Let Yourself Off the Hook

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At the end of the day,
it's not about what you have or even

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what you've accomplished. It's about what
you've done with those accomplishments. It's about

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who you've lifted at, who you've
made better. It's about what you've given

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back. Denzel Washington, Welcome to
Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is to

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elevate the lives of others and to
inspire you to do the same. Liam

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Naden, welcome to the show.
Thanks very much. Thanks for having me.

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Ah, it's a pleasure. Now
we are you located at the moment,

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I'm talking to you from New Zealand, which is my birthplace country on

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visiting for a little while on holiday. How wonderful. And then normally where

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are you at? What you call
a nomad? So currently I'm based in

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Europe, living in a motor home
with my partner and just traveling around.

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We just finished eight years sailing our
yacht around Europe actually, so now we're

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doing a land based travel the beach. Oh how fun. You know,

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I've always wondered what that would be
like to just have the motor home and

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just traveling around the country. I
think that's fascinating. Anyway, as we

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got started. I'd love for you
to share with the audience a little bit

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about who you are. And what
I find fascinating is finding out how someone

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actually gets to the point that they
are now and wanting to do what they're

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doing. As far as making a
difference in other people's lives, well,

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you know, like you and probably
people listening or watching most people, I've

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always been one of those people who's
always been consumed by wanting to know how

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I could be the best version of
myself that I could be. I always

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wanted to have a great life.
I want to be successful, happy,

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wealthy. I didn't want to settle
for a mediocre life. So I've actually

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spent most of my life studying,
if you like, what is success?

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And really more than just what has
success, but what is it that gives

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us the life that we actually have? Is it just luck? Is it

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just our hard work? Is it
a combination of luck and hard work?

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Is it our knowledge? Is it
what we know? Is it what we

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learn? Is it our environment,
our teachers and our parents, or our

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genetics? And so I've always been
consumed by this question, and I've searched

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and researched many different areas to try
and answer the question. I was brought

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up in religion and I was taught
that's how you become happy and successful and

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the best that you are. You
just decide what you want and you pray

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for it and God will give it
to you. So that's where I started,

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and I moved into spirituality and psychology, self help, personal development,

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did all sorts of workshops and seminars
on goal setting and changing your beliefs,

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changing your subconscious mind, and different
techniques or went too all seminars, read

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a lot of books, did every
course I could get my hands on,

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and I became really successful, and
I became a multi millionaire and had many

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different businesses. I've had eighteen different
businesses in my lifetime so far. But

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something happened to me in my mid
forties which was not on my goals list,

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It was not in my plan,
and it was nothing to do with

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everything I knew about how to be
successful and how to create success in your

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life. And that is I went
from being this successful multimillionaire to literally losing

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everything, becoming homeless overnight. And
when I rebuilt my life after that experience,

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which was pretty pretty difficult, when
I had to live, I had

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to move back with my elderly mother
and sleep on the sofa in the living

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room in her small apartment. And
here I was in my mid forties,

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and I was thinking, how did
this happen? This was not a goals,

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this wasn't a plan. But maybe
realize that everything I thought I knew

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you about how to be successful and
how to manage your life, there was

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something else at play. And when
I rebuilt my life after that experience,

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things went in a very different direction. And it was really strange in the

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sense that before I'd always been chasing
after success. I'd always been thinking,

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what else do I need to learn
to be more successful? How can I

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be more successful? What course do
I need to do, What book do

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I need to read? What bigger
goal do I need to set for myself

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and start working towards. And that
brought a lot of success on the outside,

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but it also brought a lot of
stress, a lot of problems.

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And I got to the point of
thinking what many people teach us in the

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point we believe it's true, and
that is the problems in stress are a

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natural price that you pay for success, that you have to overcome challenges.

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That's what it's all about. But
anyway, I went from that life of

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struggle, of really pushing and trying
hard and being super motivated, reading everything

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I could, doing every seminar and
reading and doing every course that I could.

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I went from that pushing chasing after
success to a different sort of life

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where I rebuilt my life. I
was starting to create new businesses. I

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was making a really good income again. I was I attracted a new relationship

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and had a wonderful new relationship which
I still have, which was completely different

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to any I'd had before. And
I was starting to do all these really

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amazing things like I mentioned earlier,
sailing around Europe in a yacht for eight

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years. And what I discovered was
I, instead of chasing after success in

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a really weird sort of way without
trying to sound too woo woop, but

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it felt like success was actually chasing
after me because I wasn't putting in the

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struggle. I was putting an effort, but unexpected things were happening. People

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would show up and my life out
of the blue that would be really helpful.

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Or I'd come up with this new
idea that I'd something I'd never thought

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of before, and it turned out
to be a great idea, and so

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what life became and still is for
me was a series of flowing events where

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everything was working out great and I
didn't have the stress and problems, I

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didn't have the struggle attached to it. But what I decided was, I

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need to find out what I'm doing
differently because I'm doing something completely differently,

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because I'm getting very different results,
and I want to find out exactly what

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I'm doing because I want to make
sure I keep doing it. I want

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to mess this up. This is
amazing. And that's what led me to

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what I've been doing the last few
years, which is really pulling together evidence

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and information and research from all the
all of the places that I'd studied before,

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so spirituality, religion, psychology,
philosophy, but also from science to

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discover that there is a way we
are designed biologically to operate which ensures that

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we do become the best that we
can be and that we do achieve everything

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we want to. But it's not
based on stress and struggle. It's not

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based on resistance and effort, because
if you look in the natural world,

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there is no stress and struggle.
In fact, any we call this thing,

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well, this word resistance is something
that slows us down. And if

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we look around all of nature,
everything operates perfectly without resistance, without struggle

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and stress, but in a natural
flow. And we've just forgotten, or

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should I say, we've never been
taught that we're supposed to be like that

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as well. We are biologically designed
to operate in a totally natural and a

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totally successful way. And when I
started to research all of this, I

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thought, this is amazing that we've
been taught this by religion, spirituality,

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self help, and science, but
we've never really understood it, We've never

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really applied it. And that's why
for most of us life is being a

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struggle, and life continues to struggle
well, and I love that. You

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know, it's interesting. I'm a
retired dentist and I used to have a

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subspecialty in helping people who had head
and neck pain, and in dentistry,

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they initially started alluding to it the
fact that we have, you know,

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as we open and close our job, we have two joints and they call

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them TMJ temporal mandibular joint. And
people would come into the office and go,

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oh, doctor, I have TMJ. I have TMJ, and I'm

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looking at him and I kind of
smile and say, no, you have

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two. You have one on your
right side and one on your left side.

