Let Yourself Off the Hook

0:01 At the end of the day, it's not about what you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted at, who you've made better. It's about what you've given back. Denzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you to do the same. Liam Naden, welcome to the show. Thanks very much. Thanks for having me. Ah, it's a pleasure. Now we are you located at the moment, I'm talking to you from New Zealand, which is my birthplace country on visiting for a little while on holiday. How wonderful. And then normally where are you at? What you call a nomad? So currently I'm based in Europe, living in a motor home with my partner and just traveling around.

0:51 We just finished eight years sailing our yacht around Europe actually, so now we're doing a land based travel the beach. Oh how fun. You know, I've always wondered what that would be like to just have the motor home and just traveling around the country. I think that's fascinating. Anyway, as we got started. I'd love for you to share with the audience a little bit about who you are. And what I find fascinating is finding out how someone actually gets to the point that they are now and wanting to do what they're doing. As far as making a difference in other people's lives, well, you know, like you and probably people listening or watching most people, I've always been one of those people who's always been consumed by wanting to know how I could be the best version of myself that I could be. I always wanted to have a great life. I want to be successful, happy, wealthy. I didn't want to settle for a mediocre life. So I've actually spent most of my life studying, if you like, what is success?

2:00 And really more than just what has success, but what is it that gives us the life that we actually have? Is it just luck? Is it just our hard work? Is it a combination of luck and hard work? Is it our knowledge? Is it what we know? Is it what we learn? Is it our environment, our teachers and our parents, or our genetics? And so I've always been consumed by this question, and I've searched and researched many different areas to try and answer the question. I was brought up in religion and I was taught that's how you become happy and successful and the best that you are. You just decide what you want and you pray for it and God will give it to you. So that's where I started, and I moved into spirituality and psychology, self help, personal development, did all sorts of workshops and seminars on goal setting and changing your beliefs, changing your subconscious mind, and different techniques or went too all seminars, read a lot of books, did every course I could get my hands on, and I became really successful, and I became a multi millionaire and had many different businesses. I've had eighteen different businesses in my lifetime so far. But something happened to me in my mid forties which was not on my goals list, It was not in my plan, and it was nothing to do with everything I knew about how to be successful and how to create success in your life. And that is I went from being this successful multimillionaire to literally losing

3:34 everything, becoming homeless overnight. And when I rebuilt my life after that experience, which was pretty pretty difficult, when I had to live, I had to move back with my elderly mother and sleep on the sofa in the living room in her small apartment. And here I was in my mid forties, and I was thinking, how did this happen? This was not a goals, this wasn't a plan. But maybe realize that everything I thought I knew you about how to be successful and how to manage your life, there was something else at play. And when I rebuilt my life after that experience, things went in a very different direction. And it was really strange in the sense that before I'd always been chasing after success. I'd always been thinking, what else do I need to learn to be more successful? How can I be more successful? What course do I need to do, What book do I need to read? What bigger goal do I need to set for myself and start working towards. And that brought a lot of success on the outside, but it also brought a lot of stress, a lot of problems.

4:40 And I got to the point of thinking what many people teach us in the point we believe it's true, and that is the problems in stress are a natural price that you pay for success, that you have to overcome challenges. That's what it's all about. But anyway, I went from that life of struggle, of really pushing and trying hard and being super motivated, reading everything I could, doing every seminar and reading and doing every course that I could. I went from that pushing chasing after success to a different sort of life where I rebuilt my life. I was starting to create new businesses. I was making a really good income again. I was I attracted a new relationship and had a wonderful new relationship which I still have, which was completely different to any I'd had before. And I was starting to do all these really amazing things like I mentioned earlier, sailing around Europe in a yacht for eight years. And what I discovered was I, instead of chasing after success in a really weird sort of way without trying to sound too woo woop, but it felt like success was actually chasing after me because I wasn't putting in the struggle. I was putting an effort, but unexpected things were happening. People would show up and my life out of the blue that would be really helpful.

