May 21, 2026

49 Years of Autopilot — Then Everything Changed

49 Years of Autopilot — Then Everything Changed
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Part 2 of our conversation with Stanley Bronstein. Last episode, we ran out of time before we could get to his system. This time, Stanley shares the full Way of Excellence — 20 qualities, four simple steps anyone can start today, and the moment at age 49 when he stopped surviving and started becoming who he really was.

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Of competent professionals before applying or trying any suggested ideas.

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back

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Thanzel Washington, Welcome to inspire vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to say.

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Stan, welcome back again.

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Thank you for having me. Doctor.

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Hey, you know, I'm really excited. I mean, we just

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chatted a while ago and we got off on I

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wouldn't say a tangent, but something.

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That was really important.

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And by the time we finished, in our forty five minutes,

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we hadn't even talked about your book. We hadn't even

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talked about your system. The way of excellence, and so

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today that's what I really want to talk about. But

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for the audience who may not hear the first one

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but hear this one, would you just kind of brief

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the audience again about who you are, what motivated you

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to write the book, and what's the name of the book.

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Okay, to give it to you in a nutshell, I'm

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Stanley Bronstein. I'm an attorney. I'm a CPA. Some parts

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of the world they call them chartered accountants. We call

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them certified public accountants. Same thing. But along the way,

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I had a transformational experience and that has led me

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into the arena of life coaching and writing of several books.

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My transformational experience can best be summed up in a picture. Yeah,

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lost a lot of weight. I used to wigh three

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hundred and sixty seven pounds and have a fifty eight

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inch was waste, And now I'm about one hundred and

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forty five pounds and I have a thirty one inch waist.

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No drugs, no surgeries, I'm just learning to eat properly,

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getting my head on straight, and walking a lot of walking.

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So the experience of losing that much weight keeping it off,

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going from a person who can only walk two or

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three blocks to a person who literally walks ten to

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fifteen miles every day. For those of you with kilometers,

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that's probably fifteen to twenty kilometers every day. It has

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taught me two things. The first one is, I'm more

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powerful than I ever imagined, way more powerful. I still

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haven't found my limits yet. I'm in your eighteen of

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my journey and i haven't found my limits yet. And

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the second thing it's taught me is is that if

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I'm more powerful than I ever imagined, so is everybody else.

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So if you're listening, pay attention. You are more powerful

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than you ever imagined. And when you start to believe that,

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it leads you to add ask yourself some questions. In

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my case led me to ask the question, if I

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could do what I've already done, what else is out

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there waiting for me to do that I haven't done

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yet that I should do? So the answer to that

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was I should take what I've learned from my experience

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and turn it into a system that other people can

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use so that they could transform their lives as well.

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In my case, it took me forty nine and a

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half years. I was almost fifty to wake up and

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change my life in an instant. But the system I've

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put together, it helps people change their life an instant

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without waiting forty nine and a half years to do it,

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you know, plain and simple. I mean, that's the goal.

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So one of the things I learned out of the

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experience was to stop being a perfectionist. I was a

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three hundred and sixty seven pound perfectionist, if that makes

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any sense. A little bit of hypocracy and a little

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bit of irony in that perfectionism. First of all, no

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one is perfect. There have never been any perfect people.

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There are not going to be any perfect people. I'm

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not going to be the first. Trust me, I've tried,

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and you're not going to be the first either. I

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can promise you that instead of reaching for perfection, you

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learn that good enough is good enough. Make good enough

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your floor. If you can get to where everything's good enough,

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that's a great place to be. Now, one of the

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beauties of being good enough is that there is usually

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room to improve. You can always improve, you can always

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get better. There's always a level higher, there's always a

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level deeper, there's always a level farther. So that's what

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excellence is excellence, is going for constant and never ending improvement.

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Just yeah, yeah, Okay, So you wrote the book that

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I've written many many books. Yeah, I know you have.

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I want you to speak a little bit about the

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book though, that you wrote, The Way of You, and

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let's talk about what that is literally talking about.

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Okay. The Way of You breaks your journey down into

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three phases, your individual journey down in three phases. First

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phases finding you, Who are you? Why are you here?

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What do you want it to be? What has gotten

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you to this point? So many people go through life

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never figuring out who they are. For me, I already had.

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I mean, I always had a pretty good idea of

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who I was, but I but all along inside my

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huge frame there was a different me trapped in there,

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screaming to get out. Like I said, it took me

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forty nine a half years. Specifically, I woke up four

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months before my fiftieth birthday and I said, where am

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I going to be in five years? If I keep

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doing what I'm doing, which was basically eating myself to death.

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I said, I'm going to be dead in five years.

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And I didn't want to be dead. So I started

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making some changes I think at that moment that was

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when I found myself. You know, I realized who I was,

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who I wanted to be, who I could be. See.

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Up until that point, I've been living a life on

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autopilot largely, you know, you know, just one day after

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another after another after another after another. At that point,

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I decided who I wanted to be, what I needed

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to do to get there, and then I started making

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conscious decisions, conscious changes to get there.

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So let me ask you a question from a spiritual aspect,

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and we don't have to get into that too much,

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but you know, a lot of people talk about the

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fact that within each of us is that divine self,

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you know, who you really are. Did that come into

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play at all for you, or was it just more

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strictly the way you're talking about.

