May 26, 2025

Mastering Adaptability: Embracing Change for Growth and Success

Mastering Adaptability: Embracing Change for Growth and Success
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Join Rich Alderton as he shares powerful insights on adaptability, overcoming fear, and embracing change as a path to success. Learn how to shift your mindset, conquer imposter syndrome, and turn challenges into opportunities. Discover the key to thriving in an ever-changing world!
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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back

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Thanzel Washington, Welcome to inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Rich welcome to the show.

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Well, great to be here. Thanks for having me.

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Hey, I'm excited to have you here. So where are

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you from?

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Uh? From Tebridge, England's okay?

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And so that's where you're located now?

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That is right now, yep, just between Cambridge and London. Oh,

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I love it.

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I love it.

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The other day I interviewed someone from Peru, so it's

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just like it's becoming worldwide.

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I love it. Yeah, that's slightly more exhaustic.

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Yeah, So what I'd love for you to do is

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to kind of share with the audience your background, who

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you are, some of the things that you've accomplished, because

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you have quite an amazing background, and then kind of

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the journey that led you to this point in writing

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your book, your ebook, and also just doing what you're doing.

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Oh cricky, Okay, sure. Well. Look, when I left university,

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I wanted leadership experience as soon as I could. So

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the fastest way to get that was to get my

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hands dirty in the supply chain, and I ended up

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starting off working the night shift on the strips or

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packing line in a factory, and I work my way

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out and ended up running a billion dollar global supply chain,

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sitting on the board of a listed company. And look,

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on my journey, what I realized was that I seem

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to enjoy change, and that seemed to be quite rare,

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not certainly not unique, But most people, I found, resist

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most change most of the time. And that doesn't really

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matter where you are, what your background is, what your

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job title says, how many stripes you've got on your arm.

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In fact, sometimes senior leaders can be the most most

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resistant to change. So yeah, I kind of decided to

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to kind of make that, make that my life. So

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I had, I had climbed a corporate ladder. I ran

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that supply chain, I was CEO of a few companies.

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I lived in Sweden. I spent nine years in New

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Zealand before coming back here. So yeah, I've been around

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a bit and I've worked in most corporate functions. I've

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been very lucky to do that. I've done manufacturing, purchasing, logistics, sales, marketing,

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so I've you know, I've worked from Aberdeen to Auckland,

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so I've subjected myself to a fair better change. And

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what I realized was, ultimately, although I enjoyed being a CEO,

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getting up every morning to make rich people slightly richer,

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wasn't really doing it for me. And when I realized

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that actually my vocation was, you know, to help as

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many people as I could enjoy, rather than endure the

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life of change that surely lies ahead for us all,

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then it became a easy decision actually just to jump

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off the wheel and take that big leap that I'd

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always been too scared to do of setting up on

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my own, which I did ten years ago, and dedicating

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my career to developing mys and techniques and training and

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teaching that helps people become more open to the idea

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of change, which is adaptability is all about my subject.

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Yeah, And you know what I find interesting is that

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you know, I'm never to the level you are, believe me.

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But you know, for a while I was working with

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very small businesses as a business consultant and mentor, and

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what I found was that everything that they were experiencing

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in business relative to certain areas they were experiencing in life.

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And when we changed an element in their business, it

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changed an element in their life. And so today, as

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I mentioned earlier before it came on the show, I

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really want to focus on all of those concepts that

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you've developed that I know are just helping the leaders

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of these big companies and so forth. But I guarantee

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you these concepts would help anyone who is listening today

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as far as how can they become more adaptable to change?

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Because as you said, and you made the comment, you

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know you were so fearful and making that change, and

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yet you did it.

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You did it, okay, and so let's talk.

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About that as far as change and why is it

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so difficult for people to make changes? And we'll talk

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about you know, your focus on that adaptability, But what

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is so difficult for us to make change in our lives.

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Well, the good news is that it's not our fault. Well,

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it kind of is. It's an evolutionary reaction that we have.

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We've developed over the last fifty thousand years to as

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a self protecting mechanism to perceive any change as a

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potential threat to our security. Whatever situation we're in right

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now might not be ideal. We might only just be

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able to cover the mortgage, we might have all the

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we might we're having a few arguments with friends or

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family or you know, But whatever is going on in

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our lives, we are actually safe and secure. And if

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we're not, then we're very prepared to change to get

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to that base level of the bottom levels of Maslow's hierarchy.

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But for most of us lucky enough to have a

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roof over our heads and enjoy the basics, what we

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really want to do is just blacken down the hatches,

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because any change could threaten to take that away from us.

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So we actually have mechanisms that the fear mechanism neurologically

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is designed to stop us from thinking. So when we

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are faced with fear, when we are faced with a

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clear and present danger, that is the cause of fear,

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that saber tooth tiger jumping out in front of us.

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And what our brain does at that moment is it

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actually shuts itself down from thinking. Imagine that the world's

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largest supercomputer. Imagine what size the off switch must be.

