Dec. 2, 2024

Addiction Recovery with The Law of Attraction

Addiction Recovery with The Law of Attraction

Alcohol addiction. It can be the thing that defines our life, our health and is very difficult to overcome. Often we are not even willing to admit that it is a problem.
Welcome Mary Beth Schrudder to the show. Mary Beth was one such person who refused...

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Alcohol addiction. It can be the thing that defines our life, our health and is very difficult to overcome. Often we are not even willing to admit that it is a problem.
Welcome Mary Beth Schrudder to the show. Mary Beth was one such person who refused to admit her addiction until a moment in her life where she realized what it was doing to her life. And she made the decision.
Mary Beth shares her story and insights into how she overcame her addiction.
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Denzel Washington, welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Mary Bath, welcome to the show.

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Thank you so much for having me. I'm excited to

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be here.

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I love having you here, so I'd love for you

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to share with the audience. I find that the backstory

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is always so amazing, and I'd love for you to

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share with the audience how you got to this point

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in time, a little bit of your background and what

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brought you to this point in what you're doing.

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Well, it definitely wasn't the plan. So it has been

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a journey. I was born in the seventies, and the

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seventies were a lot different than life is today, right,

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like with parenting and things like that, parenting styles. I

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had some childhood trauma and a lot of that I

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believe leads to addictions. And that's part of my story,

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is addiction. And I got really caught up an alcohol

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addiction for over thirty years of my life actually, so

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today today I'm the founder of Day one Life Coaching

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and I help people break out of addictions. And I

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also got caught up in toxic relationships and food addiction.

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Like usually if you've got that tendency which can stem

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from childhood trauma, it can stem from being a sense

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more sensitive soul, like you can feel energies and you know,

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get overwhelmed easily. A lot of that is we're just

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seeking relief, right, it's self soothing. We're trying to self

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medicate and feel better. That's all it is, you know.

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And you know, we criminalize a lot of addiction, but

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where does it start? Usually in childhood, and so I

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try to help people out like these days, Like, once

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you get out of that darkness, it almost feels mandatory

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to me, Like to me, it's like we have to

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help other people. And so that's what I've been doing

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in my forties, is spending my forties as a life preach. Well,

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I'm fifty now, but I didn't start this journey of

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life coaching and helping people out of addiction until my forties,

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and field I wasn't ready. I was still involved in

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the addiction.

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Well, you know, and it's interesting you talk about that

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childhood trauma that can cause that, and and I know

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based on talking to other people too, that there's even

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that DNA memory. If we go back into our ancestors,

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all of a sudden, we realize that some of this

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is there just from DNA and then the ability to

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overcome it. That's the key is how do you overcome that? So,

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sure you start a little bit, how what was your

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process and what finally brought you around to the point

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that you were able to overcome not only the addiction,

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but as you say, oftentimes you end up in relationships

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that are not healthy either.

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Yeah, well, I wanted to go back to since you

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brought up the DNA memory, I wanted to go back

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to that because I didn't even know and tell my

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forties that my grandfather was a severe my dad's dad

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was a severe alcoholic and very abusive to my dad.

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So he actually died. I never met him because he

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died when my mom was pregnant with me. And I think, like,

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a lot of this is genetic, a lot of it's

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in our DNA, and we just have no idea like

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I learned. I learned that from honestly, from a psychic.

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Psychic told me about my grandfather, and I met my

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My family never talked about these things. And I asked

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my dad and he was like, that's everything she said

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is spot on true. And he was very emotionally distant.

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I mean, he's eighty one now and he's still alive,

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but he didn't talk about his family. He didn't talk

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about these things. And that was him doing his best, right,

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Like he's doing his best based on his personal experience

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with his father, you know. So he was shut down

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and you know, but he wasn't like abusive like his

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father was. But my parents were divorced when I was five,

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and yeah, a lot of that stuff causes ancient anxious

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attachment styles. I had, this abandoned meant wood when my

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parents got divorced. My brother has some issues, my sister,

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My sister has issues. She completely divorced the whole family.

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We haven't talked to her in like twelve thirteen years

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probably now, you know, just a lot of these things.

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Just we all deal with it differently, right. My brother

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was admitted to a psych ward when he was a child,

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and I was the middle child. I became like I

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did addiction. I did. That was my way of handling it, right.

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We all handle it differently. So, yeah, and that anxious

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attachment style led to toxic relationships, right, because when you're

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a child. And gabor Mate said this, I'm giving him credit,

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but gosh, it really hit home when he said this.

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Gabor Mate is a trauma expert, and he said, when

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you don't feel wanted as a child, you want to

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make damn sure that you're needed, you know, so you

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become a people pleaser. You become over accommodated, and honestly, like,

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what I know now is that people pleasing we're not

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being authentic, right, We're not being ourselves. We're kind of

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little liars if we're being honest about it. Because we're

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just telling people whatever they want to hear. You know,

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we're like me too, me too, because we don't want conflict.

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We want people to love us. We want people to

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like as it comes from a good intention, correct, But

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at the end of the day, it still is what

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it is. We are not being our true, authentic selves.

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And what do you attract when you're people pleasers? You

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tend to attract manipulators. Maybe some narcissists people they can

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see us coming from a mile away. When you're people,

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you're easy to manipulate, right, So that's why you see

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a lot of these endpaths. And you know, narcissists get together.

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It's a thing like it's stuff very very common for

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those people to connect and attract and on an energetic level,

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on a subconscious level, all the levels. So we do

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tract things that are in our programming, our patterns from childhood.

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And I didn't know this, you know, this is something

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that I know now since I've been I've studied it

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my whole life. I've always been a spiritual seeker personal development,

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very curious about all these things my entire life. So

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that's how I know. And I've had some spiritually transformative

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experiences that got me to the point that I am

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now that I'm very thankful for that. That is why

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I can say truly that I am addiction free and

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have got all of this stuff under control, alcohol free,

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and that was that was probably the one that was

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holding me down the most, that I was in denial

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of the moss. Like when I worked in the corporate world,

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I didn't I didn't love my life. A lot of

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people can probably relate to this, you know, if you're

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in the corporate world or you're you just let's just say,

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you don't like your job. You wake up every morning

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and you're unhappy, You're not joyful. We're supposed to be joyful.

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We're supposed to be happy, passionate, you know, living our life.

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We're powerful creators. And when we're not creating and we

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wake up and we're like, oh, got to do this again,

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it leads to depression.

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You know.

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So that's something that we really want to look at,

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is because you know, we can get when we're not

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on our life path and we're doing stuff we really

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don't want to do. Of course, people are depressed, anxious.

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You're sitting in cubical world and for us in lighting.