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Now tell me what are your symptoms
and once while I'm having headaches or

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jaw pain or whatever that happens to
be, and then able to get to

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the root cause of what was causing
the promt. And what I love about

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what you're saying is the fact that
you have gone through this whole process and

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you have figured out how to get
to the root meaning and the ability and

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the cause of how to accomplish whatever
it is. And you know, I

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think it's interesting because as we look
at people in different in different modalities,

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the reality is is that you know, the life that you have wanted you

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are now achieving that isn't necessarily the
life that I want. I mean,

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you know, I enjoy life,
but there are people have different values,

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different different desires in their hearts to
achieve. But what I love about what

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you're saying is that the key is
that there's a way that they can accomplish

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and become whatever it is that they
choose to. And I'd love for you

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to just let's talk a little bit
about as you talk about you know,

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you're not naturally and biologically wired for
success. What how do we get to

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the read of that? And what
do you what do you really mean by

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that? Okay, well, the
first thing we need to remember that we've

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forgotten is and you know this is
the thing that I'd overlooked and all my

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years of struggle and trying to figure
things out, is we forget that nature

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actually controls everything. I mean,
we are governed by natural laws that we

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can't doesn't matter what we do,
we can't overcome those They are going to

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guide us. And one of the
a good example is mentionine. If you

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were if you wanted to walk off
a ten story building, and now,

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it wouldn't matter how motivated you were, how much you prayed, how much

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you believed, how much work you
did on changing your subconscious mind, how

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determined you work, you walk off
a ten story building. No matter what

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you think or what or what you
do, You're going to go down.

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So we are all governed by this
natural world, overwhelmingly, far more than

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through our thoughts and our efforts.
So we have to say, how does

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the net world work? And if
you were to asking the biological scientist,

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what is the purpose of life.
How does all of every living thing which

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includes us, how do they operate? How are they wired? What are

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they designed to do? And every
single biological scientistist will tell you the overwhelming

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purpose, the primary purpose, the
primary function, and the primary wiring of

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every living thing is to survive.
That's what everything is trying to do and

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is designed to do above all else. Now, what that means when you

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think about it, is everything is
trying to ensure that it survives for as

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long as possible, and every living
thing has been given an instrument or a

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mechanism to make that happen. And
what that is is a brain. A

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brain is nothing more than a machine. I call it a machine because it

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function is in a very practical way
and predictable way. A brain is nothing

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more than a machine that's designed to
ensure that the organism it belongs to is

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the best that it can be,
so that it has the greatest chance for

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survival. And when you think about
humans, what makes us the best that

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we can be? It's not just
physically, it's also mentally and emotionally.

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In other words, it's being happy, it's being fulfilled, it's feeling that

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you really are the best and you
are living your life purpose. So the

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brain actually is literally designed biologically to
make sure that everything happens in your life

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and that you do everything to ensure
that you are happy, fulfilled. And

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you mentioned earlier about being yourself,
being the best version of yourself. That's

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your biological purpose, that's what you're
wired and designed to do. So when

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I realized all of this, I
realized there's only one reason therefore, because

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if you ask most people, do
you feel that you're being the best that

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you can be? You feel that
everything about you? Are you happy?

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Are you fulfilled? Do you really
feel We have an expression for this called

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being in the flow or being in
the zone, being in that state of

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peak performance. Is that how you
feel in your life? And most people

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will say no, they don't feel
like that. Well, the interesting thing

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is all of nature science even has
a word for that state of being in

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the flow, being in the zone, being having peak performance. It's called

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homeostasis, and that is the natural
state for every living thing. Our natural

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state is literally to be happy,
is to be the best that we can

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be, a peak performance all of
the time. So there can only be

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one reason why, because if we
ask people, you know, as I

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say, if you feel like that, most people are struggling. Most people

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are stressed, they're not fulfilled,
they're not happy. So what could be

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the cause of that, Well,
there's only one thing. If you have

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a machine that's designed to make that
happen, to ensure that machine that belongs

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to what it belongs to is being
the best that it can be and living

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its highest purpose so that it has
the greatest chance for survival. If it's

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not doing that, there's only one
reason why that could be happening, and

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that is that machine is not being
operated in the right way, and that's

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what's causing the problems. I mean, imagine, I use the analogy sometimes

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of a motor car. We all
know what a motor car is. It's

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a machine, and it's designed to
do one thing, get you from where

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you are to where you want to
go, and it's going to do it

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predictably, reliably, without stress.
You don't have to worry about it.

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You don't have to wonder if it's
going to happen. You know it's going

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to happen if you drive it right. But if you don't drive it right,

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what's going to happen? If you're
trying to you know, put your

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foot on the brake and the accelerator
at the same time, and you put

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the wrong fuel in, and that
the engine's something wrong with it. It's

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not going to get you there,
or if it does, it's not going

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to be an enjoyable journey, but
you're going to end up with problems.

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So any machine that has not operated
correctly creates problems. And it turns out

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this is exactly from a logical point
of view, this is how we work.

