March 3, 2025

Your Reality Isn’t Real

Your Reality Isn’t Real

In this powerful episode, Dr. Doug sits down with Joseph Drolshagen, the Rapid Growth Specialist, to discuss how subconscious programming shapes our lives and limits our potential. Joseph shares his transformative SMT (Subconscious Mindset Training)...

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In this powerful episode, Dr. Doug sits down with Joseph Drolshagen, the Rapid Growth Specialist, to discuss how subconscious programming shapes our lives and limits our potential. Joseph shares his transformative SMT (Subconscious Mindset Training) methodology, tools to overcome fear, and inspiring stories of rapid personal breakthroughs. Learn how to break free from struggle, reprogram your mind, and live a life aligned with your dynamic vision.
https://josephadrolshagen.com

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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, welcome to inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Joey, Welcome to the show.

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That's great to be here with you, doctor Doc.

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I'm excited for a powerful conversation.

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Oh I am too. You know. It's always so much fun.

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One of the things I love to do. And it

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may be a little different than a lot of podcasters

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because they usually do this whole introduction and so forth,

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and the Kui franklaf find that boring. But what I

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love you for you to do is tell your story

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because there's always a journey, there's always something behind where

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you have reached the point you are with what you're doing,

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and I'd like you to share that with the audience

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who you are and what.

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Was your journey. Absolutely so, I'm Joey Drolschegen. I mean

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everything I do is related to you know. They call

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me the rapid growth Specialist. Everything I do is about

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rapid growth. It's about bringing out chain, bringing about transformation,

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and really instead of the baby steps and things like

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that are wishful thinking is to really get clear on

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what the desire is and then move into achieving that

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and doing so without killing ourselves with massive actions exhaustively.

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The reason that's important to me is I grew up

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in a very low income family in Detroit, Michigan, and

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I watched my parents struggle my entire youth, you know,

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And when I when I was like ten years old,

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I you know, I had this event happen where I

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spent the night at a friend's house and this day

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I gave us twenty dollars to go to Diry Queen

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and my family we had to save up to do

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that and so we you know, and I went back home.

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And it's like, man, it was such energy difference with

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it and stuff, and.

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I thought, man, you guys are not living right, and

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I'm not going to live like you guys do. But

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then I got into my twenties and I started experiencing

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those same struggles. I started experiencing those same and really

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one of the ways of explaining this is when I

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was in my twenties early twenties, if something came easy

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for me, I thought I didn't earn it because I

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didn't work hard enough for it, so I didn't deserve it,

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and I would let those things pass. And all every

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area of my life fit into that, those that programming

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and such. So as I started going and I started

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in a career and sales from the ground up, and

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I would bust my hump and I'd traveled three to

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five thousand miles a week trying to build territories and

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I was getting nothing. And yet I saw other people

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contract after contract, you know, and that way I saw.

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People in happy relationships.

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I saw people with you know, a savings account and things,

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and it was such a struggle to get any of

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that stuff for me At twenty two years old, I

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started diving into what's the matter with me? And it's

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been this three plus decade of experiences in the unfolding.

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Isn't that interesting in how we get to a point?

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And for you know, not everybody gets blessed to get

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to that point where they had that aha moment, you know, what,

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something's wrong here. I've got to figure out what it is.

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Yes, and it took me decades to understand it.

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To continue learning and diving into things and find out

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what doesn't work for me, you know, and to get

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to this point of doing what I do today and

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helping people rapidly bring about what they want to experience

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in this lifetime and quit wasting time and quit wishful

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thinking their life away.

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Well, and you've hit a really good thing on the head.

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And I think this is important for the audience to know.

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You know, there are so many different ways and I'm

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in the same boat you have been in where I've

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tried this, I've tried that, and some things have worked,

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some things haven't worked, and ultimately you get to the

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point where you start to feel that connection that resonant

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in your life that Okay, what I'm doing now seems

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to be working, and every once in a while something

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comes up and goes, Okay, I gotta work on this one.

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But it's interesting that people are going to have to

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really check things out to figure out what works for them.

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And that's why I love doing this podcast because as

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interviewing different people, they all have slightly different approaches, but

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somebody's going to listen to you today and it's going

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to resonate with them and it's going to make a

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difference in their lives. And that's that's the whole goal.

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Yeah, And with what you said there, doctor de you know,

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we all have a pathway in life, right and we

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bump up against what I call life's lessons, which are

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the things that don't work out, but we can learn

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from them. So but there's a lot of things that

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could have happened sooner and bigger than they did for me.

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But because of my programming, which we'll get into, because

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of the way my perceptions on how I perceive things

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is what stopped them.

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And it's fascinating how that subconscious, those imprints that are

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lying there can have such an effect on our lives.

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And I'm curious, do you ever get into epigenetics because

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I think that it's fascinating that, you know, what we

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can experience or we can recognize the subconscious imprints from

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our childhood and those type of things. But how many

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times do we recognize that a lot of this stuff

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is coming from ancestry? And epigenetics is playing a big

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role in that.

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I mean, everything I do does now we don't have

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to go back and find out what that is. You know,

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when I work with a client, I'm interested in two points.

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The first point is where exactly are you right now? Right?

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That's point one. And then the second point, which I

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help them develop, that is where do you want to be?

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What do you want experience life? You know, how do

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you want to experience? And from those two points, I

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can help anybody go through that avenue of of you know,

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bridging that gap from one side to the other.

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Well, and let's get into that because you've developed this

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SMT methodology and can you kind of explain to the

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audience what that is.

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Yeah, so I'll just explain it a little bit, get

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a minute or so, but yeah, So I throughout that

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three decade period, I've gone a lot of books and

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when I read a book I turned into an experiment.

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I'll read it one time through, I'll go back and

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create experiments of it. I've gone through, you know, the

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things like manifesting and things like that. You know, all

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of those things. I've gone in self study, I've gone

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in working one on one with a coach, working in

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group atmospheres and stuff. And I couldn't figure out why

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I was investing all this, and I really leaned into it,

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you know, I couldn't figure out why I'd walk away

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again and again and again, thinking, man, there's something the

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matter with And so once the dial started connecting, once

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I started understanding the importance of the subconscious and motherboard,

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and they're the host all of our programming. That's not

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just the voice we hear in our head, but it's

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what triggers the brain waves to the actions we take

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or we don't take. And so once I started understanding that,

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once I started experiencing that change happening and such, the

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SMT method is subconscious mindset training, and it's really utilizing

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the power we have to reprogram our brain to open

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up avenues that were not possible for us prior to understanding,

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to identifying what those programs are and then shifting those

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we wouldn't be able to achieve what we achieved. In

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a lot of times, the hardships that we go through

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in life, we can use that. It's fuel, the energy

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in those hardships. It's fuel to launch us beyond what

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we could have achieved without that hardship. So now we

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start pull vaulting based on the heart, you know, the

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tough situations we have well.

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And it's interesting that so often, you know, we talk

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about different types of addiction, but so often I think

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we could be in addicted to that subconscious imprint that's

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going on, and to be able to actually recognize that,

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and I'll be interested to hear how you do this,

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but you know, to jump from there and use that

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to move into a different mindset and to be able

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to change the neural pathways. And I think this is

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so important for the audience that you can change the

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neural pathways. Those habits have created a neural pathway that

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just automatically happens, and you literally, you're conscious can change

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that and change habitually the way you act into the

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point of what you're talking.