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I'm not sure that humans are meant to be living

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that way.

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Well, you know, And the one thing we were talking about,

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and you actually brought it up again, is this DNA memory.

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And I want to talk about that a little bit

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because you have done something and you know, I think

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a lot of people, you know, what what's the struggle

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and what what's the motivation to finally overcome some of

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these situations and for a lot of people that self,

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I want to be better and so forth for a

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lot of people. Though, And as you said, your dad

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stopped the abuse that he got from his dad, So

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I guarantee you that, well I can't guarantee you this,

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but my guess would be that as he was able

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to do that, he wrote into his DNA a new

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pattern that says no abuse now that may or may

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not go on. Same experience with my dad. He came,

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you know, his dad came from Norway, and I know

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that there was some at least belts taken, you know,

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and so far, and yet he never There's six kids

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in our family, never were we spanked in any way

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that was abusive at all. And because of that, as

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you look now at all the grandchildren, which I think

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they're what thirty four to thirty five, that's not happening.

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And I think for people to understand that you can

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make a difference not only in your life, but you

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can make a difference in your posterity because you can

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start to change that pattern, it literally will re embed

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itself within that DNA, and so posterity doesn't have that

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proclivity to do that, and I think that's wonderful. So

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as you as you talk about some of your spiritual

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transformative experiences and so forth, I think that's I think

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that's always of interest to people as what what did

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you experience and how did that change your direction?

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If you don't mind, Yeah, yeah, To just address what

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you said about my dad real quick, he didn't. He's

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still he's he stopped a lot of the abuse, but

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it's a you know, it's a translow transition. He's still

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hasn't addressed fully like he's like I said, he's eighty one,

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he's emotionally, you know, still messed up from that experience.

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He hasn't fully healed. But I think he's he stopped

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a lot of the abuse. Right, He wasn't physically abusive.

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He he's still emotionally distant from us, and he just

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never really was able to be the dad. He was

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more of an absent father. But it's like I understand

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that now now that I was told by that psychic right,

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that what he went through and to forgive him. I'm like,

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oh my gosh, And that's the key is forgiveness, right.

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We got to forgive all this stuff and do all

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that shadow work. And I was able to understand him,

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and especially because he admitted everything, So that's good. You know,

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he is now has awareness of that. And that's what

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I was told, is like, you know, he's just forgive

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him because he didn't have a good example of how

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to be a father, you know. So really he wasn't

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in my life very much, which honestly, in retrospect, I

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think it was probably a good thing. I mean, we talk,

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we talked these days, but you know, most of my

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life he just wasn't around. He was an absent father.

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So to go back to your what was your question?

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And I'm sorry, I know you talked about the spiritual

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transformative Okay, yeah, formative experiences that you had, so you know,

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I find it really fascinating for me there as an

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aha moment where and it was at my dad's funeral. Okay,

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a sudden It changed my entire approach to what I

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wanted to accomplish in life. And I find that everybody

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has some type of moment like that. Sometimes it's gradual

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and sometimes it's just right there for you. Explain a

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little bit about that. Yeah, it's like the transformative spiritual

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situation for you was one of them.

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Yeah, I think we all have a lot of them

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throughout life. The most significant one that I had, which

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I think put me on this trajectory, Like I was

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only eighteen, but I think it had to happen in

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order for me to get down this road because I

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was a very selfish eighteen year old. My parents had

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already moved. I stayed in Houston by myself, where I

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grew up, and essentially I was always still a spiritual seeker,

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but I think I was pretty selfish. I was already

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drinking alcohol, partying, you know. I was just this like

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all about me person. But I still was a spiritual

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seeker because I always had paranormal experiences my whole life,

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even from childhood. So I was reading this book. I

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was afraid of death, so I was reading this book

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on near death experiences. So this is probably nineteen ninety two,

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and you know, not many people were into this stuff.

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No one talked about it. But because I had that

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fear of death, I was very interested in it. And

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we can have we can spiritually transformative experience, which I

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didn't even know that term until like last year because

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it wasn't coined, you know. So that's what I've learned

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what it was since then, because back in the day,

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I didn't know what was happening to me. I'm gonna

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be honest. So I'm reading this book and we can

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be triggered to have one through a book. We don't

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have to do iowasca or plant medicine or anything like that.

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Just and I didn't know what it was. And I

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think that was better because I didn't know. I wasn't

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putting any effort into making anything happen. It just happened.

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Does that make sense. So I'm reading this book and

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it was kind of like my soul remembered, you know,

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like we're like my soul remembered. Oh yeah, this is

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how it really is. Because I'm reading these near death

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experiences and all about the life review and all of

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these things and what life's really about and all of

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these profound things in the book, and it was like

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I remembered. It was like, oh, yeah, this is stuff

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I already knew. And it just this whole energetic shift,

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this whole paradigm shift. It was like a quantum experience.

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For two weeks, I was on these highest frequencies of

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just pure bliss, joy, unconditional love. I was tapped into

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some sort of universal knowledge that like I'm able to

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think a question and have the answer downloaded to me. Like,

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by the way, this happened once and only once, in

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it lasted two weeks. I like, now I can kind

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of get glimpses of it, and I could get that area,

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but I haven't. I think it's like I said earlier,

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now I'm like trying too hard to get there, and yeah,

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do you know what I mean? And that's not what happened.

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It happened to me because it took me out of

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that selfish It took me from like base consciousness being

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all about me to this unity consciousness. It was just

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all this oneness. I was able to see how we

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all are all connected and these little things matter, and

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the ripple effect of literally everything we do and say

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it's so important. So it really was a paradigm shift

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for me and I needed to I think, in retrospect,

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I had no idea it was going to be a

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life coach later in life. I had no idea of

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any of this. But in retrospect hindsight's twenty twenty. I

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needed to have that happen. I needed to embody it

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because today I am a law of attraction teacher. I

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teach people about energy and frequencies, and you know how

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to create your own reality, create your personal reality. And

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how much control we have over each day every day

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with our thoughts, with our feelings, and with our behaviors

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of course our actions, Like how much control that we

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really have that we aren't taking advantage of because most

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people are truly living by default. They don't realize they're

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on autopilot. Think in the same thoughts every day, feel

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in the same feelings, and wondering why their life doesn't

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change because we're subconscious programming. We got to make all

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that stuff conscious.

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And you talk about addiction, and you know there's that

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deep addiction, whether it's alcohol, drug, whatever it happens to be.

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But I've always had in my mind that there's that

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addiction that we never think about, and that's the addiction

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to living the life that we're living and.

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Never comfort zample.

