Aug. 21, 2024

Roadmap to Emotional Freedom

Roadmap to Emotional Freedom

There are 4 parts to our brains (characters) that control our lives and it is time that we take control to experience positive changes in our lives.
JJ Flizanes talks about how we need to make a connection between our body, mind and soul to be able to...

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There are 4 parts to our brains (characters) that control our lives and it is time that we take control to experience positive changes in our lives.
JJ Flizanes talks about how we need to make a connection between our body, mind and soul to be able to create that path of emotional freedom in our lives.
http://jjflizanes.com

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Of competent professionals before applying or trying any suggested ideas.

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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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JJ Welcome to the show.

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Thanks doctor Deuk, happy to be here.

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Good I have you here.

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I I always love for my guests to kind of

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describe who they are, what their background is, and what

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was either the AHA moment or the gradual change of

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mindset that brought them to the point that they are

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today where they're writing books and helping people and so forth.

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So i'd love for you to share that with the audience.

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Okay, how much time do you have?

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We got we got a little bit.

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And uh yeah I could. I could go sound bite

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or I could go tell the story you know, and.

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Take here, take a few minutes and share the story.

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Okay. So who am I? Well, I'm a person who loves.

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I'm a true seeker and I believe in healing everything

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and anything. I believe everything is fixable to the to

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some to like more than most people think. I won't

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say that you might have to accept certain things that

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you don't think can be fixed, but there's always a

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way to get to it, like the root of what

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do you want out of that? So I really think

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anything is possible and miracles are possible. My background goes

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back to, oh gosh, I've done a little bit of

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things that might seem disconnected, but they've come connected into

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the present moment. And I'll tell you why. So I

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started out as a very emotionally intelligent child who asked

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very good questions about why do I feel this way,

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why do I react that way? Why did he feel

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that way? Why does he react that way? Very curious

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about all kinds of things, especially my own inner workings,

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but then also about traditional things like churches, like why

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does that church do that? And we do this? Why

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do they? Like? I was very curious and interested in

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understanding why someone did what they did, and that sort

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of has colored my entire life, and the right brain

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part of me enjoyed the arts and singing and dancing

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and acting as a way to fully express myself. Acting

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became sort of the oh, well, that's fun. Yeah, I

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want to be able to explore every emotion to its

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fullest degree, because when in life do we do that.

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We don't because it's not socially acceptable for you to

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scream at the top of your lungs and be angry

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or mad. You're supposed to, you know, be nice and

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kind and quiet and respectful and behave So acting became

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a way to sort of psychologically emotionally express and play

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in the realm of emotions, and also to learn what

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it must be like to be somebody else, because if

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done correctly, if done right, you should not be you

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on that stage. You are a character who is not you,

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and looking through someone's eyes, someone else's circumstances, someone else's history.

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What must that be like to embody a different set

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of circumstances than you grew up with. And then fast forward.

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I didn't really think I was terribly smart in the

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left brain kind of way because I didn't love math

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or science in school. They bored me. I didn't understand

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the point I didn't come to me supernaturally or easily.

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Even though I got you know, ases and b pluses,

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I still it wasn't It didn't fit until I became

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personal trainer and I learned biomechanic and science, exercise, physiology, biomechanics,

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even physics from the position of mechanically and how it

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works with the body. And when I could see it

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the visual part of it, then it made sense. And

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then I realized that I actually am pretty smart. So

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I was like, oh, I actually understand this. And so

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then I had a new sense of confidence about myself

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in order to go out to the world and teach science.

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And while those two things may seem separate, there are

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the different parts. You know. I had a very right

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brain experience, and now my left brain was opened up

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and that felt really fun and exciting. And then from

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there I moved to California, started my own business, did

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a little bit of both and in the process of

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being a trainer and working with people, of course, and

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being curious wanting to being a very good problem solver,

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I would be introduced to people who had problems that

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I didn't have answers for yet. And so every new

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problem then directed me to go learn something new and

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we got to them. And again, emotions are my jam.

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So they always have been. And when you say that energy,

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emotion is energy and motion, okay, yeah, I got that.

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When I I heard about doctor Bruce Lipton's book The

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Biology of Belief the first time, I'm like, yeah, yeah,

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your beliefs affect your biology. I don't need to be

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convinced of anything more than that you sold me on

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the cover. So to me, and vibration and frequency are

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at tangible things to me, They're not invisible, They're very visible,

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and I can see how it all works. But that's

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how my brain works differently than other people's brain. So

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when we got to the exercise peace and people's desire

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to be healthier or to relieve pain, or to whatever

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they were doing, I had to start to look for

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other ways to interpret or explain or engage people to

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care about what's underneath the hood. Because again, as a trainer,

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I could give you the perfect diet plan for you.

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I can give you the perfect supplement list for you

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based on all of your labs and all of your

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everything you're doing. I give you the perfect biomechanically sound

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exercise routine to build muscle and to burn fat and

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to get stronger and increase flexibility. But whether you do

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it or not has nothing to do with the plan,

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has to do with your psychology. It has to do

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with your inner work. Is what motivates you, what scares you,

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Your confidence, your ability to push yourself or to do

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hard things. So that sort of led me down the

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path of empowerment strategists, and I was learning law of

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attraction and all kinds of really fun things that were

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making my life better and changing my life. But I

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couldn't share them with my clients because I could. I did,

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of course I did, but they didn't really care, because

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that's not why they signed up for.

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It with me.

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They didn't sign up to be coached. They signed up

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to be worked out and to be given the exercise,

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diet plans and things like that. So I started my

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podcast back in twenty fourteen, were coming on ten years

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and that was to just share with the world and

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see how the world wanted me to show up. What

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do you want me to have? All this content and

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I want to put it somewhere, so here I'm gonna

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put on a podcast. And then clearly, through the experience

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of doing that, the universe spoke, the audience spoke, and

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I was asked to step into the whole law of attraction,

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quantum physics, combination of the left right brain. A lot

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of people said to me, I listened to your show

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because you're I believe you use the science. You're not

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just wou woo, but you link the science to the

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wu And I'm like, yeah, because it all it's all science,

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all of it.

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So yeah, and.

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That's kind of how we are here. I'm an empowerment strategist,

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like coach people on how to be happy pretty much,

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and we take any circumstance or situations and more successful

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because it happens in your business too. I know you

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talk a lot about businesses, and that's where businesses need

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to look under the hood because you're running your show.

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So guess what it's your energy, your frequency, your fears

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and get in the way of growing.

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Well, that's so true, and.

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You talk about you know, you've made that change into

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helping people and so forth, but you've been talking about

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the brain, and you know, go.

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Into that a little bit because you have what four

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characters of the mind of the brain.

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Explain a little bit about that and how do you

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use that in when you're working with people.

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I have a lot of tools, and that whole Brain

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Living tool that you're talking about is one of many, many,

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many tools that I have. And that was a book

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written by doctor Joe Bolt Taylor. It was her second book.

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Her first book was called My Stroke of Insight. She

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was a neuro anatomist, so she studied the brain because

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her brother had I believe it was either schizophrenia. I'm

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pretty sure it was schizophrenia and maybe bipolar disorder. And

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so she was fascinated with the brain. So she studied

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it and she herself was extremely left brained. Character one,

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character two. And then she had a stroke and on

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the way into her stroke, she was like, oh goodie,

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I get to start. I get to study the brain

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from the inside now. And so then coming out of

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her stroke eight years later, she wrote a book called

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Whole Brain Living and so she talked about while we

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understand the left and right brain to be like just

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two sections of the brain, she identified that there are

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sub sections of each section, so there's actually four and

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they can become characters and they have different ones and

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needs in the body in terms of what their job

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is and how they protect us or help us. And

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so it's her four characters that I've used in some

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of the work that I've done. I recommend the book.

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I've had her on the show multiple times. But when

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we look at what they're there to accomplish and how

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they're there to some like one, your character two, which

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is your left feeling brain, is there really to just

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keep you safe. But the problem with your character too

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is sometimes people live in their character too, which I'm

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going to call victim mentality. Also it's not always victim mentality.