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We have this machine, and if
it's not working right, it creates

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problems in our life. And what
I found really interesting when I started to

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understand how the machine worked, what
I realized, this is what I was

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doing differently. I was using it
the wrong way. And I could see

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how, in hindsight, why had
it using it the wrong way had been

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responsible for all of the stress and
all of the problems and everything I did

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wrong in my life. And I
could also see how I was using it

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differently and in a funny sort of
way, this machine was ensuring I didn't

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have problems in my life. I
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what it all comes down to.
This is the foundation of understanding what really

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creates the results in our life.
It's not us well, and you bring

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you bring up an interesting topic,
and that's the topic of awareness. You

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know now, For you, it
took you how many years to the point

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where you suddenly, after all of
the struggles that you were experiencing, you

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became aware that, you know what, I've got to change. I need

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to make some type of change and
I need to, you know, create

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that curiosity in my mind to the
point where I really figure this thing out.

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How do you help how do you
say to someone or how do you

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help them, as the audience is
listening today, to be enough aware and

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have enough courage to say, you
know what, this isn't right. I'm

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not liking where I'm at, and
I take responsibility. I realize that it's

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not God's problem, it's my problem. How do you help people to get

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to that point? Well, to
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that point themselves, to be honest
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very when I work with people,
I help them be honest and say,

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you know, where are you right
now? Are you any better off than

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you were six months a year ago? Or are you still struggling with the

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same things five years ago, are
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people are prepared to accept that their
way isn't working, what they generally become

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is more open to looking in an
alternative idea. And the beauty with what

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to be honest with what I've created. I've created a four part brain model,

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which simple, which which explains in
a very clear and simple way the

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science of how your brain works and
how it's designed to operate as a machine.

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And so the next step from people
becoming aware that they have a problem

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is to start to learn and understand
something different. And the beauty with this

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is once you start to understand even
what we've been talking about our biological purpose.

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I mean, no one's ever talked
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a biological purpose to be the best
that we can be, that we have

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the greatest chance for survival. We
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No one ever told me that when
I was struggling to reach all my

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goals and trying to force my life
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that we are we have this biological
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learn how it works and how to
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It requires changing habits and once once
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like a motor car. And imagine
if excuse me, if you were if

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you didn't know how motorcar operated,
but you saw one standing there and someone

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told you it's a vehicle to get
you over the hill, and you thought,

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well, I don't know anything about
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operate it is I stand behind and
I push it along. That seems logical

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because it's got wheels. See you
stand behind and you try and push it

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with all your might. Now what
happens. You get exhausted, you don't

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get anywhere. It's not working.
It's all a struggle with no or very

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little in the way of results.
And then you say to yourself, I'm

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the problem. I'm not trying hard
enough. I'm not motivated enough. I

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need to build up my strength and
determination and belief. So you push even

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harder on the car, and you're
still if you're getting more tired, you're

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wearing your life out. And someone
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how this works. You don't understand
how to drive it because it's not meant

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to be a struggle. It's not
meant to be difficult. It's meant to

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be an enjoyable ride. This is
how it works. Press this button,

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push this lever, and sit in
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really is as simple as that.
In the same with the brain, it's

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so simple. We've actually been taught
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throughout history and increasingly through science,
but we haven't taken any notice of it

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because we don't really understand how it
works. And that's my mission is to

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help people understand because when they do
that, I think, why did I

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Why was I standing behind the cow
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Well, so let's let's let's get
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parts of the brain. Uh,
let's talk specifically about how does someone use

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their brain and what is your process
to help an individual to literally be able

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to achieve that success. You know, one of the things that you said

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that I find fascinating is as I'm
here in Thailand, you know, I've

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enjoyed studying a little bit about Buddhism
and then I've read some interesting books and

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one of the things that you have
mentioned that I think is so important and

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yet so difficult to achieve, is
living in the here and now, not

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worrying about the past, not fretting
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living in the here and now.
And when we do that as usual,

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at least, if I understood what
you were saying, was you achieved that

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level of here and now, things
came and all of a sudden, it

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was miraculous the way that it was
able to allow you to achieve those goals

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and the happiness that you were seeking
for. What are the four parts of

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the brain And if you wouldn't mind
sharing with the audience, how do they

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process that in the correct way to
achieve what you've been talking about? Sure,

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and it's very simple once you understand
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are and what they do to know
where we've been going wrong all the time.

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So essentially, the model I've created, it's I mean, it's all

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based on scientience. I can give
you all the scientific terms, but I've

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created in a way that people can
get and understand really easily. So I've

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given them different sorts of labels.
But essentially, the four parts of the

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brain that you have, and remember
these are physical, biological working parts.

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This isn't the subconscious mind or anything
sort of a theory or this is all

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physical and this is how we're biologically
designed. So the first part of the

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brain that I describe is that was
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This is the top part of your
head. It's where your neo is also

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called the neocortex, and the purpose
of this part of your brain is literally

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to take every bit of information that
you gather through your entire life, through

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every moment of your life, and
to store this as information so that you

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can later retrieve it to use it. You can label things, you can

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recognize things, you can say,
ah, that's a tree, and that's

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an elephant whatever. So it's literally
a database or a library of all of

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your knowledge, all of your experience
that you have personally experienced. That's your

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rational thinking brain. Okay, So
when that occurs, because I've had the

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opportunity to interview a number of people
who have experienced tremendous trauma in their lives,

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and I'm sure you've observed it.
I've observed how that talm literally creates

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that attraction to the same thing over
and over again. And so you know,

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for the ladies that have been abused, they end up remarrying another abuser

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and another abuser. And is that
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is that what you're talking about,
and that is also stored. All the

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good is stored there, but also
the negative things that have happened to us

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and the influences are all stored in
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saying? Yes, that's right,
because that's your beliefs. That's okay,

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that's mean, that's the labels you
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a relationship is bad and toxic and
men are all horrible and violence.