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really make that change. And you know, you talk about

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the law of attraction, and that's been talked about a lot,

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and you know, I mean, you know the secret, You've

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got all the movies about it and so forth, and

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I find that it's not well understood in fact. And

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I came and remember who I interviewed years ago, but

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they were part of that whole movie, and they said,

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you know what, there's things that we didn't talk about

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that have to be done for that.

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a on YouTube. There's a free one, a free thing

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that anyone could watch called Meta Secret, like metaphysical meta Secret,

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so above and beyond the secret because they knew they

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left out so many important things that left a lot.

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I love the introduction. It was a wonderful movie back

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in two thousand and six is when that came out.

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But that's why I love being a Lot of Attraction teacher,

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because there's so many misconceptions, so much wrong information and

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the things that some of us just assumed and took

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away from it on our own, like we created stories

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in our head about how it worked right, because it

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was a great movie. But the meta secret's more about

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all the things that were left out of the Secret

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and it's a lot of the same people that were

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in that original documentary.

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And you know, yeah, I was just before we came on,

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I was listening to a song the Impossible Dream. I

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don't know if you remember that song, Oh yeah, And

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you know, I think that we all experience that impossible dream,

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and the question is how do we ever reach the

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stars and actually achieve it? And as you talk about

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the law of attraction, let's talk a little bit about

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what are the misconceptions, and let's talk about what your

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discovery was. And you know, you can call the law

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of attraction whatever you want to call it, but we'll

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use the law of attraction. What have you found is

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necessary for us to be able to not only have

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that dream, but literally to be able to start to

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achieve those things that we really want to achieve.

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Yeah, So just to go over some basics in case

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you have some listeners that are like, I don't really

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know much about law of attraction. Just first of all,

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it is a universal law, just like the law of gravity.

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It's not a religion. It's really not to me. I

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know some people will call it wu wu but to me,

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it's not wu wuo. It's quantum physics. It's science because

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what it's based on is everything is energy. Everything vibrates.

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It does under a microscope. Everything vibrates, even the solids,

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and it just vibrates at different frequencies, right, So everything

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has a different vibrational frequency of rate that it vibrates,

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and so we attract based on this energy, right, things

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that we're putting out, and we have that ability to

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shift our own energy, to manipulate our energy. And so

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that's why we can be these powerful creators of our

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day if once we're aware of this, and once we

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are aware of how to intentionally create our day and

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shift our energy personally, So a lot of people think, well,

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it doesn't work for me. I've tried it, and it's

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because it's so much more complicated. Then we understand. We

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all have our personal point of attraction. So that's why

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you're like, well, I know it works for so and

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so but doesn't work for me. Well, they have a

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different point of attraction. And a point of attraction is

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a formula. Well, the most simple formula is ask plus

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believe equals receive and believe is the part that everybody

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gets hung up on, right, because we can only attract

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things that are within our personal belief system. But to

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go back to the point of attraction, the part one

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is the three parts. So first is everything that was

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in your programming, your personal programming from birth up until now,

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your patterns, your beliefs, all of your programming. That's your

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first part of your own point of attraction. Then you

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have a momentum. Part two is momentum on different subjects.

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So let's say, like you could have a great momentum

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on business and career, but a horrible momentum on relationships

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because you've had bad experiences your childhood and all this stuff.

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So you could have different momentum on different subjects. So

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you see how it keeps getting more and more individualized

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even and then that third part of the point of

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attraction is how do you feel right now? How do

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you feel today? So all of these things it's so

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individual and like I said, we can only attract whats

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that are a personal belief system. So the good news.

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The good news is that limiting beliefs can be changed.

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And I used to have horrible limiting beliefs sabotage the

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yin yang, right, and and I've turned it all around,

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Like you know, you can really learn. I'm not saying

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I'm a master, but I can definitely catch myself and

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these bad patterns extremely quickly turn things around, shift my

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vibration and not in the toxic way where I'm just

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suppressing my feelings. I do not even though I teach

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law of attraction, I do not teach that we our

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emotions are guidance, pay attention to them. They are there

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for a reason. They're guide point, guideposts showing us what

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you know, like, hey, why do I feel this way?

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And we need to kind of analyze that and pay attention.

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Don't push down your feelings like I used to do

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with alcohol and things like that. Feelings are good, and

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we want to remember we're not our feelings. We're not

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our you know. We just want to observe them and

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be like, Okay, why did I get triggered? What you know?

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Like and ask yourself because for me, when I get

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triggered today. I love it because it's showing me an area,

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you know, something I need to heal, something that still

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has power over me in some way. So I actually

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embraced being triggered these days. And honestly, you asked earlier

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about how people get to the point of when they're

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ready to change their life and get out of that

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comfort zone or get out of bad habits. The catalyst

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is usually suffering, which is great whatever. You don't have

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to hit that rock bottom. If you're listening and you're like, well,

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I'm I don't really have any huge addictions and stuff,

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and maybe you're just in that comfort zone. You don't

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have to have a rock bottom. You don't have to

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like lose, you know, blow up your life before you

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decide to live your best life.

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Well, that's right. And you know you talk about those

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those subconscious triggers and so forth, limiting beliefs. How did

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you do it? I mean, you talk about you've overcome

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the addiction, You've overcome a lot of those limiting beliefs

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and so forth, But how how on earth did you

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do it?

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Suffering? Honestly, like you, I got so sick and tired

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of feeling sick and tired, and honest, I didn't even

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know that I had a problem with alcohol. Other people

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would have said, out, she drinks too much. Mine was

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red wine. That was my bias, red wine. I did

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have a morning like that was really a wake up

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call where I had drank too much the night before.

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And this is a science, a scientific thing, so I

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didn't know that alcohol was causing most of my issues.

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I was blaming my hormones for everything. I'm a woman

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in my forties. I'm like, oh, my hormones. That's why

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I can't sleep. It's my hormones. But this one night, I,

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you know, had a really bad night and I was

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like shaky, and I just drank too much. And the

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next morning it was embarrassing. I went to the store

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to buy wine because we all learned, like the hair

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of the dog that bit you, that works like when

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you're shaky, and it causes anxiety. Alcohol is like pouring

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gasoline on anxiety. And I already have like this tech

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natural anxious energy about me. So I went and I

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bought a bottle of wine first thing in the morning,

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two bottles actually, and a gift bag. Couple gift bags too,

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because I was so embarrassed, Like but but I knew

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as soon as I had some of that, it was

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going to calm me down and soothe me right, you know.

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So that was like when I first was like, Okay,

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that wasn't good. That was embarrassing. That's a huge red flag.

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And my friend, you know, when we're when we have addictions,

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we usually have friends who are like us too, So

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it's hard to tell. It's hard to tell when especially

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with alcohol, like everybody like, it's so common, it's so normalized,

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it's so glamorized in our society. And actually I'm the

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weird I'm the weird odd ball now who doesn't drink.