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But that's exactly what we do, and we stop thinking,

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and we go into this kneejer fight or flight or

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freeze response that everybody knows, we're all biochemists, and we

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actually just kneeda respond. And you know, that was a

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self protecting mechanism that made us move rather than think,

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which could have been the difference between being life and

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lunch back in the day. But actually, if you look

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in your HR manual at work, sorry to go back

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to work, but you know both of those things, fighting

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or fleeing from work are both entreplineary offenses. These days,

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they're not terribly helpful. So we've got to find ways

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to override that. And just coming back to your very

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first point in your question, there what I love about

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talking to people and helping people become more adaptable. Is

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You're absolutely right. Even if I'm doing this in a

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corporate environment, I say to them, I say to my leaders,

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this is a skill that doesn't stop at five point

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thirty in the afternoon. You know, this is the way

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that most organizations deal with change is that they treat

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it like a business process. You know, we're going to

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put in a new IT system and it's going to

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have a beginning, a middle, and an end. It's a project.

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But actually change adaptability isn't isn't a business process. It's

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an attitude to life. And when you start exploring what

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gets me very excited is when you start exploring our

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relationship with change, when you can start to see even

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negative change as the opportunity to make a positive difference,

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then you start seeing change for what it really is,

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which is that it's the chance to make a difference

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in life. And then you get into a whole existential

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debate about why are we here and if the answer

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to that is anything other than we just want to

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sit on our hands until the pension of the four

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one K kicks in, then if you're actually here to

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make any kind of difference, then grabbing hold of change,

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embracing change, even the worst kind of change, you know,

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the loss of a loved one, losing your job, whatever

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it is. You know, it's not just about resilience. This

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resilience is designed as having the ability to bounce back.

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Adaptability is all about having the ability to bounce higher

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and to take whatever that negative was and actually emerge

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from that bigger, faster, better, stronger than you were before.

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And I believe that anybody can do that in any

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situation if they so have the will, and there are

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the means to learn that.

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Yeah, and you know it's interesting. I remember that when

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I was working with Dennis in particular. One of the

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first things I'd say to them when I started working

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with them as a client, as I said, you know it,

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you've got five employees. I can guarantee you one of

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them is going to be gone within six weeks. And

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the reason I knew that is because within that percentage,

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there was always one person that really didn't want to

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be there, and to some degree they were actually shooting

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everybody else in the back without anyone knowing it. And

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it always happened, It always happened. But when you think

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about business, when we think about people in their lives,

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how often do we find ourselves stuck in a situation

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and we keep living our life, keep experiencing whatever we're

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experiencing our business, keep experience that same thing, and the

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fear of change, of the unknown is so strong that

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oftentimes it prevents us from doing anything about it. My

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daughter was getting her master's degree in sociology and was

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ready to move on to a PhD. And she called me,

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she says, Dad, I'm just not feeling right about something.

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And it took her probably six months to realize that

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that she didn't want to go on and get that PhD.

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She wanted to get out into the business world and

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did wanted more of a balanced life than what.

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She saw was going to happen. And what I found

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was the fear of the unknown for her was so.

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Great that it really took her a long time to

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make that decision. So, as you work with businesses, or

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if you're working with people in general, how do you

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help them to understand number one, that change can be

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valuable in their lives. It can literally change their experiences

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of life or of business. And number two, how to

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overcome that fear of change and become adaptable to where

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they can make the change and make it a positive

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experience for themselves.

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Sure, so what I do is I start off talking

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to people about their fears and anxieties. Now, it's important

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to differentiate between the two. We use those two terms

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interchangeably in common parlance, but actually they are different things.

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And that's not just a you know, from the flature

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point of intellectual impress If we understand that they are different,

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then we can actually treat them differently too. So fear

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is your reaction to a clear and present danger, it's

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that saber tooth tiger that appears. Anxiety is what you

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feel when that saber tooth tiger disappears back off into

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the long grass and you don't know where he is anymore,

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and all of a sudden, you're wondering if you're the

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fastest runner in the village, or more or more appropriately,

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the slowest. Anxiety is your reaction to your future perceived

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negative state. So immediately there are differences right between fear

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and anxiety. Fear is your reaction to something that's real

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and something that's actually happening. Right now, You've just been

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told that you're going to be let go. Anxiety is

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making up y stuff in your mind about what could

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possibly go wrong in the future. And here's how here's again,

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it's another self protecting mechanism. Anxiety is a car crash

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of two absolutely brilliant things that we have going for

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us as humans. The first is, and it's one of

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the reasons we run the planet for better or worse,

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is that we have this ability to imagine a future

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that doesn't yet exist. We have imagination. And the other

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is this self protecting mechanism where we have negativity bias,

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as the psychologists call it, which is we tend to

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think about what could possibly go wrong. Again, that's really

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good if you're out on the savannah hanging around with

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saber toothed tigers on their own. Each of those is

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really useful. But as you can see, put those two

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things together, a highly active imagination with the ability to

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see the negative or the focus on the negative, and

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all of a sudden, what we do is we take

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a potential negative scenario, then we multiply that by another

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potential negative scenario. Then eventually we multiply that by our

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phone number. And what we've created for ourselves is a

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cliff and we end up perceiving ourselves at rock bottom

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at the bottom of that. And a study and State

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University said that ninety percent of what we worry about

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never actually happens. Now, that's not to dismiss the anxiety

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that is one hundred percent real that results from that,

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but we consume a huge amount of energy worrying about

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stuff that doesn't matter. So one of the one of

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the antidotes to anxiety is what psychologists call rational emotional

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behavior therapy or what I call rational thoughtfulness, which is

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you have to sit as judge and jury on yourself

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and actually question is this thought that I'm having, is

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it really real? Is it likely to happen? Or am

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I just playing it so safe that it's affecting my

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ability to actually do anything about controlling my future? Right. So,

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once we've once we've understood that that in itself, gales

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fall from people's eyes. Clients I've had, when they understand

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and they've got a label and they can better understand

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why they're feeling what they're feeling and why they're feeling it,

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that is half the journey. And look, I've got a

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whole bunch of antidotes to combat the reasons that we

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resist change that generate fear and anxiety. But once once

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you've done that, what you're effectively doing is helping people

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to get out of their own way. Fear can be controlled.