6:02 Or I'd come up with this new idea that I'd something I'd never thought of before, and it turned out to be a great idea, and so what life became and still is for me was a series of flowing events where everything was working out great and I didn't have the stress and problems, I didn't have the struggle attached to it. But what I decided was, I need to find out what I'm doing differently because I'm doing something completely differently, because I'm getting very different results, and I want to find out exactly what I'm doing because I want to make sure I keep doing it. I want to mess this up. This is amazing. And that's what led me to what I've been doing the last few years, which is really pulling together evidence and information and research from all the all of the places that I'd studied before, so spirituality, religion, psychology, philosophy, but also from science to discover that there is a way we are designed biologically to operate which ensures that we do become the best that we can be and that we do achieve everything we want to. But it's not based on stress and struggle. It's not based on resistance and effort, because if you look in the natural world, there is no stress and struggle. In fact, any we call this thing, well, this word resistance is something that slows us down. And if we look around all of nature, everything operates perfectly without resistance, without struggle and stress, but in a natural flow. And we've just forgotten, or

7:36 should I say, we've never been taught that we're supposed to be like that as well. We are biologically designed to operate in a totally natural and a totally successful way. And when I started to research all of this, I thought, this is amazing that we've been taught this by religion, spirituality, self help, and science, but we've never really understood it, We've never really applied it. And that's why for most of us life is being a struggle, and life continues to struggle well, and I love that. You know, it's interesting. I'm a retired dentist and I used to have a subspecialty in helping people who had head and neck pain, and in dentistry, they initially started alluding to it the fact that we have, you know, as we open and close our job, we have two joints and they call them TMJ temporal mandibular joint. And people would come into the office and go, oh, doctor, I have TMJ. I have TMJ, and I'm looking at him and I kind of smile and say, no, you have two. You have one on your right side and one on your left side.

8:46 Now tell me what are your symptoms and once while I'm having headaches or jaw pain or whatever that happens to be, and then able to get to the root cause of what was causing the promt. And what I love about what you're saying is the fact that you have gone through this whole process and you have figured out how to get to the root meaning and the ability and the cause of how to accomplish whatever it is. And you know, I think it's interesting because as we look at people in different in different modalities, the reality is is that you know, the life that you have wanted you are now achieving that isn't necessarily the life that I want. I mean, you know, I enjoy life, but there are people have different values, different different desires in their hearts to achieve. But what I love about what you're saying is that the key is that there's a way that they can accomplish and become whatever it is that they choose to. And I'd love for you to just let's talk a little bit about as you talk about you know, you're not naturally and biologically wired for success. What how do we get to the read of that? And what do you what do you really mean by that? Okay, well, the first thing we need to remember that we've forgotten is and you know this is the thing that I'd overlooked and all my years of struggle and trying to figure things out, is we forget that nature

10:16 actually controls everything. I mean, we are governed by natural laws that we can't doesn't matter what we do, we can't overcome those They are going to guide us. And one of the a good example is mentionine. If you were if you wanted to walk off a ten story building, and now, it wouldn't matter how motivated you were, how much you prayed, how much you believed, how much work you did on changing your subconscious mind, how determined you work, you walk off a ten story building. No matter what you think or what or what you do, You're going to go down. So we are all governed by this natural world, overwhelmingly, far more than through our thoughts and our efforts. So we have to say, how does the net world work? And if you were to asking the biological scientist, what is the purpose of life. How does all of every living thing which includes us, how do they operate? How are they wired? What are they designed to do? And every single biological scientistist will tell you the overwhelming purpose, the primary purpose, the primary function, and the primary wiring of every living thing is to survive. That's what everything is trying to do and is designed to do above all else. Now, what that means when you think about it, is everything is trying to ensure that it survives for as long as possible, and every living thing has been given an instrument or a mechanism to make that happen. And what that is is a brain. A

11:52 brain is nothing more than a machine. I call it a machine because it function is in a very practical way and predictable way. A brain is nothing more than a machine that's designed to ensure that the organism it belongs to is the best that it can be, so that it has the greatest chance for survival. And when you think about humans, what makes us the best that we can be? It's not just physically, it's also mentally and emotionally. In other words, it's being happy, it's being fulfilled, it's feeling that you really are the best and you are living your life purpose. So the brain actually is literally designed biologically to make sure that everything happens in your life and that you do everything to ensure that you are happy, fulfilled. And you mentioned earlier about being yourself, being the best version of yourself. That's your biological purpose, that's what you're wired and designed to do. So when I realized all of this, I realized there's only one reason therefore, because if you ask most people, do you feel that you're being the best that you can be? You feel that everything about you? Are you happy?