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Everywhere I go there's alcohol, and everyone's like, why aren't

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you drinking? What what happened? You know, it's like the

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one drug you have to justify not doing. But the

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scientific thing that happens over time, it gets worse and

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worse progressive, and maybe some people who are like in

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00:24:50.279 --> 00:24:52.799
their forties or older, you know, can well recognize. Like,

459
00:24:53.200 --> 00:24:56.839
so when you drink alcohol, it's a depressant, and your

460
00:24:56.880 --> 00:25:01.720
body does a natural thing by creating stimulants to counteract

461
00:25:01.720 --> 00:25:06.400
a depressant, and so What happens over time is moderation

462
00:25:06.559 --> 00:25:09.279
stops working because your body just starts creating. Let's say

463
00:25:09.319 --> 00:25:12.319
I only had one glass of wine, my body creating

464
00:25:12.359 --> 00:25:16.000
the stimulants during that first drink of my usual or

465
00:25:16.000 --> 00:25:17.519
what did I have last time? Maybe I had a

466
00:25:17.640 --> 00:25:19.920
whole bottle of wine last time, or it's easy to do.

467
00:25:20.000 --> 00:25:22.960
It's easy to drink a bottle of wine over time

468
00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:25.240
when you're sitting with your friends. This is very easy.

469
00:25:25.279 --> 00:25:28.319
I never lacked people to meet me for a happy hour.

470
00:25:28.680 --> 00:25:31.240
You know, I went every day. I drink every day,

471
00:25:31.279 --> 00:25:32.799
I'll be honest, but I didn't see it as a

472
00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:38.519
problem because so did everybody who was around me. So yeah,

473
00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:42.240
so I learned that after your fourth drink, fifth drink,

474
00:25:42.359 --> 00:25:44.200
I mean, I'm sorry, I'm saying that wrong, after your

475
00:25:44.480 --> 00:25:47.920
about four or five hours after your final drink that

476
00:25:47.960 --> 00:25:50.079
you know, you haven't had a glass for four or

477
00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:54.839
five hours, that depressant wears off, so all you're left

478
00:25:54.880 --> 00:25:57.480
with is the stimulants, and that's why you wake up

479
00:25:57.519 --> 00:25:59.759
in the middle of the night. I was blaming my hormones.

480
00:26:00.079 --> 00:26:02.559
It was it was the alcohol that you know, it

481
00:26:02.599 --> 00:26:05.599
was that created the stimulants in my body. And then

482
00:26:05.680 --> 00:26:08.960
then you're just like, I had this racing heart, racing thoughts,

483
00:26:09.160 --> 00:26:11.359
and I'm up at three am. So a lot of

484
00:26:11.359 --> 00:26:13.519
people who you're waking up at two or three am,

485
00:26:13.559 --> 00:26:15.839
and you drink that night and it's four or five

486
00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:19.000
hours after your last drink. You're overstimulated. But that's your

487
00:26:19.000 --> 00:26:21.480
body's doing the right thing. That's what that's what it's

488
00:26:21.480 --> 00:26:24.079
supposed to do. But over time, it just gets to

489
00:26:24.079 --> 00:26:27.640
the point where moderation stops working. And to answer your question,

490
00:26:28.000 --> 00:26:33.119
is when I started to I actually was still in denial.

491
00:26:33.200 --> 00:26:34.759
I was already a life coach. I was still in

492
00:26:34.799 --> 00:26:38.559
denial about addiction with alcohol. I was like, I'm going

493
00:26:38.599 --> 00:26:41.519
to add a niche. I've got like so many certifications

494
00:26:41.559 --> 00:26:44.319
at this point because I just love learning. I'm going

495
00:26:44.400 --> 00:26:47.279
to be an addiction recovery coach. I'm going to add

496
00:26:47.279 --> 00:26:49.480
this on to what I already do. I was already

497
00:26:49.599 --> 00:26:52.920
helping people, but not with not with addiction, and I'm

498
00:26:53.000 --> 00:26:55.480
learning about addiction and I had I was I'm a

499
00:26:55.480 --> 00:26:58.160
self aware person, so I was like, oh, oh my gosh,

500
00:26:58.200 --> 00:27:01.519
this was I totally just recognize myself in this. And

501
00:27:01.559 --> 00:27:04.680
I learned about the alcohol and that that's how I learned.

502
00:27:04.720 --> 00:27:08.160
I read a book called Alcohol Explained by William Porter.

503
00:27:09.119 --> 00:27:11.640
He's not a doctor or anything. He was actually he's

504
00:27:11.640 --> 00:27:14.759
from the UK. Very alcohol's huge there, right, we all

505
00:27:14.799 --> 00:27:17.920
know that they start drinking really young too. And he

506
00:27:18.720 --> 00:27:23.240
was researching himself on like his sleeping issues, and that's

507
00:27:23.319 --> 00:27:26.480
what that's when he came across like, oh, it's alcohol.

508
00:27:26.599 --> 00:27:28.880
So that's how he learned, and then he got all

509
00:27:28.920 --> 00:27:32.480
into like that's why it's called alcohol explained this whole book.

510
00:27:32.720 --> 00:27:34.519
Don't read it if you want to keep alcohol in

511
00:27:34.559 --> 00:27:37.400
your life, because it expands your mind and then you

512
00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:40.440
cannot unknow that stuff. It takes away your piece with

513
00:27:40.519 --> 00:27:44.000
being able to drink, because then you know, like, oh,

514
00:27:44.400 --> 00:27:47.119
alcohol is a group one carcinogen, right up there with

515
00:27:47.240 --> 00:27:51.480
asbestos and tobacco. It's linked to seven different types of

516
00:27:51.480 --> 00:27:54.759
cancer that we know of. It's probably more, you know,

517
00:27:54.839 --> 00:27:57.279
it's creates insulin resistance. It does all you know, that's

518
00:27:57.279 --> 00:27:59.960
why people start to gain weight. They get that belly

519
00:28:00.039 --> 00:28:03.519
I can't lose. It's it kills you in so many

520
00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:07.680
different ways. And it's also just the emotional mental problems

521
00:28:07.720 --> 00:28:10.599
that it causes. A lot of it based on it

522
00:28:10.640 --> 00:28:15.039
creates nutrient deficiency. You know, we don't absorb minerals and nutrients,

523
00:28:15.039 --> 00:28:19.960
and that leads to depression, anxiety, all kinds of emotional problems.

