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Of competent professionals before applying or trying any suggested ideas.
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At the end of the day, it's not about what
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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what
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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,
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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.
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Denzel Washington, welcome to inspire vision. Our sole purpose is
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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you.
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To do the same.
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Stanley welcome, Hi, thank you for having me here.
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It's a pleasure to be here.
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Well, I'm excited to having you hear. And you know,
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as we were talking just before we started the recording,
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what amazes me is you're up at two o'clock in
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the morning. It's four o'clock here in the afternoon for
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me in Thailand, and I'm waiting to hear that whole story.
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But what I'd love for you to do is to
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kind of share with the audience who you are, your
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background briefly, and then what brought you to this point.
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You've written many books now and you've got an incredible,
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incredible thing you've put together called the Way of Excellence.
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I'd love to hear your story, your journey. Okay, let's
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start at the beginning. I was eight years old boy
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at school. The lady and missus Cleary from the front
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office store. Remember her name, comes to the door of
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the score room. So, Stanley, you rode your bike to school,
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didn't you? And I said yes. He said, your father
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called and he said he needs you at home. It's
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okay for you to leave. Go ride your bike home. Well,
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wondering what's going on, got on my bike, got about
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a block or two away from the school, fell off
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my bike. I sat there and I got up, and
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I had immediately realized what happened. My mother had died.
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I don't know how I knew it, but I knew it.
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I turned stone cold, got back on my bike, rode home,
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got home. Everyone was crying at home. I'm just sitting there,
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stone cold. My father's busy planning the funeral. We're Jewish.
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We bury people very quickly after they die a lot
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of times. The next day he's sitting there planning it.
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He puts me in his bedroom. He says, you can
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sit in here and cry, and he sets the door.
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Nobody came and talked to me, Nobody did anything whatever.
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I was on my own, needless to said, didn't cry.
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Next day, we're at the funeral home getting ready to
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go drive to the cemetery. I insisted that they opened
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the casket to let me see that my mother was
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in there. And then I started screaming and insisted it
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They opened it up, they let me sing her, They
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closed it back up to the cemetery. Buried or didn't cry.
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Next month or two, I had nightmares or dreams, depending
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on what you want to call it. She got up
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in the middle of the night and she walked home
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from the cemetery. But you know, nothing happening. Nothing happened.
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I'm living with my father, who's massively obese, and we
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both just ate ourselves into oblivion. Just more food, more food,
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more food, and more food. And if you look at
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my pictures from that time, I just started getting bigger
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and bigger and bigger. Most people, when the guys when
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they're married, they say they'd love to be as small
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as they were when they got married. Well, I'm smaller
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than I was when I was thirteen years old. Wow.
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And I don't know if that's a good thing or
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a crazy thing or both, but I am and I
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actually I found recently found some pictures to prove it.
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That's the that's the sad part. So going through this
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whole thing, Go through high school, you know, not as
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popular as I could I mean I was popular, but
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not as popular as I could be because I was big.
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Went to college, same story, joined a fraternity. My senior
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year of college. I lost a bunch of weight, probably
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a seventy five eighty pounds whatever like that, and started
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becoming more popular. But then that summer I was on
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a car trip with some friends of mine and they
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had cookies in the backseat, and I ate the cookies.
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Went right back in my old habits. Boom weight came
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back on. Plus more so, all the hard work that
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I did was only temporary. So lesson Number one. Temporary
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change yields temporary results. Permanent change yields permanent results. I'm
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gonna talk about that a little bit more, a little
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bit later. Okay. So if you want to change your
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life permanently, you have to make permanent changes. But we'll
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get we'll get back to that. Yeah, we'll get into
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that situation. I start moving on. Graduated from college, became
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a CPA. Certain that's a certified public accountant in the
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United States, chartered accountant elsewhere in the world. Working with
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one of my older brothers, one day out of the blue,
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where we're getting in an argument, and as brothers tend
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to do, they're screaming at each other. He sits there
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and he says, you know what you ought to do?
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And I said what he says, You ought to go
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to law school. And I said, that's a good idea.
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I think I'll do that. So I signed up for
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law school. Took me four years because I went at night.
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I became a lawyer. So lesson from that story is
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you could be arguing with someone who's totally full of crap,
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because believe me, he was. Yet you should be listening
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to what they say because some words of wisdom may
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accidentally come out of their mouth that you should hear. Amen. Yeah,
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so you know. So that changed my life and that
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was a good thing. Thank you, bro, I appreciate it.
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So there. So once again, when I got to my
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last year in law school. When in law school, that
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was when I maxed out. I was about three hundred
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and sixty seven pounds as you can see in this picture. Yeah, wow,
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I was a big boy. That's me today on the
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other side. So my senior year, my last year in
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law school, I started losing weight again. I joined weight watchers.
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I lost. I actually lost one hundred pounds. I got
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one hundred pounds ribbon. But once again, afterward I got
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small enough to get women interested in me. I could
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start dating. But I got married, started going back to
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my old habits again, as guys often do when they
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get married. And the way he started coming back on.
