Sept. 15, 2025

Rise Above the Script: Reframing Fear and Reclaiming Confidence

Rise Above the Script: Reframing Fear and Reclaiming Confidence
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Dr. Doug welcomes Albert Bramante to explore the roots of self-sabotage, imposter syndrome, and fear-based behaviors. Albert shares insights from his book Rise Above the Script and discusses how reframing, NLP, and understanding personality traits can unlock personal growth and authentic success.

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Denzel Washington, welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Albert welcome to the show.

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Thank you, Thank you for having me. Really happy to

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be here.

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Doctor Doug Well, I'm looking forward to looking forward to it.

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I'd love for you to share. Number One, you've written

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a book. Can you tell the outage what the book

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is and what the name of it is.

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Sure it's called Rise Above the Script.

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Confronting Self Doubt and Mastering Self sabotage for performing artists.

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It was published in twenty twenty four, and it was

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based on my doctoral thesis why Actors self Sabotage? And

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so just give you a backstory. I professionally I work

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with actors. I am a Talian agent in New York.

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So I represent actors professionally for film, TV, theater Broadway

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off Broadway, and I've been doing this for you know,

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over twenty years, since two thousand and four. But when

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I first started, I was noticing a lot of actors

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were self sabotage and which means that they were shooting

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of themselves in a foot, denying themselves an opportunity to

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get getting in their own way. And as a you know,

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I was also starting to go for my PhD in

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psychology and as a you know, doctor lital student, and

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sort of like my scientific mind was like starting to

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get curious, you know, why is this happening? And so

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I decided to do different a dissertation, solve a problem

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in a sense.

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So that's what you know, This is how the book

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kind of came out. So it's been years, it's been

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the progress for years.

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And while the book is geared towards actors and been

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written you know, initially for actors. It's really there's a

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lot of good insight in here that can really be

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topical to anybody.

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Well, and that's true. You know, you talk about to actors,

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and you know you mentioned the imposter syndrome, and I

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know there's a specific psychological definition for that, but I've

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I've come up with my own definition, or at least

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an alternate definition, and that's people who are acting. They

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are literally acting as though they think they should act

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and behave rather than who they really are. And and

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so it all in the case. We're all kinds of actors,

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aren't we.

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Yeah, I mean we're playing a role well every day,

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you know, like.

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Whether you know, whether we're with our family, with in

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our professional circles, you know, where our you know, see

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when others were playing different roles when their parents where

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their child.

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You know, children, if we have children, we're playing different roles.

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We're playing you know, Carl Young called it the persona,

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you know, we're putting on a persona. So yeah, we

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think about wolfs sort of actors. And I think even

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your definition can you know, even fit into the traditional

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definition to some level, because you know, if you're saying

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it putting, if you're acting, maybe you're not acting, you know,

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any authentic way.

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So true. And when you when you talk about rising

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about the script, what what is the script? What's your

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definition of the script? For people?

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The script?

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The script is different than you know, when people hear script,

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they think of the you know, a paper or you know,

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a play.

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Or something they're reading.

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But here I'm talking with the script in your mind,

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your especially your subconscious mind.

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Okay, yeah, right, so let's let's get into that. I mean,

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as you've noticed the actors and you know, you mentioned

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a little bit earlier before we came on that you

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work with a number of students and so who are

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not necessarily actors, right.

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Right, you know, but if you want to think on

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a pure scheme of things or acting, they are actors

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or students. But what I've noticed even with them is like,

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you know, some of them are really are really bright

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and really intelligent, but they they would stop coming to class,

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they would stop doing the work, and I couldn't figure

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out what's really happening here, you know, initially in the beginning,

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or they would even like talk, you know, use negative

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self talk, you know, or I'm not a good test

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achor I'm not a good student, and they would actually

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really verbatimly tell that, explicitly say that. So I've always

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wondered what what's really going on here?

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Yeah, it's interesting how they they start to talk in

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themselves and that becomes their reality when in fact, you know,

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and this is a tough one because you talk about

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reality and you know, from my understanding, reality is strictly

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based on our perceptions, mainly subconscious, and that becomes reality.

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And your reality is going to be so different than

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my reality.

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Of course, and that's our reality subjective. There's really no

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objective reality.

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Yeah, yeah, like and you know, even on a.

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Pure you know, if you you know, for the listeners

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out there, think about you go to see a movie

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with a friend. You know, you could have thought it

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was the greatest movie ever in your friend could have

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thought it was, you know, a terrible movie. Yeah, And

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the question is who's who's right, who's correct?

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And you both are, you know.

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In a sense, because it's your perception.

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Yeah, that's so true. So we've mentioned imposter syndrome. Can you,

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as a psychologist, could you share with the audience the

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actual definition of the imposter syndrome is the idea.

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Of imposter syndrome. The word imposter means for yes, you know.

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So what happens very often is, you know, we start

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to doubt ourselves and we start to feel like we're frauds,

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like you know, I know there's also a fear of

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we're going to be found out two that we're frauds,

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you know, like for me, you know, it could be like, uh, well,

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you know, whether like if I'm debating.

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I want to write a book or not.

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You know, no one's gonna take I'm gonna get bad reviews,

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no one's gonna like my book. So what will happen

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is I'll we'll do it period. I won't put myself

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out there or if they think that someone's gonna find out,

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I really don't know everything. And therefore the best way

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to steal myself from that is I won't apply myself.

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I won't put myself out there. It'll be safe when

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we play it safe. And so it's it's really a

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self imposed limitation too.

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And and is it usually based on what fear or

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what is it?

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Multiple factors, but fear, I would say it would be

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the primary motivated, primary focus would be fear, uh, fear

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of failure, and even fear of success too.

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Success can be scary.

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Well, and you know that's interesting. You hear so many

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different levels of intellect saying, you know, do not fear,

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thou shalt not fear, on and on and on, and

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yet there seems to be one of the major experiences

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that we all have to some degree. Yeah, level, how

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do you work with how do you work with your students?

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How do you work with people who are exhibiting a

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great deal of fear and how do you observe what

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their behavior is? How do you pick up the fact

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that in working with someone that, okay, one of their

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major challenges is fear.

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Well, it would be looking for the signs like they

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don't want to try anything new.