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You know that because of your experience, you've created that label, that piece

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of information that you later can retrieve
and use. And there's another part of

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your brain that works with that information
to retrieve it to determine what's going to

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happen in your life moving forward.
And that's really interesting thing that we have

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to understand. So yeah, that's
how it works. So anyway, that's

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the first part, and the second
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brain, and this is located just
below your neocortex. There's a couple of

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places that the Amygdaler hippocampus and hippothelamus, you might have heard of those terms.

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This is the emotional feeling brain,
and this is responsible, as the

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name suggests, for how you feel. So it creates chemicals based on certain

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stimuli to either determine whether you feel
good or bad. Literally, that's the

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emotional feeling brain. The third part
of your brain is what I call your

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survival brain. It's the back of
your head, and this is in charge

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of everything about your moment to moment
survival that you don't have to think about.

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So all of your physical organs they
operate through the control of your survival

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brain. You know, you're breathing, your heart rate, everything to keep

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you going moment by moment. But
there's another really important feature the survival brain,

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because as I said, this is
responsible from ensuring that you survive in

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every moment. It's constantly working to
ensure that you survive. So it's constantly

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working to make sure all of your
organs are functioning as well as they can.

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But there's another important feature of our
survival and what that is is dealing

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with threats or dangers. So when
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we lived in a very dangerous world. Obviously there were lions roaming around

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and wild animals and you know,
dangers behind every rock. So we developed

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this mechanism to deal with that,
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And I'm sure people are probably familiar
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a biological level. Is your brain
is constantly scouring your environment to check whether

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it's safe or dangerous. This is
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if things are good, if it's
if it's taken in other words, if

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it's taking the information out of your
rational thinking brain and saying, well,

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comparing my environment here to the information
in this library or this database, comparing

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the two, I make the assessment
that your environment right now is safe,

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and I'll send you the signal that
it's safe through feelings, through chemicals that

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will make you feel good. So
your brain says everything's safe. Go on

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with feeling good, have a great
life, Enjoy your life. That's what

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you're here to do. Be the
best that you can be, the happiest

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that you can be, so you
make sure you continue to survive. However,

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if the emotional brain scanning the environment
sees a threat, so it sees

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a lion coming out from behind the
rock, and it knows that a lion

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equals danger. It sends a different
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It's like a Hello alert warning danger, danger, and it sends a

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chemical in the form of fear,
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it does then is it activates.
It's this fight flight. It's called our

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sympathetic nervous system. It gets activated
and the brain goes into the state to

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deal with an immediate threat for danger. Now that's absolutely great when you've got

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a line coming over the hill.
It's designed to deal with a real threat,

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a physical threat to your survival.
But the thing we've overlooked, we

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don't realize, is that there's a
fourth part of your brain. And the

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fourth part of your brain is located
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And its science is increasingly starting to
do research on this and recognizing it

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is a different part of your brain. But it's what I call your creative

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brain. Now, your creative brain
is the master key, master controller of

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your life. Because in your creative
brain, this is the source of all

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your creativity, your imagination, but
it's also the source of your intuition,

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your gut feelings, and it's the
problem solving part of your brain. This

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is the part of your brain when
you're about to do something you think,

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whoop, so they shouldn't do that. I don't know why I shouldn't do

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that, but it doesn't feel right, and you do it and later you

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go why it was a terrible thing
to do. Or it's also the part

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of your brain that you're working on
a problem you can't figure out what to

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do, and then you're doing something
else and you suddenly come up with a

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new idea that's the perfect solution,
and you go, ah, that's the

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answer. Why didn't I see that
before. It's also the part of your

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brain that sees opportunities, maybe in
business or in your personal life. You

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go, I've never noticed that before
I could do that. Well, that's

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somebody I should talk to, you
know. And peak performance people and creators

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have talked about this throughout history about
there's something in them, there's something in

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their brain that takes control when they
are super productive. Sports people talk about

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being in the flow where they're putting
an effort, but the results they're getting

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seem way out of proportion the effort
they're putting. In something else is taking

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over. Composers of music have talked
about where did that music come from?

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They say, I don't know.
I just heard it and I wrote it

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down. Now, this is all
the creative brain at work and the way

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we're designed to work biologically. This
is the part they're supposed to manage our

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life. Because remember we're dealing with
a five hundred trillion microprocessor computer. The

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most powerful computer exists, which is
between your ears, designed to make you

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the best that it can be the
best that you can be. So it

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knows what you want in your life, it knows how to get it for

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you. It's going to give you
the good ideas. It's going to make

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sure you do the right things.
It's going to make sure you don't do

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the wrong things. It's going to
bring the right people into your life if

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you allow it. But here's the
really important So why aren't we like this

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all the time. Well, this
is what happens when your brain tells you

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that there's a threat or danger to
your survival and it sends the message through

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feelings of fear, worry, frustration, stress. It activates this survival brain.

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And what it does then is it
shuts down the creative brain, because

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in a moment, in a situation
of danger, when you'll face with a

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real threat to your survival, you
cannot be thinking creative thoughts. You need

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to be in this reactive state.
You need to be there to fight or

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without even thinking, before you even
know, you've just got to be reacting

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to get rid of this danger,
to run away, and all of the

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energy that you can possibly have through
your whole body need or could need to

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be used to save you from that
threat, that danger. So it also

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takes energy from your creative brain as
well. That's why it shuts down your

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creative brain. So what's the problem. You can see the problem, yes,

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And you know what comes to my
mind, And the question that comes

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to my mind is I have observed
that people because of that, because of

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that unconscious knowledge and remembrance, you
know, the neocortex show all of those

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experiences are there that for some reason, they continue to attract the same thing.

411
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So people who people who are struggling
with life in general, it's fascinating.