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About, absolutely, and it's you know, it's those experiences we

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had you know, our patterns, our paradigms, our like belief systems,

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and like you said, our experiences.

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But you know, you or I don't even have to

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have the experience.

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If we're growing up. When we hear somebody talk about

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how hard businesses and how it kills you and everything

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else and stuff, we're more app not to ever step

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out into business like that. We didn't experience it, but

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because he told us it, it became part of that proper.

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You know that programming and the network are those brain

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waves and such. So part of the thing is most

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people don't even realize that they're living by that programming

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because it's so natural to do the things they do.

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So I have worked with clients and.

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And done things to help them realize how how we

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get into a pattern without even realizing it, Doctor Doug.

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I did it one time with the guy who said

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I don't have any of that stuff, and I go, Okay,

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when you when you shower tomorrow, I want, you know,

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lather your.

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Hair ten times and then rinse. He goes, what's that

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gonna do?

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I go, just do it.

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He called me back the next day and he kind

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of cursed me a little bit.

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But in a fun way. But he said I couldn't

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do it. I did it ten times and then I

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went to rinse, and it's like no, and he went

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back to his pattern. We brush our teas and we

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do all this stuff by pattern, but and we look

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at we can use those things to illustrate, not that

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they're controlling our life. But we're the same way on

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the bigger things. We're the same way on the opportunities

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we allow in. We're the same way when we're robotically

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conditioned all the way through school where if you and

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I are working on a math problem and I show

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it long form and get the right answer, I get

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full credit. If you, for instance, have a shortcut and

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you still get to that answer, you get marked down.

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So we're robotically conditioned to every everybody do it the

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same way. Everybody do it the same way. That's that's

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a lot of the analogy with a lot of the

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programs I had experienced where it's like we have your A, B,

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and C. If you do this, this and this, you're

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going to get this because we did well. Nobody less

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than one percent of those people following I ever achieved

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that because it's not based on their uniqueness of their conditioning,

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their desires, all of that. So it was really important

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when I built the SMT method is I've created this

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journey that's is individualized as each individual who steps into

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that journey, and that's how it brings results so much

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quicker because we're not all doing the same thing like

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robots trying to get the same you know, the to

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the D factor, right, we're finding out, we're developing systems

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of accelerating habits, we're developing a vision. We're doing these

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things that are unique to the individual, carrying those forward

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and that's how we start opening up that door. And

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here's why, because when we're doing those A, B and C,

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we can overlook that and live through our programming through

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the whole thing and not get the results we're looking for,

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or we can go through this process that's based on

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the individual. So we're coming out with a vision that

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excites us, not something somebody told us we're making ten

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million dollars in a week or something, you know. And

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as we go through and we start developing systems of

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accelerating habits, we're doing it for the individual that I'm

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working with. What you and I come up with for

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your you know, systems of accelerating habit is going to

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be totally different than mine or anybody else's. So it's

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really a unique experience to every individual, and that's how

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people get results quicker.

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Yeah, And I love that because, as you say, it's

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such an individual you know. And the other thing I

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love what you said is the fact that we don't

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even know sometimes, you know, we hear some thing said

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and based on our perception whatever that is, which may

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not be accurate, all of a sudden, that becomes an

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imprint and has nothing to do with family. I had

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nothing to do with anything other than we heard something,

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we interpreted it a certain way, and it became embedded

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as a belief.

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all of it, regardless of a program or what area

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or whether it's business or personal or whatever it is.

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When we step into that, when we start moving through

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that area, we cannot go out and get to that

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person that we want to be. We have to come

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from that place inside of us. And in order to

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do that, we have to be able to identify the patterns,

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the limitations, the habits, all that stuff that's causing us

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limitations shift those and then that opens up the door

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to becoming that person, you.

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Know, And that goes about something that I am just

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so strongly opinionated about because I hear there's so many

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times in religion, everything else you need to do this,

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you need to do that in order to accomplish this,

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and so forth. And it's like, you know what you

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need to become, be as you're talking about, get in

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there and analyze it and become. And when you do that,

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then that behavior is just naturally going to follow and

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the results are going to naturally and we don't have

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near the limitation and the problem with not the problem

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the hard part of all this stuff is, like I

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said earlier, we don't even know we're living.

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Through those you know, through that conditioning in that programming.

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Yeah, that is so true. Well let's get into some

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So what is.

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That method and how does it really help people?

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So so my whole thing in doing this what worked

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for me and again what took me years or decades

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to figure out my client's achieve in weeks now you know.

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So, But what it is is we come out of

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the gate developing what the SMT method refers to as

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a dynamic vision. So we get a big vision and

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we get the clarity of that vision.

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What looks like feels like, oh that's a but we

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build that vision.

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Even in doing that, people will tap against that programming

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and so as they do, it has tools that we

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walk through to start shifting that programming and putting it

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in align with the vision. And so and as we're

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doing that, we start seeing some of that open. So

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it becomes an exciting process to go through. And once

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as we're stepping through it, we get into you know,

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the mind, we get into self like self imagery, things

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like that and how we see ourselves as such. And

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it also we start developing systems of accelerating habits. And

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I'll give you a quick example. You ever see somebody

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do a Facebook live and you can tell they don't

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want to be there.

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I don't watch those, but yeah, I can imagine I.

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Feel bad for the person. So that's not that person's wheelhouse,

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that's not that person's avenue. Now you ever see somebody

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who does a live and you can tell they're they're

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at home, they're they're on and you watch those longer.

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That's somebody who's in alignment that they're there. You know,

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that's part of their passion is doing things like that.

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So what the SBT method does is it helps each

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individual find what is that for them, leading towards that vision.

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And as we start opening that up, what we do

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is we find more time to spend doing that than

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the things that we don't want to do and can't

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stand doing and is really working against us. And as

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we're doing it, we're continually bumping up against patterns. You know,

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we have tools to help like quickly shift that and

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then we can go deeper into it.

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Because you spoke on perceptions, and I have four siblings

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and when we get together and talk about stories of

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things growing up that we're all there for there's five

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different perceptions of that event because we all have our

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own perceptions. So if we want to change, if we

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have to become this, then it starts with okay, where

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am I at right now?

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And then we can back that up and going what

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are the perceptions leading me to seeing it there? Which

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then backs us up into the programming, So we shift

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the programming, It shifts the perceptions, and it allows us

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to experience something different in our life.

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All right, And you know you talk about achieving that desire,

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those goals, that vision that they really want. How do

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you help them? Because I guarantee you that so many

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times people will say, all right, this is my vision,

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and yet guess what, it's not their vision. It's based

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on all of those imprints in the subconscious. So how

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do you help people to move away from the imprinted

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visions of their life and goals and desires and purposes

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and so forth to where it's genuinely who they are.

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Yeah, and even to add to that, like you know,

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anything vision wise and stuff like vision boards and stuff

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can be really powerful. But I find that a lot

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of people, if I really get down to asking them

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a few questions, I find out they don't really know

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what they want. Yeah, they just don't want to struggle.

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They want to get beyond the struggle, you know, in

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the toughness. They want a relationship if they're alone, they

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want to you know, whatever it is. They want to

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have some money to go and do things and travel

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and stuff like that.

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But most people don't even really know what they want.