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They want to say in their routine, their comfort zone

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and that's the biggest, you know thing, One of the

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biggest tell tale signs is.

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Someone unwilling to step outside their comfort zone and try

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anything new or you know, take any risks. You know, again,

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playing it safe is probably the biggest indicator. If they're

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playing it safe by not doing, you know, things that

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would make them slightly uncomfortable. Again, it could be you know,

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putting your resume out there could be you know, going

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on stage to make a resentation.

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You know, that could be scary.

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So one of the best ways to the only way

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you're going to really overcome fear is by.

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Facing it, you know, by facing your fears. So that

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would mean.

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Putting yourself out there, you know, by you know, whether

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it's even if it's speaking. You know, if you have

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a fear of public speaking, go speak in a small stage.

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You know five ten people.

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Do even do something on zoom, you know that where

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it's safe from your own home, at least in the beginning,

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and then gradually build from there. So the only way

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you're going to face that fear or really get over

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that fear, overcome that fear is by facing it head

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on and by confronting it so you know, again you

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know that fear is going to work against an actor

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because as an actor or performer, you really have to

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put yourself out there if you want to have a

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working liver or any momentum of success, so that the

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fear of additioning or the fear of putting yourself out

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there has to be overcome.

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And you know, a lot of times we're in denial.

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We might we don't even realize a lot of times

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we have these fears, you know, consciously.

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Yeah, And you know, it's interesting as I've interviewed a

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number of lovely ladies who have gone through some horrendous

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experiences in their life and found themselves in that those

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codependent relationships with people with men who are abusers, right,

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and they can't get out of it, and ultimately they do.

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But as we've talked about that, one of the biggest

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things that comes up is the fear of change. In

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other words, they're more fearful of change than they are

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of the present environment and experience. So as you talk

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about fear, we've got fear of change, We've got fear

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that I'm not good enough. What are some of the

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other fears that come about that are really imprints in

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people's subconscious minds, That is, they had no control over

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that initially.

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Yeah, fear of disappointing others, letting other people down. And

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I think that also ties in a whole codependency or

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the people pleasing mindset. Is well, if I say no,

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if I put my when I set a boundary, I'm

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going to disappoint them. And maybe that could do with

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the way we were raised too, because very often I

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would I would even imagine that a lot of these

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you know, codependent women and men, you know, because I

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believe it's it's an equal yes.

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Thing grow up.

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I think even with parents that they had to jump

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through hoops to get their parents' approval, whether again that

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was reality their perception that they had to work really

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hard to get their parents' approval, and maybe they didn't

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get enough of that, so they substitute adult relationships to

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their parents in this sense that goes out subconsciously, so

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they're fear of letting other people down again, fear of success.

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Fear of money is also a one that I kind

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of discovered that I wrote a chapter Brothers in my book,

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it's fear of money because a lot of times you

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meet grow up in families where you're told money is

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the root of all evil. I'm not an evil person,

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you know, I don't want to be evil. And actually

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that quote was taken out of context.

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Oh yeah, there's a lot of things that are taken

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out of context that really have inundated people with a

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feeling of guilt, of shame, of all of those types

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of things. So how often how often is you're working

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very delicate subject. And I've had other people talk about

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it a little bit, and definitely some psychologists talk about

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the fact that you know, as you're starting to work

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with people who are really self sabotaging, as you can

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observe that you know they're in the imposter syndrome, they're

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self sabotaging, they're not experiencing the life that they truly

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deserve or could have, and they go off to therapy, okay,

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and they go through talk therapy and nothing gets resolved.

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be a sensitive issue there. But I know, just based

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on reading your bio and going to your website that

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you use NLP you probably I don't know. I think

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you use hypnosis. You're using all sorts of tools rather

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than just talking. And can you talk a little bit

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about that to the audience who are seeking some help.

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What are some of the things that they need to

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look for in an individual that can really be of

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value to them as a mentor or whatever you want

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to call them.

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What you know, obviously you want someone who's not personally

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in you, someone who's you know, going to be objective.

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I studied it, this is LP, was because I was

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a little disillusioned with psychology. You know, I wasn't you

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know when I was going to grad school. You know,

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for some my master's and PhD, we have a lot

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you know, some professors that were telling us about cases

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that they were working with someone who was in their

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office for years for therapy.

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And I kept outing adding up in my head.

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I'm thinking, if you're you know, going for eight or

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nine years of therapy and the client is not getting better,

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and something isn't adding up here, something is out working.

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So I felt like, you know, the reason why I

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d up. It's a little more rapid, you know, it's

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a little more fast paid, and you know, sometimes it's

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just getting out of your head and and you know,

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reframing things and.

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Working with some Let's talk about NLP just a little bit,

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because I think it's important for people to understand some

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of these processes that are available that they should look

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for in a professional and one of them, I know

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is NLP. You talked about reframing, So when you're working

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with someone and you use the NLP process, what are

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you actually trying to accomplish with with your person.

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For you know, for a little bit of shift and

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mentality or thought process, looking at things in a different way,

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viewing things in a different light.

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So we're not denying the experience.

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What we're doing is like I said, changing it, turning

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it around, and you know, looking at either the bright

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side or the learning experience from that. So one of

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the things of NLP is like, there's no such thing

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as failure, only feedback. So reframing failure or mistakes as

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learning opportunities because that's this way it empowers a person

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to not beat themselves up.

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You know that, okay, this is learning opportunity.

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And when I work with actors, one of the things

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another you know, NLP reframe my youth when it comes

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through rejection, because I hear a lot of people say

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about the word rejection, and I've always felt like, there's

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no such thing as rejection. It's just simply that your

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services are not needed right now or today. Because rejection

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is personal, it means like you know, then it starts

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ringing your subconscious when you keep your own rejection, it's like, well,

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that means you're rejecting me at my core, you know,

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and strictly from an acting perspective, all there's only one

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person that get to hire for a role or for

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any job, and there's gonna be hundreds of applicants sometimes

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and only one person can get the job.

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So it's not personal, you know.

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And I think if you cause it freezes there, you know,

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if you really adopt that, it's not personal. Okay, Well

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you know, now what and what what can I learn

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Any Any stories of people you've worked with without using

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their names obviously, but where you have where they have

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been really experiencing you know, failure or whatever that happens

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to be, and by using that approach of NLP, that

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you've been able literally to help them reframe that experience

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in that event and watch them come out of that

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into a much more positive, successful situation. Any stories you

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can share.