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It's not that cut and dry. But if your character

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too is afraid of anything, which is going to be true,

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because it's going to be afraid of everything that isn't normal,

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or even the things that are normal is afraid of,

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it's going to hold you back in all aspects of

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your life. Now, that character two is never going to

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go away because they have a job and most people

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think it's an all or nothing, like, I've got to

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get all those negative voices out of my head in

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order for me to thrive in either health relationships or

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business or money. And you have to be able to

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reorganize those thoughts to say, this is a part of

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you that literally just wants you to survive. It wants

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you to be safe, it wants you to survive. It's

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not as advanced as the rest of the parts of

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your brain are, it's not as connected. In fact, it's disconnected.

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But that little part of your brain is ever going

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to go away, So make peace with her or him,

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because it's here to stay. It's how to manage those voices.

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It's how to have the rest of the parts of

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the brain come online to talk to that character too.

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And of course you make it very personalized by naming

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your characters and understanding that different parts of you. So

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if you want something and this goes for any aspect

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of life, health, relationships, business, money, if you want something

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different or more than you currently have, then you have

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to learn something or do something different, like you can't

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just it. It's the definition of insanity doing the same

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thing over and over again, expecting different results. If you

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don't learn how to access different parts of your brain

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or different parts of your personality, or remove some of

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your core wounds in your blocks. You can want all

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that you want, more and different, but until you change

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you from the inside out, you ain't getting it all right.

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So let's talk about the four parts of the brain.

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Can you can you identify what those are and how

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they affect our thinking and our lives in general?

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really recommend I have a podcast episode. We've full talked

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about that. Everybody can get the book Whole Brain, Living Character.

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So left brain is character one and two, right brain

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is character three and four. Character one is the is

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the action taker. In terms of it'd be more the

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masculine energy. It'd be the linear thinker. They get things done.

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keep things in control, wants to keep things moving. Character

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two is the emotional side of that acts or's the

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thinking brain and feeling brain. The feeling part the character

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two is the person doesn't like it being out of control,

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doesn't want to feel thinks it's unsafe when things are

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out of control, and the left part of your brain

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keeps us human in that we feel separate from other people.

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And it's not actually the truth. It's just how we

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survive on this planet right now in our lives by action,

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because we do have to get things done. You know,

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we do have to pay the bills so we can

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stay in our homes. We do have to put gas

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in the car or you know, charge it, what if

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or kind of car you have, Like, those things have

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to happen if you want to do anything. If you

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don't want to do anything, then of course you don't

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have to do any of that. The right side of

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the brain. Character three is your playful sort of like

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childlike just wants experiences, just wants to feel, wants to

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express in all the things, all the ways, and it's

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not and feels very connected to all that is. It's

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really the higher self part on the right side because

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it's the emotions. It's that energetic pieces where we live

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in a state of connection and constant feeling. And Character

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four would be more of the thinking right brain, which

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is like your meditation, your zen like you're connected to

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all that is but still functional, the person that trusts

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and knows that you and I are cut from the

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same cloth that this reality we're living is actually not real.

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it's not the whole story. It's just a fraction of

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the story. So so those different parts of the brain

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keep you from you know, you have a set way

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that the brain. You come into this world. Okay, you

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come into this world and depending on your astrology, your

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core wounds, your parents, what they model for you, what

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you do. Like, all of that creates a story, creates

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a reality that you connect to, but it is just

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a story and it's not really real. It's your story.

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There are multiple versions of that story. And so what

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the things, on neuroplasticity, on core wounds, on these characters

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is that you can change it. You can change the

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amount of intuition that you have because your right brain

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hasn't been activated. You can increase the amount of trust

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and surrender that you're able to do. You're able to

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reconnect your brain to your body to help you be

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more physically active. I've had clients in the past, personal

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training clients who, like one person in particular, she was

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really crooked, she was older, and she hired me because

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she wanted to lose weight. Well, she was really crooked

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and sort of broken and then a lot of joints

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and stuff, and she was kind of older. And I said, Lee,

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I can't. We can't make this broken machine if you

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will work harder in order for you to lose weight,

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we have to sort of fix the machine first. We

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have to make it so you're not going to keep

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breaking down. So I did some random They're not random

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to me, but someone else will be like, why are

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you doing that exercise with her? Like I had her

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on the floor doing leg lifts and stuff. Anyway, I

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did a bunch of things for a couple of sessions,

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and all of a sudden she was walking better. And

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she said to me, did I build muscle in three sessions?

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it's available to help you move. And that's what the

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brain does. The brain can turn on muscles. The brain

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can turn on neural pathways that you have not opened

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up before. And we have all this possibility, but most

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of us get stuck in our own ways because we

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only have done things one way. And so the brain's

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just this wonderful place that's connected to the body to

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help open up emotions, new ways of thinking, new ways

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of interpreting, new ways of feeling. It's all there for

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us if we just want to sort of learn a

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Well, let's talk about neuroplasticity, because I think a lot

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of people, I think there's a common belief out there

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that I cannot change. You know, I am who I

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am and I'm never going to change. And yet science

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has shown through neuroplasticity that changes can actually be made

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and become permanent. Can you share a little bit of

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your thoughts on that.

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Yeah. As of the recording of the show, which is

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two months, three months, two months out from when it's

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actually going to be published. This so mark this. This

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is a June June twenty fifth. I released a show

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today called why Neuroplasticity is the Goal? So because it is, Yes,

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you are changeable, and I can show you from your

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body to your brain to everything about you. Again, go

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back to the acting. This is where it all connects.

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I learn more about science, religion, and what else I learned.

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I learned in history, science, religion, and history in an

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acting class when I did Our Town in nineteen ninety

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two at nyus Tich School of the Arts in the

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Film and TV class because my professor at the time

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he taught stell Adler technique and sell Adler technique in

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the acting world is where you live a day in

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the life of your character. Well, guess what, the character's

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not me. I've never experienced any of the things that

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that person had experienced. So what I embody these new

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circumstances because we all have a story, we all have wounds,

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we all have I'm from this town, I grew up

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in this kind of climate. This is the kind of

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music we listen to. This is our spiritual beliefs, this

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is our political beliefs, this is what my parents did. Like,

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that's your framework for the way that you react and

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act in the world. And if you change the entire framework,

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you get to be a new expression of who you are.

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So there is no set in stone. There might be

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set in stones. The only set in stone I would

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say would be astrology, because that I don't that That

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to me is that's your blueprint, is your astrology. I'm

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a Pisces with many many sadges. Those sages have me

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as energized as I am with no caffeine all of

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the time, not from a nervous I'm on right now

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because we're talking and I'm paying attention to my words

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and I'm wanting to communicate something to you, but I don't.

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I'm not like you know, I don't have that kind

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of nervous energy or I don't have nervous energy. I'm

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just on. I'm focused, and I'm powerful when I want

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to be, I elevate that. So I think, besides astrology,

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that they're and anything can be changed, and you can

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even change the expression of that. You know, someone with

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a lot of fire like me, needs to ground in

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order to ground that. Someone with a lot of you know,

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air also needs whatever. Everyone can figure out how to

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balance the elements that they are made up of and

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therefore then get a desired change in how you respond

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to life. So I think everything is changeable.

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Well, you know, you're talking about astrology.

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I've never really gotten into that on my shell, okay,

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and it fascinates me.

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Do you how do you feel like astrology really affects

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our lives.

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And who we are in every shape you can imagine,

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in every way. Astrology was what answered the question for

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me when I was in my teens. Why why don't

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people act? Why don't people react the same way I do?

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Like I would look at something a scene, and I'd

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be horrified, let's say, or I'd be like, oh my god,

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that's terrible, and I'd look around and see that no

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one else was reacting the same way. I was like,

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what people stupid? Like It made me nicer because I

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would just assume and judge people like that they were

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heartless or they're whatever they were, depending on the situation,

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Because I was like, Okay, I'm seeing this and I'm

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interpreting it in a specific way, and I'm having a

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feeling because of that. Why is everybody else not having

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the same interpretation and their forefeeling? And astrology really taught

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me how people see the world different in different ways

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and for different reasons. Because it's based on elements fire, water, air,

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and earth, and each element is has a connection to

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how we sort of express So water is about feelings

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and everybody's made up. Everyone has a recipe. You're not

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just it's not the horoscopes, You're not you know whatever?

