain you know type of thing, or you know I'm a pleaser. Does that mean I'm more of a right brain or or are those experiences that as a child my parents didn't the proof of anything, so I kept trying to please them and therefore I became a pleaser. Yeah, I mean I think I think in the family system, we all were all born than in critic, and that happens. It really starts to develop itself at the age of seven. You know, they have that saying, give me the child to the age of seven, I'll create the adult. It's the same principle. So we all have an an a critic, and that's when we start to become less subconscious and more conscious. But along the path, you know, if you had a very I was talking to somebody other day. I used to see a lot of lawyers in my London clinic, and no offense to lawyers with a lot of lawyers there that you know, and I know this firsthand being in the clinic space. Don't really like what they do, but it was kind of bread into them that they had to go to university call college in this day and they have to do this, you know. So a lot of children become adults thinking that they have to please their parents to be loved and to be liked. You know, Little Johnny who was the great artist.

36:25 Is the parents that want little Johnny to be an artist because you know artists, you know, they live in squalor and they end up being drug addicts, right and they end up being poor. You know. So parents don't necessarily mean to do it for their own sense of parental self esteem, although a lot do. My child did this and I feel proud of myself. It's also the fact that they can be protecting them. But a child then grows up feeling who they are doesn't get love, and so they create conditions where they can get acceptance, and often with a critical parent who says you need to get trade. A's will work tirelessly to make sure that they get accepted. The pleaser, for example, will make sure that they say yes to everybody to make sure that they're loved, and they don't for they're going to get rejected. So it's it's it's a it's a way psychologically to feel that they can belong in the family system and in society. And so a lot of perfectionists. A really good example of perfections. They're high achievers, obviously, and you'll find they'll be very much into sport or they'll have something they have a really big passion for, and they'll make sure that they're really good at what they do. But being a perfectionist is exhausting and so and they also don't like to attempt things that they feel they can't can't succeed at, so they often will procrastinate with experiences that make them look like they actually

37:57 aren't perfectionists. But it's because the inn acritic and the perfections get into bed together and say, but we don't have any history of you being successful at this. And that's why hypnosis is very powerful, because it can set some really good scenes in the mind emotionally to create a reality that this is what they actually can experience. So it's a combination of I mean, somebody can be a really strong perfectionist in their professional life but be very much a pleaser in their personal life. Or you know, mix a match, but pleasers pleasers because they have low self esteem, they tend to attract bullies, and they tend to attract people who have very bad behavior and tend to be narcissistic by nature. So really that person always thinks, it's what's wrong with me.

38:46 So growing up in an environment where you were always in trouble or you couldn't get it right, or the expectations of you was that you had to do it this way to please other people, that's how they develop. And for some people, I mean, it's horrific what they had to go through. And then you know, we're talking about trauma, also talking about psychological abuse of children that is so subtle but so powerful. And you know, from you know, my clients in London. You know, I used to see a lot of well known people in different industries and I was just shocked at how the parental style was and the expectations were so high. So that's really where they come from. Well, and to me, that's fascinating.

39:36 You know, I probably grew up in that kind of situation. I have five brothers and there's only one that doesn't have a major advanced degree. And you know, my dad is like, you know, this is what you will do, and so on and so forth. So I really appreciate what you're talking about there. You know, it's fascinating as we look at those three areas of the inner critic that leads to the perfectionists. And I assume that that is part of the very specific type of technotherapy that you do from a progressive standpoint, Is it really focused on that and explain a little bit more about that, Yeah, sure, so, I mean I would.

40:17 So I just finished a sixth week boot camp with people are Hypnotize Alive, and they have different recordings to listen to every week, and so over the six weeks. It's really about first of all, understanding the power of the mind and how change is possible. So I don't, like, you know, I don't want anybody to need to come in and think that I'm waving a magic want because I'm not. You know, their mind is doing all of the work. So it's really about them understanding the resources they have. Because a lot of people, you know, think that stage hypnosis, you know, that's all set up, that's all planned. But you know, there's real science behind the power of hypnosis. Now there's so much research has been done on on on how quickly and effectively it can work. But it's not just about the pleaser, no and the ane critic and the perfection is thereah particular techniques. One in particular is about future training, which a lot of people in the sports and performance the artistic world, public speaking, they're a flying I would take them through a particular technique. That is another kind of style. We do protective hypnosis time distortion because a lot of people talking about talking about trauma, a lot of people when something's been highly negatively charged, they have their brain because they've been in that feeling for such a long time, it feels that they're in it forever. So hypnosis is very good at shifting time, as you would know with your talk about ANALP before and then working with that time so that the really unhelpful memory moments become contracted and

41:54 that the inspirational moments become expanded. So there's lots of things you can do with a client. Well, and you said something that really fascinates me. We talk about reality and the truth. I believe mitruth is that you can change your reality an individual, and as you say, you know, you may be the guide, but they're the one that's doing the work. But the reality for people to understand is that they can change their reality. They can change the movie of their life by going through these processes that you're talking about. Now, as we're coming to a close, I wish we had more time. As we're coming to a close, if you could think of a short message that you would like to share with the audience from your heart less than a minute. What would that be? You more than your thinking.

42:54 You're so much more than what you think you are. And you know, with the post of your mind, anything is possible. With a bit of passion and a bit of trust, you can you can change. You know, you don't have to be your history is not your future. You know, That's what I really believe. You can change all of that mindset and that belief. So that's my big passion is to help people really understand that self esteem is something that we need to learn. We're not born with it and that's you know, that's that's wonderful. And so how do people find you? You know, I want to go to your website and look at those recordings you're talking about. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Well My website is Georgia Foster dot org As. Georgia is in the state of Georgia, Foster as in the beer Georgia Foster dot org o r G. You can find me there. We're just about to change. The website's a holding website at the moment, just launching a whole new Shopify websites so that there'll be some more products on there coming up. But yeah, thank you for having me. Oh well, and the book Seven Days to Drink Lusts, how do they find that? Yeah, they can get it through my website, or they get they can get the PDF and the recordings directly from a website. I appreciate that the book may be quite a personal thing for a lot of people. We can fine obviously through Amazon, but if you want to buy it through the website, you'll get all the details and the hypnosis

44:24 recordings that come with the book, because the book is not just a book to read, it's actually it's a whole program in itself. Do you get into the membership ere Georgia. Thanks so much for being on the show. I really appreciate your time, and I really appreciate what you're doing for people. It makes such a difference and the thought process that you're using and the innovation that you're for many people, this is a major innovation. What a blessing to those that will find that everything else that they've done is you say, a lot of talk, therapy and so forth, it hasn't helped them. And here's a way in which so they can really get the help that they need. So thank you so much, pleasure, any questions, let me know I'm here all right. Thanks for listening. Hope you enjoyed it.