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One was from an actress I kind of was working with.

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I was used to be occasionally be guessed in an

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acting class, given like my agent perspective on things, and

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there was this one actors who were studying.

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I just wasn't booking work, and then I just kind

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of would work together in Dahr in mind myself worked

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with her to step into her power and step into

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her you know sweet spot, which was like her type

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was tough, powerful heart of gold, and so we really

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had mentally reheard that tough, powerful heart of gold. How

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would someone with a tough, powerful heart of gold order

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a coffee from the brussa.

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I would someone with a.

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Tough, powerful heart of gold, you know, talk to a

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customer and you know, just simple things like that that

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reframe when she started getting.

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Into a power. It took me.

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Took her a few months before she booked a couple

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of speaking.

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Roles in TV, you know, in network TV projects.

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Another time, this was you know, several years ago, you know,

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as a college professor, I put class participation as part

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of the great you know, not not a large percentage,

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but just percentages are great, you know, at.

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So I had one student at the end of the

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second class send me an email saying like, I think,

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I don't I don't appreciate that this is kind of you.

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Know, not fair that you're putting, you know, requiring her

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class participation.

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a out of purpose probably would have.

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I responded as if you know, no.

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You're helping me out your I want to hear your

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perspective on things. You have such interesting things to say,

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and so can we work on you know, you contributing

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a little bit here, you know, I want to hear

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what you have to say. And so it was a

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class and when I refrained it is that by the

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end of the semesters he was one of the most

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vocal students in the class.

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So a lot of it is just simple reframing and

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you know, whether again the mistakes, what did you learn

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from that? What can you do the next time?

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Well, you're different about you're reframing and your you know,

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at least in my mind right now, you're talking about

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very surface re framing that people could learn to do

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that as they start to experience things, they can say,

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all right, they can step outside themselves and observe what's

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going on and reframe that and help them to understand Okay,

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this will be a little bit different when you go

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a little bit deeper. I had someone I was working

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with and we had gone through a number of personality

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profiling lessons and so on and so forth. And about

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a year later he called me up and he said, hey,

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can we get together And I said, sure, yeah, I

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come out over to the house. And so he came

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over and we were talking. He says, I am just sabotaging.

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I am just making such terrible decisions and I can't

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figure out why. And he had gone through a lot

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of stuff with me, and so I said, all right,

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let's let's do this. Let's use an NLP process, and

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I explained a little bit about what that is, and

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let's see if we can get to the rt cause

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of what's going on here. And so we went through

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a very very specific ANALP process, and we got back

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to his childhood and grade school where he remembers his

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teacher saying you're stupid and put him in the back

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of the classroom. And as we looked at that, and

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as we talked about it and obviously reframed it, and

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as he was able to consciously reframe that and realize,

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you know, I had nothing to do with him, because

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he was extremely bright. But the reality is that that teacher,

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for some reason was expressing emotions in a way and

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perhaps even being a bit of a bully or he

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was doing something that was creating an emotion in her,

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and so she just put him in the back of

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the room. Once he got that reframed, all of a sudden,

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I saw him change a position within his company and

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he just became prolific. He started making more money than

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it never made. It was just amazing what he did.

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And so to me, that was so interesting to realize

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that as you can help someone literally get back to

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the real nitty gritty of childhood and some of those

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type of imprints that reframing those experiences can make such

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a difference. Do you get that deep sometimes with fire.

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you're working with some of the cool cold timeline, you know,

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where it's going back to an earlier imprinting.

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You know, something where.

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It's an imprint where you know, a remark even it

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could be an innocent, casual remark that someone may you know,

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not realizing what they said, but it really like become

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embedded in a subconscious.

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Mind, so.

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You know, and and that can sometimes be you know,

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going back to childhood and change and reframing that there's

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a technique, it's really it's kind of deeper work, but

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that I've used this something called the inner child work,

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or you know where we heal the inner child. So

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all of us, you know, if you want to, if

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you believe that we all have the inner a little

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minime inside of us that still maintains our child like

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innocence and wonder and sometimes if that child is wounded,

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you know again or maybe you know remark with all

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innocent remarks are not as the way is it, but

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like small remarks that our parents are teacher to have said.

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Doesn't have to be a major trauma.

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Just gonna be like little things, a little you know,

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day in the life traumas and the sense that just

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add up. So sometimes what I might do, even in

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a going stepping outside yourself, is like telling that going

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back and down, that little child, that little boy or

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that little girl, that everything's going to be okay, and

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that you know you are smart, you are intelligent, and

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that I found has been very profound.

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Well, and it's interesting, isn't it? As you say? You know,

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as parents, we may make certain remarks to our children

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which we think are very positive, but the thing that

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we cannot control is their perception of what they just said,

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and that perception as we you know, as we know,

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becomes their reality and their belief which stays with them

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until they can get back to the point where they

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reframe that and become conscious about that. So how how

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much do you get into this whole concept of not

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only I identifying what those limiting self destructive behaviors are

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and beliefs are, but how much you get into mindset,

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into consciousness, uh, and recognizing that individual who can truly

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become conscious and aware of those type of situations and

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acknowledge them rather than allowing them to affect them. How

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how are you able to get into that?

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you know, kind of letting, you know, pointing things out

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of you know, similarities here. Because I feel like once

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you are able to consciously, you know, call out these

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patterns in yourself, that's where change can begin, you know,

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true change can begin the insight you know again you

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kind of it's like, oh, that's saying you don't know

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who you don't know? You know, in a sense it's

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a double you know for mind there. But it's true.

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becoming aware of it, because then you can develop what

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we call growth mindset, which is, you know, one of

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the most valuable skills have. There's a book that you know,

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I loved, you know, growing when I was in grad

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schools Mindset by Carol Dweck, And you know, she talked

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about the importance of a growth mindset, uh, and how

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that is really important for developing resiliency building buffers in

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a sense. So, you know, having a growth mindset, you know,

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extremely important being will learn, you know, learn from.

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Mistakes and learn from challenges and actually enjoy them.