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Your what is? Your son? Signed doctor Doug?

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Oh, Yeah, I was going to tell you a story

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about that. So we'll laugh about that in a minute.

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So I'll tell I'll tell you the story now. So

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I'm in Aries.

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So when I when I first started my dental practice

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in Palm Springs years ago, my my receptionist was actually

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really into astrology, and she said, hey, let me do

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your your astrological chart. And I'm going, okay, So I

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gave you my birthday, where I was born, the time,

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and so forth. I came back the next day and

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she looked at me and she says, oh my goodness, I'm.

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Going, what do you mean? And I don't know.

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It wasn't totally true, but she says, you have so

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many signs in arees. It's just like your aris as

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areas and there are some others as I've done it again.

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But anyway, that was my story. So I'm aries and

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a lot of areas.

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Okay, let me tell you. Tell me about aries. So

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Aries is the first of the signs, and that has

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a lot that has there's no good or bad, but

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let's just go pop of a negative or possibility or potential,

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you know, issues, so to speak. Okay, So because you're

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in aries, uh, and I teach astrology in a straight line,

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not in a circle. So what that means is, imagine

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you're like there's a snowball in the astrology. You are

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the infant of the signs. Okay, so that and that

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is not a judgment. You're the first, You're a baby,

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You're and not. What that means is you're you're innocent.

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It could mean that you have like an innocent way

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of looking at life, that maybe it's your first time

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on the planet. And so so Aries by default likes

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to compartimentalize into good and bad, right and wrong, left

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and right, yes and no, black and white right, So

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it becomes this quick need to judge something is good

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or bad and the end as the science continues. So

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Aries is the first. And it's a fire sign. If

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you have a lot of fire, I have a lot

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of fire. You probably have. You probably want to take action.

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You're probably a really good action taker. You probably like

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to exercise or feel really calm, and you exercise because

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you're getting out some of that energy. I tell everybody

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with a couple of fire signs that you have to exercise.

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It's not a question. You need to exercise to let

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go of and to use some of that fire energy

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that you have. Otherwise you'll have anxiety and you'll have

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control issues because you're trying to stuff everything in. Areas

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can also be pioneers because you're the first your leaders

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by default, because you're the first, you could come up

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with a new way of looking at something. You could

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also have a lot of impatience for things because, again

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going back to the simplicity of being an infant, if

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you judge things as yes or no, right or wrong,

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left or right, and then there's a third category, your

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brain might be like, I don't compute that, Like that

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doesn't make any sense to me. So it could be

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frustrating if you're two part way of wanting to compartmentalize

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things all of a sudden gets a wrench in it

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with somebody saying, well, there's a third like no, no,

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there's not a third. It's yeah, this or it's this,

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like I feel more comfortable. My venus is and arees

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and your venus is how you deal with the relationships.

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I was asking myself, because I have most of my

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planets are off the end of the line. So they're

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they're very highly leveled and developed. So let's go back

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to the line for a second. Arias is the first,

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Taurus is the second. That's an Earth sign. I'm not

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00:22:12.880 --> 00:22:14.160
going to go through all of them. But what happens

463
00:22:14.240 --> 00:22:16.359
is the snowball gets bigger as you go down the line,

464
00:22:16.519 --> 00:22:19.039
and what that means is that everybody after you has

465
00:22:19.119 --> 00:22:22.799
your stuff plus somebody else plus their stuff. So Pisces

466
00:22:22.880 --> 00:22:26.279
me at the end has everybody's good stuff and everybody's

467
00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:28.839
bad stuff. So there's a whole like it becomes more

468
00:22:28.880 --> 00:22:33.039
complex and layered. So yeah, but with the venus and areas,

469
00:22:33.039 --> 00:22:36.599
I was so thinking to myself, why am I at

470
00:22:36.599 --> 00:22:39.359
a boyfriend who he wouldn't commit to. We've broken up

471
00:22:39.400 --> 00:22:41.599
and then we he wouldn't kind of like get back together,

472
00:22:41.680 --> 00:22:43.799
and I didn't understand why. I'm like, we're either together

473
00:22:43.920 --> 00:22:46.400
or we're not, because there's different rules. If we're together,

474
00:22:46.759 --> 00:22:49.039
I don't date anybody else. If we're not, I can

475
00:22:49.119 --> 00:22:51.680
date other people or I'm not supposed to whatever. So

476
00:22:51.720 --> 00:22:53.920
I just need them to like tell me. I was ridiculous.

477
00:22:53.960 --> 00:22:57.920
I was very impatient about just tell me are we together?

478
00:22:57.960 --> 00:22:58.319
Are we not?

479
00:22:58.400 --> 00:23:00.200
And I noticed this behavior and I'm like, what that's

480
00:23:00.200 --> 00:23:02.119
wrong with you? Why can't you just be Why do

481
00:23:02.119 --> 00:23:03.640
you have to label it? And then I looked at

482
00:23:03.680 --> 00:23:05.960
my chart I was like Venus and ares, Oh, okay,

483
00:23:06.160 --> 00:23:08.759
that's why, because I have no patience and I need

484
00:23:08.839 --> 00:23:11.319
to in order for me to feel safe, I need

485
00:23:11.359 --> 00:23:12.799
to be able to say this's this or it's this

486
00:23:13.359 --> 00:23:14.440
like I need to be able to come out, I

487
00:23:14.440 --> 00:23:17.640
need to make sense of it. I need to competitientalize it. So, yeah,

488
00:23:17.759 --> 00:23:21.680
so I think that astrology shows us are what we're

489
00:23:21.720 --> 00:23:24.200
made up of energetically, so you'd be a lot of fire.

490
00:23:24.440 --> 00:23:26.440
I'm a lot of fire. I've got three sach planets

491
00:23:26.440 --> 00:23:29.200
and ares and that's just within. So I have a

492
00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:31.559
lot of fire and you can see it obviously it's

493
00:23:31.559 --> 00:23:35.319
exuding out of me right now. But someone who doesn't

494
00:23:35.319 --> 00:23:36.920
think like you, or see the world like you, or

495
00:23:36.960 --> 00:23:38.920
interpret like you is going to act very differently, and

496
00:23:38.920 --> 00:23:41.799
there's nothing wrong with them. It's just that they're different.

497
00:23:42.119 --> 00:23:44.799
So it levels the playing field. If someone is right

498
00:23:44.880 --> 00:23:46.920
or wrong, or good or bad, it just says, oh,

499
00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:49.519
this is what is important to them. For you, it's

500
00:23:49.559 --> 00:23:53.119
action potentially or getting things done or being productive or

501
00:23:53.400 --> 00:23:55.759
and for a Taurus or an Earth sign, it could

502
00:23:55.759 --> 00:23:58.680
be just stability. They need to have financial stability or whatever.

503
00:23:58.880 --> 00:24:01.880
So each sign is again it's a complex system, but

504
00:24:01.920 --> 00:24:07.079
psychologically it is so helpful to It helps validate people's experiences.

505
00:24:07.119 --> 00:24:09.400
It helps them to understand why they feel how they feel,

506
00:24:09.440 --> 00:24:10.920
why they look at the world the way they do.

507
00:24:11.240 --> 00:24:13.960
And it definitely helps in relationships to understand where people

508
00:24:14.000 --> 00:24:16.640
miscommunicate because you may say one thing to me and

509
00:24:16.720 --> 00:24:19.200
I hear it differently than you've said it, and you

510
00:24:19.200 --> 00:24:21.720
don't know that. You just assume you say a word,

511
00:24:22.039 --> 00:24:24.720
I somehow am going to interpret it exactly the way

512
00:24:24.720 --> 00:24:26.839
that you did, and that's not true. So it just

513
00:24:27.000 --> 00:24:29.240
gives us information and I use it in all the

514
00:24:29.240 --> 00:24:31.039
work that I do because I think it's unimportant.