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two weeks right up front in the process to help

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people define that and help them grow that and help

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them build that.

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So there's a vision. There's a powerful vision, which like

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vision boards and such are where you got the view

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of it and stuff you can see it. But then

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there's a dynamic vision where you start adding that feeling tone,

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what's it feel like to live that life being that person,

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and we add all that to it. And I have

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helped people. I mean, that's one of the things I

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do right out of the gate is help people to

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build that vision beyond what they can believe. A powerful

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vision is a vision, or a dynamic vision is a vision.

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When you get done writing it, it should be. I

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have no flipping idea how I'm going to achieve that,

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but you do.

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Most of you tie in the emotion and that's it

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seems to me that might be the key. Is that

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is you know I'm talking about all right, I want

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to accomplish this that now you're telling me, all right,

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let's tie it into your emotions and how does that

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really feel? And do you find that you're able to

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actually identify that Okay, that really isn't backed up by

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a true emotion, and all of a sudden you find something, Okay,

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there's there is and there's the connection with the emotion.

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Because if we're not emotional about it, we don't really

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want it. If we have no emotion. You know, I

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love what I do, doctor Doug.

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I love that I get to spend my life doing this.

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And this is after a twenty year career in corporate America,

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you know, And I absolutely love it. And so when

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I think of working with the client, when I sign

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a new client, I do a walk, you know, a

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walk in gratitude. I call it where I do. And

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there's times when I used to wear the headset like

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you got, and I don't plug it, and I find

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myself a block away from where I'm at still having

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the headset. I forgot to take a look. But yeah,

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we when we have the emotional charge to it, it

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helps break it that much quicker then just the visual

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of it. Now, one of the things I'll tell you

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is a lot of people they have visions. They say, yeah,

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I want I want a million dollars, and I go, okay,

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why do you want a million dollars? Well, because then

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I'll never struggle with money again. When we're creating what

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we want based on lack of what we don't have,

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it's only working against us. So we have to get that.

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We have to get alignment to the vision as well,

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so you can see where it goes much deeper than

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just what do you want, you know, And so when

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we get that alignment down, like I have a vision

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right now to raise five million dollars, and the reason

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I'm doing that is because I want to launch my

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institute to certify other coaches in the SMT program, so

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it has a greater footprint and reach than what I

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can have myself. But also even beyond when I'm gone

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from this place, it'll continue on. So it's like my

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legacy and I'm really excited about. So that's a different

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thing than saying I want a million dollars because I

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don't want to run out of money. And what I've

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seen multiple times is people who come from that that

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are able to gather that million dollars or whatever the

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number is, they automatically switch to being afraid of losing it. Then,

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so the programming stays regardless of the situation or circumstances,

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so you know whether you're getting it or whether you're

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afraid to lose it. The programming stays right in there,

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afraid of lack well.

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And it's and it's interesting, you know, being here in

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Thailand and I've studied a lot about Buddhism being here

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one under fourth and you know, he talks so much

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about suffering, and part of his entire goal is to

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help people to get to the point where they are

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not suffering. And it doesn't mean that they aren't experiencing

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events in their life that would cause other people to

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experience quote suffering, but they have reached a point where

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when those events happen, it's just like it's not going

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to affect the standpoint and they feel like they're suffering.

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I think you've hit it on the head that you know,

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fear has such a big role in that talk a

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little bit about fear and what that does.

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Well, yeah, fear, I mean really the fear is getting

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outside of our comfort zone, which is challenging those those

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that programming is what it is, you know, and as

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we go forward and such and we're stepping out is

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fear is a huge roadblock. The way we address it

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within the SMT method is we start to understand how

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fear is so far side to side we can't get

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around it, and it's so tall we can never get

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over it. But most of the time, when we go

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through it, it's paper thin. And I proved that over

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and over and over, even with my life. I ran

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off of a two thousand foot mountaintop with me and

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a hang glider because I thought I was afraid of heights,

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and now I do that.

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You know.

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I've taken seven launches so far on the way to

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my fifteen to be fully certified. And it's when we

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go through the fear. But I'll tell you when I

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did that. And I had three steps and I was

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in the air with no rumblow me yeah, And I

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took the first step and everything in my heart. I

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could feel my heart beating and my head's going, don't

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do it, don't do it. And I took the second

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step and it got stronger. And I think it was

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in the second step I don't even recall, but I

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could feel my heart beating in my throat and I'm

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just hearing this yelling in my head, don't do it,

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don't do it. But the moment my feet left the ground,

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it was ask to see amaze. I felt like I

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was soaring, you know, But so often that fear will

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stop us from getting to that point. And so what

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I love to do is help people move beyond that point,

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you know. So we do that through managing the fear,

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because we can never get rid of it. Anytime we

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00:22:16.599 --> 00:22:18.839
do something new, there's going to be fear. But we

469
00:22:18.880 --> 00:22:22.640
can use fear and instead of it using us. And

470
00:22:22.680 --> 00:22:24.880
so we start shifting that side of the well.

471
00:22:24.960 --> 00:22:27.880
And you talk about tools. And what I find interesting

472
00:22:27.960 --> 00:22:31.319
is I interview different people. You know that I'm not.

473
00:22:31.480 --> 00:22:33.480
I don't know that you have a book. I haven't

474
00:22:33.519 --> 00:22:35.759
seen you have a book. Maybe you do, but.

475
00:22:35.839 --> 00:22:38.039
You sight behind me that oh this side that life's

476
00:22:38.079 --> 00:22:38.960
lessons right there.

477
00:22:39.200 --> 00:22:42.440
Okay, Hi, you have a book. Okay, great, so I

478
00:22:42.480 --> 00:22:45.319
have a few of them. What I find interesting is

479
00:22:45.480 --> 00:22:47.880
a lot of times people will go, well, you know,

480
00:22:48.119 --> 00:22:50.279
I'm trying to promote my book, trying to do this,

481
00:22:50.440 --> 00:22:52.720
trying to do that, so they won't get into it,

482
00:22:52.759 --> 00:22:55.119
and I'm just a hard shell. I want to know

483
00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:58.920
how what are the tools you're using? You know, Because

484
00:22:58.960 --> 00:23:01.759
what I have found is if someone in the audience

485
00:23:01.799 --> 00:23:04.920
will listen and understand the tools, can they apply it

486
00:23:04.920 --> 00:23:09.960
to themselves without help? Usually not, unless they're really unique,

487
00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:12.440
they really need a coach, They need some help. And

488
00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:15.079
so forth. But to be able to understand what the

489
00:23:15.079 --> 00:23:18.960
tools are oftentimes gives them that sense of Okay, that

490
00:23:19.039 --> 00:23:21.079
makes sense for me. Now I want to learn more

491
00:23:21.079 --> 00:23:23.319
about it. So I'm going to ask you what are

492
00:23:23.400 --> 00:23:26.680
some of those tools that you use in the SMT

493
00:23:27.279 --> 00:23:32.839
methodology to help people to really move from that subconscious

494
00:23:33.039 --> 00:23:35.799
control to conscious living.

495
00:23:36.039 --> 00:23:38.400
Great question. I love that conscious living.

496
00:23:38.720 --> 00:23:39.319
I love that.

497
00:23:39.319 --> 00:23:40.640
That was great, doctor Doug.