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So as you talk about that, I know, one thing

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you talk about in your book is techniques are raising

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self esteem. And as we talk about self esteem as

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a definition, really isn't that anyone who's experiencing these subconscious

473
00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:55.000
beliefs that literally caused them to think about good enough,

474
00:24:55.079 --> 00:24:58.240
blah blah blah, all these types of things. And because

475
00:24:58.279 --> 00:25:01.920
you're talking about techniques to raise self esteem, what what

476
00:25:01.920 --> 00:25:03.599
what are you talking about in your book? What are

477
00:25:03.640 --> 00:25:05.279
some of those steps that you could share with the

478
00:25:05.319 --> 00:25:09.240
audience who may be experiencing a lack of self esteem

479
00:25:09.279 --> 00:25:12.160
or high esteem to help them to start to develop

480
00:25:12.480 --> 00:25:14.599
a better sense of self esteem.

481
00:25:14.799 --> 00:25:18.400
Well, one of the techniques I took overall about is

482
00:25:19.079 --> 00:25:23.519
creating what I call a happy file, which is a journal.

483
00:25:23.920 --> 00:25:26.240
They are taking a journal of all the things that

484
00:25:26.279 --> 00:25:29.240
you're you know, either grateful for or even all the

485
00:25:29.279 --> 00:25:32.440
things that happened to you that was positive. You know,

486
00:25:32.519 --> 00:25:34.440
someone gave you a good compliment, We've got a good

487
00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:37.319
performance in review at work, or you know, you've got

488
00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:40.359
good feedback from an audition, or you know, if you're

489
00:25:40.440 --> 00:25:42.559
a performer, you got a good review, you know, feedback

490
00:25:42.559 --> 00:25:45.319
from the audience or a review. Every little thing you

491
00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:48.720
document and then when you're having those moments of self doubt,

492
00:25:48.720 --> 00:25:51.839
pull out that to remind you, pull out your happy file.

493
00:25:52.359 --> 00:25:55.119
So that's one technique that I talk about.

494
00:25:55.519 --> 00:25:58.759
Also, the company you keep too, I mean a lot

495
00:25:58.759 --> 00:26:02.880
of you know, help in the psychology. You know, experts

496
00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:05.160
will tell you, you know, you're some of the company

497
00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:09.839
you keep. Yes, So so it might mean changing the

498
00:26:09.880 --> 00:26:14.440
company you're around too. You know, hang out with other

499
00:26:14.599 --> 00:26:18.000
more successful people because they'll puld you up.

500
00:26:18.359 --> 00:26:20.680
Consequently, being a negative people will bring it down.

501
00:26:21.160 --> 00:26:23.920
Well, and that's so true, isn't it. And that can

502
00:26:23.960 --> 00:26:27.640
be really tough sometimes sometimes as family members that are

503
00:26:27.720 --> 00:26:31.440
literally in the negative influences on you. So how do

504
00:26:31.440 --> 00:26:35.039
you help people to make that disconnect and have the

505
00:26:35.119 --> 00:26:39.640
courage literally to make that disconnect and to realize that

506
00:26:39.640 --> 00:26:42.640
that's part of what's affecting them in a negative way.

507
00:26:42.920 --> 00:26:45.680
Yeah, well pointing that out and also point you know,

508
00:26:45.839 --> 00:26:48.880
really it's gonna take time, but I think the important

509
00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:52.160
thing to understand it's not about you personally, even though

510
00:26:52.160 --> 00:26:55.079
they may be, you know, saying negative remarks about you

511
00:26:55.200 --> 00:26:58.599
or or shooting it on your accomplishments, a lot of

512
00:26:58.599 --> 00:27:00.839
it has to do with their own their own fears

513
00:27:00.839 --> 00:27:06.079
and insecurities. So and it's not about you, so kind

514
00:27:06.119 --> 00:27:09.160
of reframing like that like they're doing, they're projecting their

515
00:27:09.200 --> 00:27:10.880
own insecurities onto you.

516
00:27:11.400 --> 00:27:15.160
Okay, And so so here comes my question that comes

517
00:27:15.240 --> 00:27:17.039
to my mind. It is kind of an off the

518
00:27:18.359 --> 00:27:24.480
question how much is social media, the news media and

519
00:27:24.599 --> 00:27:28.440
all of that have become the people that we surround

520
00:27:28.480 --> 00:27:33.160
ourselves with and are being totally affected by that? Because

521
00:27:33.160 --> 00:27:37.079
we see such a dichotomy now and such anger coming

522
00:27:37.200 --> 00:27:39.119
from all different sides.

523
00:27:39.599 --> 00:27:42.039
At this point, I.

524
00:27:41.960 --> 00:27:44.559
Would say this has become really more polarizing in the

525
00:27:44.559 --> 00:27:45.519
past five years.

526
00:27:47.319 --> 00:27:49.240
You know, we all know what happened five years ago.

527
00:27:49.319 --> 00:27:51.960
So I think that you know is part of that.

528
00:27:52.160 --> 00:27:55.200
I think, you know, the thing about social media, and

529
00:27:55.279 --> 00:27:57.680
I've always said social media is like a double D swort,

530
00:27:58.119 --> 00:28:00.359
meaning that there's some good things. You know, we can

531
00:28:00.400 --> 00:28:03.559
be connected, you know, we're able to really expend our network,

532
00:28:03.559 --> 00:28:06.480
our reach, but also at the same time, there's a

533
00:28:06.519 --> 00:28:10.400
cost and what we say, you know, and a lot

534
00:28:10.400 --> 00:28:14.160
of research is found, especially found that the more especially

535
00:28:14.200 --> 00:28:17.279
routines and young adults that use social media, the more

536
00:28:17.480 --> 00:28:20.880
mental health crisis are going to experience depression and anxiety

537
00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:24.480
goes through the roof. Wow, because it's isolating if you

538
00:28:24.519 --> 00:28:27.319
think about it, you know, even though we may appear

539
00:28:27.319 --> 00:28:30.440
to be connected, we're actually isolating, you know, by spending

540
00:28:30.440 --> 00:28:33.799
more time on you know, social media, and you see

541
00:28:33.799 --> 00:28:36.119
people who put the best foot forward, and then you

542
00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:38.680
have the whole phenomenal gresses green on the other side,

543
00:28:39.119 --> 00:28:40.960
and you start to think, well, maybe my life is

544
00:28:41.000 --> 00:28:43.920
not because everybody else seems to be doing so well

545
00:28:44.359 --> 00:28:45.680
and here I am struggling.