412
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I know people personally where I just
observe that they've made this decision and

413
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all of a sudden, something else
comes their way, which proves to them

414
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again that life is not good,
and they continue to attract the very same

415
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thing. What is it in the
brain, And as you describe those four

416
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areas, what causes people to continue
to experience the same thing over and over

417
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again in a negative way where they
can just ultimately say, you know what,

418
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life is not good? Well?
The simple reason is, remember your

419
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brain is trying to protect you.
But when you activate your survival brain.

420
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In other words, when you feel
stress for your worry anxiety about something,

421
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you shut down your awareness and your
brain goes to work to solve a problem.

422
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So, for instance, if you
have a bad experience with relationships,

423
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your brain has come up with the
truth, the fact, the perception for

424
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you that relationships are dangerous, relationships
are bad, relationships are toxic. So

425
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if you suddenly get into another relationship, your brain is going to say,

426
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this is bad. How could we
need to This is a problem. We

427
00:32:21.799 --> 00:32:23.960
need to get rid of this problem
as fast as possible. And the way

428
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to get rid of a problem is
often to make it worse so that you

429
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you know, you really do get
rid of it, or it gets rid

430
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of you. But this is why
we attract If you like this, we've

431
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heard of the law of attraction,
but it's really much more of a biological

432
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thing, because what we need to
do is manage this emotional state to realize

433
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that when we feel bad, all
it is is our brain telling us that

434
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there is something dangerous in our environment. And most of the time now there

435
00:32:52.440 --> 00:32:58.440
isn't anything dangerous in our environment,
and that is the problem, because our

436
00:32:58.480 --> 00:33:00.680
brain thinks there is. So in
other words, somebody your wife tells you

437
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that she wants a divorce and you
go into a state of stress and panic,

438
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it's because your brain is activating your
your survivals, because it's telling you

439
00:33:12.400 --> 00:33:15.119
that there's a threat to you by
your wife wanting a divorce. Because you

440
00:33:15.200 --> 00:33:19.759
might have these very deep beliefs about
or you can't be on your own,

441
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or you'll never find someone else's good, or you know they're the perfect person,

442
00:33:23.119 --> 00:33:27.359
and you look back on your life
with regret, and all these other

443
00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:30.200
bad things are going to happen to
you. Now, these are all subconscious

444
00:33:30.240 --> 00:33:35.720
fears that we don't know exist,
but they're there which activate this very limited

445
00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:39.359
reactionary part of your brain, and
they blocked out block out your awareness the

446
00:33:39.440 --> 00:33:45.119
truth. Because the truth is if
your wife tells you that she wants a

447
00:33:45.160 --> 00:33:47.720
divorce. It might be a good
thing. You might be does your brain

448
00:33:47.799 --> 00:33:52.119
remembers there to protect you and give
you the best life experience. It might

449
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:55.839
be making that happen so that you
find someone far better, or something that

450
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happens well. And you know,
you bring up an anenters point that I

451
00:34:00.640 --> 00:34:02.960
think it's important for the audience to
remember. There's a saying that I love.

452
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What's true for you is true.
Now, as you know, as

453
00:34:08.679 --> 00:34:14.960
I think about that, what comes
to my mind and is perception. Our

454
00:34:15.079 --> 00:34:21.000
perception of life, as you're explaining, is really based on that neo cortext

455
00:34:21.079 --> 00:34:28.719
all of those memories subconsciously that are
there, and therefore they create truth for

456
00:34:28.880 --> 00:34:34.320
us, and that becomes the perception
that we have of life. And so

457
00:34:34.480 --> 00:34:39.559
what I hear you saying is that
there is a way to change that perception.

458
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Others refer to it as the movie
of our life. We have created

459
00:34:44.159 --> 00:34:47.360
the movie for our lives, and
yet people don't realize that they can literally

460
00:34:47.880 --> 00:34:54.920
change that movie and create something entirely
different if they can change their perception of

461
00:34:55.119 --> 00:35:00.599
truth. And so, as you're
talking about, is that I find that

462
00:35:00.639 --> 00:35:05.599
fascinating that you know, here's here's
this, here's this brain that has all

463
00:35:05.639 --> 00:35:12.480
of these memories, and as it
comes forward in any situation, what part

464
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of the brain and how do we
control that part of the brain to say,

465
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you know what, this is just
merely a perception based on emotions and

466
00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:28.920
it's not really true for me,
and I can change this. Well,

467
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you know, there's a difficult way
to do it, but there's also a

468
00:35:30.280 --> 00:35:34.440
simple natural way to do it,
because, of course you're absolutely right.

469
00:35:34.559 --> 00:35:38.880
Everything is our perception. Nothing is
There is no objective reality. It's it's

470
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all in the way we see things. But here's the thing. When you

471
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:46.480
use your creative brain, when you
know how to activate it, and when

472
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you know how to stop activating your
the other the survival brain, which is

473
00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:57.519
blocking and shutting off your creative brain, what you find naturally is that your

474
00:35:57.559 --> 00:36:00.440
brain will bring you the right a
way. It will bring you the right

475
00:36:00.519 --> 00:36:06.239
perceptions. You will see things differently, and you will see things for what

476
00:36:06.400 --> 00:36:09.480
they really are, much more closer
to the truth about how everything that happens

477
00:36:09.480 --> 00:36:14.199
in your life is for your benefit. I mean, I went through that

478
00:36:14.280 --> 00:36:17.960
experience of losing everything, and at
the time I was so angry that why

479
00:36:17.960 --> 00:36:22.320
has this happened to me. I've
really tried all of my life to be

480
00:36:22.400 --> 00:36:24.199
the best that I can be.
I've been the guy going to all the

481
00:36:24.239 --> 00:36:29.280
seminars and reading all the books.
Nobody else I knew was going to them.