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It, I'm talking about it. I mean, don't get me wrong,

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I'm very much a spiritual being. But I didn't think

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in terms of divinity, Okay. I thought. I thought more

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in terms of I can be so much more than

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I am, and I'm wasting my potential time to stop

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doing that. That's the terms of what I was thinking of.

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Okay, So finding yourself is your first step and then

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with the book Becoming, and is the becoming where you

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get into your whole way of excellence step by step.

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Yes, coming. First of all, the way of excellence is

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in the whole thing. Hi, I'll get to the system,

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and it's the whole thing.

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Okays, the way of thinking, it's a way of living,

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it's a way of being that The second phase was

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once I figured out where I'm at and where I

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want to be, there's the process of becoming who I

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want to be.

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And that was a slow, gradual process. Did not happen overnight.

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There were peaks and valley ups and downs, lefts and rights, forwards, backwards,

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zigs and zags. Was not a straight line experience. But

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the main thing was I got started and I never stopped.

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I kept going, going, going, and going. And that's a

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major part of the system. We go to talk about it.

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Well, and I think it's important that you bring up

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the point that it doesn't happen overnight. There has to

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be a great deal of number one, I guess, commitment,

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but number two patients, patients with self and understanding that yes,

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we're not perfect.

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And we're not able to just get it done. Except

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I want to reword what you just said. Okay, there

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doesn't have to be a damn thing. There gets to

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be a great deal of patience. Okay, you get to

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do it. It is your privilege. And I'm going to

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share a story. I'm going and share it right now

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that it tells you where I learned that, who taught

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me that. Two years before I started my journey, there

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was a woman I met in two thousand and seven.

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Her name was Peggy Chun and she lived in Honolulu, Hawaii.

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She was an artist. She had als lou Gerrig's disease.

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She was completely bedridden on a ventilator, could not move,

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could not speak. At the time I met her, the

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only way she could communicate was train people would hold

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up an eye chart and they could read her eye

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movements and she could spell out words. I was interviewing

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her for a book I was writing. I was going

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around the United States interviewing fifty people that had interesting

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stories for book, and she was like the second person

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I think I talked to. And when I saw her

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in that vegetative state, the thought that entered my mind was,

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if I ever get like that, please put a pillow

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over my head and take me out that was what

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I thought, But that was not Peggy's attitude. Peggy's attitude

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was my grandkids are coming over later today. We're gonna

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They're gonna drive me out to the park. It's a

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beautiful sunny day. We're gonna go paint. Is me a

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fantastic day? What you're going to be driving around the

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country and you're gonna be interviewing these fifty fantastic people.

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Tell me all about them. I want to know everything

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about them. I wish I could go with you. Wow.

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So this woman who was in a state where I

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would have probably wanted to kill myself if I could

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have had more joy for life than anyone I've ever

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met in my entire life. So what I didn't happen overnight.

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But what I've learned out of the experience of meeting

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her is that I'm alive. I have the ability to

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do these things she didn't. You know, That's why I

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no longer say I don't have to do a damn thing.

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I get to do everything. I stopped saying have to

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and I started saying get to. When you see when

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you say get to, it changes your perspective and it

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makes the whole process that I'm going to describe to

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you much easier, much more powerful. Then the third phase

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let me finish through the way of you have some release. Yeah,

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the third phase once you've become you, and that takes

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many years. Like I said, I'm in your eighteen of

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my process. I think in many ways I've become myself.

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Now I'm optimizing myself. I call that phase. I journal

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on it all the time. It's called optimizing Stanley. That's

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the project I'm on right now, optimizing Stanley myself. So

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the third phase is optimizing you. You've found who you are.

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You've largely become yourself. Now let's keep making it better

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and better and better and better and better and better.

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And that's one of the reasons I do all the

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things I do. People when they look at my schedule

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and they see the things I do a lot of times,

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I think I'm nuts. I mean, I've created a lifestyle

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for myself where I walk ten to fifteen miles every day.

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It's fifteen to twenty kilometers every day. Wow, you know

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I do that because I can. I haven't found my

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limits yet. I'm still looking for them. And I mean

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I just I had my physical three or four weeks ago,

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I had my blood work done. I'll put my blood

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work numbers up against any thirty year old, and I'm

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sixty six. I feel better than I did when I

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was thirty. I wasn't in this good of shape when

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I was thirty. I couldn't do what I do now

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when I was thirty. You know, am I getting older

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in many ways? I think? I mean, yes, am I

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getting younger in many ways? I think I am. I

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don't know if I am, but I think I am.

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I feel like I am, And I think a lot

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of it is mindset. You know, it's between our ears.

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much what the book is all about. It gives you

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a process to help you do that. And the book

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is based upon my system, which is called the Way

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of Excellence. Because what happened was, as I said, you know,

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I've been a systems thinker. My whole career has been

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business and taking complicated things and making them simple. So

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I said, how do I take the complicated game of

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life and make it simple. I still haven't totally figured

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out the meaning of life, but I think I've figured

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out a lot about life, if that makes sense. And

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the conclusion I came to is the goal is not perfection.