498
00:23:41.759 --> 00:23:42.119
I am.

499
00:23:42.839 --> 00:23:44.680
You know, there's so much with it, but a lot

500
00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:47.319
of it is is really all of the tools are

501
00:23:47.359 --> 00:23:52.799
geared towards identifying the limiting belief, identifying the limiting program,

502
00:23:53.000 --> 00:23:55.799
and then tools to shift that, whether it's perceumption shifting,

503
00:23:55.839 --> 00:23:59.920
whatever it is that we use. We for a lot

504
00:24:00.079 --> 00:24:02.519
to the vision throughout the time I work with my clients,

505
00:24:02.839 --> 00:24:05.440
because that's the excitement, that's the carrit right And as

506
00:24:05.440 --> 00:24:07.519
we start opening up some of that, then we get

507
00:24:07.559 --> 00:24:09.720
more excited and we dive deeper into it and such.

508
00:24:09.880 --> 00:24:11.920
So that's a big part of it. But it's really

509
00:24:12.079 --> 00:24:18.319
about shifting that programming. It's really about taking different actions

510
00:24:18.359 --> 00:24:21.960
like consciously choosing. You know, Wallace Wild, I love his quote.

511
00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:25.519
He says, if you're not consciously choosing to be rich, excellent,

512
00:24:25.559 --> 00:24:29.440
and healthy. Then you're subconsciously choosing to be poor, mediocre,

513
00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:30.160
and unhealthy.

514
00:24:30.480 --> 00:24:32.519
And that's really a lot of what it is.

515
00:24:32.519 --> 00:24:38.440
It's to shift from living in this subconscious place to

516
00:24:38.599 --> 00:24:40.799
living more consciously. Exactly what you.

517
00:24:40.799 --> 00:24:43.960
Said, Well, you know, as I hear what you're saying,

518
00:24:44.039 --> 00:24:46.079
one of the things that comes to my mind is,

519
00:24:46.119 --> 00:24:49.400
you know, I've studied a lot of this, and I've

520
00:24:49.480 --> 00:24:53.200
kind of tapped onto meditation and so forth. And I

521
00:24:53.279 --> 00:24:56.279
know personally as well as talking to others, some people

522
00:24:56.519 --> 00:24:58.799
while they haven't effect but for a lot of us

523
00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:03.200
that meditation and that affirmation. I do walking meditation, and.

524
00:25:03.119 --> 00:25:05.000
There's there's okay, I've done that before.

525
00:25:05.160 --> 00:25:07.319
Yeah, there's a lot of reasons because there's the whole

526
00:25:07.440 --> 00:25:10.759
sematic part of the body movement. And you know, as

527
00:25:10.799 --> 00:25:13.519
I've studied, you know, using the binarial beats when I'm

528
00:25:13.559 --> 00:25:15.839
listening to the music as I'm walking and trying to

529
00:25:15.880 --> 00:25:18.519
get everything from right rand left ering connected up there

530
00:25:18.559 --> 00:25:21.839
and so on and so forth. But I know a

531
00:25:21.880 --> 00:25:25.039
lot of times in meditation it takes a lot of

532
00:25:25.119 --> 00:25:28.279
time to move from one to another and so on

533
00:25:28.319 --> 00:25:31.160
and so forth. When when I hear about the Buddhists,

534
00:25:31.799 --> 00:25:34.920
you know, the guys that have become monks, and they

535
00:25:34.920 --> 00:25:38.680
are meditating for hours and days and months in order

536
00:25:38.799 --> 00:25:41.720
to try to achieve. And what I'm hearing you telling

537
00:25:41.759 --> 00:25:46.000
me is, Doug, you could do that really quickly with

538
00:25:46.039 --> 00:25:48.920
my method. And I want to know how what what

539
00:25:49.000 --> 00:25:53.599
on earth are you doing to move so quickly versus

540
00:25:53.839 --> 00:25:57.240
those of us that are just meditating and really working

541
00:25:57.400 --> 00:26:00.680
trying to get that accomplished, and sometimes it takes monthsex

542
00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:02.759
Here's what's the difference.

543
00:26:02.359 --> 00:26:02.799
You know what.

544
00:26:03.079 --> 00:26:05.599
One of the things that takes so much longer is

545
00:26:05.720 --> 00:26:06.119
You're right.

546
00:26:06.160 --> 00:26:07.359
You could buy books on this stuff.

547
00:26:07.359 --> 00:26:09.079
You can buy books on meditation, you can buy books

548
00:26:09.119 --> 00:26:10.440
on mindset shifting, you.

549
00:26:10.400 --> 00:26:13.079
Know, books on it. So but for me, it I

550
00:26:13.119 --> 00:26:15.079
bought all those books. I did the experience, you know,

551
00:26:15.200 --> 00:26:19.960
made you know, experimented with the book and brought you know,

552
00:26:20.319 --> 00:26:23.400
and and I couldn't get to change until I found

553
00:26:23.400 --> 00:26:27.519
somebody else to help me because I didn't even recognize

554
00:26:28.079 --> 00:26:31.279
my programming where they could help point that out to me.

555
00:26:31.400 --> 00:26:34.680
That's one of the things that really expedites it over

556
00:26:34.759 --> 00:26:36.400
doing it one. I mean, I told you it took

557
00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:40.160
me three decades to truly bring about the changes that

558
00:26:40.200 --> 00:26:42.559
I've experienced in my life and such. And if you know,

559
00:26:42.640 --> 00:26:44.839
growing up like I grew up, even the fact that

560
00:26:44.920 --> 00:26:47.240
you and I being here talking to like right now,

561
00:26:47.279 --> 00:26:51.319
doctor Doug, it's unrealistic. It's unrealistic. This kid, growing up

562
00:26:51.319 --> 00:26:53.960
the way I grew up would would build a career

563
00:26:54.039 --> 00:26:56.240
and up to a vice president of sales and help

564
00:26:56.279 --> 00:27:00.000
companies and bankruptcy back you know, profitability and and and

565
00:26:59.880 --> 00:27:02.480
and even now be doing what I'm doing now and

566
00:27:02.559 --> 00:27:05.519
have such an impact on so many people's lives and such.

567
00:27:05.759 --> 00:27:08.559
It's unrealistic for that to happen. But what I did

568
00:27:08.640 --> 00:27:11.799
when I opened the door to let somebody else assist me,

569
00:27:12.319 --> 00:27:15.240
you know, iron sharpens iron. Right, they could help me

570
00:27:15.319 --> 00:27:18.839
in ways I could not see of my own a cord,

571
00:27:19.240 --> 00:27:21.079
you know, when I had that insight, when I was

572
00:27:21.119 --> 00:27:23.799
in my early twenties about you know, if something came

573
00:27:23.880 --> 00:27:25.720
easy to me, I die I didn't work hard enough

574
00:27:25.759 --> 00:27:27.880
and deserve it. That felt like the right way to

575
00:27:27.880 --> 00:27:30.279
be to me, with all of my being, It felt

576
00:27:30.359 --> 00:27:32.279
like the right way to be. But I just knew

577
00:27:32.319 --> 00:27:34.599
something wasn't right because it related so much to my

578
00:27:34.759 --> 00:27:38.000
parents and how they lived and so going forward in

579
00:27:38.119 --> 00:27:40.720
that when I found somebody to start helping me, I

580
00:27:40.799 --> 00:27:44.079
like see that, it was like a light bulb came

581
00:27:44.119 --> 00:27:46.960
on and the quicker the light bulb comes on, the

582
00:27:47.039 --> 00:27:48.519
quicker you can bring about.