546
00:28:46.160 --> 00:28:49.519
So that can add to fuel to the fire. And

547
00:28:49.559 --> 00:28:52.359
then you have the anonymity which you know on social media,

548
00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:53.559
which makes people.

549
00:28:53.279 --> 00:28:56.240
A lot braver online than they are face to faith,

550
00:28:57.039 --> 00:28:59.960
and which means they could be more bullying and crueler sometimes.

551
00:29:00.400 --> 00:29:03.240
And it's interesting to me to see some friends of

552
00:29:03.279 --> 00:29:06.759
mine that I've known for years that have suddenly taken

553
00:29:06.839 --> 00:29:11.200
up a cause that is just really, from what I

554
00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:17.119
can see, is based on anger frustration, and they're putting

555
00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:19.920
now and their comments or just you know, where does

556
00:29:19.960 --> 00:29:23.240
that come from? And I know, and you know, I'm

557
00:29:23.279 --> 00:29:27.200
saying that to myself, what what happened here? And then

558
00:29:27.200 --> 00:29:28.720
as we get into it a little bit more, I

559
00:29:28.799 --> 00:29:30.920
realized that, you know, there's a lot of things that

560
00:29:30.960 --> 00:29:34.920
went on in the past that have placed those imprints,

561
00:29:35.440 --> 00:29:38.000
and you know, it's so interesting that we can no

562
00:29:38.119 --> 00:29:44.480
longer be both and rather than either or you know, yeah,

563
00:29:44.519 --> 00:29:47.400
and realize that you know what, Yeah, I have my

564
00:29:47.519 --> 00:29:49.440
point of view, you have your point of view. I

565
00:29:49.440 --> 00:29:51.720
would suspect if we got into a discussion about some

566
00:29:51.759 --> 00:29:54.119
of those things, we probably are a little bit on

567
00:29:54.160 --> 00:29:57.559
the opposing sides there. But the reality is is, if

568
00:29:57.599 --> 00:30:00.599
you can respect my thoughts and I can respect your thoughts,

569
00:30:01.160 --> 00:30:05.640
not necessarily agree, but respect the fact that there's some validity,

570
00:30:06.240 --> 00:30:08.720
all of a sudden, that changes the whole dimension of

571
00:30:08.759 --> 00:30:10.119
the communication, doesn't it.

572
00:30:10.519 --> 00:30:13.799
Yes, Yeah, And it's just trying to get the emotion,

573
00:30:13.880 --> 00:30:16.240
you know, it's like trying to get the emotion out

574
00:30:16.279 --> 00:30:18.319
of the argument. The argument is great, I want to

575
00:30:18.319 --> 00:30:21.640
hear the argument, but you know, we need to temper up,

576
00:30:21.680 --> 00:30:24.480
down the emotion a bit, you know, the the anger,

577
00:30:24.640 --> 00:30:27.839
the thing and that. And sometimes I often feel when

578
00:30:27.839 --> 00:30:30.440
I see people that are really enraged, and again I'm

579
00:30:30.440 --> 00:30:34.559
not talking it's for other side. I'm often wondering if

580
00:30:34.599 --> 00:30:37.519
that's really what's going on. It's really meant to make

581
00:30:37.799 --> 00:30:40.319
something else is not happening, and they're just using that

582
00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:44.519
as a target or displacing their rage onto another target.

583
00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:48.680
I suspect that's true in many cases. I remember, as

584
00:30:48.720 --> 00:30:51.880
I was going through some certifications, one of one of

585
00:30:51.880 --> 00:30:54.960
the comments that the tell that was doing one of them,

586
00:30:55.319 --> 00:30:58.440
and we were talking about the imprints and so forth

587
00:30:58.519 --> 00:31:01.960
and relationships. He said, you know what, and I've shared

588
00:31:02.000 --> 00:31:04.759
this before. He says, this is something you never want

589
00:31:04.799 --> 00:31:08.519
to do with your spouse or your significant other, but

590
00:31:08.599 --> 00:31:11.599
it's something that you ought to do. And he says,

591
00:31:11.680 --> 00:31:15.000
when you get into a situation where there's a disagreement

592
00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:18.599
and strong feelings going on, the question you can ask

593
00:31:18.920 --> 00:31:22.599
is what emotion just came up for you that is

594
00:31:22.680 --> 00:31:26.319
causing this type of reaction. Well, if we ask ourselves

595
00:31:26.400 --> 00:31:29.920
that with the proper mindset, all of a sudden, we're

596
00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:33.359
realizing that, you know what, we're reacting because of emotion

597
00:31:33.880 --> 00:31:35.839
and where did that should come from?

598
00:31:36.279 --> 00:31:38.240
You know, it could be something from our childhood, like

599
00:31:38.319 --> 00:31:40.319
you know where you know, you may be thinking you're

600
00:31:40.359 --> 00:31:43.319
fighting with someone on social media, go, and yet what

601
00:31:43.480 --> 00:31:44.440
subconscious is going on.

602
00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:45.400
Maybe you're fighting back with.

603
00:31:45.400 --> 00:31:47.599
Your father at a you know, when you were five

604
00:31:47.720 --> 00:31:51.880
or six, you know, and that's where that anger comes in,

605
00:31:52.000 --> 00:31:56.200
or that energy, that that displeasure comes in. And you

606
00:31:56.279 --> 00:31:59.119
may think consciously it's about the other person, about the issue,

607
00:31:59.160 --> 00:31:59.559
but it's not.

608
00:32:01.200 --> 00:32:03.759
It's something deeper that needs to come in.

609
00:32:03.799 --> 00:32:06.519
And that's why I think we're seeing that, you know,

610
00:32:06.680 --> 00:32:09.720
especially in the past you know, eight years, just the

611
00:32:09.720 --> 00:32:12.680
amount of anger that we've been seeing on social media

612
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:16.119
on both sides, Yeah, has been you know, a bit

613
00:32:16.160 --> 00:32:18.200
disturbing almost you know, let's see.