13:03 Are you fulfilled? Do you really feel We have an expression for this called being in the flow or being in the zone, being in that state of peak performance. Is that how you feel in your life? And most people will say no, they don't feel like that. Well, the interesting thing is all of nature science even has a word for that state of being in the flow, being in the zone, being having peak performance. It's called homeostasis, and that is the natural state for every living thing. Our natural state is literally to be happy, is to be the best that we can be, a peak performance all of the time. So there can only be one reason why, because if we ask people, you know, as I say, if you feel like that, most people are struggling. Most people are stressed, they're not fulfilled, they're not happy. So what could be the cause of that, Well, there's only one thing. If you have a machine that's designed to make that happen, to ensure that machine that belongs to what it belongs to is being the best that it can be and living its highest purpose so that it has the greatest chance for survival. If it's not doing that, there's only one reason why that could be happening, and that is that machine is not being operated in the right way, and that's what's causing the problems. I mean, imagine, I use the analogy sometimes of a motor car. We all know what a motor car is. It's a machine, and it's designed to do one thing, get you from where you are to where you want to go, and it's going to do it predictably, reliably, without stress. You don't have to worry about it.

14:35 You don't have to wonder if it's going to happen. You know it's going to happen if you drive it right. But if you don't drive it right, what's going to happen? If you're trying to you know, put your foot on the brake and the accelerator at the same time, and you put the wrong fuel in, and that the engine's something wrong with it. It's not going to get you there, or if it does, it's not going to be an enjoyable journey, but you're going to end up with problems. So any machine that has not operated correctly creates problems. And it turns out this is exactly from a logical point of view, this is how we work. We have this machine, and if it's not working right, it creates problems in our life. And what I found really interesting when I started to understand how the machine worked, what I realized, this is what I was doing differently. I was using it the wrong way. And I could see how, in hindsight, why had it using it the wrong way had been responsible for all of the stress and all of the problems and everything I did wrong in my life. And I could also see how I was using it differently and in a funny sort of way, this machine was ensuring I didn't have problems in my life. I didn't have stress and struggle. So that's what it all comes down to. This is the foundation of understanding what really creates the results in our life. It's not us well, and you bring you bring up an interesting topic, and that's the topic of awareness. You know now, For you, it took you how many years to the point

16:06 where you suddenly, after all of the struggles that you were experiencing, you became aware that, you know what, I've got to change. I need to make some type of change and I need to, you know, create that curiosity in my mind to the point where I really figure this thing out. How do you help how do you say to someone or how do you help them, as the audience is listening today, to be enough aware and have enough courage to say, you know what, this isn't right. I'm not liking where I'm at, and I take responsibility. I realize that it's not God's problem, it's my problem. How do you help people to get to that point? Well, to a certain degree, people have to get that point themselves, to be honest and say to themselves. And again I'm very when I work with people, I help them be honest and say, you know, where are you right now? Are you any better off than you were six months a year ago? Or are you still struggling with the same things five years ago, are you really making any progress? And when people are prepared to accept that their way isn't working, what they generally become is more open to looking in an alternative idea. And the beauty with what to be honest with what I've created. I've created a four part brain model, which simple, which which explains in a very clear and simple way the

17:40 science of how your brain works and how it's designed to operate as a machine. And so the next step from people becoming aware that they have a problem is to start to learn and understand something different. And the beauty with this is once you start to understand even what we've been talking about our biological purpose. I mean, no one's ever talked to me about this about we have a biological purpose to be the best that we can be, that we have the greatest chance for survival. We have a machine designed to ensure that happens. No one ever told me that when I was struggling to reach all my goals and trying to force my life to happen. But once we do accept that we are we have this biological machine that all we need to do is learn how it works and how to use it, and it's all quite simple.

18:25 It requires changing habits and once once you understand it. It's a bit like a motor car. And imagine if excuse me, if you were if you didn't know how motorcar operated, but you saw one standing there and someone told you it's a vehicle to get you over the hill, and you thought, well, I don't know anything about it, but maybe the way to operate it is I stand behind and I push it along. That seems logical because it's got wheels. See you stand behind and you try and push it with all your might. Now what happens. You get exhausted, you don't get anywhere. It's not working. It's all a struggle with no or very little in the way of results. And then you say to yourself, I'm the problem. I'm not trying hard enough. I'm not motivated enough. I need to build up my strength and determination and belief. So you push even harder on the car, and you're still if you're getting more tired, you're wearing your life out. And someone comes along and says, you don't understand how this works. You don't understand how to drive it because it's not meant to be a struggle. It's not meant to be difficult. It's meant to be an enjoyable ride. This is how it works. Press this button, push this lever, and sit in the seat and it'll work. And it really is as simple as that. In the same with the brain, it's so simple. We've actually been taught this in the Bible, in spiritual traditions throughout history and increasingly through science, but we haven't taken any notice of it because we don't really understand how it works. And that's my mission is to