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But this time only sixty pounds of one hundred pounds
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came back on. And you know why, because there was
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one permanent change that I made. Remember that temporary change,
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temporate results, permanent change, permanent results. The permanent change I
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made was I used to believe it or not, get
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up in the middle of the night and eat full
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meals in the middle of the night. Wow, I mean
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a full blown meal. I'm not talking about I'm talking
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about a full blown meal. So when I was losing
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that weight through weight Watchers, I accidentally learned something. I
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came up with that thing. I would wake up ready
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to go eat a meal. At the time, I was
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eating a lot of those frozen dinners weight Watchers, frozen
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dinners with the good looking picture on the front. See
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what I what I thought was healthy back then, is
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not what I think is healthy now. I think those
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things are not good for either. Loaded with sodium, all
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they all they are is portion control. That's what That's
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what they are. So I would pull the package out
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of the freezer, I would look at the picture on
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the cover. I would imagine what it tasted like. Because
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I'd eaten tons of them, I knew what it tasted like.
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I said, that was delicious, m yummy, yummy, yummy, and
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I put it back in the freezer and then I
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went back to sleep. So by doing that, I broke
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myself in the habit of eating a meal in the
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middle of the night. Not eating a meal in the
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middle of the night was good for a forty pound
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permanent weight loss right there, right there, I was a
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permanent have it, So I asked forward, I'm getting ready
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to turn fifty years old. This was almost exactly seventeen
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years ago, February one, two thousand and nine. I remember
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the day. I call that my rebirthday. I'm getting ready
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to celebrate my seventeenth three birthday in five days. So
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at the time, it was four months before my fiftieth birthday.
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That's a time when a lot of men, you know,
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were thinking about their future, their life, and a lot
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of women do. I weighed three hundred and twenty pounds
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at the time. I wasn't my full through sixty seven,
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but I weighed through twenty, hadn't had a heart attack yet,
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had not had a stroke yet. It was not on
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diabetes medication yet, but I probably should have been. I
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wasn't on high blood pressure medication yet, but I probably
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should have been. And I was doing a lot of thinking,
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and I said to myself, where am I going to
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be in five years if I keep doing what I'm
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doing right now? Would you care to guess what? The
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answer was, probably not here anymore on the earth. Dead. Yeah,
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and guess what. I did not want to be dead,
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so I said turned to my wife and I said
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I'm done. I'm cooked. No more. Can I use colorful
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language here? No, okay, I'm gonna okay, I said, I'm
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not going to tolerate this kind of thing in my
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life anymore. So I'm done. I'm cooked. I'm going to
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learn to start eating better right now, not tomorrow, not
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last week, not next month, next week. Now, I'm going
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to start walking every day, or trying to walk every
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day if my body's capable of doing it right now.
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And the reason why I picked walking was it I
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figured you didn't need special equipment, you could do it
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almost anywhere. I figured it would beat my body up
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less than other forms of ventures. So I said, I'm
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gonna work. I'm working towards starting to walk every day
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right now. Now. Little did I know how prophetic my
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words were back then, because when I tell you where
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I'm at today versus where it was then, I hit
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it right on the money. So right away I started
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doing three things. See, not only did I admit to
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myself where I was, I took action on it, you know,
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because that was not the first time in my life
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I said that I'm killing myself by overreading. But it
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was the first time I did something about it permanently.
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So I first thing I did was I quit drinking alcohol.
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I won't say I was an alcoholic, but I will
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say I was drinking too much, and I will say
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it was not serving me. I was serving it. So
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I took my bottle of Scotch, I had pour it
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down the toilet, flushed it. That was it done. Haven't
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touched it since seventeen years. Okay, I was drinking two
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liter bottles of soda. I was drinking three of those
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a day. They were diet caffeine free, so surely those
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must have been good, right, No, No, they weren't. Like
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I said, when I thought was healthy back then, is
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not what I think is healthy now. So no more.
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I haven't had one of those in seventeen years. And
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I also quit eating beef and pork read meat, And
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that was an accomplishment for me when you consider that
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my father was a butcher, and I grew up in
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a house with unlimited free meat, and for me to
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quit eating beef and pork that was something. But I
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quit doing those and I started walking. In the beginning,
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I had trouble. I could only walk two or three blocks,
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so I did a lot of my walking. I would
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go to a pool, and that was when I started
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exercising in the middle of the night, because the only
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time in the pool was freeing available for me to
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walk was the middle of the night. So I would
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go to the gym in the middle of the night
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and I would walk because I would I started walking
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for hours, just back and forth, back and forth, and
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I would listen to audio books. I put on headphones
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water I made them waterproof and I could listen, and
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I started learning things and thinking about things and just
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spending down walking. Then as I was approaching my fiftieth birthday,
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I just I was going to start walking outside. By then,
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i'd lost almost fifty pounds, fifty more pounds, so I
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was down to about two seventy you know, something like that,
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and I started walking outside. That went on for, you know,
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another four and a half years or so. Then I
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decided I was going to make another push. I was ready,
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and so that next push was I gave up chicken
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and turkey. So essentially I went vegetarian because my research
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indicated that was better for my health. That was better
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for me, and I kept walking and I lost more weight. Now,
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one thing I want to emphasize about this whole thing.
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This was not a straight line process. I had good days,
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I had bad days. I had days where I did great.
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I had days where I messed up. But the important
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thing is I got started and I kept going. Every
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time I messed up, every time I fell off the wagon,
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I got back on the wagon. I hopped right back