614
00:32:18.039 --> 00:32:21.079
It, it's major disturbing. But you know what, to me,

615
00:32:21.119 --> 00:32:24.480
it's interesting that an individual, if they can could get

616
00:32:24.519 --> 00:32:27.839
to the point where they can literally say themselves. Okay,

617
00:32:28.359 --> 00:32:32.400
what's causing this emotion? You know, there's events or events.

618
00:32:32.640 --> 00:32:36.720
Events do not have emotion. Events are non emotion, but

619
00:32:36.920 --> 00:32:39.599
we tie an emotion to an event based on our

620
00:32:39.640 --> 00:32:43.720
perception or whatever that happens to be. And you know,

621
00:32:43.880 --> 00:32:46.039
how people can get to the point where they can

622
00:32:46.160 --> 00:32:49.960
understand that, I think takes a lot of curiosity, a

623
00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:53.680
lot of personal work, and help from others. One of

624
00:32:53.720 --> 00:32:56.240
the things that you talked about that I wanted to

625
00:32:56.240 --> 00:33:01.720
get into a little bit was personality. And I don't

626
00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:07.039
know if you do personality or behavioral evaluations. That's something

627
00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:09.000
that I happen to be certified in and I found

628
00:33:09.000 --> 00:33:13.559
it very interesting. But as you look at personalities, how

629
00:33:13.920 --> 00:33:17.599
important is it for someone to begin to really understand

630
00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:21.640
that from a perspective of living their life, choosing their

631
00:33:21.680 --> 00:33:24.279
profession and those type of things. What's been your experience

632
00:33:24.279 --> 00:33:24.519
with that?

633
00:33:25.119 --> 00:33:28.160
Well, you know, in my book, I have all unit

634
00:33:28.200 --> 00:33:31.279
of personality because I focus on one of the most

635
00:33:31.559 --> 00:33:33.920
you know, I guess popular models is a big five

636
00:33:34.079 --> 00:33:38.480
five factor model, which is openness, conscience as in a extraversion, agreeable,

637
00:33:38.519 --> 00:33:41.400
and sinneraroticism. Now all of us have you know, these

638
00:33:41.440 --> 00:33:44.839
five traits of varying degrees. So I think what's important,

639
00:33:44.880 --> 00:33:49.200
at least from my perspective, is to understand where you

640
00:33:49.240 --> 00:33:52.279
fall into that into all you know, into these five

641
00:33:52.319 --> 00:33:55.440
and then if there's ways to optimize it, you know

642
00:33:55.480 --> 00:33:58.319
what to optimize these you know, these five. So I

643
00:33:58.440 --> 00:34:02.000
work for you, you know, and in my research, because that's

644
00:34:02.000 --> 00:34:04.240
what I did from a doctor's station when variables they

645
00:34:04.319 --> 00:34:07.079
measured with some when I was measuring self sabotage was

646
00:34:07.079 --> 00:34:09.159
I was looking at the big five and see what

647
00:34:09.199 --> 00:34:12.440
the relationship was with the Big five and the self sabotage.

648
00:34:12.920 --> 00:34:15.360
And so what I found, and this is what I

649
00:34:15.400 --> 00:34:17.119
did after I did my research.

650
00:34:17.400 --> 00:34:21.400
Was that if you are high high neuroticism which means

651
00:34:21.400 --> 00:34:28.400
emotional reactivity, being easily stressed out, and low and conscientiousness,

652
00:34:28.760 --> 00:34:31.599
if you combine those two together, that's going to be,

653
00:34:31.760 --> 00:34:34.679
you know, be a greater predictor of self sabotaging behavior

654
00:34:35.960 --> 00:34:38.760
because now you're only fear running, but you're not necessarily

655
00:34:38.880 --> 00:34:44.159
disciplined as you should be. And you know, so I

656
00:34:44.159 --> 00:34:45.920
have my you know, one of the projects I do

657
00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:49.320
with my classes for my students is I haven't taken

658
00:34:49.800 --> 00:34:54.360
a you know, an instrument, an inventory that measures a

659
00:34:54.360 --> 00:34:57.239
big five factor model. I also have them do to

660
00:34:57.280 --> 00:35:02.840
meyers breaks, which give them a bit of a personality profile,

661
00:35:02.880 --> 00:35:04.400
and then I have them react to it. I don't

662
00:35:04.840 --> 00:35:07.360
I don't do any diagno because that's not my job

663
00:35:07.480 --> 00:35:09.960
there or to you know, but I just have them

664
00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:13.559
reflect on it and then you know, so you know,

665
00:35:13.599 --> 00:35:17.519
I think that just understanding your your own personality also

666
00:35:17.679 --> 00:35:21.079
can be an impact, which I kind of seem missing a.

667
00:35:21.119 --> 00:35:25.119
Little bit in the clinical psychology beef. You know, work.

668
00:35:26.519 --> 00:35:29.320
Is really understanding that personality factors and how you can

669
00:35:29.360 --> 00:35:32.639
optimize that, like how you can become more conscientious, how

670
00:35:32.679 --> 00:35:36.000
you can become more you know, open minded, you know,

671
00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:40.039
and even you know, work on your agreeableness, and then

672
00:35:40.239 --> 00:35:43.079
when you work on those valuables, that's.

673
00:35:42.960 --> 00:35:44.760
When you could start to see some changes.

674
00:35:45.320 --> 00:35:48.440
Well, you know what something me and I've not used

675
00:35:48.440 --> 00:35:50.719
a Big five and I don't use my bridge. I've

676
00:35:50.760 --> 00:35:53.199
done that, and I you know, I don't understand that

677
00:35:53.280 --> 00:35:56.159
I've got a brother that loves it. I've used something

678
00:35:56.239 --> 00:35:59.760
different than I found was very very you know, valuable

679
00:35:59.800 --> 00:36:02.920
for me to use with people with clients. And one

680
00:36:02.960 --> 00:36:05.440
of the things that I realize is and I think

681
00:36:05.480 --> 00:36:08.800
this is where understanding your personality traits is so important,

682
00:36:09.280 --> 00:36:14.599
because every personality trait that we can observe or we

683
00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:19.519
can begin to understand, is a very positive thing for us.