524
00:28:19.960 --> 00:28:23.119
Like the more I learned, like, I still drank for

525
00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:24.920
a while, but I was like, I can't do this

526
00:28:25.000 --> 00:28:28.160
to anymore. I'm just I was too much into the

527
00:28:28.240 --> 00:28:30.160
law of attraction. I was teaching that already. I'm like,

528
00:28:30.359 --> 00:28:34.240
this is straight up self sabotage. I knew, like, I'm

529
00:28:34.279 --> 00:28:37.599
like lowering my vibration, it's the lower vibrational substance. I

530
00:28:37.640 --> 00:28:39.480
was like, no longer a match to this, you know,

531
00:28:39.640 --> 00:28:43.240
in the knowledge suffering, the knowledge. I just really once

532
00:28:43.279 --> 00:28:46.000
I knew, oh, it's alcohol that's causing a lot of

533
00:28:46.000 --> 00:28:48.319
my problems that I was just unaware of it. Once

534
00:28:48.359 --> 00:28:49.960
I was aware, I could not keep it in my

535
00:28:50.000 --> 00:28:52.480
life anymore. I could not be a coach who didn't

536
00:28:52.519 --> 00:28:55.359
practice what I preached. I couldn't self sabotage. I wanted

537
00:28:55.359 --> 00:28:58.519
to set my days up for success. And if I'm

538
00:28:58.599 --> 00:29:00.960
drinking at night, I'm lowering my vibration and I'm not

539
00:29:00.960 --> 00:29:02.319
going to be the best coach I could be.

540
00:29:02.759 --> 00:29:07.319
So how on earth did you overcome it? Honestly through

541
00:29:07.720 --> 00:29:09.839
what were the steps that you took that you can

542
00:29:09.839 --> 00:29:13.519
share with the audience as far as how you actually

543
00:29:13.599 --> 00:29:15.319
overcame that addiction.

544
00:29:15.680 --> 00:29:20.039
Through knowledge, positive messaging, like through honestly this sounds crazy

545
00:29:20.039 --> 00:29:22.480
for a law of attraction teacher, but focusing on the

546
00:29:22.519 --> 00:29:25.480
negative stuff, like I said, focusing on those negative things

547
00:29:26.000 --> 00:29:29.720
and you know, not wanting to do that to yourself,

548
00:29:29.799 --> 00:29:33.039
like you I almost wanted to scare myself a little bit,

549
00:29:33.160 --> 00:29:35.960
like focus on the stuff. It causes cancer, you know,

550
00:29:36.039 --> 00:29:38.599
it causes all these things. Like I cared about my body,

551
00:29:38.599 --> 00:29:41.799
and I was like tricking myself, thinking, oh, I can

552
00:29:41.839 --> 00:29:43.799
take these supplements like melt this sole because we all

553
00:29:43.880 --> 00:29:45.880
know it's bad for our liver, right, you know. I

554
00:29:45.960 --> 00:29:47.880
knew that. I knew that much. And I was like, well,

555
00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:50.440
I'll take milk this sole, and I'll take these be

556
00:29:50.720 --> 00:29:54.400
vitamins and like you know, exercise really hard the next day,

557
00:29:54.480 --> 00:29:57.720
sweat it all out. We all trick ourselves. For At first,

558
00:29:57.759 --> 00:30:00.200
I was very resistant to letting it go completely. I

559
00:30:00.200 --> 00:30:05.160
did organic wines, you know, or switched to beer or

560
00:30:05.160 --> 00:30:07.319
something that I don't really like, because I really was

561
00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:11.319
only a red wine person. Maybe vodka sometimes, but I

562
00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:14.319
tried switching things up. I tried everything, and you know,

563
00:30:14.400 --> 00:30:16.480
sometimes I think people just need to play that out

564
00:30:16.839 --> 00:30:20.599
and play and but for me, getting knowledge focusing on

565
00:30:20.640 --> 00:30:24.640
the negative things about it really helped. I prayed, I prayed,

566
00:30:24.640 --> 00:30:27.079
I prayed, I prayed. I did get to a point

567
00:30:27.119 --> 00:30:29.480
where I think I believe in prayer. I believe in

568
00:30:29.480 --> 00:30:32.839
power prayer. So I meditated. I started to add meditation

569
00:30:33.000 --> 00:30:35.880
every day for fifteen minutes. And if you're somebody who

570
00:30:36.000 --> 00:30:39.519
has racing thoughts or like a monkey brain like I do,

571
00:30:39.519 --> 00:30:42.039
do breath work. Breath work for me was a life

572
00:30:42.079 --> 00:30:46.240
saver because it's really tough to meditate and just clear

573
00:30:46.279 --> 00:30:49.279
your mind. And then also doctor Joe Despenza pointed out

574
00:30:49.920 --> 00:30:53.079
this changed me too, like, oh, meditation doesn't mean you

575
00:30:53.119 --> 00:30:54.880
never have thoughts flowing in. It just means you could

576
00:30:54.880 --> 00:30:56.880
focus on one thing and that could be walking, do

577
00:30:56.920 --> 00:31:00.759
a walking meditation, be out in nature, know, just get

578
00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:05.039
rid of distractions. Like some other addictions. Like something that

579
00:31:05.079 --> 00:31:07.960
people aren't aware of is like our addictions are everywhere

580
00:31:07.960 --> 00:31:10.599
our cell phones, or we are addicted to our cell

581
00:31:10.599 --> 00:31:13.920
phone scrolling things like that, and some people are addicted

582
00:31:13.960 --> 00:31:18.359
to sports and like work, work, isn't a huge addiction

583
00:31:18.440 --> 00:31:22.400
for people like it just anything that has a negative

584
00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:25.599
effect on your life, but you have a hard time

585
00:31:25.839 --> 00:31:29.799
cutting it out, that's an addiction. So like overworking can

586
00:31:29.839 --> 00:31:30.759
destroy families.

587
00:31:31.480 --> 00:31:34.319
Okay, I'm going to stop you there for a minute. Okay, yeah,

588
00:31:34.559 --> 00:31:36.359
you've made a couple of comments. I want to go

589
00:31:36.400 --> 00:31:39.400
into a little beacher. Sure, you talk about doctor Joe Dispensa.

590
00:31:39.680 --> 00:31:43.839
You talk about meditation, all right, And so I think

591
00:31:43.960 --> 00:31:47.519
is important for the audience to understand that as we're

592
00:31:47.559 --> 00:31:52.039
trying to overcome those limiting beliefs, so self sabotaging behavior,

593
00:31:53.079 --> 00:31:56.359
potentially the addictions, whether it's you know, the serious type

594
00:31:56.359 --> 00:31:58.720
that you're talking about, or you know, your phone or

595
00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:05.079
whatever that happens to be, meditation becomes an extremely important

596
00:32:05.400 --> 00:32:10.200
aspect of overcoming that. And yet most people, I mean,

597
00:32:10.240 --> 00:32:13.200
I was really scared of meditation and thought, you know,

598
00:32:13.279 --> 00:32:15.039
I can't do this. I can't do this. And then

599
00:32:15.079 --> 00:32:18.039
when I, you know, attended one of the Doctor Joe's

600
00:32:18.559 --> 00:32:22.039
workshops for the week and realized, oh, okay, this is

601
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:26.400
something that I can do. So now every morning, every morning,

602
00:32:26.559 --> 00:32:29.119
I walk for an hour and I meditate for an hour.

