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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.
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Thanzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is
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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you to.
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Do the same.
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Stefan, Welcome to the show.
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Thank you very much.
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Hey, I appreciate you being on this show. You have
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such an interesting story and you're doing some amazing things
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for people, and love for you to kind of share
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with the audience just briefly who you are and what
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is it that you're doing now.
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Thank you so much for having me. I'm Stefankoki, I'm
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a founder of Elevitodiva, a nonprofit that empowers Africans through
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education and opportunities. I am a native of Cultivoa in
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West Africa, and I've immigrated the United States about ten
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years ago and I presently leave in a Salt Lake
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City area in Utah, Okay.
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Wonderful, perfect. And so you've you've had a journey in
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your life that is in my mind extraordinary and something
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that really needs to be shared with people, because so
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many of us in our own journeys struggle so deeply
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and wonder whether we can ever overcome. And yet you
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have done that to the point you are now really
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having an inflight on others. Could you share with the
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audience your story.
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Yes, of course. So as I grew up in Courdivois
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and Codivois is in North Africa, for those who don't know,
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a native French country, a French speaking country independent from
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friends since the nineteen sixty so that's the context of
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the country. As as you may know from many African
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country poverty is a big challenge opportunity. We lack opportunities
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will like access to the basic necessities of life, and
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so that has been most of my life. By age twelve,
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we unfortunately had a civil war, and I will say
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about half of my lifetime has been you know, experiencing
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those those challenges. So that has caused a lot of challenges,
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a lot of difficulty being able to access school, being
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able to have an educational opportunity, and just a feeling
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of never feeling safe and I'm being dancing all so
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much suffering and challenge it. You know, you wonder will
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I ever be able to get out of this? Which
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is it's tough, it's a tough feeling. But I went
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taught to keep pushing. And you know again from twelve
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up to like twenty nineteen years there I go to
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Ghana to for for religious service, my for my church.
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And after two years I returned home to go Divoir
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and we had another cycle of a very big cycle
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of the war that led to the damage causing severe
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damage to my university. And so then you call me
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at crash. It was way worse than it was you know,
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even growing up, and I was wondering, okay, well what
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do I do from here? How do I get an education?
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How do we cure opportunities for myself? And after two
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years of struggling, you know, doubling between different things, becoming
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and what I call a necessity entrepreneur, selling anything that
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I can to survive and help my family. I was.
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I was, I was fortunate enough to help with the
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family to go to because essentially they're like, there's nothing
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for you here, there's no opportunity, there's no job. You
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need to find a better place for better education. So
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I end up in China in twenty fourteen, twenty thirteen,
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and again unfortunately the agency that led me there was
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was a scam. So I get to change in China
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in twenty thirteen and no one shows up and I
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speak no words of Chinese besides just nihaw. And then
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I have this long journey of a year in China
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where I essentially survive, learn learn Mandarin, and then finally
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get a scholarship out of China to come to the
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United States to study business and then eventually computers, and
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that led me to a successful career in some of
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the large, large firms in the United States, and then
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then from that in that process also started my nonprofit
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to be able to give back the opportunity that I
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didn't have when I grew up into they.
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Are okay, So it's you presently work full time and
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you also have your nonprofit.
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That's correct, Yes, yes, you know, and you know, go ahead, Yeah,
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I was going to say, I'm I'm a product manager
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in a technology from here in Utah.
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Okay. Wonderful. And so as you talk about that, I'd
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love for you to get a little bit deeper. I'd
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love for you to kind of share some of the
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emotions you were experiencing as you were going through this.
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You know, what was going on with your family and
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just the challenges that you were facing on a regular basis,
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and what was your thought process along that, and then
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what ultimately gave you the strength to move forward? And
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even when you were in China where it was a
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scam and you were dealing with that, what gave you
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the strength to be able to move forward and ultimately
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get over to the United States and get into college.
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Yeah, that's a that's a great question. It is I'll say,
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lots of emotions. And as as you were saying that,
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I was going through my journey in my mind and
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thinking about you know, fear, you know, abandonment or anger
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in a way, and disappointment, and that that was I'll
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say the theme of what what I've experienced, the experience
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growing up. I will say, we have this expression in
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Ivory Coast where we say it life is hard, but
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we're already here. We're already here, as in like what
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are you going to do about it? And not that
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you're here. And that's something that my mom, my mom
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also taught us. You you need to do something. You
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in control of your situation and you have the power
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to change your situation, So what are you going to
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do about it? So from a very early age, she
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she used to say, you know, in life, there's two
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ways to succeed. Usually it's either you're born in a
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rich family or you were born in family politician at list.
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In my country, those are the ones to have the opportunity.