482
00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:31.800
I'm putting in all this effort.
This is so unfair. Why has

483
00:36:32.119 --> 00:36:36.760
all of this happened to me?
But when I shifted the part of my

484
00:36:36.840 --> 00:36:40.920
brain that I was using and learned
how to stop activating that limited, frustrated

485
00:36:42.000 --> 00:36:46.599
part and activated my creative brain,
my creative brain showed me a completely different

486
00:36:46.639 --> 00:36:51.559
perspective on what was happening in my
life to the and I could see it

487
00:36:51.599 --> 00:36:54.280
was the greatest gift that I'd ever
been given, because that's what allowed me

488
00:36:54.679 --> 00:36:59.400
to learn about all of this stuff
about how the brain works. It allowed

489
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me to help my self to be
far happier, far more fulfilled, far

490
00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:07.199
more on purpose in my life than
i'd ever been, And that was the

491
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thing I ultimately wanted and I'd never
been able to find it, and also

492
00:37:09.519 --> 00:37:14.599
to help other people to be here
right now. So how can you say

493
00:37:14.639 --> 00:37:17.119
that anything was a bad thing?
Was it a bad thing that I lost

494
00:37:17.159 --> 00:37:22.199
everything and became homeless? Only from
a certain perspective. But this is the

495
00:37:22.239 --> 00:37:27.079
beauty when you use your creative brain, as your awareness expands and you see

496
00:37:27.400 --> 00:37:31.599
things so differently to what most people
see because the other point about your survival

497
00:37:31.639 --> 00:37:37.679
brain, it's focused on problems.
Remember it's if you've got a lion coming

498
00:37:37.719 --> 00:37:42.360
at you from out in the jungle. Your brain has to identify all of

499
00:37:42.480 --> 00:37:45.639
If it tells you there's a danger
in your environment, it has to find

500
00:37:45.719 --> 00:37:51.239
every single danger. It has to
be one hundred percent focused on where is

501
00:37:51.280 --> 00:37:54.519
the danger in your life right now
that I have to eliminate. And so

502
00:37:55.039 --> 00:38:00.440
your awareness becomes very focused on everything
that's neger of a new environment. You

503
00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:06.360
can't see. Your brain isn't letting
you see all the for instance, in

504
00:38:06.400 --> 00:38:08.639
our world, all the amazing things
that are happening, because it's telling you

505
00:38:08.639 --> 00:38:12.440
your world is full of danger,
and I'm here to get rid of those

506
00:38:12.559 --> 00:38:16.000
danger We'll look at all that other
stuff later when I've sold all the problems,

507
00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:20.400
when I've got and you can.
And that's the thing. So people

508
00:38:21.360 --> 00:38:23.760
think that this world is full of
problems. They think that think their lives

509
00:38:23.800 --> 00:38:29.039
are full of problems, But it's
their brain telling them that because they're stuck

510
00:38:29.079 --> 00:38:31.639
in this limit. It's only this
brain, that's all it can tell them.

511
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Their creative brain if they use it, not only would give them a

512
00:38:36.840 --> 00:38:40.400
different perspective, a different awareness,
but would also show them the real answers,

513
00:38:40.440 --> 00:38:45.800
the real solutions to any problems they're
facing. So here's my question,

514
00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:51.599
and as I'm listening to you,
what comes to my mind is that literally

515
00:38:52.159 --> 00:38:57.159
we're at the effect to a large
degree, unless we're taking control. We're

516
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at the effect of our emotions,
the neo cortext all all those members,

517
00:39:01.639 --> 00:39:07.039
everything that's occurred that's been stored in
our brain, were at the effect of

518
00:39:07.199 --> 00:39:14.159
the emotional part of our brain because
it just creates were the effect of the

519
00:39:14.159 --> 00:39:19.480
flight, fight and fight part of
our brain. The only thing we really

520
00:39:19.519 --> 00:39:27.519
have control of is the curiosity brain. That part of our brain does.

521
00:39:27.760 --> 00:39:31.440
How does an correct me if I'm
wrong here? But how does an individual

522
00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:37.199
move from being at the effect of
all of the three parts of the brain

523
00:39:37.320 --> 00:39:44.239
that they really are as if I'm
understanding you correctly, they really can't or

524
00:39:44.280 --> 00:39:53.159
don't necessarily control and take control of
their lives by focusing and allowing that part

525
00:39:53.199 --> 00:39:59.039
of the brain that creates the curiosity
and you literally can then to create a

526
00:39:59.079 --> 00:40:02.880
different life. How do they do
that? How do they take control?

527
00:40:05.039 --> 00:40:09.199
It's simple, dead simple to give
the fun, but not necessarily easy because

528
00:40:09.199 --> 00:40:14.199
we've had a lifetime of habits of
doing it the wrong way. But to

529
00:40:14.239 --> 00:40:17.840
describe that, let me ask your
listeners a question. If someone came along

530
00:40:17.880 --> 00:40:22.719
to you with a glass of liquid
and said I want you to drink that,

531
00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:24.559
and you said, you would say, well, what is it?

532
00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:30.000
And they said it's hydrochloric acid,
and you would say, well, why

533
00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:32.599
do you want me to drink that? They would say, well, you

534
00:40:32.639 --> 00:40:36.079
should drink it, But you say
that I understand what it would do to

535
00:40:36.119 --> 00:40:37.239
me. If I drank it.
It would poison me, it would kill

536
00:40:37.280 --> 00:40:42.599
me. It would certainly damage me
substantially. There's no benefit in drinking that

537
00:40:42.679 --> 00:40:46.280
hydrochloric acid. And and they said
to you all sorts of justifications as to

538
00:40:46.280 --> 00:40:50.519
why you should, oh, if
you don't, and threats. If you

539
00:40:50.559 --> 00:40:53.360
don't drink that, every person you
know, I'm going to make sure never

540
00:40:53.440 --> 00:40:58.119
talks to you again. Everything you
have will be taken away from you.