583
00:27:48.279 --> 00:27:51.599
That change well, And I think that's so important, Stan,

584
00:27:51.680 --> 00:27:53.400
I mean those of us that have been on this

585
00:27:53.519 --> 00:27:55.960
journey for a while. I mean, I can't tell you

586
00:27:56.039 --> 00:27:59.920
how many coaches I've hired to help me in different areas,

587
00:28:00.240 --> 00:28:02.319
you know, to try to get in and as I

588
00:28:02.880 --> 00:28:05.839
you know, and I don't officially any more work along

589
00:28:05.880 --> 00:28:09.240
that line, but I have friends who occasionally will call

590
00:28:09.279 --> 00:28:11.759
me or I'll be talking to them and they're saying, oh, man,

591
00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:14.119
I'm struggling with this, and well have you thought about this?

592
00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:16.160
Or you know what, here's a podcast you might want

593
00:28:16.200 --> 00:28:20.000
to listen to, And all of a sudden it's like wow,

594
00:28:20.119 --> 00:28:22.880
in fact, I had, you know, I don't know how

595
00:28:22.920 --> 00:28:24.519
many times, of course, you get in a little bit

596
00:28:24.519 --> 00:28:27.079
differently because you've got people working with you, paying with you,

597
00:28:27.119 --> 00:28:29.279
and then they come back and say wow. But I

598
00:28:29.279 --> 00:28:32.440
think a lot of times people who are doing things

599
00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:34.720
to try to make a difference in people's lives never

600
00:28:34.799 --> 00:28:38.240
get the feedback of what it did. And I remember

601
00:28:38.279 --> 00:28:41.200
a couple of months ago I had met an individual

602
00:28:41.400 --> 00:28:44.519
here in Thailand and they were helping me with the

603
00:28:44.599 --> 00:28:48.079
bees and so forth, and they spoke English a little

604
00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:50.359
bit better than most, and that's why they ended up

605
00:28:50.359 --> 00:28:52.279
coming to the desk and helping me. And I just

606
00:28:52.359 --> 00:28:54.200
mentioned said, well, you know what, I have a podcast.

607
00:28:54.400 --> 00:28:57.480
Oh I love to listen, and so they started listening.

608
00:28:57.720 --> 00:29:02.240
And I got a message last month that just touched

609
00:29:02.279 --> 00:29:05.359
my heart because, like, you know what, you have made

610
00:29:05.599 --> 00:29:09.400
a different in my life. I'm a change individual based

611
00:29:09.519 --> 00:29:12.960
on your podcasts and then obviously you know, talking to

612
00:29:13.000 --> 00:29:16.359
you once, same questions and you offering advice, and so

613
00:29:16.519 --> 00:29:19.119
often we don't hear that. And I think for a

614
00:29:19.160 --> 00:29:22.359
lot of people who are in a very subtle way

615
00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:25.039
trying to make a difference in people's lives, they never

616
00:29:25.119 --> 00:29:28.640
get the feedback that says, you know what, that smile

617
00:29:29.119 --> 00:29:32.359
that you gave me last week made the difference, or

618
00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:35.599
you know here I was ready through something horrible and

619
00:29:36.200 --> 00:29:39.079
just what you did or just how you were changed

620
00:29:39.119 --> 00:29:39.799
in my life.

621
00:29:40.359 --> 00:29:43.880
You know, I really love that I get to live

622
00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:46.720
this life doing this. I love everything I had to

623
00:29:46.799 --> 00:29:49.440
go through to get me to this point. And I'll

624
00:29:49.440 --> 00:29:51.680
tell you, doctor Doug whan i'm talking to a client

625
00:29:51.759 --> 00:29:53.160
or I hear from her, they'll call me up out

626
00:29:53.200 --> 00:29:54.880
of the blue, yon and say, oh my god, this

627
00:29:55.079 --> 00:29:56.799
just happened. And they have a brain, it'll put me

628
00:29:56.839 --> 00:30:01.000
into yours. I'm so fulfilled and overjoy It's seeing what

629
00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:05.240
people can achieve, you know, it's part of the process

630
00:30:05.279 --> 00:30:08.200
and stuff and seeing that happen. I absolutely love that.

631
00:30:08.440 --> 00:30:10.119
And one of the things, you know, we talked about

632
00:30:10.119 --> 00:30:12.119
the generics and things like that. One of the things

633
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:14.119
is I have a twenty eight year old son. He

634
00:30:14.160 --> 00:30:16.200
doesn't have to go until he's, you know, in his

635
00:30:16.319 --> 00:30:19.680
forties to do something. I'm seeing him now blossoming, and

636
00:30:19.720 --> 00:30:22.440
he has been over the last few years really blossoming

637
00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:24.599
with the tools and the things that I do, just

638
00:30:24.640 --> 00:30:27.960
from our conversations and such. And so it's impact that,

639
00:30:28.400 --> 00:30:31.799
you know, the generation thing going forward as well. I

640
00:30:31.839 --> 00:30:33.839
didn't set out to do that. I set out to

641
00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:36.920
fix me because I felt broken. I felt like I

642
00:30:36.960 --> 00:30:40.519
was undeserving on you know, all that stuff. And in exchange,

643
00:30:40.559 --> 00:30:42.839
I get to have this impact on as many you know,

644
00:30:42.960 --> 00:30:44.640
hundreds of people have gotten to work with over the

645
00:30:44.680 --> 00:30:47.799
past decade, my own son, people I meet, you know,

646
00:30:48.200 --> 00:30:50.640
it's just amazing, it's just absolutely amazing.

647
00:30:50.960 --> 00:30:54.880
Well, and you use the word suffering, you know, and

648
00:30:55.759 --> 00:30:59.079
how often do we become a victim of suffering? You know?

649
00:30:59.839 --> 00:31:01.920
I look at this concept to be either we are

650
00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:07.000
a victim of or we are in control over and

651
00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:10.759
and so often people look at the suffering and become

652
00:31:10.880 --> 00:31:13.799
victimized by it. But just as you said, if we

653
00:31:14.160 --> 00:31:16.920
approach the suffering because we all go through it, I mean,

654
00:31:16.960 --> 00:31:19.599
we all have things in our lives that we could

655
00:31:19.640 --> 00:31:22.240
look at as suffering as we didn't deserve that and

656
00:31:22.319 --> 00:31:24.799
so forth. But as you said, you took all of

657
00:31:24.839 --> 00:31:28.480
that and you changed the direction of your thought process

658
00:31:28.519 --> 00:31:31.240
on that to where it became a lesson, became a

659
00:31:31.359 --> 00:31:35.319
learning process, and because of your particular mindset and conscious

660
00:31:35.440 --> 00:31:38.279
you move that from suffering to success.

661
00:31:38.640 --> 00:31:40.519
Yes, and here's the thing you were talking about with

662
00:31:40.559 --> 00:31:43.759
the months with suffering and such, and here's the bottom

663
00:31:43.799 --> 00:31:46.200
line to it. You're absolutely right. That's the other one

664
00:31:46.240 --> 00:31:49.160
that's really strong up there with fear is victimhood. Were

665
00:31:49.160 --> 00:31:52.200
the victim where we grew up, what's in our bank account,

666
00:31:52.279 --> 00:31:55.200
the job were in things like that where the relationship.