603
00:32:29.680 --> 00:32:34.640
Yeahful and it's amazing for people to understand that. You know,

604
00:32:34.680 --> 00:32:38.680
if you don't understand meditation, find somebody that does and

605
00:32:38.960 --> 00:32:41.799
really start to understand what that is because it can

606
00:32:41.920 --> 00:32:46.720
change literally your life when you're doing that. So you

607
00:32:46.799 --> 00:32:49.880
talked about meditation. Did you go through a twelve step

608
00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:51.559
program at all for your alcohol?

609
00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:52.880
No? And thank you for asking that.

610
00:32:52.960 --> 00:32:53.039
No.

611
00:32:53.519 --> 00:32:56.960
So AA, By the way, I am someone who was like, hey,

612
00:32:57.000 --> 00:32:59.119
whatever works for you. You do that like you do you?

613
00:32:59.680 --> 00:33:02.160
So I'm I'm not saying anything negative about AA, but

614
00:33:02.200 --> 00:33:03.960
I'm just talking about for me personally, and I know

615
00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:06.079
a lot of other people who feel the same way.

616
00:33:06.119 --> 00:33:09.279
And that's why I teach spiritual recovery. So it goes

617
00:33:09.319 --> 00:33:12.160
against my personal belief systems. AA does so for me

618
00:33:13.839 --> 00:33:16.160
sitting in a group and staying in that old vibration

619
00:33:16.240 --> 00:33:18.920
talking about your old problems, you like, for me back

620
00:33:18.960 --> 00:33:21.720
to Joe to Spensa, we need to shift our identity,

621
00:33:21.799 --> 00:33:24.799
shift that energy. I'm no longer that person. I'm not

622
00:33:24.880 --> 00:33:26.440
going to sit in a room with a group of

623
00:33:26.440 --> 00:33:29.559
people and say I I'm an alcoholic. Hell no, I'm

624
00:33:29.599 --> 00:33:32.720
not that person anymore. I've changed my identity. I am

625
00:33:32.759 --> 00:33:36.079
a person who used to have a bad relationship with alcohol,

626
00:33:36.119 --> 00:33:38.079
but I no longer do. I am no longer that

627
00:33:38.079 --> 00:33:40.039
person who's going to go to a restaurant and order

628
00:33:40.079 --> 00:33:41.960
red wine every single time I go out to dinner,

629
00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:45.559
like never failed. I'm just not that person. I locked

630
00:33:46.000 --> 00:33:48.759
the doors, I shut the windows. I don't leave that

631
00:33:48.880 --> 00:33:52.440
opening for me. I needed abstinence. Some people can, some

632
00:33:52.480 --> 00:33:55.400
people can moderate. I'm not one of them. I suck

633
00:33:55.440 --> 00:33:58.400
at moderation. And you got a lot of this meditation

634
00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:01.799
leads to self aware and that's why I highlighted it

635
00:34:01.839 --> 00:34:04.519
is because we need to know ourselves. That's the spiritual

636
00:34:04.559 --> 00:34:07.119
part of it. Spirit People think it's all magic and

637
00:34:07.119 --> 00:34:12.119
woo woo. Knowing yourself is spiritual and then yeah, so

638
00:34:12.280 --> 00:34:15.559
like that's what that's what it's And serving others that's

639
00:34:15.559 --> 00:34:18.079
a great part of AA. I do think serving others,

640
00:34:18.079 --> 00:34:19.960
getting out of your own head is huge to get

641
00:34:20.039 --> 00:34:23.280
rid of addictions. There's you know, there's so many things, exercising,

642
00:34:23.360 --> 00:34:25.280
eating properly because a lot of the times when we're

643
00:34:25.280 --> 00:34:27.760
self medicating is because we don't feel good because most

644
00:34:27.760 --> 00:34:30.760
of us are eating processed foods and things. And just

645
00:34:30.800 --> 00:34:34.039
started to self care, take care of yourself. These addictions.

646
00:34:34.119 --> 00:34:37.960
Raising your vibration is so important because these addictions will

647
00:34:38.000 --> 00:34:40.119
start to leave you. They're going to start to fall

648
00:34:40.159 --> 00:34:42.239
away because you're going to no longer be a match

649
00:34:42.320 --> 00:34:44.760
to them anymore. And that's kind of what happened with me.

650
00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:48.800
Yeah, and let's talk about you again. You mentioned something

651
00:34:48.800 --> 00:34:53.480
a while ago about relationships and toxic relationships and how

652
00:34:54.039 --> 00:34:57.519
we if our vibration is really low, if we're not

653
00:34:57.679 --> 00:35:01.159
if we're not really overcoming those limiting beliefs and so forth,

654
00:35:01.480 --> 00:35:05.000
we end up attracting the very relationships that we wish

655
00:35:05.039 --> 00:35:08.559
we would never have attracted. And you talk a little

656
00:35:08.599 --> 00:35:14.280
bit about toxic relationships versus conscious relationships. Could you share

657
00:35:14.519 --> 00:35:17.480
what you mean by that? And how do we move

658
00:35:17.519 --> 00:35:22.559
from a toxic relationship into a conscious relationship, which I

659
00:35:22.599 --> 00:35:25.679
would assume means that we have to change the individuals

660
00:35:25.719 --> 00:35:26.800
that we're hanging around with.

661
00:35:27.440 --> 00:35:29.239
Yeah, and ourselves, Like, I got it. You know that

662
00:35:29.400 --> 00:35:32.519
part of the healing process is recognizing in yourself because

663
00:35:32.679 --> 00:35:35.719
there's two people in that relationship, you know, because I

664
00:35:35.760 --> 00:35:38.239
could sit there and go, oh, well he was a narcissist, liar, cheater,

665
00:35:38.280 --> 00:35:40.679
blah blah blah, but I was with him right so

666
00:35:40.679 --> 00:35:43.079
why And here's what's so interesting, And I'm glad we're

667
00:35:43.079 --> 00:35:44.840
talking about this because it's huge. It's one of these

668
00:35:44.880 --> 00:35:48.119
misconceptions about the law of attraction where we think, oh,

669
00:35:48.159 --> 00:35:51.440
we only attract what we are. Well, that's not true.