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You can't stop feeling fear, but you can control it.

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You can absolutely manage your anxiety. The American Psychological Association

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says that anxiety is imminently treatable. The problem is identifying it,

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of course, because we're all really world class keeping our

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anxieties hidden, aren't we. And once you've got out of

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your way, then you can start seeing change for what

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it is, which are a couple of things, the ability

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to make a difference, to be relevant, to add value,

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and the other one. Ultimately, it gives us the freedom

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to grow as individuals, to take that negativity or whatever

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it was. We can go from negative to neutral, we

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can go from good to great. Change gives us the

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opportunity to learn about ourselves in ways that the status

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quo can only dream of. And that's what I'm really

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try and instill in people is that even when bad

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things happen to you, look good things might happen to you.

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Bad things are definitely going to happen to you. If

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you've already got friends and loved ones, at some point

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you're going to lose friends or you're going to physically

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lose loved ones. These things happen, but it's how It's

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not what happens to your life, of course, it's how

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you deal with it and your attitude towards those of

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If you can see change in those terms, then that

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and I love the philosophy on this, is that as

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we're living our lives, we set certain goals, we may

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reach them and all of a sudden, it's like, what

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do we do next? I just achieved what I wanted

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to do achieve and again then you get into this

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whole concept of change, and I use the word adventure,

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and for me, it's like, you know what, when you

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can get to the point that you're going to be

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willing to have an adventure in your life, it makes

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an entire difference in your experience of life. It creates curiosity,

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it creates excitement, and as you say so often, it

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gives us the ability to make a difference in other

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people's lives.

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That's absolutely spot on, Because let's go to definitions, because

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you've used the word curiosity there. If you look up

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adaptability in the dictionary, it says something like the ability

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to adjust to new conditions, which is entirely correct, a

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little bit dry, and almost entirely useless at explaining to

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us what it is and what it feels like to

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be more adaptable. So I've redefined it along three lines.

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It is about having the curiosity you'll bang on to

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see the need or opportunity for change. It is about

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having the courage to actually make that change happen, and

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that speaks to your word adventure. And it's about having

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the velocity to make the right turn in the right

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direction at the right time, because, as we all know,

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if you do the right thing at the wrong time,

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it can still yield the wrong result unfortunately. So if

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you've got all of those three things, and if you

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can see any change that you face in those terms,

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then you're absolutely right. I wouldn't agree with you more.

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Life is an adventure, and adventures don't always go according

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Yeah, And as you say that, when you know we

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do the right thing at the right time, sometimes we'll

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do the wrong thing at the right time, or we'll

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do the right thing at the wrong time, and you know,

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when that occurs, then you get into this concept of

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gratitude and the fact that you know, what, I just

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made a mistake, and rather than beating myself up about it,

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what did I learn? Because we're not perfect in our decisions.

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We're not one hundred percent perfect ever, so to be

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able to move forward and to keep on that adventure

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and recognize, Okay, I'm going to make some mistakes, but

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I'm going to learn from them and readapt and that's

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where you get into the adaptability again. All of a sudden,

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you find yourself on that path of moving this way

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and that way, and this way and that way, but

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ultimately you're going on a straight line.

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If you were to do that, you don't want. This

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is a point again, I completely agree. It's a point

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of frustration for me back to my corporate environment that

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there's there's a lot of talk by people like me

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and you on on shows like saying, look, it's okay

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to fail. And I absolutely believe that, you know, fail

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stands for first attempt in learning and Nelson Mandela, I

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either win or I learn, you know, either way, I

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win and all of these things are true. The trouble

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is that in the real world I see an awful

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lot of leaders and even if people are only putting

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the context of this discussion in their personal lives, you know,

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we most of us go to work that there is

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still there is still a resistance to change our attitude

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that we were brought up. I maybe my generation, we

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were brought up with the idea that all failure is bad,

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all failure is negative, and I think for a lot

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of people in the real world, it's still very difficult

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for them to accept that failure is part of success,

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the journey towards success and let alone. You know, they

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had to grit their teeth to pat somebody on the back.

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I can say, you know, you failed, but you tried hard,

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and you're made of the right stuff, and we really

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want our people to model this behavior and ultimately we

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will succeed if we keep failing forwards. You know, there's

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a lot of people that read articles about that stuff,

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listen to things like this and just can't bring themselves

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to actually do it in the real world. But myself

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and people like you hopefully can get that message out there.

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That's you know, if you fail, if you fail in

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a small way, If you fail in a small way

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that is reversible, where you can you go down the

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wrong path and you can come back up and go

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back down a different route. That's the kind of spirit

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of adventure that you need to embrace change and for

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that to end up being successful.

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Well, And it's really a mindset change.