667
00:31:55.200 --> 00:31:57.119
It can even be you know, the marriage, things like that.

668
00:31:57.319 --> 00:32:00.279
We're victims. We see ourselves as victims of that. But

669
00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:05.319
do you know, really there's so much power and struggle

670
00:32:05.599 --> 00:32:11.119
because the purpose of struggle, the real gift and gold

671
00:32:11.240 --> 00:32:14.599
and struggle is it's really a matter of a question,

672
00:32:15.200 --> 00:32:18.119
I don't want this, and then right back to the vision,

673
00:32:18.240 --> 00:32:22.119
So what do I want? So struggle helps can help

674
00:32:22.200 --> 00:32:24.720
us to place our focus on what we do want.

675
00:32:24.759 --> 00:32:27.240
That's the only purpose of it. And every time I've

676
00:32:27.279 --> 00:32:29.119
done that in my life, where I've been able to

677
00:32:29.160 --> 00:32:31.559
shift it over to what do I want done, all.

678
00:32:31.519 --> 00:32:32.839
Of a sudden, they start opening up more of that

679
00:32:32.920 --> 00:32:33.799
vision in my life.

680
00:32:33.960 --> 00:32:36.240
Well, but you talk about something that not a lot

681
00:32:36.279 --> 00:32:39.640
of people do, and I use the word curiosity. You know,

682
00:32:39.799 --> 00:32:43.519
you have that struggle and you go, Okay, I'm curious,

683
00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:46.319
why am I having this struggle? What do I need

684
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:48.880
to change so that I don't continue to have this struggle?

685
00:32:49.079 --> 00:32:52.200
And I'm curious as to what I really want? And

686
00:32:52.240 --> 00:32:55.319
then all of a sudd develop that vision. How do

687
00:32:55.319 --> 00:32:59.160
you help people to develop curiosity to where they're able

688
00:32:59.200 --> 00:33:01.599
to look at the strung and go, okay, you know

689
00:33:01.680 --> 00:33:03.799
what I don't have to accept this. I don't have

690
00:33:03.839 --> 00:33:06.720
to be a victim of it. But with curiosity, I

691
00:33:06.759 --> 00:33:09.799
can teach me a lesson and then if I positively

692
00:33:09.920 --> 00:33:11.880
use that, it's going to make a difference.

693
00:33:11.960 --> 00:33:15.039
Yeah, two party answers to that. First off, I can't

694
00:33:15.079 --> 00:33:17.400
help anybody who doesn't have an open mind.

695
00:33:17.519 --> 00:33:17.839
Yeah.

696
00:33:17.880 --> 00:33:20.400
When I talk to people and I tell them some

697
00:33:20.440 --> 00:33:22.640
of the experiences some of my you know that my

698
00:33:22.680 --> 00:33:26.400
clients have had and such, though, well that's unrealistic and

699
00:33:26.440 --> 00:33:28.920
for them it will always be unrealistic to have take

700
00:33:29.000 --> 00:33:29.680
leaps like that.

701
00:33:29.880 --> 00:33:32.079
So I can't do anything for them. So it's people

702
00:33:32.119 --> 00:33:33.559
have to somebody's.

703
00:33:33.119 --> 00:33:36.039
Got to have an open mind in order to achieve

704
00:33:36.079 --> 00:33:38.759
any change if they're locked into knowing what they know.

705
00:33:39.319 --> 00:33:40.680
Even though I have a lot of people come to

706
00:33:40.680 --> 00:33:42.480
me and we'll start talking and they'll go, I know,

707
00:33:42.720 --> 00:33:44.920
I know, and I know I know, and I go, Okay,

708
00:33:44.920 --> 00:33:46.319
that's great, all the stuff you know.

709
00:33:46.839 --> 00:33:48.559
But if you're stuck with that, that's as far as

710
00:33:48.559 --> 00:33:49.240
you're ever going to go.

711
00:33:49.759 --> 00:33:51.920
If you can look at what can I add to

712
00:33:52.279 --> 00:33:54.400
and be in search of what can I add to

713
00:33:54.440 --> 00:33:57.119
what I already know, that's how you start opening up

714
00:33:57.119 --> 00:33:59.359
that door. So there's that side of it and then

715
00:33:59.400 --> 00:34:02.960
there's the The other side of it is truly about

716
00:34:03.200 --> 00:34:06.680
what the dynamic vision think about having something that you

717
00:34:06.759 --> 00:34:09.360
read and it just excites the heck out of you

718
00:34:09.639 --> 00:34:12.880
that you can you start seeing yourself living that life.

719
00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:15.840
It's describing you certain talking about the feelings and you

720
00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:17.920
put out of those feelings and you're experiencing that feeling

721
00:34:17.960 --> 00:34:19.280
even before it happens and stuff.

722
00:34:19.480 --> 00:34:22.199
That excitement leads to quicker results.

723
00:34:22.360 --> 00:34:26.079
Those quick results. The first win is you win over

724
00:34:26.119 --> 00:34:29.000
people because once they experience something really good like that,

725
00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:30.880
they want to do it again. They want to go further,

726
00:34:30.920 --> 00:34:33.000
they want to go bigger, they want that's a human condition.

727
00:34:33.519 --> 00:34:36.679
So just getting the first win like that opens up

728
00:34:36.679 --> 00:34:40.159
that avenue, and typically the vision is what opens that up.

729
00:34:40.199 --> 00:34:43.119
That's why it's so crucial and why the SMT method

730
00:34:43.239 --> 00:34:45.960
is designed to come out of the gate developing that vigon.

731
00:34:46.079 --> 00:34:49.519
So do you have some really dynamic stories that you

732
00:34:49.559 --> 00:34:52.599
can share with the audience of changes that have taken

733
00:34:52.639 --> 00:34:54.360
place within individual's lives.

734
00:34:54.639 --> 00:34:56.719
Yeah, I have a bunch of them. I'll share one

735
00:34:56.760 --> 00:34:58.079
of them and it'll take a few minutes, but I'll

736
00:34:58.079 --> 00:34:58.440
share one.

737
00:34:58.400 --> 00:34:59.239
Of them Okay, good.

738
00:34:59.559 --> 00:35:03.039
So gentleman probably about six seven years ago now, and

739
00:35:03.079 --> 00:35:06.360
when I met him, listening to him just talking, I thought, man,

740
00:35:06.360 --> 00:35:08.519
I'm gonna need a dictionary to keep up with this

741
00:35:08.559 --> 00:35:12.840
guy because like his vocabulary and stuff. But then as

742
00:35:12.880 --> 00:35:15.119
we talked further, I was like, man, this guy is

743
00:35:15.360 --> 00:35:18.280
he had a job, he was at the bottom of

744
00:35:18.360 --> 00:35:20.559
the company and stuff like that, in feared of losing

745
00:35:20.599 --> 00:35:23.079
his job and the anxiety of economy and all that stuff.