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The goal is excellence. Like I said before, perfection, you're

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never going to get there, so don't even try. Just

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work on start from a floor based floor of good enough,

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and then work on getting better, better and better and better. Well,

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you know what's interesting as you use the word perfection,

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and I go back to the biblical aspect of this,

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because I don't know how we ended up in English

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defining perfection as flawless. And what's interesting is as you

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get into this whole concept to be there for perfect

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when you get into the actual Hebrew meeting and Greek meaning,

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it means complete, be complete, And so that's what you're

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talking about. And we even have that definition of perfection

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as flawlessness, you know, as unequally speaking people. I know

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that it's different depending on what country you're in and

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the language you speak, but I love the fact that

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you're talking about the fact that it's a way of excellency.

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It's a way of literally optimizing yourself and continuing on

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that path to optimize and become even more complete and

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more complete. In the Greeks call that RTA. I believe

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to you know, just maximize yourself. Yeah, so I said,

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what are the qualities of an excellent human being? Well,

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it took me a few months, but I eventually came

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up with twenty okay, and I spent a lot of time.

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I put them in a specific order for specific reasons,

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because they build on each other, and they describe what

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is a complete system. Anytime I encounter a problem in life,

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I take a look at the system and I say,

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how would I handle it. I would love nothing more

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than for every parent to have this chart on their wall,

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and as they're raising their children, every time they encounter

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a problem, say let's go see what the system suggests.

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your on your website, you also have that triangle, which

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which I love it for me, I love looking at

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the triangle the chart. Wow, that that's your very left brain.

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And you know, that's a lot of material I have.

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I have. I know I'm very complete brained. Yes, but

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it's it's actually it's not a lot of material. It's

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it's see. That's one of the problems when you just

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say that's a lot of material, and I'm not criticizing

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here is that is a limiting thought. Uh huh, that

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limits us and makes us say, oh, it's too much.

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I don't want to mess with it. I don't like that.

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I think that's bs. It's comprehensive. That is a better

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way of saying it, because you know, it's just like

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you know, when I describe to people what I do,

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they go, oh, I could never do that issue. Can

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you know? Or you know? Or that's too much? No,

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it isn't you know? When we tell ourselves these things,

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we're limiting ourselves. I pay very pay I pay very

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close attention to my word choices and to other people's

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word choices. And I love nothing more than when somebody

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catches me on my own word choices. It's kind of

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funny that happens sometimes, you know, they suggest to me

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a different way of looking at it, because that's how

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we get better. But let me let me go through

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the system and show you why it's not too much. Okay,

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sounds good? Okay. Number one. Awareness anybody who's been in

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a twelve step program, first step and mits you have

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a problem? Okay, awareness, who are you? What are you?

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I call it learning to tell it like it is

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not b sing yourself, telling yourself to truth. But there's

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a second component to it that gets left out. Often

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acting upon what you've figured out, acting upon what you've

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told yourself. See, that was where I was lacking in

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the past. February first, two thousand and nine, seventeen years ago.

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When I started. That was not the first time I

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told myself I had a problem. That was not the

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first time I told myself that I'm killing myself if

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I don't change my habits. But it was the first

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time that I started permanently, permanently acting upon what I

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told myself. See, in the past, my actions were always temporary.

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I need to lose weight, Okay, I'll go on a diet.

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When I diet, I was fifty pounds. Okay, back to

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my old habits, put sixty on. You know, temporary okay,

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Temporary changes are going to give you temporary results. Permanent

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changes are going to give you permanent results. You have

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to do permanent stuff. But as I told you, you

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don't have to do a thing. You get to so

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awareness and acting on it, that's first step step. Life

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is a long term game. Problem is we live in

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a short term world. You know, uber Eats, Amazon Prime,

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Streaming Video, instant delivery, Alexa, Siri, Chat, GPT, Gemini. We

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get everything we want immediately, and there's nothing wrong with

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that provided we also learned patients, like you mentioned earlier.

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You know, patients, things take time. Let me ask you,

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ask any good Italian chef, can you make good spaghetti

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sauce in five minutes?

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and hours and hours and hours. That's how you make

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it good. That's it takes time. Things of many things

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in life take time, and that is okay. Life is

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a long term game. We're gonna talk more about that

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as we get further in the system. Number three, take

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personal responsibility. You know, my weight loss, my battle with

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obesity started when my mother died when I was eight.

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That messed with my head. That was a trauma that

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I didn't deal with very well. And then I'm living

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with my massively obese father and we ate ourselves into oblivion.

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It's not my mother's fault, as he died when I

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was eight. It's not my father's fault that he didn't

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know any better. He only had a fifth grade education.

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He knew when he knew, he knew the hard work,

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he knew to take care of his family, and he

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did those things very well. You know, that's all he knew.

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Not his fault, and it wasn't my fault either. You

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know why, because blame is irrelevant. Blame does not fix problems.

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Well, Blaming someone takes away that sense of personal responsibility

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he hasn't been it to somebody else.

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something done. All that matters is figure out what needs

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to be done and doing it fall the matters. And

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I wish someone would tell that to the world's politicians. Yes,

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So if you're listening, blame is irrelevant. Okay, Then focus

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What are you focused on. If you're focused on the positive,

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you're going to There's a thing called the principle of expansion.