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It's really you know, we talk about emotional intelligence, we

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talk about general intelligence. I know you talk about adaptability intelligence,

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but the reality is it's a mindset that we have

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to change. So as you're working with corporate leaders and

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you see that they're so resistant to change, and you

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know that it really is a focus of that mindset

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that they have, and regardless of what's underneath that's causing that,

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how do you help them to change their mindset and

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begin to understand truly that change is okay and it's

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an adventure.

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It's this, it's this kind of two two step approach.

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I suppose there's it's not written. It's not really carrot

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and stick, but it is. It is about helping people

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get out of their own way. That in itself is

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big news for a lot of people who feel that

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that kind of fear and anxiety when when you when

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you even say the words change, it unges up. All

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sorts of your brain comes alive. You're an MRI scan

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of people who hear the word change. You know it

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will be a complete light show going on in there.

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What people have really struggled to understand inherently is that

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even negative change can be an opportunity for you to

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learn and grow and make a difference. That's the big difference.

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And I suppose when I say to people, when you

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remember the last time that you became more adaptable, I've

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only ever had one person say I can remember exactly

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when I became more adaptable, and it was the day

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after my best friend died and I realized that life

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was for living and I better start doing things pretty

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differently right now. You know, it's pretty profound. For most people.

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They either don't believe it's possible or they've never really

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thought about it, which is strange when you do think

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about it, given the world of increasing uncertainty and complexity

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that we live in. Our relationship with change is really

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about our relationship with life. And when you start painting

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a bigger picture like that, for people, it helps them

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to become more comfortable with the idea. Ultimately, what we're

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trying to do here is get people to come outside

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of their comfort zone, and that, by definition, is an

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uncomfortable thing to do. Yes, So what you've got, what

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you've got to do is convince people that they can

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get out of their own way, that there is a

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pot of honey at the end of the rainbow. There

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are reasons to embrace it. Oh and by the way,

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if you don't, if you wait until the platform is burning,

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then you are you are going to get burned. And

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it's better to jump on your own terms than be

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pushed when you absolutely have no option but to embrace change,

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so that the motto of that you hear is change

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will be changed is absolutely true.

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Well, and you know, as you talk about then a

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smile and big when you said, you know, convince people

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that they have to make a change or that they

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can make a change, Well, in my mind, we can

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never convince anyone of anything. They need to convince themselves.

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So here's my question is you're working with individuals, whether

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they're be in business or otherwise, how do you help

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them to understand that number one change needs to occur

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and number two, they can internally make that change.

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So what you have to do well. The way I

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do it, anyway, is to tap into people's popes and dreams.

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I suppose it is maybe a bit a bit of

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a flowery way of saying it, but what is it

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that people want to achieve? Now? If the kind of

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people that I deal with are normally reasonably ambitious people,

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they haven't They haven't called me just to tell me

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that their life is fine and that they don't want

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to change anything. So the people that I normally deal

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with do want some form of change. What I also

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find out is that the issue is never the issue,

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and the reason that people contact is never the real

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reason when we when we get down to it. But

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if you talk to people about what is it that

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blank canvas? What is it that you actually want to achieve?

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And then and then they will paint some picture for

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you that involves either a small or large degree of change.

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And then we then we go back to, well, okay,

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what's the reality right now? And then what are the

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hurdles that are stopping you? And then we just gently

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break down those hurdles we understand what they are. Lots

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and lots of questioning why do you think this is

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a hurdle. Why do you think it's something that you

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that either exists, because it might may not. And if

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it does exist, why do you think that you can't

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overcome it? And then we'll look at examples in their

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their life and we'll talk about the best things that

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have happened to them, the worst things that have happened

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to them, and how they've coped. And what you'll always

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find is that people people tend to underestimate themselves. And

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if you actually go digging, you don't have to do

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too much digging in the past. You know, I'm not

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a psychoanalyst or anything. I'm just an x CEO who

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got excited about helping people deal with change. But what

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you'll find is people have actually been through probably more

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than they realize, and come out the other side, maybe

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even stronger. So the path that they want to go

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on is actually a path they've already started along. And

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all I'm going to do is boost them and catalyze

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that journey with you know, a few antidotes who combat

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00:27:33.000 --> 00:27:35.480
the reasons they resist change, and a few stimulants to

468
00:27:35.519 --> 00:27:38.519
boost the reasons they love it. And then you know, you.

469
00:27:38.920 --> 00:27:42.440
You you help them find what that roadmap is and

470
00:27:42.480 --> 00:27:46.319
then gently help them along that and there you go,

471
00:27:46.400 --> 00:27:48.920
it's not you know, it's not a difficult model.

472
00:27:49.319 --> 00:27:51.640
Well, and you know, I was We were having a

473
00:27:51.680 --> 00:27:56.200
discussion like this in a previous podcast, and they brought

474
00:27:56.279 --> 00:27:59.640
up the concept of a ladder, and I brought up

475
00:27:59.640 --> 00:28:01.839
a kind of scept Okay, here's the goals that we're

476
00:28:01.839 --> 00:28:04.240
trying to achieve. And this sent me as you were

477
00:28:04.279 --> 00:28:07.640
talking that here is one possible way for people to

478
00:28:07.799 --> 00:28:11.160
really develop this courage and the bravery to make that change,

479
00:28:11.200 --> 00:28:13.839
because all right, here's my goal. It's at the top

480
00:28:13.880 --> 00:28:16.880
of the ladder. So if we go to the previous rung,

481
00:28:17.240 --> 00:28:20.359
what happens to what has to happen there in order

482
00:28:20.400 --> 00:28:22.599
to achieve that goal? And all of a sudden you

483
00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:26.480
go to wrong previous rung, previous rung, previous rung, and

484
00:28:26.559 --> 00:28:28.200
all of a sudden you get down to the here

485
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:31.240
and now, and they're going, Wow, I have got to

486
00:28:31.279 --> 00:28:35.000
make this change if I really wanted to accomplish that goal.