746
00:35:23.639 --> 00:35:25.840
He was married and his wife wore the pants in

747
00:35:25.880 --> 00:35:28.199
the family, you know, she dictated what they were gonna do,

748
00:35:28.199 --> 00:35:29.440
when they were gonna do, how they were gonna do it,

749
00:35:29.440 --> 00:35:31.039
and everything else and stuff, and he was just very

750
00:35:31.079 --> 00:35:34.320
passive with that. He had two children that he wasn't

751
00:35:34.360 --> 00:35:36.719
really close with and didn't have a relationship. They were

752
00:35:36.760 --> 00:35:39.639
just like give me money, dad type of kid, you know, relationship.

753
00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:42.719
And I didn't find out till later. The guy played

754
00:35:42.960 --> 00:35:47.000
he was a musician, and so we're talking and right

755
00:35:47.039 --> 00:35:50.119
away it's like, man, there's the vocabulary. He just kind

756
00:35:50.119 --> 00:35:51.960
of caught something. So we started developing the vision. We

757
00:35:52.000 --> 00:35:54.239
got through that and the third week it came out

758
00:35:54.280 --> 00:35:56.519
when this gentleman was in the I think it was

759
00:35:56.559 --> 00:35:57.519
the fourth grade.

760
00:35:57.679 --> 00:35:58.280
He went to a.

761
00:35:58.239 --> 00:36:01.079
Brand new school, knew nobody, so he had to do

762
00:36:01.159 --> 00:36:04.039
assessment testing before, you know, before the school year started.

763
00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:05.840
So the first day of school, the bell rings, everybody

764
00:36:05.880 --> 00:36:08.440
goes in. He goes to the principal's office. Principal hands

765
00:36:08.480 --> 00:36:10.000
him the sheet of paper. He goes, man, look at

766
00:36:10.039 --> 00:36:12.119
your results. You're in the eighth grade reading year in

767
00:36:12.159 --> 00:36:15.039
college mathematics, and just his whole you know, across the board.

768
00:36:15.119 --> 00:36:17.000
He was like, and so he said, man, I'm really

769
00:36:17.000 --> 00:36:19.039
proud to have you here. And so he said, take

770
00:36:19.079 --> 00:36:20.239
this and go to class so and so.

771
00:36:20.199 --> 00:36:22.400
And give it to your teacher. And so he walked down.

772
00:36:22.480 --> 00:36:24.760
Now he's got to interrupt the whole class that's already

773
00:36:24.760 --> 00:36:27.119
started on the first day of school. Not knowing anybody,

774
00:36:27.119 --> 00:36:29.320
he walks in, hands it to the teacher and she

775
00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:31.480
looks at it and she goes, oh, look at so

776
00:36:31.639 --> 00:36:31.920
and so.

777
00:36:31.960 --> 00:36:34.360
He's in eighth grade reading, he's in college math.

778
00:36:34.599 --> 00:36:38.000
And berades this child in front of the whole classroom

779
00:36:38.360 --> 00:36:40.840
and and she ends up with, I guess you should

780
00:36:40.880 --> 00:36:43.400
be teaching this class and then sends him to a seat.

781
00:36:43.639 --> 00:36:48.079
He spent that entire year being bullied, picked on and teased,

782
00:36:48.400 --> 00:36:51.639
and within that little boy's mind, he made a promise

783
00:36:51.679 --> 00:36:54.800
he would never let anybody see him that side of

784
00:36:54.880 --> 00:36:58.079
him again. He was in elementary school. I met him,

785
00:36:58.119 --> 00:36:59.920
he was fifty one or fifty two years old, and

786
00:37:00.079 --> 00:37:03.800
he had maintained that promise all those years of that programming.

787
00:37:04.000 --> 00:37:06.639
And so as we started noting that, we started, you know,

788
00:37:06.679 --> 00:37:08.719
once we started identifying it, we could shift it, do

789
00:37:08.840 --> 00:37:12.639
perception shifting on some other tools that st method utilizes

790
00:37:12.719 --> 00:37:15.280
to start bringing about that other site, start building a

791
00:37:15.320 --> 00:37:18.519
specific vision about that side and using you know, and

792
00:37:18.559 --> 00:37:22.320
how like that celebrated his intelligence and things like that.

793
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:25.079
And as we did that, the guy called me three

794
00:37:25.119 --> 00:37:26.880
times over a week and a half outside of our

795
00:37:26.880 --> 00:37:29.599
session to tell me about these breakthroughs he was having

796
00:37:29.639 --> 00:37:31.559
and things like that, you know, with his children. And

797
00:37:32.360 --> 00:37:34.280
the one I'll never forget. He called me on a

798
00:37:34.320 --> 00:37:37.239
Thursday night and he said, Joseph, you're not going to

799
00:37:37.280 --> 00:37:39.159
believe this. I just had the call share and I go, okay,

800
00:37:39.159 --> 00:37:41.159
tell me, tell me, tell me. And so he said

801
00:37:41.159 --> 00:37:43.280
that he and his wife were talking and they were

802
00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:45.480
talking about the plans for the weekend, and she said,

803
00:37:45.519 --> 00:37:47.880
we're going to do this Friday, you know, and kind

804
00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:49.639
of went through the lineup and stuff, and he goes,

805
00:37:49.800 --> 00:37:51.639
I don't want to do it like that, and he

806
00:37:51.719 --> 00:37:54.639
said that was the first time that he really stood

807
00:37:54.760 --> 00:37:57.199
up to her. And she turned and looked at him.

808
00:37:57.559 --> 00:37:59.840
And what it was is he wanted to add something family.

809
00:38:00.000 --> 00:38:02.119
I'm into the whole thing. That wasn't you know in there,

810
00:38:02.360 --> 00:38:04.800
and he said. She turned and looked at him and

811
00:38:04.840 --> 00:38:10.039
said that was so hot. Now that's within a few

812
00:38:10.079 --> 00:38:11.880
weeks of working with this gentleman.

813
00:38:12.119 --> 00:38:14.639
I have another gentleman. He hired me as a business coach.

814
00:38:15.039 --> 00:38:17.880
And so this guy ended up flourishing in all areas

815
00:38:17.880 --> 00:38:20.840
of life, with his wife, with his children, even his business.

816
00:38:20.840 --> 00:38:23.920
He ended up within six months, he ended up growing

817
00:38:24.239 --> 00:38:26.440
in the business, and he ended up being when they

818
00:38:26.559 --> 00:38:29.719
hired somebody, knew he would train that person to get

819
00:38:29.760 --> 00:38:32.239
them that quick start that he experienced and stuff. So

820
00:38:32.679 --> 00:38:34.960
I have another gentleman that hired me as as a

821
00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:38.880
business coach. And he hired me his team wasn't performing.

822
00:38:39.320 --> 00:38:41.920
He didn't want to have a coach come in and

823
00:38:41.960 --> 00:38:43.800
work with them, so he was going to get coaching

824
00:38:43.800 --> 00:38:44.920
and then bring it to his team.

825
00:38:45.280 --> 00:38:48.480
Okay, so we go through coaching. The fourth week we're working.

826
00:38:48.199 --> 00:38:50.599
Together, I think it was a fourth week it came

827
00:38:50.639 --> 00:38:53.079
out that he had a thirty seven year marriage and

828
00:38:53.119 --> 00:38:55.320
he and his wife just coexisted. The kids were grown

829
00:38:55.400 --> 00:38:57.599
and gone and stuff, and they lived in the same

830
00:38:57.599 --> 00:39:00.480
house as it they they shopped differently, they cooked differently.