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What you focus on, you get more of in your life.

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If you focus on positives, you're gonna get more positives.

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If you focus on negatives, you're going to get more negatives.

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Start focusing on the positives. Then there's perspective, which we

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already covered with the Peggy Chun story. You don't have

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to do anything, you get to do everything. Then there's vision, dream,

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bold dreams, big dreams. I mean, my dream is to

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change millions, if not billions, of lives. You don't get

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any bigger than that. Am I'm going to get there?

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I don't know, but I'm gonna work on it and

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I'm going to do my best to make it happen.

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That's vision. Then there's attraction, which you've heard of us

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the law of attraction. I prefer to call it the

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law of reciprocity. You know, people think the law of attraction.

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You say, I want money, but money comes to you.

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Don't work that way. You have to give before you get.

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You want love, start giving love. You want wealth, start

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start helping others become wealthy. You want happiness, start giving

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happiness to others. But as I said before, you don't

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have to give before you get. You get to give

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before you get. Giving is your privilege. When I see

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a homeless person, I don't have to help them. I

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get to help them. I am privileged to help them.

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I'm a help position to help them.

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you know, as I've talked to a number of people

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and we talk about the law of attraction and I

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think you've hit on such an important point that who

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we are as we have become, and we naturally then

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do those positive things for people out of just the

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desire to do good, to love, to be kind. That

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creates an energy coming from us that then attracts magnetically

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that same type of energy back into our lives. And

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I think that's the key to the law of attraction

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that most people don't understand.

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Yes, that's true. And also if enough people may ask

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you a question, if enough people started giving to each other,

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wouldn't eventually someone wind up giving something to you. Yeah. Absolutely,

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that's what it is. That's what it's about. And you

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also realize that homeless personal help may never do anything

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for me, may never give me anything, but someone else

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may give me something. Someone else may help me. It

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may not come back from the same place, you know.

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It just it's a way of being well.

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You know, it reminds me you've told your story. It

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reminds me of a young man that I met actually

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at a networking event and he basically had been homeless

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and somehow he got invited to this event and he

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was on drugs, he was homeless and so forth, and

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that whole group kind of took him under their wings,

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and you know, I went and took some picture for him,

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and and everybody kind of sat and helped him. And

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I look at him. This is years ago, and I

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look at it today. He's happily married, he's totally successful

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in his life, has beautiful children. And it's fascinating to

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me to see how just being willing to help someone

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make such a difference in their lives. And you know,

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ultimately that in and of itself is worth it.

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Yes, sure it is. It is. The world functions better

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when we help each other. Yeah, you know, plain and simple.

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That's the way. This way it's meant to be. Okay.

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Number number nine, Using your time, energy and resources wisely.

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How do you use your time naging resources? Do you

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take your phone and you scroll? You know, do you

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doom scroll and watch stuff for hours and hours and hours?

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Or I do the same thing, but I do it

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for five minutes. Yeah, now than gone. I mean it's

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more tomorrow, you know kind of thing. And deciding how

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to allocate your time, energy and resources. You have eighty

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six four hundred seconds every day, use them wisely. You know,

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hang around good people, do good things. Work on good activities.

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Take I tell people, if you will take fifteen minutes

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a day and set it aside for yourself over the

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course of a year, that's more than ninety hours. That's

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two work weeks. Now, if you will sit there and

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you will do an hour a day working on yourself,

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that's you know, sorry, that's two weeks. Not to it's

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two weeks. That translates into eight weeks. You know, found

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time working on yourself. And surely I don't care how

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busy you are. I don't care how many kids you

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have and your sick parents or whatever you can find.

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Chances are you should be able to find fifteen minutes

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a day.

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Well. And you know what that does is, as you say,

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we're so much the effect of our environment. We've got kids,

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we've got work, we've got all of those things going on,

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and yet we have time to scroll. And hey, I'm

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totally guilty of that. And and yet ultimately I think

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the key, which is I find fascinating, is to take

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the time to realize that what is it that I

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can do? How can I be creative? What is it

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that I can do? And as you say, for you

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you're out there walking like crazy, and I think everyone

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can find something in their lives that they can change

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and start to do that makes it excellent.

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Well, well, let me ask you this. If I spend

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five hours a day walking, you know what happens during

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that five hours? I always you're meditating, I meet some

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I meet some very interesting people. Yeah, and you know

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the most interesting person I meet is myself yourself. Yes,

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you do a lot of thinking. Yeah, and that's that

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actually reminds me of Peggy Chin because the chapter I

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wrote on her on the book was called what would

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you do if you had unlimited time to think? That's

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what she had unlimited time to think, you know. So

460
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then ten taking consistent action. You know, I used to

461
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say I wanted to lose weight and get in shape,

462
00:26:19.319 --> 00:26:22.240
and now I go to Chinese buffets, go home, sit

463
00:26:22.359 --> 00:26:24.759
on my button, drink scotch. Is that going to get

464
00:26:24.759 --> 00:26:27.680
me in shape and lose weight? No? But when I

465
00:26:27.880 --> 00:26:32.400
started changing my eating habits, stop drinking scotch, you know,

466
00:26:32.519 --> 00:26:36.559
stop doing other forms of excessive behavior, and started walking,

467
00:26:36.599 --> 00:26:39.200
and guess what, I started getting in shape and I

468
00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:43.400
eventually did. So. Taking action that's consistent with your goals,

469
00:26:43.799 --> 00:26:50.119
then number eleven persistence never give up, never surrender, get started,

470
00:26:50.720 --> 00:26:54.960
never stop, keep going. Fall down seven times, get up eight,

471
00:26:55.480 --> 00:26:58.319
keep going, keep going, keep going, keep going. You are

472
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a human being. You're going to mess up. Promise, You're

473
00:27:02.400 --> 00:27:05.119
gonna have bad days, You're gonna fall off the wagon.