487
00:28:35.519 --> 00:28:38.559
And I think it's so wonderful when people can become

488
00:28:38.640 --> 00:28:41.799
a little bit of analytical and work backwards from that

489
00:28:41.960 --> 00:28:45.319
goal rather than jumping forward and realizing, you know, it's

490
00:28:45.359 --> 00:28:48.799
step by step I can climb that ladder, but I've

491
00:28:48.839 --> 00:28:51.400
got to be willing at this rung to do what

492
00:28:51.440 --> 00:28:53.119
I have to do in order to get to the

493
00:28:53.119 --> 00:28:53.839
next rung. Up.

494
00:28:53.960 --> 00:28:58.039
Yeah, absolutely, the Stephen Covey start with the end in mind.

495
00:28:59.519 --> 00:29:04.599
Absolutely right. So yeah, I couldn't. Again, I couldn't. I

496
00:29:04.680 --> 00:29:08.079
couldn't agree more that the model that I've developed for

497
00:29:08.160 --> 00:29:12.400
adaptability intelligence is also a ladder. It's only got four rungs.

498
00:29:13.160 --> 00:29:17.680
But the basic philosophy says that if you can learn

499
00:29:17.720 --> 00:29:21.880
to control your fear, and you can, then you are

500
00:29:21.960 --> 00:29:27.200
much less likely to feel the benctious or feel anxiety

501
00:29:27.279 --> 00:29:30.240
about whatever it is that you think and imagine might

502
00:29:30.319 --> 00:29:34.279
be waiting for you over the horizon or around the corner.

503
00:29:34.559 --> 00:29:36.720
And once you've managed to control your fear and manage

504
00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:39.960
your anxiety, then you can start seeing change as an

505
00:29:39.960 --> 00:29:44.319
opportunity for relevance, to make a difference and to add

506
00:29:44.440 --> 00:29:49.039
value to society, if we're not getting too overblown here.

507
00:29:49.359 --> 00:29:54.359
And then ultimately it is about then using change as

508
00:29:54.359 --> 00:29:57.319
a vehicle to explore the boundaries of what you yourself

509
00:29:57.559 --> 00:30:00.960
are capable of doing. And if that is in any

510
00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:05.480
way translated into what your personal goal is. Then absolutely

511
00:30:05.519 --> 00:30:07.880
you work backwards and say, well, if you want to

512
00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:11.799
see changes, even negative change is something positive. We need

513
00:30:11.839 --> 00:30:14.319
to figure out how you're going to work on your

514
00:30:14.319 --> 00:30:17.119
fear and anxiety. Otherwise you're never going to get past

515
00:30:17.160 --> 00:30:20.400
those stages and you're going to be perpetually in a

516
00:30:20.480 --> 00:30:25.799
vicious cycle, digging yourself a big deep hole that becomes

517
00:30:25.920 --> 00:30:29.160
too big, too deep for you to pull yourself out

518
00:30:29.200 --> 00:30:33.759
of it. Which is why lots of anxiety therapies, like

519
00:30:33.880 --> 00:30:37.599
talking therapies, being open and transparent and vulnerable. They all

520
00:30:37.640 --> 00:30:40.599
rely on the energy of others, which is which is

521
00:30:40.640 --> 00:30:43.319
one of the key things that I that I help

522
00:30:43.359 --> 00:30:47.000
my clients with that. You know, porking is talking.

523
00:30:46.720 --> 00:30:49.599
Is good well, and it always does it. It always boils

524
00:30:49.640 --> 00:30:52.440
down to that fear and anxiety. And I really I

525
00:30:52.480 --> 00:30:55.799
love how you've kind of separated the two because one is,

526
00:30:55.920 --> 00:31:00.680
as you say, real to some degree, but the anxiety

527
00:31:01.119 --> 00:31:03.839
is the emotion that we have allowed to occur in

528
00:31:03.880 --> 00:31:06.680
our lives because of that fear. And to be able

529
00:31:06.720 --> 00:31:10.960
to change that mindset and be able to recognize that, Okay,

530
00:31:11.000 --> 00:31:14.640
I'm starting to feel anxious. Why Why and all of

531
00:31:14.680 --> 00:31:16.759
a sudden as you start to look at that and

532
00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:19.240
kind of step outside of yourself and start to really

533
00:31:19.319 --> 00:31:20.680
analyze what's going on.

534
00:31:20.960 --> 00:31:22.240
That can make such a difference.

535
00:31:22.319 --> 00:31:24.160
Now, I know you've got some good stories, do you

536
00:31:24.480 --> 00:31:26.880
any of them that you can share? As far as

537
00:31:26.920 --> 00:31:29.559
working with clients and what has happened for them?