684
00:36:20.159 --> 00:36:25.239
The challenge is if we overdo it, then suddenly that

685
00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:27.599
becomes a problem. So for instance, you know, and I

686
00:36:27.639 --> 00:36:29.719
think I work on the right brain, left brain external

687
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:34.000
you know type of thing. But you know, the left

688
00:36:34.039 --> 00:36:37.840
brain or the right brain extrovert is that person that

689
00:36:38.079 --> 00:36:41.199
just loves to be in a community, loves to chat,

690
00:36:41.360 --> 00:36:44.119
so on and so forth, and it's wonderful. I love

691
00:36:44.199 --> 00:36:46.320
to be around them because I tend to be an introvert.

692
00:36:46.800 --> 00:36:49.000
So if I can be around people that just will

693
00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:51.880
chat and so forth, that's great. But all of a sudden,

694
00:36:52.280 --> 00:36:57.039
when it becomes yeh app and never stops, that strength

695
00:36:57.199 --> 00:37:00.800
has now become a weakness because the not been able

696
00:37:00.880 --> 00:37:04.079
to be in total control of it. Or like someone

697
00:37:04.119 --> 00:37:07.519
who's who's left brain extravert, who's just really strong willed

698
00:37:07.559 --> 00:37:10.679
and so forth. That's great, you know, and really is

699
00:37:10.840 --> 00:37:13.679
motivation for success and all that type of stuff. But

700
00:37:13.840 --> 00:37:16.480
as that becomes a little bit too much, now you

701
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:21.360
are overbearing, you're really using words and using you know,

702
00:37:21.760 --> 00:37:26.199
body language that is a little bit overwhelming to people

703
00:37:26.280 --> 00:37:29.840
who are receiving that communication. So I think it's so

704
00:37:30.000 --> 00:37:33.800
interesting that we we can really look at those strengths

705
00:37:33.840 --> 00:37:36.079
and understand that, you know, if I keep those strengths

706
00:37:36.239 --> 00:37:40.639
in the proper value, that they really are great strength.

707
00:37:40.840 --> 00:37:42.840
But I need to be aware that if they go

708
00:37:43.039 --> 00:37:45.719
a little bit too far, then all of a sudden

709
00:37:46.280 --> 00:37:48.000
they become a disadvantage.

710
00:37:48.440 --> 00:37:51.519
Yeah, well, I think it's relying on anything too much,

711
00:37:51.639 --> 00:37:54.039
even as a crutch sometimes can be you know, be

712
00:37:54.119 --> 00:37:55.679
a disadvantage, you know.

713
00:37:56.880 --> 00:37:59.239
And again it's it's what works for you. I mean,

714
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I I I you know, reason I like the Big

715
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five that I feel really.

716
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Fits into the work of self advertised very well, at

717
00:38:06.199 --> 00:38:08.920
least for me, you know, and I always like to

718
00:38:08.960 --> 00:38:10.840
purchase that for me. And I think that's also another

719
00:38:10.880 --> 00:38:15.360
thing too, because it's our perception, you know, really, and

720
00:38:16.159 --> 00:38:19.039
you know, I think also too much of anything is

721
00:38:19.760 --> 00:38:23.280
you know, not not always optimally given for production or

722
00:38:23.280 --> 00:38:26.039
its this time. We need to need time to you know,

723
00:38:26.239 --> 00:38:31.199
decompress and recharge. Even for me, I like being around people,

724
00:38:31.280 --> 00:38:34.320
but sometimes if I'm in a group, like a large

725
00:38:34.440 --> 00:38:36.719
room with a a lot of people, I have to

726
00:38:36.800 --> 00:38:39.880
step aside because I'm like, Okay, this is a little

727
00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:43.599
too much for me right now. But you know, even

728
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though I do like being around people a lot, it's

729
00:38:46.760 --> 00:38:48.280
you know, I know my limits, you know.

730
00:38:48.360 --> 00:38:51.679
Like, Okay, I'm not I'm not. I'm not a really

731
00:38:51.760 --> 00:38:56.039
big fan of large crowds. That's me, you know.

732
00:38:56.159 --> 00:39:01.199
So I think just understanding yourself is a major. Again,

733
00:39:01.280 --> 00:39:03.679
it doesn't really matter what personality model do you use.

734
00:39:03.719 --> 00:39:07.679
I think, you know, I think just having that self understanding.

735
00:39:07.719 --> 00:39:10.199
Exactly and being able to understand that, you know what,

736
00:39:10.559 --> 00:39:13.960
as you were talking about, there's balance. There needs to

737
00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:17.280
be balance in our lives, yes, which I think becomes

738
00:39:17.320 --> 00:39:21.039
so important to my daughter, who ended up getting a

739
00:39:21.119 --> 00:39:25.000
master's degree in sociology but mainly research, and she was

740
00:39:25.039 --> 00:39:28.079
going to move towards her PhD and called me one

741
00:39:28.159 --> 00:39:31.639
day and she said, Dad, and she's major with the

742
00:39:31.719 --> 00:39:36.480
personal I profile, she's major right brain extrovert. And she says,

743
00:39:37.079 --> 00:39:40.400
I'm not sure as I observe the lives of the

744
00:39:40.519 --> 00:39:44.079
PhDs at the university here, I'm not sure that's going

745
00:39:44.159 --> 00:39:46.880
to give me the type of balance in life that

746
00:39:47.000 --> 00:39:50.239
I'm looking for. And so she made the brave decision

747
00:39:50.239 --> 00:39:53.400
because she was on a pathway to end it and

748
00:39:53.599 --> 00:39:57.199
just get her master's degree and then basically get into

749
00:39:57.280 --> 00:40:00.800
an entirely different area. But you said it education as

750
00:40:00.840 --> 00:40:03.079
a background that has helped her to be very successful.

751
00:40:03.199 --> 00:40:07.440
So I think it's so important that we really look

752
00:40:07.519 --> 00:40:09.960
at balance in our lives and understand that. You know what,

753
00:40:10.559 --> 00:40:13.440
if we can create a good balance, we can then

754
00:40:13.599 --> 00:40:16.760
create a greater sense of happiness enjoy in our lives.

755
00:40:17.039 --> 00:40:18.039
One hundred percent.