474
00:27:05.359 --> 00:27:07.880
The question is what are you gonna do when that happens.

475
00:27:08.079 --> 00:27:10.279
Are you gonna beat yourself up beside the head and

476
00:27:10.359 --> 00:27:12.319
go back to your old habits or are you gonna

477
00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:14.680
say I screwed up? What can I learn from that?

478
00:27:14.839 --> 00:27:17.400
Pick yourself up and get started again?

479
00:27:17.839 --> 00:27:21.319
Well, and you know what persistence? That to me, that

480
00:27:21.400 --> 00:27:24.799
becomes one of the key challenges. I mean, you talk

481
00:27:24.839 --> 00:27:27.279
about the fact that as you were overweight, you lost

482
00:27:27.319 --> 00:27:29.039
some weight and then you went back to normal, and

483
00:27:29.200 --> 00:27:32.039
you know, you gained ten more pounds. I think for

484
00:27:32.160 --> 00:27:38.559
people to develop that ability to be persistent is not easy.

485
00:27:38.680 --> 00:27:42.279
And as you look at yourself, as you work with

486
00:27:42.359 --> 00:27:45.920
other people, have you found there some elements or some

487
00:27:46.039 --> 00:27:52.400
keys to help someone to ultimately become persistent to move forward?

488
00:27:53.400 --> 00:27:56.880
Yes, yes I have, and we're getting to those. Okay, okay,

489
00:27:56.960 --> 00:28:03.200
so bear with me, all right, okay. Number twelve integrity

490
00:28:03.640 --> 00:28:08.400
acting with integrity, making sure everything you do is aligned,

491
00:28:08.960 --> 00:28:16.440
you know, and kindness, authenticity, sincerity, honesty, loyalty, all those traits,

492
00:28:16.880 --> 00:28:22.119
those are all traits of an excellent human being. Active integrity.

493
00:28:22.440 --> 00:28:24.880
Integrity is what are you doing when no one's looking?

494
00:28:25.319 --> 00:28:29.119
I love it. I have many times where I could

495
00:28:29.200 --> 00:28:31.079
do things and I know I'd get away with it,

496
00:28:31.319 --> 00:28:34.200
but I don't do them anyway because I'm looking other

497
00:28:34.279 --> 00:28:37.759
people's other people say God's watching, you know, I choose

498
00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:42.079
to say I'm watching. That's good enough. Now. Thirteen Respect,

499
00:28:42.880 --> 00:28:46.119
respect for others, and respect for yourself. You know, I

500
00:28:46.160 --> 00:28:48.759
have some people right now, right now, as a matter

501
00:28:48.799 --> 00:28:51.480
of fact, who I'm a little irritated with. I don't

502
00:28:51.559 --> 00:28:53.960
totally like the way they're treating me. I don't totally

503
00:28:54.039 --> 00:28:59.240
like the situation. But I continue to treat them with respect.

504
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And why I do is because respect is not a

505
00:29:02.920 --> 00:29:05.920
respect for others is not a measure of their character,

506
00:29:06.039 --> 00:29:09.079
it's a measure of mine. I treat them with respect

507
00:29:09.119 --> 00:29:13.000
because I am a person who respects people, respects things.

508
00:29:13.319 --> 00:29:16.000
And then there's also the way do you respect yourself?

509
00:29:16.359 --> 00:29:18.559
You know, I used to complain that I wasn't getting

510
00:29:18.559 --> 00:29:21.559
as much respect from others as I wanted, All while

511
00:29:21.559 --> 00:29:24.960
I was showing an outward manifestation walking around a three

512
00:29:25.000 --> 00:29:27.960
hundred and sixty seven pounds that on some level I

513
00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:31.240
didn't respect myself enough to take care of myself. Is

514
00:29:31.279 --> 00:29:33.240
it any wonder I didn't get the respect from others

515
00:29:33.279 --> 00:29:37.599
that I wanted. So, you know, respecting yourself then there's

516
00:29:37.920 --> 00:29:40.480
win win thinking in order for me to win, it

517
00:29:40.480 --> 00:29:43.160
doesn't mean you have to lose. It's possible for all

518
00:29:43.200 --> 00:29:45.359
of us to win. You know, life is not a

519
00:29:45.480 --> 00:29:51.279
zero sum game. We live in an abundant world. There

520
00:29:51.359 --> 00:29:54.960
is enough for everybody. There are ways to create solutions

521
00:29:55.200 --> 00:30:01.279
where everybody wins. I'm fifteen balance. You know, I'm going

522
00:30:01.319 --> 00:30:04.839
to give you a definition of balance right here. Balance

523
00:30:04.920 --> 00:30:09.680
is identifying everything's deficient and increasing it. It's identifying everything

524
00:30:09.720 --> 00:30:13.880
that's successive at decreasing it. That's balance. That's how you

525
00:30:13.920 --> 00:30:18.240
find balance. I have. Balance is not something you find.