541
00:40:58.119 --> 00:41:01.480
You'll become homeless, you become penniless, your family will disown you, You'll

542
00:41:01.519 --> 00:41:06.360
be the be ridiculed by everybody,
you will end up living under a bridge

543
00:41:06.400 --> 00:41:09.159
with nothing and starving. Now you
would still say to them, look,

544
00:41:09.159 --> 00:41:14.280
I'm sorry, I understand how it
works. It doesn't matter the justification.

545
00:41:14.760 --> 00:41:17.960
Physically and biologically, I know forget
all of that. I know that if

546
00:41:17.960 --> 00:41:22.480
I drink that I'm going to be
harmed or even killed. So there's no

547
00:41:22.679 --> 00:41:27.039
way I'm going to touch it.
So this is how all we need to

548
00:41:27.039 --> 00:41:30.840
focus on is to realize that whatever
it is that our brain is telling us,

549
00:41:30.920 --> 00:41:36.760
which is in response to our environment. When our brain tells us that

550
00:41:36.800 --> 00:41:43.000
there's something dangerous and we need to
feel fear, that is the hydrochloric acid.

551
00:41:43.440 --> 00:41:45.679
When you feel fear, stress,
worry, and anxiety. It doesn't

552
00:41:45.719 --> 00:41:50.360
matter what the justification. You are
going to activate the wrong part of your

553
00:41:50.400 --> 00:41:53.440
brain. You're going to deactivate the
part of your brain that has all the

554
00:41:53.480 --> 00:41:57.519
answers to your problems. You know, this is why people stay stuck for

555
00:41:57.559 --> 00:42:00.079
so long in problems, and they
say, I don't know what to do,

556
00:42:00.199 --> 00:42:02.320
I don't know what I want and
I need, and I'm so unhappy

557
00:42:02.320 --> 00:42:07.679
and I've got all these problems.
In stress, they're asking a part of

558
00:42:07.679 --> 00:42:10.639
their brain that doesn't know the answers. It's not designed to find the answers.

559
00:42:12.320 --> 00:42:15.039
So all you need to do this
is the simple part, is to

560
00:42:15.039 --> 00:42:20.880
say, what can I do to
ensure that I don't feel fear, stress,

561
00:42:20.960 --> 00:42:23.719
worry and anxiety in my life.
And many people, when I ask

562
00:42:23.800 --> 00:42:28.239
them this question, they say,
that's ridiculous. I've got all these terrible

563
00:42:28.239 --> 00:42:30.159
things going on in the world.
There's all these I have all these problems

564
00:42:30.159 --> 00:42:37.000
in my life. Again a matter
the justification. Fear is the chemical,

565
00:42:37.039 --> 00:42:39.320
the signal that's going to switch off
the right part of your brain and switch

566
00:42:39.400 --> 00:42:44.079
on the wrong part of your brain. So your only job is to manage

567
00:42:44.159 --> 00:42:46.519
fear. And here's a funny thing
I thought, and I've heard this before.

568
00:42:46.559 --> 00:42:50.559
When I really started to see the
science behind this, how it works.

569
00:42:51.280 --> 00:42:53.960
I've seen this before. Where have
I read that you should not be

570
00:42:54.079 --> 00:43:00.280
afraid? And it's the Bible.
It says three hundred and sixty five times

571
00:43:00.599 --> 00:43:05.800
be not afraid. This is an
instruction. It's not a good idea saying

572
00:43:05.920 --> 00:43:09.159
don't be afraid. And the reason
is when you feel fear, you activate

573
00:43:09.239 --> 00:43:12.519
the wrong part of your brain,
and the part of your brain that is

574
00:43:12.559 --> 00:43:15.440
you being the best that you can
be. It can't do its job.

575
00:43:15.599 --> 00:43:21.920
It's because it's temporarily supposed to be
temporarily but it's deactivated. So your any

576
00:43:22.000 --> 00:43:24.679
job is to manage your fear,
and how do you do that well?

577
00:43:24.800 --> 00:43:30.760
You can. We actually have far
more of a choice over what makes us

578
00:43:30.800 --> 00:43:34.440
feel bad than we would admit.
So in other words, we don't have

579
00:43:34.559 --> 00:43:37.239
to watch the news, we could
turn that off. We don't have to

580
00:43:37.280 --> 00:43:40.679
have those conversations with people that make
us feel bad, we don't have to

581
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:45.000
talk about topics that make us feel
bad, we don't have to interact with

582
00:43:45.159 --> 00:43:51.360
people that don't make us feel good, that make us feel bad. And

583
00:43:51.400 --> 00:43:54.000
when we realize how important this is, and not only that, this creative

584
00:43:54.039 --> 00:43:59.760
brain is sitting there with all of
the power of five hundred trillion micro processes

585
00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:02.639
to try and ensure that you live
your biological purpose to be the best that

586
00:44:02.679 --> 00:44:06.880
you can be, and it'll do
it if you let it, if you

587
00:44:06.920 --> 00:44:08.880
activate it, then our only job
is to say, I've got to do

588
00:44:08.960 --> 00:44:13.519
whatever I can to get rid of
fear in my life, get rid of

589
00:44:13.599 --> 00:44:17.000
anything that makes me feel bad,
because that's the hydrochloric acid. And there

590
00:44:17.000 --> 00:44:21.719
are two ways to get one as
our external environment, as I've been describing,

591
00:44:22.119 --> 00:44:24.320
which is anything that makes you fear
about. You can walk away from

592
00:44:24.320 --> 00:44:30.719
that relationship, You can walk away
from that conversation, that job, that

593
00:44:30.000 --> 00:44:32.880
part of your business. I used
to have parts of my businesses that I