538
00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:33.440
I suppose the most common generic one that I deal

539
00:31:33.480 --> 00:31:37.920
with with corporate class. The biggest problem that people have

540
00:31:38.400 --> 00:31:41.720
and non smiling is that they get promoted, not that

541
00:31:41.759 --> 00:31:44.480
they lose their job. Because if people lose their job,

542
00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:47.359
it's pretty simple as to what you have to do

543
00:31:48.480 --> 00:31:52.559
and helping them. And you know, all of those mechanisms

544
00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:57.599
that are in place in corporate society, recruitment consultants and cvs,

545
00:31:57.640 --> 00:32:00.359
and you know, there's a kind of set process. But

546
00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:02.880
what happens when you actually get what you wish for

547
00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:06.599
and you're or don't and you're promoted into a role

548
00:32:06.839 --> 00:32:10.720
that is way beyond you. You know, when you know

549
00:32:10.759 --> 00:32:15.680
that people like Michelle Obama have got imposter syndrome, then

550
00:32:15.720 --> 00:32:18.880
then you know that anybody can get it right. And

551
00:32:18.960 --> 00:32:23.240
imposter syndrome is absolutely I am. I am surprised in

552
00:32:23.319 --> 00:32:25.359
the time that I've set up this business. I had

553
00:32:25.440 --> 00:32:29.440
no idea just how prevalent imposter syndrome is.

554
00:32:30.799 --> 00:32:32.759
Define impasture syndrome through the artist.

555
00:32:32.839 --> 00:32:35.519
Oh, I'm not I'm not good enough. I am not

556
00:32:35.559 --> 00:32:38.680
as good as everybody thinks I am. I don't deserve

557
00:32:38.720 --> 00:32:41.079
to be here, I don't deserve to have what I've got,

558
00:32:42.200 --> 00:32:45.640
and I'm a complete fraud. And at some point somebody

559
00:32:45.720 --> 00:32:49.359
is going to find me out. And if I'm if

560
00:32:49.440 --> 00:32:51.880
I'm promoted, then they're going to find out faster.

561
00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:54.720
And yeah, they want their promotion. They want their promotion.

562
00:32:54.920 --> 00:32:59.960
Yeah, because they've had that conversation with me. They define

563
00:33:00.079 --> 00:33:02.039
what the heart of gold looks like at the end

564
00:33:02.079 --> 00:33:03.960
of their rainbow where they're trying to get to in

565
00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:08.359
their life. And this is this role is absolutely part

566
00:33:08.400 --> 00:33:11.079
of the roadmap. So I know I want it, but

567
00:33:11.119 --> 00:33:13.119
I don't want it. I want it, but I don't

568
00:33:13.160 --> 00:33:14.839
want I can do this. I haven't got a clue

569
00:33:14.880 --> 00:33:17.480
how to do this. You know, all these all these

570
00:33:17.519 --> 00:33:20.839
things are going on in our minds. So the thing

571
00:33:20.920 --> 00:33:25.319
to do is really to help people just rationalize, tether

572
00:33:25.400 --> 00:33:30.000
them back to planet and just say why do you think?

573
00:33:30.240 --> 00:33:32.279
Why do you think you? And I have done this.

574
00:33:32.559 --> 00:33:35.240
I did this just quite recently actually with somebody. But

575
00:33:35.279 --> 00:33:39.160
I'm trying to keep it reasonably generic that that that

576
00:33:39.359 --> 00:33:42.920
person was saying exactly all of those things, I'm going

577
00:33:42.960 --> 00:33:45.160
to get found out. And I said, Okay, why do

578
00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:48.960
you think you've been promoted? So don't use their words,

579
00:33:49.200 --> 00:33:54.039
use their bosses, their new bosses words. So why why

580
00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:57.119
were they given so you somebody else's words? Because we're

581
00:33:57.200 --> 00:34:00.000
much more likely to believe other people than ourselves. I'm

582
00:34:00.039 --> 00:34:02.559
the least trustworthy person here. I don't know what I'm

583
00:34:02.599 --> 00:34:04.880
talking about, and I don't deserve this role. You know,

584
00:34:04.960 --> 00:34:08.119
that's the mindset that we're in. So why do they

585
00:34:08.159 --> 00:34:12.000
think that you were worthy? Can you call on any

586
00:34:12.039 --> 00:34:15.840
experience that you've been through that would make you think that,

587
00:34:16.039 --> 00:34:19.719
actually you've got the basic foundations and the gap here, Yeah,

588
00:34:19.719 --> 00:34:22.199
there's a gap. There should be a gap. Nobody goes

589
00:34:22.199 --> 00:34:25.440
into a new role fully competent. Otherwise it's not a

590
00:34:25.559 --> 00:34:29.199
challenge and it's not an adventure. But that gap may

591
00:34:29.199 --> 00:34:31.679
be smaller than you think. And it's really just a

592
00:34:31.760 --> 00:34:34.880
question of talking them through, working through with their fears

593
00:34:34.920 --> 00:34:37.360
and their anxieties. And you know, I've got a whole

594
00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:41.119
bunch of tools that can help people deal with that,

595
00:34:41.400 --> 00:34:46.679
and I mentioned rational thoughtfulness. That's a really useful one

596
00:34:47.119 --> 00:34:51.000
because it forces people to have a rational conversation with

597
00:34:51.039 --> 00:34:55.760
them and most of the time anxiety is not rational.