756
00:40:18.159 --> 00:40:20.480
And you know, going back, they want to say before,

757
00:40:20.639 --> 00:40:23.239
if we look at even the traits in the Big five,

758
00:40:23.320 --> 00:40:25.800
you shouldn't. You don't want to be on too extremes

759
00:40:25.840 --> 00:40:28.559
on other end, you know, too high or too low

760
00:40:28.840 --> 00:40:30.960
because even like like one of the things I talked

761
00:40:30.960 --> 00:40:34.559
about aboutcus being agreeable. Agreeableness is great, you know, to

762
00:40:34.639 --> 00:40:38.480
be coachable and be open minded and being able to

763
00:40:38.519 --> 00:40:41.679
follow directions, But at the same time, if they're too agreeable,

764
00:40:42.159 --> 00:40:43.360
you can be taken advantage of.

765
00:40:43.559 --> 00:40:44.519
And there's times when.

766
00:40:44.440 --> 00:40:47.320
It comes if you're negotiating, you know, whether it's for

767
00:40:47.519 --> 00:40:50.239
to buy a house or a salary or anything like that,

768
00:40:50.880 --> 00:40:53.760
you have to stand your ground, which means being disagreeable

769
00:40:54.239 --> 00:40:54.760
a little bit.

770
00:40:55.199 --> 00:40:59.440
Yeah, Well, wait, we can talk about all sorts of

771
00:40:59.519 --> 00:41:03.039
things here as well as we're getting near the clothes.

772
00:41:03.519 --> 00:41:05.119
What I'd love for you to do is share with

773
00:41:05.239 --> 00:41:08.079
the audience how can they find you and what are

774
00:41:08.159 --> 00:41:10.320
the same what other than your book, what are some

775
00:41:10.440 --> 00:41:12.480
of the things that you offer two people.

776
00:41:13.079 --> 00:41:15.800
So I on my website Alberbramonti dot com. I have

777
00:41:15.880 --> 00:41:22.079
a lot of hypnosis audios which has you know, which

778
00:41:22.239 --> 00:41:27.400
have to do anything with mindset, athletic performance and you know,

779
00:41:27.599 --> 00:41:30.639
working with fears and phobias, anxieties.

780
00:41:31.519 --> 00:41:32.159
And it helps.

781
00:41:32.199 --> 00:41:36.920
There there recordings that you can buy, and that's one

782
00:41:36.960 --> 00:41:41.079
way we can help. You could also just you know,

783
00:41:41.239 --> 00:41:43.440
I post a lot on my social media, my LinkedIn,

784
00:41:44.119 --> 00:41:46.559
you know, so you can find me on LinkedIn. I

785
00:41:46.679 --> 00:41:51.079
post a lot of content there. You know. I'm working

786
00:41:51.119 --> 00:41:53.199
on sorry, a sub stack right now, which is to

787
00:41:53.360 --> 00:41:56.559
be you know, articles on mindset and articles on that.

788
00:41:56.880 --> 00:41:59.719
So be sharing that with the community so you can

789
00:41:59.760 --> 00:42:01.960
follow me. You get on Instagram and LinkedIn for that

790
00:42:02.239 --> 00:42:04.920
and you know, even reach out. Feel free to reach out.

791
00:42:04.920 --> 00:42:06.480
I'm always open to conversations.

792
00:42:06.920 --> 00:42:09.079
And how do you find how do you find your book?

793
00:42:09.599 --> 00:42:12.639
Okay, so you're going it's available on Amazon Rise above

794
00:42:12.679 --> 00:42:16.519
the script. You can get it as a paperback, kindle

795
00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:17.719
or audiobook.

796
00:42:17.760 --> 00:42:19.599
I have it also an audiobook. Great.

797
00:42:19.719 --> 00:42:20.880
I love audiobooks.

798
00:42:21.400 --> 00:42:22.639
Yeah, so that they're great.

799
00:42:23.280 --> 00:42:26.440
Yeah, they're great. So as we close, what would be

800
00:42:26.599 --> 00:42:29.199
kind of that final message that you'd like to share

801
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with the audience.

802
00:42:30.760 --> 00:42:33.880
So the final message I would say is connect to

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here why, Like really, you know, every day, reflect on

804
00:42:37.800 --> 00:42:39.960
why you're doing what you're doing, what you're sending out

805
00:42:40.000 --> 00:42:42.639
to do, and really stay committed to that. So know

806
00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:45.920
your why, I would say previous much webe the biggest

807
00:42:46.000 --> 00:42:49.159
message I'd want to say, because that'll keep you focused,

808
00:42:49.239 --> 00:42:50.360
I'll keep you dedicated.

809
00:42:50.800 --> 00:42:53.519
You know, remember each day why you're doing what you're doing.

810
00:42:53.760 --> 00:42:56.840
Well, And I think that really gets to a purpose

811
00:42:56.920 --> 00:43:01.039
and understanding your purpose and you say even asking why

812
00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:04.079
why am I behaving this way? Why am I bringing

813
00:43:04.159 --> 00:43:06.519
up this emotion? So I love that because it not

814
00:43:06.639 --> 00:43:09.800
only gets into purpose, but it gets into a mindset

815
00:43:10.000 --> 00:43:12.400
that helps you to really start to improve your life.

816
00:43:12.440 --> 00:43:12.599
Yeah.

817
00:43:13.000 --> 00:43:16.320
So yeah, and the emotions and mindsets, even the ones

818
00:43:16.360 --> 00:43:18.880
that may be working against us, I always say, have

819
00:43:18.960 --> 00:43:23.719
a positive intention and that's protect us. So now what's

820
00:43:23.840 --> 00:43:26.199
maybe work on it, reframing it so it could protect us,

821
00:43:26.400 --> 00:43:28.000
still protect us, put it in a different way.

822
00:43:28.519 --> 00:43:31.480
Amen to that. Well, hey, Albert, thanks so much. This

823
00:43:31.599 --> 00:43:36.639
has been great. Yeah, I appreciate you being on the show.

824
00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:39.760
I mean, thank you again for having met folks.

825
00:43:39.840 --> 00:43:42.719
Thanks for listening. Hope you've enjoyed it. Get to the website.

826
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There's some good things there. I can promise you. I've

827
00:43:44.599 --> 00:43:47.440
already been there and I observed that. So anyway, this

828
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is doctor Doug saying no mistake.