515
00:24:31.359 --> 00:24:32.119
Oh, I smile.

516
00:24:32.200 --> 00:24:32.440
I have.

517
00:24:34.359 --> 00:24:36.480
Three people that are very important in my life that

518
00:24:36.480 --> 00:24:40.960
are all Gemini. And in fact, it's interesting my one

519
00:24:41.000 --> 00:24:43.880
sense Gemini, his wife's Gemini. I've got another sign that's

520
00:24:43.880 --> 00:24:50.400
Gemini and it's like holy cow, so and I think

521
00:24:50.440 --> 00:24:53.000
his wife, how do aris get along with Gemini's.

522
00:24:53.599 --> 00:24:55.960
Well, again, there's a more complaxt. I need to know

523
00:24:56.039 --> 00:24:59.359
your moon, your ascendant, your mercury at tight eath communication

524
00:25:00.359 --> 00:25:02.920
a couple other planets before I would answer that question,

525
00:25:02.960 --> 00:25:06.599
but generally so. So Gemini is the third. So Arias

526
00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:08.640
is the first, Taurus is the second, and Gemini is

527
00:25:08.640 --> 00:25:11.079
the third because Gemini doesn't know whether it be Aries

528
00:25:11.119 --> 00:25:15.799
or Taurus. Right, that's why, right, And they're the first

529
00:25:15.799 --> 00:25:18.279
of the air signs. So air signs are about thinking

530
00:25:18.359 --> 00:25:22.759
and thought and ideas. Geminis also don't tend Geminis get

531
00:25:22.759 --> 00:25:25.039
really excited about the ideas but then don't necessarily complete

532
00:25:25.039 --> 00:25:27.759
the project or they're very shiny object syndrome. They can

533
00:25:27.960 --> 00:25:31.559
seem a d d or or sort of get lost

534
00:25:31.599 --> 00:25:34.279
easily sometimes because they get excited about something. A lot

535
00:25:34.279 --> 00:25:36.000
of Geminis just want to have a good time. They

536
00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:38.400
like to play. They're they're very they're playful and fun.

537
00:25:38.440 --> 00:25:41.200
Sometimes they're the jokester of the of the family or

538
00:25:41.240 --> 00:25:46.119
the practical jokester. Not always. But Gemini is also like beauty.

539
00:25:46.240 --> 00:25:49.160
So women Geminis definitely love to, you know, have all

540
00:25:49.160 --> 00:25:51.480
the sparkles and the things and have things look a

541
00:25:51.480 --> 00:25:53.519
certain way. I don't know that all the men do too.

542
00:25:53.559 --> 00:25:57.079
Sometimes it depends on how you know, other factors are

543
00:25:57.079 --> 00:26:00.359
in there, but Geminis are they They love concept, they

544
00:26:00.400 --> 00:26:02.359
love ideas, they love you know, a lot of times

545
00:26:02.440 --> 00:26:06.799
Geminis are good podcast listeners because they love hearing stories

546
00:26:06.839 --> 00:26:09.400
and ideas. But sometimes they're not super connected to their

547
00:26:09.519 --> 00:26:11.079
you know, feeling of it. They're just they're in their

548
00:26:11.119 --> 00:26:14.160
head a lot. Again, so there's a there's a possible

549
00:26:14.200 --> 00:26:23.640
anxiety about overthinking headaches, migrains. Yeah, just Geminis dominate that

550
00:26:23.799 --> 00:26:26.640
because it's they're the first air sign so well.

551
00:26:26.720 --> 00:26:30.119
And you know, so you you talk about astrology and

552
00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:32.759
how it can affect our lives, you know, I look

553
00:26:32.799 --> 00:26:35.960
at I look at very much behavioral management. I look

554
00:26:35.960 --> 00:26:40.039
at behavioral analysis tools where and it's kind of a

555
00:26:40.079 --> 00:26:42.480
little bit about what you're talking about before characters. I

556
00:26:42.480 --> 00:26:46.079
happen to use the DISC, a very advanced DISC, so

557
00:26:46.400 --> 00:26:50.759
you get into that left brain extrovert, right brain extrovert,

558
00:26:51.319 --> 00:26:53.640
you know, right brain introvert, and so on and so forth.

559
00:26:53.960 --> 00:26:56.200
But what I find is that as I've done that

560
00:26:56.240 --> 00:26:59.240
for people and it really helps them as we go

561
00:26:59.319 --> 00:27:02.440
into the depth and analyze what's their motivators, what's their values,

562
00:27:02.480 --> 00:27:06.160
all those type of things, I find that that in

563
00:27:06.200 --> 00:27:09.240
that particular case, I let them know that this does

564
00:27:09.319 --> 00:27:13.920
not identify absolutely who you are, but rather this gives you.

565
00:27:13.920 --> 00:27:17.839
A sense and you can change. You can change.

566
00:27:17.880 --> 00:27:20.240
Now, do you find that it's the same case when

567
00:27:20.279 --> 00:27:23.440
you're working with people and their astrology, that helping them

568
00:27:23.480 --> 00:27:26.880
to understand that although you know you fit into this,

569
00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:31.920
I fit into that areas situation. The question is you

570
00:27:31.960 --> 00:27:34.559
know you have the light and you have the shadow.

571
00:27:35.680 --> 00:27:38.920
You've got that shadow part that is not the one

572
00:27:39.000 --> 00:27:41.440
that you want. Are you able to change? Have you

573
00:27:41.480 --> 00:27:44.240
found that people can make those changes and not be

574
00:27:44.640 --> 00:27:48.640
labeled or put into a particular characterization that they don't

575
00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:50.119
have to necessarily stay there.

576
00:27:51.720 --> 00:27:55.039
Uh yeah, I've had absolutely, but I don't do it

577
00:27:55.079 --> 00:27:57.519
from the place of just astrology is the tool. But

578
00:27:57.559 --> 00:27:59.119
the first tool I use is I work with their

579
00:27:59.200 --> 00:28:03.160
court wounds. I think core wounds are the deepest, most

580
00:28:03.960 --> 00:28:08.799
straight to the lack of story, Like you get everyone's

581
00:28:10.079 --> 00:28:13.319
path and the reason they've done everything, because really the

582
00:28:13.319 --> 00:28:16.480
core wounds are the bottom, that's the belief system. If

583
00:28:16.519 --> 00:28:19.119
I understand what my core wounds are, I understand how

584
00:28:19.119 --> 00:28:21.160
I operate in the world, and then we put on

585
00:28:21.240 --> 00:28:23.720
all the different other tools to figure out how the

586
00:28:23.759 --> 00:28:26.559
expression of that. But at the bottom down here, we

587
00:28:26.640 --> 00:28:28.759
have to understand what is it that I believe about

588
00:28:28.799 --> 00:28:31.920
myself and in the world and in life and about life,

589
00:28:31.920 --> 00:28:34.000
so that I understand why I'm making the choices that

590
00:28:34.039 --> 00:28:37.440
I'm making. Because these tools, while will be helpful to

591
00:28:37.559 --> 00:28:40.880
manage sort of circumstances on the top level, really to

592
00:28:40.960 --> 00:28:42.680
me only come into play when we start with the

593
00:28:42.799 --> 00:28:46.240
very basis understanding of that we come into this world

594
00:28:46.319 --> 00:28:50.319
with in the first seven years, having our brain shaped

595
00:28:50.359 --> 00:28:52.640
and recorded by things that are happening to us that

596
00:28:52.680 --> 00:28:54.880
we have no control over, that we don't have options

597
00:28:54.920 --> 00:28:58.119
or consciousness to perceive differently. They become core wounds, and

598
00:28:58.119 --> 00:29:00.200
most of us don't know what they are and our

599
00:29:00.240 --> 00:29:03.839
lives and we seek therapy and we seek answers outside

600
00:29:03.880 --> 00:29:06.440
of that, and then we get temporary results because we're

601
00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:09.039
up here, we're in a story, we're in a circumstance,

602
00:29:09.079 --> 00:29:10.680
and we're not looking at how to get created in

603
00:29:10.720 --> 00:29:13.039
the first place. And I got created was because you're

604
00:29:13.240 --> 00:29:16.640
Something happened with your caregivers or your parents that became

605
00:29:16.680 --> 00:29:19.359
a belief for you, whether it's that you're not important,

606
00:29:19.440 --> 00:29:25.000
you're ignored, you're devalued, you're smothered. Whatever those wounds may be,

607
00:29:25.119 --> 00:29:29.400
but they shaped everything after that. So after seven, your

608
00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:33.640
whole subconscious got formed. So other than other traumas or triggers,

609
00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:35.680
like major traumas that happen in your life, which they

610
00:29:35.720 --> 00:29:39.240
will happen, you're operating. We're all operating out of trying

611
00:29:39.240 --> 00:29:42.000
to get our needs met, and those needs are these wounds,

612
00:29:42.039 --> 00:29:43.680
and trying to figure out how to get those met.