19:57 help people understand because when they do that, I think, why did I Why was I standing behind the cow trying to push it? That's so stupid. Well, so let's let's let's get into that. You've got the four parts of the brain. Uh, let's talk specifically about how does someone use their brain and what is your process to help an individual to literally be able to achieve that success. You know, one of the things that you said that I find fascinating is as I'm here in Thailand, you know, I've enjoyed studying a little bit about Buddhism and then I've read some interesting books and one of the things that you have mentioned that I think is so important and yet so difficult to achieve, is living in the here and now, not worrying about the past, not fretting or worrying about the future, but just living in the here and now. And when we do that as usual, at least, if I understood what you were saying, was you achieved that level of here and now, things came and all of a sudden, it was miraculous the way that it was able to allow you to achieve those goals and the happiness that you were seeking for. What are the four parts of the brain And if you wouldn't mind sharing with the audience, how do they process that in the correct way to achieve what you've been talking about? Sure, and it's very simple once you understand what the four parts of the brain are and what they do to know where we've been going wrong all the time.

21:30 So essentially, the model I've created, it's I mean, it's all based on scientience. I can give you all the scientific terms, but I've created in a way that people can get and understand really easily. So I've given them different sorts of labels. But essentially, the four parts of the brain that you have, and remember these are physical, biological working parts. This isn't the subconscious mind or anything sort of a theory or this is all physical and this is how we're biologically designed. So the first part of the brain that I describe is that was what I call your rational thinking brain. This is the top part of your head. It's where your neo is also called the neocortex, and the purpose of this part of your brain is literally to take every bit of information that you gather through your entire life, through every moment of your life, and to store this as information so that you can later retrieve it to use it. You can label things, you can recognize things, you can say, ah, that's a tree, and that's an elephant whatever. So it's literally a database or a library of all of your knowledge, all of your experience that you have personally experienced. That's your rational thinking brain. Okay, So when that occurs, because I've had the opportunity to interview a number of people who have experienced tremendous trauma in their lives, and I'm sure you've observed it. I've observed how that talm literally creates

23:00 that attraction to the same thing over and over again. And so you know, for the ladies that have been abused, they end up remarrying another abuser and another abuser. And is that type of information, as you say, is that what you're talking about, and that is also stored. All the good is stored there, but also the negative things that have happened to us and the influences are all stored in the neo cortex. Is that what you're saying? Yes, that's right, because that's your beliefs. That's okay, that's mean, that's the labels you put on things. So in other words, a relationship is bad and toxic and men are all horrible and violence.

23:41 You know that because of your experience, you've created that label, that piece of information that you later can retrieve and use. And there's another part of your brain that works with that information to retrieve it to determine what's going to happen in your life moving forward. And that's really interesting thing that we have to understand. So yeah, that's how it works. So anyway, that's the first part, and the second part is what I call your emotional feeling brain, and this is located just below your neocortex. There's a couple of places that the Amygdaler hippocampus and hippothelamus, you might have heard of those terms. This is the emotional feeling brain, and this is responsible, as the name suggests, for how you feel. So it creates chemicals based on certain stimuli to either determine whether you feel good or bad. Literally, that's the emotional feeling brain. The third part of your brain is what I call your survival brain. It's the back of your head, and this is in charge of everything about your moment to moment survival that you don't have to think about.

24:47 So all of your physical organs they operate through the control of your survival brain. You know, you're breathing, your heart rate, everything to keep you going moment by moment. But there's another really important feature the survival brain, because as I said, this is responsible from ensuring that you survive in every moment. It's constantly working to ensure that you survive. So it's constantly working to make sure all of your organs are functioning as well as they can. But there's another important feature of our survival and what that is is dealing with threats or dangers. So when the brain was created millions of years ago, we lived in a very dangerous world. Obviously there were lions roaming around and wild animals and you know, dangers behind every rock. So we developed this mechanism to deal with that, which is sometimes called our flight response.