831
00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:03.239
That you know, they had no interaction with each.

832
00:39:03.039 --> 00:39:06.000
Other in all. The sixth week he was working with me,

833
00:39:06.039 --> 00:39:08.159
he was in a live event I did, and so

834
00:39:08.199 --> 00:39:10.280
I said, hey, would you mind coming doing a testimonial,

835
00:39:10.400 --> 00:39:12.119
you know? And he goes, no, not at all. So

836
00:39:12.199 --> 00:39:13.760
at the time I called him up and he shared

837
00:39:13.920 --> 00:39:16.119
just what I just told you. And I said, okay,

838
00:39:16.159 --> 00:39:18.679
so now it's been three more weeks, four more weeks, whatever,

839
00:39:19.000 --> 00:39:21.519
what's your life like today? And he said, my wife

840
00:39:21.599 --> 00:39:25.239
and I are like we're honeymoons again. We snuggle up

841
00:39:25.239 --> 00:39:28.239
and watch movies, we date, we eat together, we cook together,

842
00:39:28.360 --> 00:39:32.440
we you know, activities and things like that. And I said, okay,

843
00:39:32.480 --> 00:39:35.079
so we know that you've been working with me this time,

844
00:39:35.239 --> 00:39:37.880
what's your wife been doing? And Doctor Dougy goes, she

845
00:39:38.000 --> 00:39:39.880
hasn't been doing nothing.

846
00:39:40.840 --> 00:39:44.280
You know. And I think that that's so key that

847
00:39:44.320 --> 00:39:47.800
we don't realize that, in fact, I had interviewed someone

848
00:39:47.880 --> 00:39:50.519
else that had talked about relationships and the fact that

849
00:39:50.920 --> 00:39:54.519
if I can change myself more often than not that

850
00:39:54.599 --> 00:39:58.519
other person around without ever going through the process. Just

851
00:39:58.559 --> 00:40:01.079
because of the effect we have it, we're we're getting close

852
00:40:01.119 --> 00:40:04.320
to the end here, by the way, Yes, okay, you

853
00:40:04.360 --> 00:40:07.159
know these conversations go so great and it's like, oh,

854
00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:09.400
we could go on for hours and I'm not allowed

855
00:40:09.440 --> 00:40:09.800
to do that.

856
00:40:09.800 --> 00:40:12.519
Life time flies, I tell you.

857
00:40:12.559 --> 00:40:15.880
So as we come to a close, what would be

858
00:40:15.920 --> 00:40:18.280
a message that you'd like to share with the audience

859
00:40:18.360 --> 00:40:22.320
that could get them to really start thinking about what they.

860
00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:25.559
If you're in struggle where you have upsets and things

861
00:40:25.559 --> 00:40:27.559
aren't the way you want them to be, it's not

862
00:40:27.599 --> 00:40:31.039
your fault. We're all designed to want to experience our

863
00:40:31.079 --> 00:40:33.400
desires in our life and it's meant to be that way.

864
00:40:33.639 --> 00:40:36.719
But there's some programming covering that up for you, and

865
00:40:36.800 --> 00:40:38.559
you can go about it yourself and spend a lot

866
00:40:38.599 --> 00:40:40.719
of time doing it and figuring it out and everything else,

867
00:40:41.119 --> 00:40:42.960
or you can get a hold of somebody me or

868
00:40:42.960 --> 00:40:47.079
somebody like me that has a program that's tailored to

869
00:40:47.159 --> 00:40:50.400
your uniqueness and go through it. Quicker and get to

870
00:40:50.440 --> 00:40:53.840
that other side and stop wasting life being stuck.

871
00:40:54.119 --> 00:40:57.599
Amen. Amen? And so how do people find you? If

872
00:40:57.800 --> 00:40:59.719
you know, listen to this, they go, Okay, I want

873
00:40:59.719 --> 00:41:02.000
to talk to Jilly about what I'm going How do

874
00:41:02.079 --> 00:41:02.599
they find you?

875
00:41:02.960 --> 00:41:05.320
The easiest way to do it is go to coach

876
00:41:05.440 --> 00:41:09.039
with Joey dot com and schedule a fifteen minute call.

877
00:41:09.079 --> 00:41:11.079
It's not a sales pitch, it's not. All I want

878
00:41:11.119 --> 00:41:13.320
to do is like from this. If you're calling from

879
00:41:13.320 --> 00:41:15.440
this podcast and you're at a place of struggle, or

880
00:41:15.440 --> 00:41:17.280
you're in a place of not knowing what that is,

881
00:41:17.360 --> 00:41:19.079
or you feel like you're getting stuck in it, just

882
00:41:19.119 --> 00:41:21.519
call me. I want to help however I can. So

883
00:41:21.559 --> 00:41:24.199
if I can help you get over that and move forward,

884
00:41:24.480 --> 00:41:27.079
and then you know, we go from there. If it

885
00:41:27.119 --> 00:41:29.519
covers you and you're good to go from there, that's great.

886
00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:31.800
And you know, if it's something the program and stuff

887
00:41:31.840 --> 00:41:35.039
makes sense, that's a whole nother conversation. But it's really

888
00:41:35.159 --> 00:41:36.119
just to be of service.

889
00:41:36.400 --> 00:41:40.280
Okay, Is there is there one book that you'd like

890
00:41:40.320 --> 00:41:42.599
to do out and you said might really make a difference.

891
00:41:42.800 --> 00:41:45.199
Yeah, right behind me is a book that Blue Books.

892
00:41:45.320 --> 00:41:48.280
It's life's lessons And it's really all about when I

893
00:41:48.360 --> 00:41:51.079
stopped wanting to be a victim and I started. You

894
00:41:51.119 --> 00:41:52.639
hear a lot about it now, you didn't when I

895
00:41:52.639 --> 00:41:55.760
wrote the book. But you know, life happens. Life doesn't

896
00:41:55.760 --> 00:41:59.039
happen to us, it happens for us. And so once

897
00:41:59.079 --> 00:42:01.039
I could put the judge in the side of things

898
00:42:01.039 --> 00:42:03.039
happening or it's not good or bad, right or wrong,

899
00:42:03.320 --> 00:42:05.880
and I could start looking at those events to what

900
00:42:06.000 --> 00:42:08.760
was it teaching me? Is when I started learning my

901
00:42:08.760 --> 00:42:11.960
life's lessons that then would later on launch me into

902
00:42:12.000 --> 00:42:13.079
the life I live today.

903
00:42:13.280 --> 00:42:15.960
No, I love it. Well, Joey, thanks, this has been incredible.

904
00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:20.159
This is a delight doctor Doug. Absolutely, I really appreciate it.

905
00:42:20.199 --> 00:42:22.400
And folks, hey, thanks for listening. I hope this is

906
00:42:22.440 --> 00:42:24.880
making a difference for you. And get a hold of Joey,

907
00:42:24.920 --> 00:42:26.800
go to that website and take a look at what's

908
00:42:26.840 --> 00:42:28.559
going on, because I think for a lot of you

909
00:42:28.960 --> 00:42:31.599
this could really make a difference in your life. So anyway,

910
00:42:31.920 --> 00:42:34.679
this is doctor Doug saying, I'm a stay and I'm

911
00:42:34.679 --> 00:42:40.119
a say