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And she said, well, sorry for you, sorry, like you're
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born in neither. So you have to figure out. You
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have to figure out how to get out, and education
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is a way to do this. So I'll say I
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think those words and those motivations from my mother were
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very essential to that, to that drive and having the
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the the end goal in mind, as in my Foruss family,
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where community culture where the children drive to succeed for
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themselves are more importantly for the family. We wanted to
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help you.
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And I want to interrupt you there for just a minute,
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because you're talking about something that I think is so essential.
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And if I'm getting the impression that although you were living,
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from what I'm understanding in fairly deep poverty, is that correct?
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Uh huh. Yeah, here's your mother.
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It seems like rather than being a victim of all
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of this, she's saying to you and her other children,
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you know what, it's up to you. You can get
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out of this, rather than just being negative and victimized
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by the whole situation. Is that a fair assessment?
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Yeah, yeah, absolutely, because you could to your point, you know,
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you could complain about your situation all day long, and
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that not that we don't you know, it's a human feeling.
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But my principle has always been and I know I'd
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drive my coworkers crazy and I was like, let's complain
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for about thirty minutes, but now what are we going
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to do about it for the last the next thirty
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But yes, that's essentially the mindset that my mom has
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always been teaching us. Yes, there things we can control,
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but for the things that you can control, what are
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you going to do about it.
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Yes, Oh, and I love that. So I just wanted
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to stop there because I thought that was such an
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important part. So okay, so here you are is a
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young child and you know, whatever age that is, and
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you have developed this mentality because of your mother that
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as you say, if I understood it correctly, you know
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what you cannot change, accept but you can change what
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you can change, and so you move forward. So continue on,
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talk a little bit more about what your life journey
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was on that and your experience. Yes.
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Yeah, so you have family, you know, you have matter words.
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You also have faith, strong believer in God and the
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power that it has for those who act upon the
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faith that we have to transform our life. So always
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you know, thinking I'm not alone in this journey. There's
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a family that's supporting me, the friends, but there's a
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higher power and there's the divine that's supporting us. So
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that you know between you know, like the motivation in
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a motivation that you know of wanting better, better life,
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you know, the the the motivation from the mother, my mother,
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and also like my your faith and your belief that
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you know in this journey God is going to do
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miracles and and and you see them every day, and
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and that's a I I do say that I am.
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You know, when I was a child, if you had
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to ask me, was I happy or excited that I
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was born where I was born? I would say absolutely not,
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because you you watch a TV and all the you know,
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you see the world outside and you think, oh, man,
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why don't I have these things? But as an adult
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looking back, I am grateful for the things I've experienced
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because it has shown me the It's given me gratitude
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for the little things. And it's also and I said,
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that's a principle I'll add to the list. And it's
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also showed me that the power of like miracles when
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you act on small things. And then sample of that
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is you know, you know, in the first world, for
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the for the most part, at least from my experience here,
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figuring out what to eat the next day is not
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the biggest thing. You know, if you look at a
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marshal pyramid of needs. Because of development and opportunities, a
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lot of people have moved past that stage. But you know,
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in the developing world and mill mold, a bigger majority
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of people still worry about the day to day and
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in a lot of time for us. I remember those
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days where we had no idea what it is, what's
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gonna happen tomorrow, and but you believe that something will
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come out the next day. And and then you have
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a lot of opportunities to experiment, as in like, well
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tomorrow is no food, but I'm gonna go out and
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I'm gonna figure out. You have no idea where you're going,
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You have maybe one or two things you could sell,
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and you don't know who's gonna buy it, but you
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still go up every day. So it gives you that
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practice of faith and you see the result every day.
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It's like, man, yesterday we thought we were never going
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to make it the next day, but we did. Okay,
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what if we try it again? So you get so
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much practice, and that by the time you get to adulthood,
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you know you essentially your feels. And I think that's
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a preparation. I helped me in China, and despite you know,
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being lost and all the things that were happening, I
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was like, Okay, I have seen firsthand that you believe
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an action, there is always an outcome. It might take
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longer than I expect, by always works, and that that
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I'll say it draw that resilience, and when I want
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to give up, I'll remember those things and be like,
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you got to keep pushing. Something is going to work
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out because you've experissed it over and over again in
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your childhood.
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Well, and you know you mentioned your faith in God. Okay,
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and you know what comes to my mind? A couple
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of things do. But one of the things that comes
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to my mind is so often people blame God for
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their circumstances. You know, why wouldn't He let this happen
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to me? What is you know? Why was I born here?
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And why does He let me do this? It sounds
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like you kind of reversed that a little bit. And
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yet I think in other situations people just totally wait
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for God and don't do anything else. They just keep
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waiting and waiting and waiting, and then he you know,
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he hasn't done anything necessarily. So how how have you
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fit that in to your life? And as you work
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with others helping them to understand that fine line between
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totally relying and not doing anything about it, being angry
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because you know, if he's God, why is he letting
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this happen? How have you put that together so that
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you're able to move forward with such as you say gratitude,