25:38 And I'm sure people are probably familiar with that. Yes, it happens on a biological level. Is your brain is constantly scouring your environment to check whether it's safe or dangerous. This is actually happening in your emotional brain, and if things are good, if it's if it's taken in other words, if it's taking the information out of your rational thinking brain and saying, well, comparing my environment here to the information in this library or this database, comparing the two, I make the assessment that your environment right now is safe, and I'll send you the signal that it's safe through feelings, through chemicals that will make you feel good. So your brain says everything's safe. Go on with feeling good, have a great life, Enjoy your life. That's what you're here to do. Be the best that you can be, the happiest that you can be, so you make sure you continue to survive. However, if the emotional brain scanning the environment sees a threat, so it sees a lion coming out from behind the rock, and it knows that a lion equals danger. It sends a different set of chemicals, sends a different message.

26:48 It's like a Hello alert warning danger, danger, and it sends a chemical in the form of fear, stress, worry, anxiety. And what it does then is it activates. It's this fight flight. It's called our sympathetic nervous system. It gets activated and the brain goes into the state to deal with an immediate threat for danger. Now that's absolutely great when you've got a line coming over the hill. It's designed to deal with a real threat, a physical threat to your survival. But the thing we've overlooked, we don't realize, is that there's a fourth part of your brain. And the fourth part of your brain is located right in the very center of your head.

27:32 And its science is increasingly starting to do research on this and recognizing it is a different part of your brain. But it's what I call your creative brain. Now, your creative brain is the master key, master controller of your life. Because in your creative brain, this is the source of all your creativity, your imagination, but it's also the source of your intuition, your gut feelings, and it's the problem solving part of your brain. This is the part of your brain when you're about to do something you think, whoop, so they shouldn't do that. I don't know why I shouldn't do that, but it doesn't feel right, and you do it and later you go why it was a terrible thing to do. Or it's also the part of your brain that you're working on a problem you can't figure out what to do, and then you're doing something else and you suddenly come up with a new idea that's the perfect solution, and you go, ah, that's the answer. Why didn't I see that before. It's also the part of your brain that sees opportunities, maybe in business or in your personal life. You go, I've never noticed that before I could do that. Well, that's somebody I should talk to, you know. And peak performance people and creators have talked about this throughout history about there's something in them, there's something in their brain that takes control when they are super productive. Sports people talk about being in the flow where they're putting an effort, but the results they're getting seem way out of proportion the effort they're putting. In something else is taking over. Composers of music have talked about where did that music come from?

29:04 They say, I don't know. I just heard it and I wrote it down. Now, this is all the creative brain at work and the way we're designed to work biologically. This is the part they're supposed to manage our life. Because remember we're dealing with a five hundred trillion microprocessor computer. The most powerful computer exists, which is between your ears, designed to make you the best that it can be the best that you can be. So it knows what you want in your life, it knows how to get it for you. It's going to give you the good ideas. It's going to make sure you do the right things. It's going to make sure you don't do the wrong things. It's going to bring the right people into your life if you allow it. But here's the really important So why aren't we like this all the time. Well, this is what happens when your brain tells you that there's a threat or danger to your survival and it sends the message through feelings of fear, worry, frustration, stress. It activates this survival brain.

30:02 And what it does then is it shuts down the creative brain, because in a moment, in a situation of danger, when you'll face with a real threat to your survival, you cannot be thinking creative thoughts. You need to be in this reactive state. You need to be there to fight or without even thinking, before you even know, you've just got to be reacting to get rid of this danger, to run away, and all of the energy that you can possibly have through your whole body need or could need to be used to save you from that threat, that danger. So it also takes energy from your creative brain as well. That's why it shuts down your creative brain. So what's the problem. You can see the problem, yes, And you know what comes to my mind, And the question that comes to my mind is I have observed that people because of that, because of that unconscious knowledge and remembrance, you know, the neocortex show all of those experiences are there that for some reason, they continue to attract the same thing.

31:06 So people who people who are struggling with life in general, it's fascinating. I know people personally where I just observe that they've made this decision and all of a sudden, something else comes their way, which proves to them again that life is not good, and they continue to attract the very same thing. What is it in the brain, And as you describe those four areas, what causes people to continue to experience the same thing over and over again in a negative way where they can just ultimately say, you know what, life is not good? Well? The simple reason is, remember your brain is trying to protect you. But when you activate your survival brain.