526
00:30:18.720 --> 00:30:21.200
People say they want to find a balance life. You're

527
00:30:21.200 --> 00:30:25.200
not going to find it. You have to intentionally create it.

528
00:30:25.559 --> 00:30:27.680
But as I said before, you don't have to do anything.

529
00:30:27.960 --> 00:30:32.400
You get to intentionally create it. I am very fortunate.

530
00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:36.240
I work for myself, I work from home. I've created

531
00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:41.960
an extremely balanced lifestyle for myself. I have the ability

532
00:30:42.279 --> 00:30:44.799
I go out for long walks, I have my phone

533
00:30:44.799 --> 00:30:46.640
with me. I'm able to work while I'm doing that.

534
00:30:47.359 --> 00:30:49.759
I have a treadmill in the other room. I have

535
00:30:49.799 --> 00:30:51.759
a computer on it. I can sit there and walk

536
00:30:51.799 --> 00:30:54.079
it two and a quarter miles an hour and type

537
00:30:54.519 --> 00:30:57.359
and work while I'm walking, you know, and get a

538
00:30:57.400 --> 00:31:00.839
lot of things done. So that's balance. Figured out ways

539
00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:06.160
to get incorporate everything into my life. Then now we're

540
00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:08.039
getting to the crux of the matter and things that

541
00:31:08.079 --> 00:31:11.039
we talk about. Ways to make things easier. Okay, what

542
00:31:11.079 --> 00:31:16.680
I call the four factors starting with number sixteen willingness. Okay,

543
00:31:17.279 --> 00:31:21.400
unless and until you were willing to do what it

544
00:31:21.480 --> 00:31:26.519
takes permanently for the rest of your hopefully very long,

545
00:31:27.119 --> 00:31:31.279
hopefully very happy, hopefully very healthy life, you're not going

546
00:31:31.359 --> 00:31:33.039
to get to where you want to be. I used

547
00:31:33.079 --> 00:31:35.440
to think the three most important words of English language

548
00:31:35.480 --> 00:31:38.440
where I love you. I've changed my mind. The three

549
00:31:38.519 --> 00:31:41.319
most important words in English language are Are you willing?

550
00:31:41.799 --> 00:31:43.920
If you're not willing to do what it permanently takes.

551
00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:47.119
Everything I've said up until now doesn't mean damn nothing.

552
00:31:47.480 --> 00:31:50.160
You're waste. Yeah, yeah, you're not going to get there.

553
00:31:50.640 --> 00:31:57.200
The moment you've become willing to permanently episodes, permanently do

554
00:31:57.319 --> 00:32:01.599
what it takes. That's when you become power, which leads

555
00:32:01.680 --> 00:32:06.160
us to number seventee, the second of the four factors, belief.

556
00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:10.960
I already mentioned that the experience of doing what I've

557
00:32:11.000 --> 00:32:13.440
done taught me that I'm more powerful than I ever imagined,

558
00:32:13.799 --> 00:32:16.759
and it led me to question what else I should

559
00:32:16.799 --> 00:32:19.920
be doing out there. Well, if I'm more powerful than

560
00:32:19.920 --> 00:32:23.079
I ever imagined, so is everybody else. If you're listening,

561
00:32:23.680 --> 00:32:26.640
you are more powerful than you ever imagine. Believe it,

562
00:32:27.119 --> 00:32:30.519
because once you start to believe in yourself, to believe

563
00:32:30.519 --> 00:32:35.160
in your abilities, your talents, and your ideas, that is

564
00:32:35.240 --> 00:32:40.519
when you become powerful. Believe you can or believe you can't.

565
00:32:41.000 --> 00:32:45.440
Either way you're going to be right. What is that

566
00:32:45.519 --> 00:32:48.200
the thing about the the story about the little engine

567
00:32:48.240 --> 00:32:50.720
that could climbing up the hill? I think I can,

568
00:32:50.799 --> 00:32:52.279
I think I can. I think I can. I think

569
00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:57.000
I can to chug climbing up the hill. That's what

570
00:32:57.039 --> 00:33:02.039
it is. Belief. Believe in yourself. Then you get to eighteen.

571
00:33:02.680 --> 00:33:07.920
Discipline at I mean self discipline, I don't mean punishment.

572
00:33:08.319 --> 00:33:10.440
You know, when I describe what I do to people,

573
00:33:10.480 --> 00:33:13.000
a lot of people think it sounds like punishment. See,

574
00:33:13.039 --> 00:33:16.079
whenever you tell yourself it's too hard, it's too much,

575
00:33:16.440 --> 00:33:20.240
that's punishment. When you tell yourself this is my goal,

576
00:33:20.799 --> 00:33:23.359
I can do this, this is what I'm working toward.