613
00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:46.079
So I only use astrology as a way to make

614
00:29:46.119 --> 00:29:48.160
sense of why we've reacted the way we've reacted to

615
00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:50.799
why we've interpreted the way we've interpreted. It's not a

616
00:29:50.799 --> 00:29:54.039
good bat or whatever. It just is to me. It's factual,

617
00:29:54.480 --> 00:29:58.359
but not in a judgmental way, not in a conditional way,

618
00:29:58.480 --> 00:30:01.519
just in these are the action that you have, and

619
00:30:00.920 --> 00:30:03.319
here are some of the things that can happen because

620
00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:06.160
of that. If you're too dominated in an areas in

621
00:30:06.200 --> 00:30:09.039
a lot of fire, then there's a possibility don't sleep well.

622
00:30:09.039 --> 00:30:12.559
There's a possibility that you overextend yourself, that you energetically

623
00:30:12.599 --> 00:30:14.960
and you just sort of burn out. I'm not saying you,

624
00:30:15.039 --> 00:30:18.160
I'm just saying anybody or that you have anxiety and

625
00:30:18.200 --> 00:30:21.119
So then rather than someone who has anxiety take a pill,

626
00:30:21.799 --> 00:30:24.960
how about learn how to manage your all that fire

627
00:30:25.079 --> 00:30:27.839
energy that you have and do the things appropriate to

628
00:30:27.920 --> 00:30:31.640
your makeup to use it or to process whatever's coming

629
00:30:31.720 --> 00:30:33.599
up for you. Same thing with all the air signs.

630
00:30:34.200 --> 00:30:38.119
So, if I'm understanding, you're saying, really the foundation of

631
00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:41.519
the whole thing is those core moods that what we've

632
00:30:41.599 --> 00:30:46.720
experienced up until the age of seven, and then you know, astrology,

633
00:30:47.119 --> 00:30:51.000
behavioral analysis, all of these other things are merely a

634
00:30:51.119 --> 00:30:56.319
means of understanding how you will respond and express yourself

635
00:30:56.359 --> 00:30:59.440
according to that. So here's the question that I have.

636
00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:03.039
You've got your core wounds. How many times have you

637
00:31:03.119 --> 00:31:05.359
found as you're working with someone and you go back

638
00:31:05.359 --> 00:31:09.440
to those core wounds, do you find that it goes back.

639
00:31:09.279 --> 00:31:12.400
A little bit further than what they can remember.

640
00:31:13.119 --> 00:31:17.240
So there's a DNA memory that might have to do

641
00:31:17.359 --> 00:31:19.160
with generations way back.

642
00:31:19.240 --> 00:31:21.039
Sure, absolutely, you have no.

643
00:31:21.039 --> 00:31:23.519
Clue what's going on, and all of a sudden, Wow,

644
00:31:24.400 --> 00:31:28.799
this is what is causing me to heay this way,

645
00:31:28.839 --> 00:31:31.400
and therefore I can change now that I understand that.

646
00:31:32.359 --> 00:31:35.359
Yeah, I've bord with inherited emotional DNA clearing and with

647
00:31:35.519 --> 00:31:38.960
going back generationally to generational things that get passed down.

648
00:31:39.480 --> 00:31:41.759
I think that that is an important thing to look

649
00:31:41.799 --> 00:31:44.160
at at some point. But what I also want to

650
00:31:44.160 --> 00:31:46.960
do is empower people in their story to make choices now,

651
00:31:47.480 --> 00:31:49.839
because what happens is most people can't identify the feeling

652
00:31:49.839 --> 00:31:52.039
they're having or the reason why they're having it, so

653
00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:53.960
the need is not being met. They don't know what

654
00:31:54.000 --> 00:31:55.839
their core wounds are, and they just go to a

655
00:31:55.839 --> 00:31:58.279
therapist and repeat a story that's been happening for twenty years,

656
00:31:58.319 --> 00:31:59.920
and or they get divorced and marry the same per

657
00:32:00.200 --> 00:32:02.519
in a different suit, and then they say, oh, it's

658
00:32:02.559 --> 00:32:04.160
that must be that person. They did the same thing

659
00:32:04.200 --> 00:32:05.799
that other person did, so it must be them. Like

660
00:32:05.880 --> 00:32:11.400
we we reflect or we deflect, taking responsibility for the

661
00:32:11.440 --> 00:32:13.799
thing the only things we can control, which is when

662
00:32:13.839 --> 00:32:17.960
we hear something, see something, or observe something, or remember something.

663
00:32:18.640 --> 00:32:23.759
It's our interpretation and then our emotions that get triggered

664
00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:26.440
because of that, And that's all in a circuitry. We

665
00:32:26.519 --> 00:32:30.440
have one hundred percent complete influence over Even if someone

666
00:32:30.440 --> 00:32:32.000
else is triggering you, of course they're because they're the

667
00:32:32.039 --> 00:32:34.799
mirror they're showing you your wound. But so those other

668
00:32:34.880 --> 00:32:39.079
the inherent emotional DNA absolutely has a place, and I

669
00:32:39.200 --> 00:32:41.519
like to make sure that people take responsibility first, because

670
00:32:41.519 --> 00:32:43.720
I find that sometimes when people want to go to

671
00:32:43.759 --> 00:32:45.599
all the healers that do all the clearings of all

672
00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:49.359
the things that they just fell into line in this

673
00:32:49.440 --> 00:32:52.720
lifetime with that, they feel there's a little victim mentality

674
00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:54.279
in that, like, Okay, you're going to clear that from

675
00:32:54.319 --> 00:32:55.759
me or you're going to and they don't, and then

676
00:32:55.799 --> 00:32:57.880
they don't reevaluate. In fact, I had a client at

677
00:32:57.960 --> 00:33:01.400
my very first event twenty eighteen, work with one of

678
00:33:01.400 --> 00:33:04.160
my friends who's a very great healer, and she did

679
00:33:04.240 --> 00:33:05.839
like ten sessions with her, and then she came back

680
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:09.960
to me in a session she felt lighter, but she

681
00:33:10.119 --> 00:33:12.599
was interpreting the situation the exact same way she was

682
00:33:12.640 --> 00:33:15.559
interpreting before, which led me to believe because when I

683
00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:18.519
first heard about and learned about subconscious work versus conscious work,

684
00:33:18.519 --> 00:33:20.240
I'm like, Oh, it's all about the subconscious. Oh it's all

685
00:33:20.240 --> 00:33:22.240
about the subconscious. And I went down this path and

686
00:33:22.359 --> 00:33:24.839
doing all the subconscious work and hypnosis and all the things,

687
00:33:25.279 --> 00:33:27.160
and then in situations like that, I went, now, we

688
00:33:27.200 --> 00:33:29.599
have to change the computer, because you still have a

689
00:33:29.599 --> 00:33:33.799
twelve percent conscious brain, and how you interpret something is everything.