31:51 In other words, when you feel stress for your worry anxiety about something, you shut down your awareness and your brain goes to work to solve a problem. So, for instance, if you have a bad experience with relationships, your brain has come up with the truth, the fact, the perception for you that relationships are dangerous, relationships are bad, relationships are toxic. So if you suddenly get into another relationship, your brain is going to say, this is bad. How could we need to This is a problem. We need to get rid of this problem as fast as possible. And the way to get rid of a problem is often to make it worse so that you you know, you really do get rid of it, or it gets rid of you. But this is why we attract If you like this, we've heard of the law of attraction, but it's really much more of a biological thing, because what we need to do is manage this emotional state to realize that when we feel bad, all it is is our brain telling us that there is something dangerous in our environment. And most of the time now there isn't anything dangerous in our environment, and that is the problem, because our brain thinks there is. So in other words, somebody your wife tells you that she wants a divorce and you go into a state of stress and panic, it's because your brain is activating your your survivals, because it's telling you that there's a threat to you by your wife wanting a divorce. Because you might have these very deep beliefs about or you can't be on your own, or you'll never find someone else's good, or you know they're the perfect person,

33:23 and you look back on your life with regret, and all these other bad things are going to happen to you. Now, these are all subconscious fears that we don't know exist, but they're there which activate this very limited reactionary part of your brain, and they blocked out block out your awareness the truth. Because the truth is if your wife tells you that she wants a divorce. It might be a good thing. You might be does your brain remembers there to protect you and give you the best life experience. It might be making that happen so that you find someone far better, or something that happens well. And you know, you bring up an anenters point that I think it's important for the audience to remember. There's a saying that I love.

34:04 What's true for you is true. Now, as you know, as I think about that, what comes to my mind and is perception. Our perception of life, as you're explaining, is really based on that neo cortext all of those memories subconsciously that are there, and therefore they create truth for us, and that becomes the perception that we have of life. And so what I hear you saying is that there is a way to change that perception. Others refer to it as the movie of our life. We have created the movie for our lives, and yet people don't realize that they can literally change that movie and create something entirely different if they can change their perception of truth. And so, as you're talking about, is that I find that fascinating that you know, here's here's this, here's this brain that has all of these memories, and as it comes forward in any situation, what part of the brain and how do we control that part of the brain to say, you know what, this is just merely a perception based on emotions and it's not really true for me, and I can change this. Well, you know, there's a difficult way to do it, but there's also a simple natural way to do it, because, of course you're absolutely right.

35:34 Everything is our perception. Nothing is There is no objective reality. It's it's all in the way we see things. But here's the thing. When you use your creative brain, when you know how to activate it, and when you know how to stop activating your the other the survival brain, which is blocking and shutting off your creative brain, what you find naturally is that your brain will bring you the right a way. It will bring you the right perceptions. You will see things differently, and you will see things for what they really are, much more closer to the truth about how everything that happens in your life is for your benefit. I mean, I went through that experience of losing everything, and at the time I was so angry that why has this happened to me. I've really tried all of my life to be the best that I can be. I've been the guy going to all the seminars and reading all the books. Nobody else I knew was going to them.

36:29 I'm putting in all this effort. This is so unfair. Why has all of this happened to me? But when I shifted the part of my brain that I was using and learned how to stop activating that limited, frustrated part and activated my creative brain, my creative brain showed me a completely different perspective on what was happening in my life to the and I could see it was the greatest gift that I'd ever been given, because that's what allowed me to learn about all of this stuff about how the brain works. It allowed me to help my self to be far happier, far more fulfilled, far more on purpose in my life than i'd ever been, And that was the thing I ultimately wanted and I'd never been able to find it, and also to help other people to be here right now. So how can you say that anything was a bad thing? Was it a bad thing that I lost everything and became homeless? Only from a certain perspective. But this is the beauty when you use your creative brain, as your awareness expands and you see things so differently to what most people see because the other point about your survival brain, it's focused on problems. Remember it's if you've got a lion coming at you from out in the jungle. Your brain has to identify all of If it tells you there's a danger in your environment, it has to find every single danger. It has to be one hundred percent focused on where is the danger in your life right now that I have to eliminate. And so your awareness becomes very focused on everything that's neger of a new environment. You