577
00:33:23.720 --> 00:33:27.400
Then it becomes a joy. And when something becomes joyful,

578
00:33:27.440 --> 00:33:31.319
it becomes easier. It goes from half to to get

579
00:33:31.359 --> 00:33:36.200
to and it becomes much easier. So when I say discipline,

580
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I mean identifying all your negative habits. Go to Chinese

581
00:33:40.200 --> 00:33:45.400
buffets every day, Gone, drink Scotch every day, Gone drink

582
00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:48.960
two liter bottles of soda pup every day, Gone, set

583
00:33:49.000 --> 00:33:53.200
on my butt every day. Gone. Then replace it with

584
00:33:53.319 --> 00:33:58.079
positive habits. You know, need exercise more, start walking every day,

585
00:33:58.359 --> 00:34:01.440
the need better, start bringing healthy food to work with me,

586
00:34:01.839 --> 00:34:05.599
Stop going to restaurants, you know, all those things. Start

587
00:34:06.039 --> 00:34:09.920
changing what it is you're doing. Then youat down to

588
00:34:09.960 --> 00:34:14.840
the last nineteen commitment. When you become one hundred percent

589
00:34:14.880 --> 00:34:21.119
committed to doing something, it becomes easier, much easier. For example,

590
00:34:21.519 --> 00:34:23.920
I'm one hundred percent committed that only healthy food is

591
00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:26.320
going to enter my mouth. I no longer when someone

592
00:34:26.400 --> 00:34:29.400
presents unhealthy food in front of me, I no longer

593
00:34:29.440 --> 00:34:32.159
ask myself, should I eat this? Could I eat this?

594
00:34:32.679 --> 00:34:34.920
What will happen if I eat this? I just say

595
00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:38.559
I'm not gonna eat that. Yeah. I had week before Christmas. Sorry,

596
00:34:38.599 --> 00:34:42.719
brought me cook gave me cookcakes and cufies, cupcakes and cookies.

597
00:34:43.639 --> 00:34:45.960
I took them. I didn't ask them I canna eat this?

598
00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:49.000
I said, no, I'm not gonna eat this. I gave

599
00:34:49.039 --> 00:34:51.360
them to a neighbor who's very skinny, who loves that

600
00:34:51.440 --> 00:34:54.159
kind of stuff. She was happy, I was happy. Everybody

601
00:34:54.239 --> 00:34:58.159
was happy. I'm walking every day. I no longer ask

602
00:34:58.280 --> 00:35:01.559
myself do I feel like walking today? The answer is

603
00:35:01.719 --> 00:35:04.199
I am a person who walks every day. I am

604
00:35:04.199 --> 00:35:07.440
one hundred percent committed to walking every day. I walk

605
00:35:07.679 --> 00:35:10.960
every day. I get it done, no matter what it

606
00:35:11.039 --> 00:35:15.800
makes it easier. Commitment. Then the last step integration of mind,

607
00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:21.480
body and spirit, you know, pulling it all together. He

608
00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:24.440
here's a diagram for you. You see this little person in

609
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the middle, the man in the middle. That's where you

610
00:35:27.199 --> 00:35:30.239
want to be. You want to be equal parts, mind, body,

611
00:35:30.280 --> 00:35:33.800
and spirit. You want them all working together in harmony.

612
00:35:34.280 --> 00:35:38.559
That's because the mind feeds the body in spirit the spirit. Sorry,

613
00:35:38.559 --> 00:35:41.400
the body feeds the mind and spirit, and the spirit

614
00:35:41.440 --> 00:35:45.360
feeds the mind and the body. They all work together.

615
00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:48.079
And when I'm working together, you're in harmony. See. When

616
00:35:48.119 --> 00:35:51.880
I was way overweight, I was all mine. I'd sit

617
00:35:51.920 --> 00:35:54.719
at my desk all day, I'd work all day. It

618
00:35:54.800 --> 00:35:57.039
was all mine. I did very little with my body

619
00:35:57.440 --> 00:36:01.280
except overfeed it. I did that part, but it was

620
00:36:01.280 --> 00:36:04.119
out of whack. And when I started devoting more attention

621
00:36:04.239 --> 00:36:08.559
to my body, started listening to my body, everything started

622
00:36:08.559 --> 00:36:11.039
to come into balance. And I even reached a point

623
00:36:11.039 --> 00:36:13.679
where I was paying so much attention to my body

624
00:36:14.320 --> 00:36:16.400
that my mind was out of whack with it, and

625
00:36:16.920 --> 00:36:18.639
I didn't want to do my work. I didn't feel

626
00:36:18.679 --> 00:36:21.480
like it. I was more interested in my walking than

627
00:36:21.480 --> 00:36:23.639
when I was doing. I don't feel like working today.

628
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And then I had to go backwards on that and

629
00:36:26.800 --> 00:36:30.239
I started working on my mind again, bringing it all

630
00:36:30.239 --> 00:36:34.400
into balance. And that's the whole system in a nutshell,

631
00:36:34.800 --> 00:36:38.119
And let me can I I want to close with

632
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:41.880
telling you what I recommend people. Do you know people say, Okay,

633
00:36:42.280 --> 00:36:44.639
I'm going to make this simple. I'm going to give

634
00:36:44.679 --> 00:36:49.400
you four steps that any able bodied person should be

635
00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:49.840
able to do.