690
00:33:34.160 --> 00:33:37.480
How you interpret something is the story you're telling which

691
00:33:37.559 --> 00:33:41.119
activates a feeling and or triggers or doesn't trigger a wound.

692
00:33:41.400 --> 00:33:43.440
So if we don't change that part of the computer

693
00:33:43.559 --> 00:33:46.000
and change that program about the way you see the world,

694
00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:48.920
then you can clear for days all the underneath stuff.

695
00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:53.359
But you're still going to reinjure, reactivate, retrigger yourself over

696
00:33:53.400 --> 00:33:56.599
and over again. So while I know and understand and

697
00:33:56.680 --> 00:33:59.240
believe in support all of the subconscious work, you still

698
00:33:59.279 --> 00:34:01.359
can change some of you're conscious. You're some of that

699
00:34:01.400 --> 00:34:03.880
subconscious with your conscious.

700
00:34:03.119 --> 00:34:05.440
With your having investment, how do you do.

701
00:34:05.440 --> 00:34:10.320
That well, repetition, mindfulness, identification of it and then changing.

702
00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:14.280
So in this I created a program called well many programs,

703
00:34:14.280 --> 00:34:19.719
but Paul rewiring your core win patterns because I and

704
00:34:19.760 --> 00:34:23.760
I again bringing in this seemingly disjointed life that I've had,

705
00:34:23.760 --> 00:34:26.079
which isn't at all. It all has evolved. I'm taking

706
00:34:26.119 --> 00:34:30.400
the personal training position of everyone who's ever had a trainer,

707
00:34:30.599 --> 00:34:32.480
or if you haven't, you've seen people who had trainers.

708
00:34:33.000 --> 00:34:35.679
You do understand the concept that even in your most

709
00:34:35.800 --> 00:34:38.440
motivated day. You will never work as hard as you

710
00:34:38.480 --> 00:34:41.199
do with someone standing over you, watching you and expecting

711
00:34:41.280 --> 00:34:44.360
you to push yourself to the limit. You will always

712
00:34:44.400 --> 00:34:46.159
work harder when you have a coach or a trainer

713
00:34:46.280 --> 00:34:50.719
who's helping you. So, even if you understand the concepts

714
00:34:50.760 --> 00:34:53.559
of what I'm talking about, rewiring your core wwin patterns

715
00:34:53.599 --> 00:34:57.639
creates neuro plasticity. It asks you to do things that

716
00:34:57.920 --> 00:35:02.239
stretch yourself into a new experience, which I promise you

717
00:35:02.400 --> 00:35:05.880
every time is going to be slightly uncomfortable or really uncomfortable,

718
00:35:06.239 --> 00:35:09.199
and most people don't do that willingly, so in order

719
00:35:09.239 --> 00:35:11.599
for us, I just got done listening to a Marco

720
00:35:11.639 --> 00:35:13.880
polo from one of my clients who's been in therapy forever,

721
00:35:13.960 --> 00:35:15.800
and she said, what's been so awesome about this program

722
00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:18.039
so far is the doing. Is the things that we

723
00:35:18.159 --> 00:35:21.119
have to do that actually change us instead of just

724
00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:24.159
understanding it and talking about it. And that's where I think,

725
00:35:24.440 --> 00:35:27.000
you know I have. If you have a therapist anyone

726
00:35:27.039 --> 00:35:30.559
who's listening that you love, you're a different person because

727
00:35:30.559 --> 00:35:32.199
of it. This is not for you. What I'm about

728
00:35:32.199 --> 00:35:35.360
to say, Congratulations, you found one of the good ones. Otherwise,

729
00:35:35.639 --> 00:35:37.519
a lot of traditional talk therapy just keeps you in

730
00:35:37.519 --> 00:35:39.559
the story. It keeps you in the framework of this

731
00:35:39.679 --> 00:35:43.599
circumstance of you're the victim. Everybody else has somehow hurt

732
00:35:43.639 --> 00:35:45.800
your feelings or devalued you in some way, and this

733
00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:48.360
is about you just getting validated every time and telling

734
00:35:48.400 --> 00:35:50.679
the same story. But we never go We never use

735
00:35:50.800 --> 00:35:53.079
the law of attraction. We never use quantum physics or

736
00:35:53.119 --> 00:35:56.840
sacred contracts or multiple lifetimes and soul levels to take

737
00:35:56.920 --> 00:36:01.199
responsibility for how I'm attracting this stuff and what's my

738
00:36:01.400 --> 00:36:02.920
part in this and what do I have to change

739
00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:05.880
because I'm the only person I can do anything about.

740
00:36:06.639 --> 00:36:10.079
Well, And let's talk about that quantum physics, because literally

741
00:36:10.880 --> 00:36:14.199
we attract based on all of that stuff that's going

742
00:36:14.239 --> 00:36:16.480
on in our lives, and particularly if we allow the

743
00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:20.280
subconscious to affect us, and we're not mindful enough to

744
00:36:20.360 --> 00:36:24.480
do what you're talking about. When we talk about quantum physics,

745
00:36:24.480 --> 00:36:27.199
we're talking about the energy, we're talking about the frequencies,

746
00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:29.199
we're talking about all those things. And I think it's

747
00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:33.079
difficult for sometimes for people to understand that what they

748
00:36:33.079 --> 00:36:37.840
are experiencing is they're like a magnet. What they are

749
00:36:37.920 --> 00:36:41.719
experiencing is they are bringing to themselves the very thing

750
00:36:41.760 --> 00:36:43.400
that sometimes they're trying to avoid.

751
00:36:45.320 --> 00:36:47.760
That is where so and I teach a lot of attraction.

752
00:36:48.159 --> 00:36:51.039
Getting ready to do another fourteen day manifestation challenge here

753
00:36:51.199 --> 00:36:53.719
Soon there'll be another one, so if anyone's interested in

754
00:36:53.719 --> 00:36:56.440
the future Digital Zames dot com forward slash fourteen day

755
00:36:56.480 --> 00:36:58.519
one four day. I don't know when I'll run the

756
00:36:58.519 --> 00:37:01.039
next one, but I run them a couple times. They're free.

757
00:37:01.960 --> 00:37:05.000
When it comes to people on misunderstanding law of attraction,

758
00:37:05.079 --> 00:37:06.519
they think, well, I put on a vision board, I

759
00:37:06.559 --> 00:37:09.719
say affirmations, I write in a gratitude journal, which I

760
00:37:09.800 --> 00:37:11.639
don't like the word gratitude by the way, it's like

761
00:37:11.679 --> 00:37:12.519
a pet peeve for me.

762
00:37:13.320 --> 00:37:15.760
Really we'll talk about that in a minute. But keep going.

763
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:20.440
But they think, well, okay, I'm feeling good, I'm focused

764
00:37:20.480 --> 00:37:22.559
on what I want. Why do I keep getting what

765
00:37:22.679 --> 00:37:24.559
I don't want? Or why do I get what I want?

766
00:37:24.599 --> 00:37:27.360
And then it goes away. It's like, because again, twelve

767
00:37:27.400 --> 00:37:30.440
percent of your brain is conscious, eighty eight percent is subconscious,

768
00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:35.039
and so the dominant energy producer, the dominant vibrational maker,

769
00:37:35.280 --> 00:37:37.639
is your self conscious. So if you can use your

770
00:37:37.679 --> 00:37:40.760
conscious mind to bring something to you and you're sabotaging yourself.

771
00:37:40.800 --> 00:37:43.599
Then it means there's a belief, there's an energy, there's

772
00:37:43.599 --> 00:37:47.400
a frequency that you're emitting that doesn't agree with believe

773
00:37:47.480 --> 00:37:50.280
or will allow in that thing that you want. So

774
00:37:50.360 --> 00:37:51.960
this is where you kind of have to understand and

775
00:37:51.960 --> 00:37:53.880
go a little deeper. And it's not that hard. Just

776
00:37:54.000 --> 00:37:55.960
notice what you're bringing in. You can just take it

777
00:37:56.000 --> 00:37:58.280
from the top level of what do I keep attracting?