38:00 can't see. Your brain isn't letting you see all the for instance, in our world, all the amazing things that are happening, because it's telling you your world is full of danger, and I'm here to get rid of those danger We'll look at all that other stuff later when I've sold all the problems, when I've got and you can. And that's the thing. So people think that this world is full of problems. They think that think their lives are full of problems, But it's their brain telling them that because they're stuck in this limit. It's only this brain, that's all it can tell them. Their creative brain if they use it, not only would give them a different perspective, a different awareness, but would also show them the real answers, the real solutions to any problems they're facing. So here's my question, and as I'm listening to you, what comes to my mind is that literally we're at the effect to a large degree, unless we're taking control. We're at the effect of our emotions, the neo cortext all all those members, everything that's occurred that's been stored in our brain, were at the effect of the emotional part of our brain because it just creates were the effect of the flight, fight and fight part of our brain. The only thing we really have control of is the curiosity brain. That part of our brain does.

39:27 How does an correct me if I'm wrong here? But how does an individual move from being at the effect of all of the three parts of the brain that they really are as if I'm understanding you correctly, they really can't or don't necessarily control and take control of their lives by focusing and allowing that part of the brain that creates the curiosity and you literally can then to create a different life. How do they do that? How do they take control? It's simple, dead simple to give the fun, but not necessarily easy because we've had a lifetime of habits of doing it the wrong way. But to describe that, let me ask your listeners a question. If someone came along to you with a glass of liquid and said I want you to drink that, and you said, you would say, well, what is it?

40:24 And they said it's hydrochloric acid, and you would say, well, why do you want me to drink that? They would say, well, you should drink it, But you say that I understand what it would do to me. If I drank it. It would poison me, it would kill me. It would certainly damage me substantially. There's no benefit in drinking that hydrochloric acid. And and they said to you all sorts of justifications as to why you should, oh, if you don't, and threats. If you don't drink that, every person you know, I'm going to make sure never talks to you again. Everything you have will be taken away from you. You'll become homeless, you become penniless, your family will disown you, You'll be the be ridiculed by everybody, you will end up living under a bridge with nothing and starving. Now you would still say to them, look, I'm sorry, I understand how it works. It doesn't matter the justification.

41:14 Physically and biologically, I know forget all of that. I know that if I drink that I'm going to be harmed or even killed. So there's no way I'm going to touch it. So this is how all we need to focus on is to realize that whatever it is that our brain is telling us, which is in response to our environment. When our brain tells us that there's something dangerous and we need to feel fear, that is the hydrochloric acid. When you feel fear, stress, worry, and anxiety. It doesn't matter what the justification. You are going to activate the wrong part of your brain. You're going to deactivate the part of your brain that has all the answers to your problems. You know, this is why people stay stuck for so long in problems, and they say, I don't know what to do, I don't know what I want and I need, and I'm so unhappy and I've got all these problems. In stress, they're asking a part of their brain that doesn't know the answers. It's not designed to find the answers.

42:12 So all you need to do this is the simple part, is to say, what can I do to ensure that I don't feel fear, stress, worry and anxiety in my life. And many people, when I ask them this question, they say, that's ridiculous. I've got all these terrible things going on in the world. There's all these I have all these problems in my life. Again a matter the justification. Fear is the chemical, the signal that's going to switch off the right part of your brain and switch on the wrong part of your brain. So your only job is to manage fear. And here's a funny thing I thought, and I've heard this before. When I really started to see the science behind this, how it works. I've seen this before. Where have I read that you should not be afraid? And it's the Bible. It says three hundred and sixty five times be not afraid. This is an instruction. It's not a good idea saying don't be afraid. And the reason is when you feel fear, you activate the wrong part of your brain, and the part of your brain that is you being the best that you can be. It can't do its job.

43:15 It's because it's temporarily supposed to be temporarily but it's deactivated. So your any job is to manage your fear, and how do you do that well? You can. We actually have far more of a choice over what makes us feel bad than we would admit. So in other words, we don't have to watch the news, we could turn that off. We don't have to have those conversations with people that make us feel bad, we don't have to talk about topics that make us feel bad, we don't have to interact with people that don't make us feel good, that make us feel bad. And when we realize how important this is, and not only that, this creative brain is sitting there with all of the power of five hundred trillion micro processes to try and ensure that you live your biological purpose to be the best that you can be, and it'll do it if you let it, if you activate it, then our only job is to say, I've got to do whatever I can to get rid of fear in my life, get rid of anything that makes me feel bad, because that's the hydrochloric acid. And there are two ways to get one as our external environment, as I've been describing, which is anything that makes you fear about. You can walk away from that relationship, You can walk away from that conversation, that job, that part of your business. I used to have parts of my businesses that I absolutely hated, and we're going we're dragging me down, and I should have just got rid of them. It would have been the best, best thing to do. But we don't do it because we're afraid that that's the wrong