670
00:35:51.480 --> 00:35:54.320
We attract anything that we have an energetic spark with,

671
00:35:54.519 --> 00:35:57.639
and part of that energetic spark could be what we judge.

672
00:35:57.679 --> 00:36:02.320
Because I kept attracting narcissists, liars, cheaters, and I'm like, well,

673
00:36:02.400 --> 00:36:04.519
I was so confused. I couldn't connect the dots for

674
00:36:04.599 --> 00:36:06.960
so many years. I'm like, if we only attract what

675
00:36:07.039 --> 00:36:09.559
we are? Am I a narcissist? Am I a cheater?

676
00:36:09.639 --> 00:36:11.480
Am I good? Because I know I'm not. I know

677
00:36:11.559 --> 00:36:13.079
I'm not a liar. I know I'm not a cheater.

678
00:36:13.159 --> 00:36:15.519
But why am I still attracting this? Well, I was

679
00:36:15.559 --> 00:36:18.199
still judging it. I was still judging it. And that's

680
00:36:18.199 --> 00:36:21.960
an energetic spark there, right, son. And so there's some

681
00:36:22.079 --> 00:36:26.079
these subtle things that still like anytime that we're judging something,

682
00:36:26.079 --> 00:36:28.639
and actually, let's bring it to the brain. Our subconscious

683
00:36:28.679 --> 00:36:31.360
mind doesn't know the difference between when we're judging somebody

684
00:36:31.400 --> 00:36:34.920
else and when we're judging ourselves. So anytime we're judging

685
00:36:34.960 --> 00:36:37.599
somebody else, it comes back to us literally, like what

686
00:36:37.679 --> 00:36:40.559
goes around comes around quite literally with our subconscious minds.

687
00:36:40.599 --> 00:36:44.920
So you are not doing any favors for yourself when

688
00:36:44.920 --> 00:36:48.199
you're judging others. And I just really needed to have

689
00:36:48.239 --> 00:36:51.239
a better relationship with myself. I had that anxious attachment

690
00:36:51.400 --> 00:36:55.719
attachment style. I had to forgive, forgive these people in

691
00:36:55.760 --> 00:36:59.400
the past who I attracted and yes, yeah, I was

692
00:36:59.400 --> 00:37:01.199
stuck in that vict well forever. We got to get

693
00:37:01.199 --> 00:37:03.440
out of that victim role, you know, before we can

694
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attract better. So I was stuck in it, like he

695
00:37:06.280 --> 00:37:09.519
did this to me. And but guess what, I was

696
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a participant and I stayed. You know, we got to

697
00:37:12.920 --> 00:37:15.519
get to that point where, you know, once we're out

698
00:37:15.559 --> 00:37:18.719
and we don't keep repeating old patterns. Interrupting patterns is

699
00:37:18.719 --> 00:37:21.119
a huge thing. So that comes with the self awareness,

700
00:37:21.119 --> 00:37:26.199
which comes with meditation. Just read, learn knowledge. Knowledge is huge.

701
00:37:26.239 --> 00:37:29.360
You just keep learning. Follow people who have been through

702
00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:32.679
things that you're trying to get through because and they've

703
00:37:32.679 --> 00:37:35.239
gotten out to the other side because they've got the

704
00:37:35.280 --> 00:37:38.599
answers for you. So really to get out of toxic

705
00:37:38.639 --> 00:37:42.320
relationships and to go to a conscious relationship. And by

706
00:37:42.360 --> 00:37:44.920
the way, a toxic relationship is going to feel like

707
00:37:44.960 --> 00:37:46.920
a roller coaster ride. You're going to it's going to

708
00:37:46.960 --> 00:37:49.679
be a lot of ups and downs. Addiction to drama

709
00:37:49.760 --> 00:37:52.400
is a thing. You can get addicted to drama. You're

710
00:37:52.440 --> 00:37:55.880
going to feel all this passion and a toxic relationships,

711
00:37:55.880 --> 00:37:58.119
you're going to have really high highs and really low lows,

712
00:37:58.639 --> 00:38:01.559
and there's going to be unpredictableness. But that can get

713
00:38:01.559 --> 00:38:04.760
addictive because once you're in a healthy relationship, you don't

714
00:38:04.800 --> 00:38:07.800
have all of that craziness called the crazy eight. You

715
00:38:07.840 --> 00:38:10.440
don't have that you can actually be bored and that

716
00:38:10.840 --> 00:38:13.760
you know, non toxic healthy relationship, you think something's wrong

717
00:38:13.800 --> 00:38:16.440
because you're like, wait, where's you getting jealous? You know,

718
00:38:16.559 --> 00:38:19.360
like you know, because you feel like jealousy means that

719
00:38:19.360 --> 00:38:21.079
they care about you, and no it doesn't, you know,

720
00:38:21.119 --> 00:38:23.559
because in a healthy relationship, you have a foundation of

721
00:38:23.559 --> 00:38:27.920
trust for each other. And so a conscious relationship is

722
00:38:27.960 --> 00:38:33.400
when both partners are willing and able to be in

723
00:38:33.440 --> 00:38:35.719
a healthy, uplifting relationship to each other. You're going to

724
00:38:35.760 --> 00:38:38.760
feel like you are with your best friend, your uplifters.

725
00:38:38.760 --> 00:38:40.920
When you're in that toxic relationship, you feel like you're

726
00:38:40.960 --> 00:38:45.199
with an enemy. Right, these conscious relationships you want to

727
00:38:45.320 --> 00:38:47.880
you help each other growth. This doesn't mean you come

728
00:38:47.960 --> 00:38:50.800
into the relationship both of you healed already. That is

729
00:38:50.840 --> 00:38:53.639
not what it is. We're always healing for the rest

730
00:38:53.679 --> 00:38:55.559
of our lives. We're going to be healing things, right,

731
00:38:55.719 --> 00:38:57.480
And if you're conscious.

732
00:38:57.239 --> 00:38:58.719
It's a matter that both are.

733
00:38:58.639 --> 00:39:01.599
Willing, willing and able able to.

734
00:39:01.679 --> 00:39:04.320
Go through that healing. And I think that's so essential

735
00:39:04.360 --> 00:39:07.679
that when you when you're doing that, particularly, you know

736
00:39:07.920 --> 00:39:10.440
you're doing that, and if you can find that individual

737
00:39:10.480 --> 00:39:13.920
that's willing to do that also, that's where the success

738
00:39:13.960 --> 00:39:17.320
comes in. That's where the conscious relationship comes in. And

739
00:39:17.360 --> 00:39:20.840
when one party is not willing to do that, that

740
00:39:20.920 --> 00:39:21.920
makes it really function.