778
00:37:58.679 --> 00:38:01.239
Because whatever you keep attract is going to give you

779
00:38:01.280 --> 00:38:02.719
a message about what you believe.

780
00:38:03.840 --> 00:38:05.280
How do you change that energy?

781
00:38:05.760 --> 00:38:10.079
You change what you believe. You have to work on yourself.

782
00:38:10.079 --> 00:38:10.719
You have to change it.

783
00:38:10.960 --> 00:38:12.760
How do you know how tough it is to change

784
00:38:12.800 --> 00:38:13.280
a belief?

785
00:38:14.519 --> 00:38:17.519
I think it's very easy. I have done it many times.

786
00:38:18.119 --> 00:38:20.280
I've changed people's beliefs all the time. That's what I

787
00:38:20.320 --> 00:38:22.960
do for a living, is I change people's beliefs. You

788
00:38:23.000 --> 00:38:27.800
have to decide that your belief was created by your circumstances.

789
00:38:27.960 --> 00:38:30.559
That's it. It's not set in stone. A belief is

790
00:38:30.559 --> 00:38:32.880
just a thought you keep thinking. Think a different thought,

791
00:38:33.039 --> 00:38:34.760
choose a different way of looking at something.

792
00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:37.320
You can change your beliefs Okay, So you're really talking

793
00:38:37.360 --> 00:38:40.920
about reframing, in other words, looking at a situation. And

794
00:38:41.280 --> 00:38:43.679
I've done this with clients where you take them back

795
00:38:43.719 --> 00:38:47.920
to whatever experience they had to cause that subconscious belief,

796
00:38:48.320 --> 00:38:51.079
and as they start to look at that and start

797
00:38:51.119 --> 00:38:56.280
to reframe what the actual reality of it was that

798
00:38:56.400 --> 00:38:57.400
changes their belief.

799
00:38:57.440 --> 00:38:58.599
Is that basically what you're.

800
00:38:58.480 --> 00:39:01.039
Saying, Yeah, yeah, And I do it all the time.

801
00:39:01.599 --> 00:39:04.039
Here's where I'm I don't love the word reframe because

802
00:39:04.039 --> 00:39:07.599
it sounds like, let me tell it differently so I

803
00:39:07.639 --> 00:39:10.039
feel better about it, but I'm still stuck on that

804
00:39:10.119 --> 00:39:13.159
it happened this way first or whatever. So that's the

805
00:39:13.280 --> 00:39:14.920
energy that I'm getting a bun I when I hear

806
00:39:14.960 --> 00:39:18.000
that right now about reframe, it's about and again. But

807
00:39:18.039 --> 00:39:19.840
it's a valid word, and again I use it all

808
00:39:19.880 --> 00:39:22.239
the time, but I don't. But how I think it's

809
00:39:22.280 --> 00:39:25.679
different is that most of the stories we tell ourselves

810
00:39:25.760 --> 00:39:30.400
are not true. They're are version of how we interpreted something.

811
00:39:30.559 --> 00:39:32.599
They are not truth, and they are most of the

812
00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:37.639
time absolutely incorrect about everybody else involved. So when you

813
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:40.760
understand what someone else's point of view is, hence astrology,

814
00:39:41.159 --> 00:39:43.440
hence all the other tools that I use. I had

815
00:39:43.480 --> 00:39:46.119
a guy in my very first three month version of

816
00:39:46.119 --> 00:39:48.920
what was going to be the Rewire Beta. It was

817
00:39:49.000 --> 00:39:51.719
too soon to understand what I was about to create.

818
00:39:51.960 --> 00:39:53.320
But anyway, he came to this group and it was

819
00:39:53.360 --> 00:39:55.280
very effective for most of them, but I felt like

820
00:39:55.320 --> 00:39:58.199
it was too much data dumping. But but he had

821
00:39:58.239 --> 00:40:00.840
his success. What he showed me, what I could help

822
00:40:00.920 --> 00:40:03.800
create for him that was so powerful that I again

823
00:40:03.880 --> 00:40:06.639
continue to do this work. And he was seeing a therapist,

824
00:40:06.880 --> 00:40:09.280
but he started my three month program and we got

825
00:40:09.280 --> 00:40:13.239
into the korwound piece quickly. And then he came on

826
00:40:13.280 --> 00:40:15.199
the market Polo and he shared that he was at

827
00:40:15.199 --> 00:40:17.320
his therapist to deal with his anger about his dad.

828
00:40:17.320 --> 00:40:19.239
And I'm like, what hold on anger about your dad?

829
00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:21.559
And of course he had his story. I went back

830
00:40:21.599 --> 00:40:23.480
and asked a few questions based on some of the

831
00:40:23.480 --> 00:40:26.960
frameworks that that I talk about in my stuff. So

832
00:40:27.039 --> 00:40:29.639
let's say love language be one of them, corwoun s

833
00:40:29.639 --> 00:40:31.800
would be another one. Anyway, all the things and I

834
00:40:31.840 --> 00:40:35.360
basically said, I asked him, well, what was your dad's

835
00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:38.159
love language? And what you know? We just we didn't

836
00:40:38.199 --> 00:40:40.360
reframe it. We took it from that perspective. We looked

837
00:40:40.400 --> 00:40:42.039
at him, how did his dad feel? And all of

838
00:40:42.039 --> 00:40:45.800
a sudden, he went from forty years of feeling rejected

839
00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:49.119
and angry and painful to crying and feeling for the

840
00:40:49.159 --> 00:40:52.480
first time. Because that guy was really angry. He was

841
00:40:52.920 --> 00:40:56.559
an addict. He was not He was violent in ways

842
00:40:56.559 --> 00:40:58.840
at times because he was so mad because his fels

843
00:40:58.840 --> 00:41:01.719
are rejected. And then when we told the story from

844
00:41:01.719 --> 00:41:04.320
his dad's perspective and his dad's point of view, it

845
00:41:04.440 --> 00:41:08.280
changed everything instantly, And since then he's been like, I

846
00:41:08.320 --> 00:41:10.639
feel my father's love all the time I look. Now

847
00:41:10.679 --> 00:41:12.559
he looks back at his past. Instead of feeling pain,

848
00:41:12.639 --> 00:41:14.639
he feels love. He sees the love that he never

849
00:41:14.679 --> 00:41:17.320
allowed himself to feel before in an instant Is that

850
00:41:17.360 --> 00:41:20.840
a reframe? No, it's looking at it differently, it's interpreting

851
00:41:20.880 --> 00:41:21.760
it from other point.

852
00:41:21.559 --> 00:41:24.719
Of view, right, I suppose. So you've written this book

853
00:41:24.760 --> 00:41:29.920
in Visible Fitness Formula, and in there you talk about mind, body, soul.

854
00:41:30.079 --> 00:41:32.519
Can you can you share with the audience a little

855
00:41:32.519 --> 00:41:34.760
bit about that book and what your approaches on that

856
00:41:34.840 --> 00:41:36.119
and why you're using those.

857
00:41:35.960 --> 00:41:42.079
Three words, right, Because our body, while we are living

858
00:41:42.079 --> 00:41:44.119
in it, our soul lives in this body. It is

859
00:41:44.320 --> 00:41:48.400
an expression of us. It's our body. A lot of

860
00:41:48.400 --> 00:41:51.159
times people want to separate, especially in the physical world.

861
00:41:51.280 --> 00:41:53.679
They want to know, especially with body shame and weight

862
00:41:53.760 --> 00:41:57.000
loss and judging themselves and if I'm valuable based on

863
00:41:57.039 --> 00:41:58.559
what I look like or what my body is, if

864
00:41:58.599 --> 00:42:01.559
I'm fat or if ie whatever. And so it was

865
00:42:01.599 --> 00:42:03.960
my ode to my personal training career. When I was

866
00:42:04.000 --> 00:42:06.280
about ready to sort of retire, it was saying, I've

867
00:42:06.280 --> 00:42:08.440
been doing this for over twenty five years. I've worked

868
00:42:08.440 --> 00:42:10.039
with a lot of people. I've learned a lot of things.