598
00:34:55.960 --> 00:35:00.639
In small doses, anxiety can actually be really helpful. Problem is,

599
00:35:01.159 --> 00:35:05.280
we're not very good at containing anxiety to to small doses.

600
00:35:05.960 --> 00:35:09.960
So one of the things I'm sorry, go ahead, sorry, oh,

601
00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:10.840
I was going to say.

602
00:35:10.840 --> 00:35:12.480
One of the things that you mentioned that I saw

603
00:35:12.519 --> 00:35:14.920
in one of your talking points was talking about a

604
00:35:14.960 --> 00:35:17.800
client that you that was self sabotaging.

605
00:35:17.199 --> 00:35:19.079
And that really struck me.

606
00:35:19.119 --> 00:35:21.960
Because I think so often in life we find ourselves

607
00:35:22.199 --> 00:35:27.000
self sabotaging and preventing ourselves from actually.

608
00:35:26.719 --> 00:35:29.960
Accomplishing what we could accomplish. Can you share the story?

609
00:35:30.039 --> 00:35:32.199
Can you Can you share that story with the ideas?

610
00:35:32.920 --> 00:35:37.440
Yeah? I can. I can absolutely share that. So, yeah,

611
00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:41.039
this this this person. It's quite kind of tiring, and

612
00:35:41.079 --> 00:35:45.599
it's frustrating when somebody doesn't see you know. I've been

613
00:35:45.639 --> 00:35:48.719
a CEO. I've led teams with hundreds of people based

614
00:35:48.760 --> 00:35:53.199
on four continents, and the hardest and easiest part of

615
00:35:53.239 --> 00:35:57.159
my job has been pulling the ego maniacs down off

616
00:35:57.199 --> 00:36:00.920
their misguided pedestals, you know, when they think that they're

617
00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:04.719
so much better than they actually are. It's frustrating to

618
00:36:04.719 --> 00:36:07.480
do the other way around though, when you are trying

619
00:36:07.519 --> 00:36:12.440
to convince really good talented people that they are they

620
00:36:12.440 --> 00:36:17.159
are better than they are. And you see that if

621
00:36:17.159 --> 00:36:20.239
you don't solve this problem, and if this problem doesn't

622
00:36:20.239 --> 00:36:23.599
get solved, then the trajectory that you can see for

623
00:36:23.679 --> 00:36:27.639
that person, for where they're going versus what their potential

624
00:36:27.679 --> 00:36:31.119
could take them to, that those lines are just company

625
00:36:31.280 --> 00:36:35.840
who diverge exponentially, and this person is going to be

626
00:36:36.719 --> 00:36:39.679
a waste of talent and dare I say it, in

627
00:36:39.719 --> 00:36:43.159
my opinion, a waste of life. And that's why I'm

628
00:36:43.199 --> 00:36:47.960
so keen that people embrace change, even the tough stuff,

629
00:36:48.280 --> 00:36:52.920
because it's really existential about why we're here. So anyway,

630
00:36:52.960 --> 00:36:55.960
this person just wasn't having a bar of it. That

631
00:36:56.079 --> 00:37:00.679
they wouldn't they wouldn't accept that they were ready to

632
00:37:01.840 --> 00:37:04.920
step up, that they were as good as I was saying.

633
00:37:05.400 --> 00:37:12.119
They thought I was just you know, being a nice coach. Sorry,

634
00:37:13.280 --> 00:37:16.519
and yeah, so it was really again just a question

635
00:37:16.559 --> 00:37:20.639
of talking through and when their mind was running away

636
00:37:20.679 --> 00:37:24.400
with them. I used another of my favorite tools, which

637
00:37:24.440 --> 00:37:28.559
is mindfulness with them. Now, everyone, it's good. These days,

638
00:37:28.559 --> 00:37:32.239
everyone knows what mindfulness is. And I don't claim to

639
00:37:32.239 --> 00:37:35.960
be an expert. I certainly don't do any of the

640
00:37:36.079 --> 00:37:39.719
technical stuff yoga and breathing and meditation and all of that.

641
00:37:40.159 --> 00:37:43.599
For me, even at its most base level, which is

642
00:37:43.800 --> 00:37:46.639
just that concept of living in the moment, it is

643
00:37:46.679 --> 00:37:52.079
the perfect antidotes to anxiety. And here's why. Remember I said,

644
00:37:52.119 --> 00:37:56.880
anxiety is about your negative, your perceived negative future states.

645
00:37:57.199 --> 00:37:59.440
So what we what we make for ourselves is this

646
00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:03.000
exponential curve going into the future where we fall off

647
00:38:03.039 --> 00:38:06.679
a cliff. Well, the more that we can live in

648
00:38:06.719 --> 00:38:10.559
the moment, the further back up that cliff we bring

649
00:38:10.599 --> 00:38:14.000
our mind and our thoughts. Now, I don't claim to

650
00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:17.599
be perfectly mindful. I don't always live just in the moment.

651
00:38:17.920 --> 00:38:21.360
But the more that you can live in today and

652
00:38:21.559 --> 00:38:25.119
understand that mindfulness is about letting go of the future,

653
00:38:25.320 --> 00:38:28.599
letting go of the past, letting go of judgment, and

654
00:38:28.719 --> 00:38:31.519
just accepting things and appreciating things for what they are

655
00:38:32.280 --> 00:38:35.440
right here, right now, then by definition, the more that

656
00:38:35.480 --> 00:38:38.840
you're doing that, the less, by definition that you can

657
00:38:38.960 --> 00:38:43.519
feel anxious, and it's that anxiety about if I accept

658
00:38:43.519 --> 00:38:47.320
this job, if I dare to believe that I'm as

659
00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:51.639
good as this guy is saying I am, then all

660
00:38:51.679 --> 00:38:55.239
of these expectations will be upon me, and that's a burden.