741
00:39:22.320 --> 00:39:26.199
Yeah, it's dysfunction and honestly, there's so many dysfunctional people

742
00:39:26.239 --> 00:39:28.599
in the world, and so you really have Yep, you

743
00:39:28.719 --> 00:39:31.199
have to move on and it's okay to be by yourself.

744
00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:33.880
The people who end up in you know, these patterns,

745
00:39:33.880 --> 00:39:36.840
they jump from one relationship to another, and when they

746
00:39:36.880 --> 00:39:39.079
first start out with dating, you know, there's a lot

747
00:39:39.119 --> 00:39:40.440
of let's get back to alcohol. There's a lot of

748
00:39:40.519 --> 00:39:42.360
drinking going on in these because I help people with

749
00:39:42.480 --> 00:39:45.320
dating and relationships too, so because there's a lot of

750
00:39:45.440 --> 00:39:48.000
issues going on. So I'm a life coach, and so

751
00:39:48.239 --> 00:39:51.000
I specialize not only an addiction, but you know what

752
00:39:51.079 --> 00:39:54.400
I learned, most problems there's some sort of addiction at

753
00:39:54.440 --> 00:39:57.400
the base of it. Even if it's overthinking or negative thinking,

754
00:39:57.559 --> 00:39:59.920
that's an addiction. Those are you know, we get a

755
00:40:00.360 --> 00:40:03.760
to these negative thought loops. So basically I've learned that

756
00:40:03.840 --> 00:40:07.320
over time of my coaching is with in my practice

757
00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:11.280
that there's usually some type of addiction, even if it's

758
00:40:11.280 --> 00:40:15.760
a belief system, there's some sort of attachment to these

759
00:40:15.760 --> 00:40:19.239
old beliefs that's an addiction. So we really need to

760
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I mean, my recommendation is do not drink alcohol on

761
00:40:23.440 --> 00:40:26.519
your first three dates because it gives you clouded judgment.

762
00:40:26.760 --> 00:40:30.079
Almost everybody drinks alcohol and then you jump into bed

763
00:40:30.119 --> 00:40:32.360
with a stranger and then you're wondering why things didn't

764
00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:35.119
work out. Well, you're not building a basic foundation. And

765
00:40:35.159 --> 00:40:36.960
it happens all the time, Like I mean, I have

766
00:40:37.760 --> 00:40:40.280
in my practice like that, I hear about dating, you know.

767
00:40:40.559 --> 00:40:43.280
All the time. So as we come to the closed

768
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A couple of things have be.

769
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Written A book So what I have, Yeah, I have

770
00:40:48.239 --> 00:40:49.559
a book, but this is the one that I want

771
00:40:49.559 --> 00:40:52.800
to highlight is Addiction Recovery with the Law of Attraction.

772
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This is a deck of forty four cards and you

773
00:40:55.800 --> 00:40:57.920
pick a card every day. And not only does it

774
00:40:57.960 --> 00:41:02.760
teach you Law of attraction techniques at the proper way

775
00:41:02.800 --> 00:41:05.880
without the all the misconceptions, it also is all the

776
00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:08.719
techniques that I use, all the practical tools that got

777
00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:12.239
me out of addiction. So that's it's all of the

778
00:41:12.239 --> 00:41:14.679
things in here. And so you're very helpful.

779
00:41:14.880 --> 00:41:17.039
You have a podcast, I do.

780
00:41:17.119 --> 00:41:20.239
I'm taking a break from it right now, but to

781
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be a guest.

782
00:41:21.480 --> 00:41:24.199
Totally understand. And so how do people find you?

783
00:41:25.079 --> 00:41:28.159
The best way is my website day one Life Coaching

784
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dot com d A Y O n E not the

785
00:41:31.440 --> 00:41:34.480
number one, and I offer a free discovery call. So

786
00:41:34.559 --> 00:41:37.440
if anything I said resonated with you, you think maybe one

787
00:41:37.440 --> 00:41:41.119
on one coaching sounds interesting, you just go to day

788
00:41:41.159 --> 00:41:45.199
one life Coaching dot com, click contact and I'll get

789
00:41:45.199 --> 00:41:47.079
in touch. And what that is is a free call

790
00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:50.000
zoom a zoom call with me and we just decide, Hey,

791
00:41:50.039 --> 00:41:52.159
you tell me a little bit of your background and

792
00:41:52.199 --> 00:41:55.159
we decide is my coaching right for you is are

793
00:41:55.159 --> 00:41:57.199
we a match? If not, I could probably guide you

794
00:41:57.239 --> 00:41:59.400
to something or somebody else that is a better match

795
00:41:59.440 --> 00:41:59.639
for you.

796
00:42:00.519 --> 00:42:03.039
So as we close, is there a final message that

797
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you could share with the audience that you want to share?

798
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Just that it is never too late to change, you know,

799
00:42:09.599 --> 00:42:11.880
like I didn't even give up alcohol until I was

800
00:42:11.920 --> 00:42:15.119
forty five, and you know I'm fifty five years alcohol free.

801
00:42:15.239 --> 00:42:17.840
It's never too late to improve your life. And we

802
00:42:17.920 --> 00:42:21.320
can change. And we have so much more control over

803
00:42:21.360 --> 00:42:24.000
each and every day than you realize. And you're a

804
00:42:24.000 --> 00:42:29.480
powerful creator, so really learn how to change each day deliberately.

805
00:42:30.960 --> 00:42:34.719
Lovely, Mary Beth, thank you so much. You know, it

806
00:42:34.920 --> 00:42:39.000
just amazes me. It's like meditation, you know, I'll start

807
00:42:39.039 --> 00:42:41.880
a walk and an hour later it just seems like

808
00:42:41.960 --> 00:42:46.599
ten minutes. These conversations we've gone forty five minutes or more,

809
00:42:47.159 --> 00:42:50.119
and it's like where did the time go? So when

810
00:42:50.159 --> 00:42:53.320
you get into this type of information, I appreciate so

811
00:42:53.440 --> 00:42:56.920
much what you're doing, what you share with everyone, and

812
00:42:56.960 --> 00:42:59.639
how you're really trying to affect people's lives. Now. I

813
00:42:59.679 --> 00:43:03.199
think that's wonderful and bless you to thank you, and

814
00:43:03.360 --> 00:43:07.360
folks thanks for listening, hope you enjoyed it. Get hold

815
00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:09.639
of Marybeth if you find that this is something that

816
00:43:09.719 --> 00:43:12.039
she can help you with. So anyway, this is doctor

817
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next saying thanks for listening and no mistay