869
00:42:10.079 --> 00:42:11.599
I see what I think works, and here are the

870
00:42:11.639 --> 00:42:14.559
five steps to release weight and then body shame in

871
00:42:14.639 --> 00:42:16.760
the order in which they need to be done to

872
00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:19.880
get the best results. And by the way, the first

873
00:42:19.880 --> 00:42:23.559
three things are physical, so that way the physical can

874
00:42:23.599 --> 00:42:27.480
help reduce some of the reduce and show you because

875
00:42:27.480 --> 00:42:29.559
people would think I had a client once years ago,

876
00:42:30.400 --> 00:42:33.400
I worked in a medical center, and so there was

877
00:42:33.480 --> 00:42:38.079
the functional medicine doctor, the nutritionist, and then me as

878
00:42:38.119 --> 00:42:40.079
the trainer, and he had come in to see the

879
00:42:40.079 --> 00:42:41.679
two of them. Then he came to see me. That's

880
00:42:41.679 --> 00:42:44.159
the order that it went. And I said, okay, well,

881
00:42:44.280 --> 00:42:47.480
he was in five different overeater anonymouses blah blah blah

882
00:42:47.480 --> 00:42:49.239
the stuff about his diet. And I said, have you

883
00:42:49.280 --> 00:42:52.000
taken a food sensitivity test? And he was like no,

884
00:42:52.159 --> 00:42:53.800
And I said, well, mark yourself back to Jeannie and

885
00:42:53.840 --> 00:42:55.960
go take the food sensitivity test, because it sounds like

886
00:42:55.960 --> 00:42:59.079
you have food sensitivity that's making you think you're an

887
00:42:59.079 --> 00:43:01.760
emotional eater. Not that he probably was an emotional leader also,

888
00:43:01.800 --> 00:43:04.199
but he just was convinced it was all emotional. And

889
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:05.760
so he went back and he found out that he

890
00:43:05.840 --> 00:43:08.559
was sensitive and allergic to dairy. Of course, he was

891
00:43:08.599 --> 00:43:11.559
having yogurt and all the things and corns have a popcorn,

892
00:43:12.079 --> 00:43:13.760
And once he removed those from his diad, he lost

893
00:43:13.800 --> 00:43:15.840
sixteen pounds in like two weeks and he had no

894
00:43:15.960 --> 00:43:19.039
food cravings anymore. Like, okay, so when we remove some

895
00:43:19.079 --> 00:43:21.559
of the inflammation and food cravings, now we can see

896
00:43:21.719 --> 00:43:25.000
you're not just an emotional eater. You had an inflament

897
00:43:25.119 --> 00:43:28.679
inflammatory response in the body. So to me, we get

898
00:43:28.760 --> 00:43:32.480
rid of some of the underlying physical things that persuade us,

899
00:43:32.480 --> 00:43:34.159
and now we can look at the emotions. Now we

900
00:43:34.199 --> 00:43:36.800
can look at what's really driving the train, and what

901
00:43:36.880 --> 00:43:38.239
is it that you really want and why are you

902
00:43:38.280 --> 00:43:40.320
doing this, and what's the long term goal? And do

903
00:43:40.320 --> 00:43:43.000
you love yourself enough to continue a high level of

904
00:43:43.000 --> 00:43:45.519
self care, because most people don't. They do it temporarily

905
00:43:45.599 --> 00:43:47.400
to lose a few pounds or to get someone's approval

906
00:43:47.440 --> 00:43:49.800
or fit to address, and then they stop because the

907
00:43:49.880 --> 00:43:52.880
relationship with themselves is what needs to be worked on.

908
00:43:53.320 --> 00:43:56.039
And so I wrote that book. I mean, I've been

909
00:43:56.039 --> 00:43:58.119
in the midst of writing my fourth book because I

910
00:43:58.119 --> 00:44:00.639
wanted to solidify all the years, all the time and

911
00:44:00.679 --> 00:44:03.039
effort I did with that, and it's still valid today.

912
00:44:03.280 --> 00:44:06.199
I re released a second edition earlier this year in January,

913
00:44:06.480 --> 00:44:08.639
because I did an audiobook finally as a podcast, where

914
00:44:08.639 --> 00:44:10.320
I thought I need an audiobook. When am I doing

915
00:44:10.360 --> 00:44:13.239
not having an audiobook? So I finished the book. It's done.

916
00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:16.280
The audiobook is done. It's very valid, It's most of

917
00:44:16.280 --> 00:44:18.440
it is still accurate today and I have up to

918
00:44:18.480 --> 00:44:20.599
date stuff on the show. But I think anyone who's

919
00:44:20.639 --> 00:44:23.480
coming at the physical body from that it's somehow not

920
00:44:23.760 --> 00:44:27.239
attached to your mind, your psychology as well as to

921
00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:30.559
like what your sole purpose is on this planet. Like

922
00:44:30.559 --> 00:44:32.719
if it's not a deeper connection, then you're just going

923
00:44:32.760 --> 00:44:35.920
to struggle with diet after diet, or program after program,

924
00:44:36.079 --> 00:44:37.840
or not have a good relationship with your body.

925
00:44:38.360 --> 00:44:39.960
Well, I think you've hit it on the key, and

926
00:44:40.239 --> 00:44:43.119
as we're getting closer to the end, I just want

927
00:44:43.159 --> 00:44:45.039
to make this one comment because I appreciate what you've

928
00:44:45.079 --> 00:44:48.280
been saying. Is so important to find the root cause.

929
00:44:48.920 --> 00:44:50.599
It's so you know, you.

930
00:44:50.599 --> 00:44:53.320
Can go on and on and on and on that unless.

931
00:44:52.960 --> 00:44:55.679
You get to the root cause of what's going on.

932
00:44:56.320 --> 00:44:58.800
And as you said, that is the help of a coach.

933
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:03.719
Ever heard of the food sensitivity type of tests, But

934
00:45:03.760 --> 00:45:06.920
that's a great thing for those that are experiencing obesity,

935
00:45:07.360 --> 00:45:10.039
all of those types of things. So as we close,

936
00:45:10.199 --> 00:45:13.320
what would be that final message that you would like

937
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to share with the audiences They end up finishing.

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That there is an answer for your problem. So regardless

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of if you're struggling with money and business, or with

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your health, or in relationships, or with your level of

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joy and happiness, there are answers. There are ways for

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you to get what you want. You're just going to

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have to learn something new and probably dive into and

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understand something a little bit differently and possibly change a belief.

945
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Oh wonderful and so what's the name of your podcast?

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Well, I have a network, so there's sixteen shows, but

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I would say the one I would direct everybody to

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is called Spirit, Purpose and Energy.

949
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Okay, and do you do podcasts every week or is

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it gay?

951
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Well i've been after ten years. Oh there's more shows

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than anyone. Someone could decide after today that they're going

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to do nothing but follow me, and you couldn't. You

954
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couldn't even catch up in a couple of years from now,

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so so don't worry. So it's yeah, lots of content.

956
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It's uh. Now, after hitting a certain mark, I thought,

957
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you know, I'm going to just go once a week,

958
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and then I thought, you know what, I'm just going

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to go two to three times a month. So it's

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about two to three times a month, and sometimes it's

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every week. It just depends on what's going on.

962
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Okay, And what's the name of the podcast and how

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do they find it?

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Everything is at jjfulazanes dot com, JJ F L I

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Z A N E s dot com. Everything is there, everything, everything.

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Everything, wonderful, wonderful. Well, JJ, thanks so much for being

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on the show. Interesting conversation.

968
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Thanks doctor Doug. Yeah, I love it. I'd love to

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know more about your chart too.

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Oh, enjoy it and folks, thanks for listening. I hope

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you'll take this to heart. And uh, if you find

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that there's a need, contact JJ And it sounds like

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she could help you a lot if that's your specific needs.

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So anyway, there's doctor Doug saying to have a wonderful week,

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and I'm a stay

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Actor returned to attend there