636
00:36:50.199 --> 00:36:51.360
And you got two minutes.

637
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:56.800
That's all I need. Okay, okay. Step one, eat less

638
00:36:56.800 --> 00:37:03.239
processed food. Eat whole foods, nuts, grains, seeds, vegetables. I'm

639
00:37:03.239 --> 00:37:08.039
not saying every processed food eat less. Okay. Quit eating

640
00:37:08.079 --> 00:37:09.960
four to five hours before you go to bed. And

641
00:37:10.000 --> 00:37:12.320
the reason why I say you do that is if

642
00:37:12.360 --> 00:37:14.639
you go four or five hours without eating, it gives

643
00:37:14.679 --> 00:37:18.280
you you start a process called autopogy where your body

644
00:37:18.320 --> 00:37:20.840
has time to cleanse itself. You combine that with the

645
00:37:20.880 --> 00:37:23.840
six seven eight hours you're sleeping. You've given your body

646
00:37:23.920 --> 00:37:27.960
thirteen fourteen hours to process everything you've done the day

647
00:37:28.000 --> 00:37:31.880
before and clean itself out. You're much healthier. Then walk

648
00:37:31.920 --> 00:37:34.719
at least twenty minutes a day, twenty minutes. And if

649
00:37:34.719 --> 00:37:36.880
you can't do twenty to ten when I started out,

650
00:37:36.920 --> 00:37:39.440
I couldn't do twenty, but do ten. Do what you

651
00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:44.000
can do, but do it every day. Then set it.

652
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:46.280
And we already covered this one. Set asiute fifteen minutes

653
00:37:46.320 --> 00:37:49.119
every day, just for yourself. It's four steps. Eat less

654
00:37:49.119 --> 00:37:51.679
processed food, Quit eating four or five hours before you

655
00:37:51.719 --> 00:37:54.000
go to bed. Walk at least twenty minutes a day,

656
00:37:54.519 --> 00:37:58.199
set asiut fifteen minutes a day for yourself. If every

657
00:37:58.239 --> 00:38:01.719
able bodied person would do that, we would be of

658
00:38:02.199 --> 00:38:05.000
our society as a whole would be vastly healthier.

659
00:38:05.239 --> 00:38:07.760
Amen to that. So how do people find your book?

660
00:38:07.800 --> 00:38:10.920
Stand? Get the way they find me? You go to

661
00:38:10.960 --> 00:38:14.719
my website. Here it is, I'm sure to find it.

662
00:38:14.719 --> 00:38:18.840
It's the Way of Excellence dot com, The Way of

663
00:38:19.039 --> 00:38:23.159
Excellence dot Com. On there, I have you start out.

664
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I've simplified my website. I've made some revisions since the

665
00:38:25.679 --> 00:38:30.079
last time you saw it, doctor, And you start out

666
00:38:30.119 --> 00:38:32.519
their twenty videos. You can watch them if you want

667
00:38:32.559 --> 00:38:35.199
to spend that fifteen minutes a day. Wisely watch one

668
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:37.639
video a day. They're eight to twelve minutes each. In

669
00:38:37.719 --> 00:38:40.360
less than a month, you'll learn the whole system. You'll

670
00:38:40.400 --> 00:38:42.719
go through it, you'll understand it. Then you can start

671
00:38:42.760 --> 00:38:45.960
with the books. They're all up there. They're available digitally

672
00:38:46.079 --> 00:38:49.280
for free. You can download them. I made them free

673
00:38:49.599 --> 00:38:51.960
because the mission I am on is more important than

674
00:38:51.960 --> 00:38:54.440
the money. It's not that I don't like money. I do.

675
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And if somebody, and if somebody wants to hire me

676
00:38:56.800 --> 00:38:59.440
privately to work with them, I'm more than happy to

677
00:38:59.480 --> 00:39:02.079
work with them, but you don't have to. You know,

678
00:39:02.239 --> 00:39:05.000
the stuff is there, you can get going, you can

679
00:39:05.039 --> 00:39:07.960
get the stuff done. So it's the way of Excellence

680
00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:11.960
dot com. That's it. And if you want to contact me,

681
00:39:12.039 --> 00:39:14.519
there's a link at the bottom of every page. You

682
00:39:14.559 --> 00:39:17.280
can click it and right to me. I'd love to hear.

683
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From you, Perfect Stan, thanks so much, And this is

684
00:39:20.199 --> 00:39:24.000
the reason perfect It's excellent. Yes, and this is the

685
00:39:24.039 --> 00:39:27.400
reason I wanted you on the second time, because we

686
00:39:27.480 --> 00:39:30.920
missed this whole thing the first time. And what you've

687
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:34.559
done here, in my mind, is just absolutely amazing. So

688
00:39:35.280 --> 00:39:37.320
thank you so much. And the fact that you're willing

689
00:39:37.360 --> 00:39:40.400
to give it to people I think is so key.

690
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So away, thank you, and folks, thanks for listening. I

691
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hope you've enjoyed this one and look forward to having

692
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you join us again soon. So this is doctor Duck

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saying no mistay, thank you.