44:45 thing to do. We don't know that this part of our brain will make sure that all the right you know, if you get rid of that stuff out of your life, good stuff will show up. So we have that control. We actually do have the ability to manage our environment to minimize, if not eliminate, anything that makes us feel bad. Okay, and you mentioned three, and so as we're getting shirt on time, I'd love for you also to mention the other two fairly quickly. And then what I'd love for you to do is to be able to share with the audience message that would be coming from your heart that you think would be the greatest value to them. Okay, well, the other thing you need to other sort of fear to get rid of is internal fear. It's all of these beliefs and ideas and all your brain is saying, there's something here that I believe from my information is a threat to your survival. So the stock market crashes and there's some information it retrieves, and it says, what does that mean?

45:44 It's a threat to your survival because I've read all of the stuff that when you lose all your money then you're going to be homeless and end up on under the bridge. So you feel stress, worry, and anxiety. It doesn't mean that at all. It's just the meaning you've given to it. It could mean a new business opportunity is about to show up for you. You could have that belief when you lose all your money, or you're supposed to start all over again because you weren't that happy anyway with what you had. So those the two things when you realize that fear is the trigger your whole mission in life, Your only mission in life is the only mission which the Bible tells us as our mission in life is not to be afraid to trust, to believe, to have faith, and to let you know, do not worry about what you shall eat, drink, and wear. I heard that in the Bible. It'll all be provided for you. It's provided in the rest of nature, and our brain, our creative brain, when it's working right, is the machine that will make sure it's provided. So we just need to be very consciously aware of eliminating anything that's going to switch that part of our brain off. And it's fear internally. Okay, great, So what's the message you'd like to share? Well, I like to say to if we really want to succeed in life, we have to let ourselves off the hook. And what that means is you have to stop trying to reach your goal, manage your life, achieve, be happy through streets and struggle, because all that does is keep you stuck, keeps your brain stuck. But instead, we have this natural creative energy that if we know how to activate, we know how to energize. It actually activates this other

47:16 part of our brain, this master part of our brain, our creative brain, and when we activate that, it does its job. It does what it's designed to do, which is literally to lead us down the easiest, fastest, most efficient path possible to being the best that we can be and living to our full potential, which means also being happy, fulfilled and feeling in purpose about our life. I love that. And as you talk about the you know, let Yourself off the Hook, I know that that's the name of your podcast, at least I think that is. Is that also a book? It's a book in process? Yeah, okay, so that's a book in process. People want to learn more about your process. They want to learn more about this whole situation and how they can overcome with the four parts of the brain model and the brain rebalancing. How do they find you and where do they go to be able to investigate that a little bit more and potentially get in contact with you to get some help. Well, Gus, you've got a special website called let Yourself Off the Hook. And on that website, I have a webinar. It's free, but it goes through people can sign up for and it goes through exactly how your brain works, exactly what you need to do. And I think when people start on this process, they realize just how powerful an idea this is and all they need to do is understand it more. So that's this website I have called let Yourself off Thehook dot Com. Wonderful, lillam, thank you so much.

48:52 It's you know, it's fascinating when I love it because I happen to be one of those analytical people that has to look at, you know, when this happens, why what's going on in reading and research and so forth, And it's wonderful to speak with someone who does the same thing and recognize that that's sometimes what it takes to be able to come out with this type of information that will then help the general public to understand that they literally can change their lives and their lives can experience something so much more beautiful if they're just willing to do it. Well, you know, Confucius put it well, he said life is actually really simple, but we just insist on making it complicated. Yeah, I need to do anything fancy. We just need to do use our natural mechanism the right way, and it's all going to work out. It's posed to. It's how the whole world looks. I love it. Well, thanks so much for being on the show, and folks, thanks for listening. Hope you really enjoyed this, and get to that website. Let yourself up off thehook dot com right and get to that website and do the I'm going to do that. I'm going to do that free workshop. I want to understand even more so folks do the same thing.

50:10 And hope you have a great day, a great week. Look forward to having you join us again soon. This is doctor Doug saying, have a wonderful, wonderful day,