661
00:38:55.679 --> 00:38:58.639
I just don't think that this person just didn't think

662
00:38:58.639 --> 00:39:02.079
that they were capable of doing those things. And what

663
00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:05.119
you've got to do is rationalize with them, make them

664
00:39:05.159 --> 00:39:08.400
live in the moment, make them turn all of that

665
00:39:08.840 --> 00:39:12.119
energy in their mind that was going towards the anxiety.

666
00:39:12.719 --> 00:39:16.360
Here's the thing, right. Your brain only weighs three percent

667
00:39:16.360 --> 00:39:19.239
of your body weight, but it consumes twenty percent of

668
00:39:19.280 --> 00:39:23.400
your energy. So when people say that anxiety is exhausting,

669
00:39:23.480 --> 00:39:28.480
they're not talking metaphorically. It actually consumes calories and it

670
00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:32.599
is genuinely exhausting. And if Penn State University are right,

671
00:39:32.719 --> 00:39:35.679
then most of that energy is wasted. And my job

672
00:39:36.199 --> 00:39:41.599
is to help people the self sabotages or the people

673
00:39:41.599 --> 00:39:44.880
who think they've got impostera syndrome, is to help them

674
00:39:45.039 --> 00:39:48.400
use all of that energy and turn it on its head.

675
00:39:48.440 --> 00:39:51.440
It becomes a double whammy. Not only have we neutralized

676
00:39:51.480 --> 00:39:53.920
that negative, but we've then got all of that energy

677
00:39:53.960 --> 00:39:59.039
available to us to actually do the rational thoughtfulness so

678
00:39:59.079 --> 00:40:01.840
that I can have a proper conversation with myself about

679
00:40:02.079 --> 00:40:04.960
am I really thinking the right thoughts when I say

680
00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:07.800
I'm not good enough? And and nine times out of ten,

681
00:40:07.880 --> 00:40:10.679
if I'm telling somebody that they're good I'm pretty tough,

682
00:40:10.719 --> 00:40:13.880
you know, as a pretty tough CEO. If I'm telling

683
00:40:13.880 --> 00:40:16.119
people they're good enough, then then the chances are they

684
00:40:16.119 --> 00:40:19.440
probably are and they'll come to that conclusion. You know.

685
00:40:19.840 --> 00:40:22.239
In this case, I got most of the way there.

686
00:40:22.559 --> 00:40:24.559
Great, So so let me ask you a question.

687
00:40:24.639 --> 00:40:26.519
How do people find you? And I know you've written

688
00:40:26.519 --> 00:40:29.559
an ebook. What's the name of that book? And how

689
00:40:29.559 --> 00:40:32.639
can people access that book? As far as what is

690
00:40:32.679 --> 00:40:34.360
it called? Mastering Adaptability?

691
00:40:34.800 --> 00:40:38.159
That's right? Yeah, So everything you need to know about

692
00:40:38.199 --> 00:40:42.960
the work that I do is on high Performance Change

693
00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:46.960
dot com. That's all one word, high Performance change dot com.

694
00:40:47.039 --> 00:40:49.440
There's the ebook on there, there's access to the ebook,

695
00:40:49.800 --> 00:40:53.199
there's lots of blogs on there, there's videos, it's all

696
00:40:53.239 --> 00:40:56.440
it's all free. The ebook is free. It's for anybody

697
00:40:57.239 --> 00:41:01.480
who wants it. It's there, and I'm I'm delighted to

698
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:04.719
open the doors to whoever is interested. Oh, wonderful.

699
00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:08.480
So as we're close, is there a final message.

700
00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:10.320
That you'd like to share with the idea? Well, there is,

701
00:41:10.760 --> 00:41:13.920
and it is this and what really excites me, and

702
00:41:14.000 --> 00:41:16.559
it comes back to an earlier point. The only thing

703
00:41:16.639 --> 00:41:18.920
that I would want anyone to take away and remember

704
00:41:18.960 --> 00:41:22.440
about anything that I've said is this. It is entirely

705
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possible to become more adaptable. It is not something that

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is baked into your DNA and that you're just lucky

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or not lucky enough to be born with. We call

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it a form of intelligence because it can be learned

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and applied. Looks like maths or musical or martial art.

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Adaptability intelligence is just another form of intelligence, and you

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can learn it. We've provided a roadmap that will take

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you from the fear of change through to the freedom

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to change. And although there's only four steps on that ladder,

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it's life changing and anybody who can do it if

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they want to.

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Wonderful, Well, Rich, thanks so much. Is this has been

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a great conversation.

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I've really enjoyed it. Thanks so much for having me on. Well,

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I really appreciate it.

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And folks, I hope, I hope this has made a

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difference for you and get get on that website. I've

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actually gone there is fascinating and to have an ebook

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that you can download is really tremendous and thank you

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for that Rich. So meanwhile, folks, thanks for listening. Hope

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you'll join us again soon. This is doctor Doug saying

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no mistay