594
00:44:32.920 --> 00:44:38.440
absolutely hated, and we're going we're
dragging me down, and I should have

595
00:44:38.519 --> 00:44:40.880
just got rid of them. It
would have been the best, best thing

596
00:44:40.920 --> 00:44:45.800
to do. But we don't do
it because we're afraid that that's the wrong

597
00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:49.800
thing to do. We don't know
that this part of our brain will make

598
00:44:49.840 --> 00:44:52.519
sure that all the right you know, if you get rid of that stuff

599
00:44:52.519 --> 00:44:55.159
out of your life, good stuff
will show up. So we have that

600
00:44:55.239 --> 00:45:00.840
control. We actually do have the
ability to manage our environment to minimize,

601
00:45:00.840 --> 00:45:05.679
if not eliminate, anything that makes
us feel bad. Okay, and you

602
00:45:05.800 --> 00:45:08.400
mentioned three, and so as we're
getting shirt on time, I'd love for

603
00:45:08.440 --> 00:45:13.320
you also to mention the other two
fairly quickly. And then what I'd love

604
00:45:13.360 --> 00:45:16.920
for you to do is to be
able to share with the audience message that

605
00:45:17.400 --> 00:45:21.800
would be coming from your heart that
you think would be the greatest value to

606
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:25.239
them. Okay, well, the
other thing you need to other sort of

607
00:45:25.280 --> 00:45:29.920
fear to get rid of is internal
fear. It's all of these beliefs and

608
00:45:30.000 --> 00:45:35.440
ideas and all your brain is saying, there's something here that I believe from

609
00:45:35.480 --> 00:45:39.960
my information is a threat to your
survival. So the stock market crashes and

610
00:45:40.159 --> 00:45:43.880
there's some information it retrieves, and
it says, what does that mean?

611
00:45:44.199 --> 00:45:46.000
It's a threat to your survival because
I've read all of the stuff that when

612
00:45:46.039 --> 00:45:50.280
you lose all your money then you're
going to be homeless and end up on

613
00:45:50.400 --> 00:45:53.039
under the bridge. So you feel
stress, worry, and anxiety. It

614
00:45:53.039 --> 00:45:55.440
doesn't mean that at all. It's
just the meaning you've given to it.

615
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It could mean a new business opportunity
is about to show up for you.

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You could have that belief when you
lose all your money, or you're supposed

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to start all over again because you
weren't that happy anyway with what you had.

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So those the two things when you
realize that fear is the trigger your

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whole mission in life, Your only
mission in life is the only mission which

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the Bible tells us as our mission
in life is not to be afraid to

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trust, to believe, to have
faith, and to let you know,

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do not worry about what you shall
eat, drink, and wear. I

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heard that in the Bible. It'll
all be provided for you. It's provided

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in the rest of nature, and
our brain, our creative brain, when

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it's working right, is the machine
that will make sure it's provided. So

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we just need to be very consciously
aware of eliminating anything that's going to switch

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that part of our brain off.
And it's fear internally. Okay, great,

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So what's the message you'd like to
share? Well, I like to

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say to if we really want to
succeed in life, we have to let

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ourselves off the hook. And what
that means is you have to stop trying

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to reach your goal, manage your
life, achieve, be happy through streets

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and struggle, because all that does
is keep you stuck, keeps your brain

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stuck. But instead, we have
this natural creative energy that if we know

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how to activate, we know how
to energize. It actually activates this other

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part of our brain, this master
part of our brain, our creative brain,

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and when we activate that, it
does its job. It does what

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it's designed to do, which is
literally to lead us down the easiest,

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fastest, most efficient path possible to
being the best that we can be and

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living to our full potential, which
means also being happy, fulfilled and feeling

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in purpose about our life. I
love that. And as you talk about

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the you know, let Yourself off
the Hook, I know that that's the

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name of your podcast, at least
I think that is. Is that also

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a book? It's a book in
process? Yeah, okay, so that's

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a book in process. People want
to learn more about your process. They

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want to learn more about this whole
situation and how they can overcome with the

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four parts of the brain model and
the brain rebalancing. How do they find

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you and where do they go to
be able to investigate that a little bit

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more and potentially get in contact with
you to get some help. Well,

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Gus, you've got a special website
called let Yourself Off the Hook. And

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on that website, I have a
webinar. It's free, but it goes

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through people can sign up for and
it goes through exactly how your brain works,

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exactly what you need to do.
And I think when people start on

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this process, they realize just how
powerful an idea this is and all they

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need to do is understand it more. So that's this website I have called

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let Yourself off Thehook dot Com.
Wonderful, lillam, thank you so much.

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It's you know, it's fascinating when
I love it because I happen to

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be one of those analytical people that
has to look at, you know,

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00:49:00.480 --> 00:49:04.000
when this happens, why what's going
on in reading and research and so forth,

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And it's wonderful to speak with someone
who does the same thing and recognize

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that that's sometimes what it takes to
be able to come out with this type

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of information that will then help the
general public to understand that they literally can

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change their lives and their lives can
experience something so much more beautiful if they're

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just willing to do it. Well, you know, Confucius put it well,

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he said life is actually really simple, but we just insist on making

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00:49:37.039 --> 00:49:44.199
it complicated. Yeah, I need
to do anything fancy. We just need

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to do use our natural mechanism the
right way, and it's all going to

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work out. It's posed to.
It's how the whole world looks. I

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love it. Well, thanks so
much for being on the show, and

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folks, thanks for listening. Hope
you really enjoyed this, and get to

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that website. Let yourself up off
thehook dot com right and get to that

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website and do the I'm going to
do that. I'm going to do that

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free workshop. I want to understand
even more so folks do the same thing.

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And hope you have a great day, a great week. Look forward

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to having you join us again soon. This is doctor Doug saying, have

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a wonderful, wonderful day,