Oct. 6, 2025

The Energy You Carry Creates Your Reality

The Energy You Carry Creates Your Reality
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Physicist and author Randy Lyman shares how understanding emotions, energy, and intention can transform your life. Drawing from science and spirituality, he explains how emotional healing and conscious action align with the Law of Attraction to shape your reality—proving that you’re not just a product of your past, but a co-creator of your future.
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At the end of the day, it's not about what

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you have or even what you've accomplished. It's about what

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you've done with those accomplishments. It's about who you've lifted up,

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who you've made better. It's about what you've given back.

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Denzel Washington, Welcome to Inspire Vision. Our sole purpose is

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to elevate the lives of others and to inspire you

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to do the same.

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Randy, Welcome to the show.

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Hello, Doug, good to be here with you.

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Hey, I'm excited it's this is going to be an

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interesting conversation. You know, you've written a book that I

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find has such an important element and I'd like for

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you to share with the audience number one of the

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name of the book, but even going back further than that,

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you know you've done a lot of things, tell a

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little bit about your background, and then what was that

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moment where you decided to write that book, what ultimately

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inspired that?

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Well, my background, I'm a I'm educated as a physicist

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and a mechanical engineer with multiple patents I've had. Let's

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go back to nineteen eighty nine. I had multiple businesses,

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multiple multimillion dollar businesses. I was successful, but I wasn't

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completely happy and fulfilled. And about that time, nineteen eighty nine,

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many thirty five years ago, I met a woman I

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spent three years with who opened my eyes to the

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spiritual emotional side of life. Thirty plus years later, I

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decided to write a book.

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After a whole I'm skipping a lot here, after a

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a whole lot of lessons and a whole lot of

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insights and experiences, I wrote a book, The Third Element,

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which is all about how anybody here on a human

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path can understand the rules of the game of life

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better and can find ways to improve their life by

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making some small changes and by changing their approach to

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their thoughts, their actions and their emotions.

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And you do get into the law of attraction, don't

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you a bit?

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Well, my belief as a physicist, understanding resonance, understanding energy

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down to a sub nuclear level, and Heisenberg's uncertainty principle.

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It says that energy does not become matter until it's observed,

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and the law of attraction co creates our reality with us.

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Every moment of every day, we walk into a new possibility,

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and we do that through the law of attraction. God

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has no rules for us except when we respond from

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a place of love and caring. We find an answer

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a lot faster, a lasting answer, okay, and a lot

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of attractions. So there's no expectation, there's no judgment.

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He says.

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You go think whatever you want and I'll reflect it

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back to you. You take what actions you want with

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your body and the world around you, and I'll reflect

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it back to you. And whatever emotions you have that

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you're feeling now or are left over you didn't feel

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completely in the past, I will reflect all this back

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to you. And when you understand the rules, then we

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can we can guide our thoughts, guide our actions, and

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work through our old emotional ones and create an amazing life.

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And that's what I've experienced, and that's why I wrote

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the book. Is I want other people to be able

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to have a wonderful life too well.

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And you know, it's interesting you bring up to I

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think really important points. You know. I interviewed someone just

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yesterday and we were talking about success, and I said,

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all right, I want a definition of success. And the

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whole story was extremely financially successful, all right, the cars,

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the house, about whatever, but not happy. And you're kind

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of explaining the same thing here. You have multimillion dollar companies,

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you're extremely quote successful, and yet you're not happy. And

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you know, we get into the law of attraction. We

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get back to the original movie The Secret, and and

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I thought before, you know, before we got on, I thought,

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you know what, I years ago, I had interviewed someone

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who I can't even remember apologize, that talked about the

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fact that they discovered after being involved in the movie

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this secret, that there were some other elements that had

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been missing. And so I actually went on chat GPT

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this morning and I said, Okay, what are some of

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the elements that are missing that the members of that

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movie have talked about since? And I've got an incredible

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list of things that have to be added for someone,

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you know, because I think there's so many people that

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just sit and have their board up there, and you

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know this is there what they want to manifest, and

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yet they don't experience it. And I think you hit

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on one of the keys because it didn't mention exactly

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what you're talking about is the emotional part of that.

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And so I'd love for you to kind of talk

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about you know, first of all, define spirituality for the audience,

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because everybody has different different definitions, so let's make sure

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we're at the correct groundwork care.

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So to me, spirituality means embracing the part of our

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human experience that is of spirit. So when we say

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we are human beings, human to me being our human body,

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our human mind, and beings being that undefinable beingness that

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is a spark of divine consciousness of a part of

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our soul, is a part of God of all that

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is at the deepest level, and that is a part

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of our experience here and for me, being the path

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of spirituality is seeking out to experience more of that higher,

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more pure part of us that's actually a part of God,

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the Creator. And to be a human being is a

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balance between the human separateness from all it is and

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the beingness of the embodiment of the love of all

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that is and our and the power of God and

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our soul that can come through us and be part

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of our human experience.

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Okay, excellent, excellent. So here's my question. You know you're

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talking about emotions. I'd like for you to share it,

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expand a little bit about why emotions are so important,

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and then we'll even get a little bit deeper on that.

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But let's talk about emotions because I know that that

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is something that you really focus on your book.

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So I'm very big believer in our thoughts and our

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actions as law of attraction. But to me, it's like

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a three legged stool. I can sit on a three

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legged stool and I'm fine, but if I take one

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of the legs away, I'm going to tip over. It's

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just not going to work. So everything in the universe

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fits into one of three categories our thoughts, our physical world,

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or our emotion. And so when I was twenty eight

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years old and I was looking for success, I was

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educating myself and I was working hard because I only

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knew of two of the categories or elements of the

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human experience. Once I stumbled across an experience, that's where

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I healed an emotional wound, and I saw the material

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world around me change clearly, and I made the connection.

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And then I experimented more with Okay, here's an outside irritation,

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and I'm going to work with the emotion, and I

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saw the connection between emotional healing and the physical world changing.

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Then I made the correlation, and I thought through it

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as a scientist would, and I come down. I came

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back to the law of attraction and sympathetic vibration, which

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means things that vibrate similarly are attracted to each other.

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So our thoughts have energy, our physical body and our

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actions have energy, and our emotions have energy, and that

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vibrational energy through harmonics interacts with the law of attraction,

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and the law of attraction then creates every moment of

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our day for us out of infinite possibilities.

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Well, and you know, I smile and kind of give

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a little bit because I think about how years ago,

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you know, this whole concept of energy and frequency was

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kind of the woo woooo. And yet now here I'm

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talking to you, a highly educated scientist. You know, you've

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got Joe Despenza who really focuses on meditation, if you're

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aware of that. But he's he's got scientists behind him

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and doctors behind him that are doing major research and

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validating what he talks about. And so it's fascinating to

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me that all of a sudden, something that we thought

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was kind of out there, now who has become a

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scientific valid point of that energy and how we put

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that out there? You know. One of the questions that

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I have for you, though, and we'll get into this

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even more, is I remember in my dental practice, okay,

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I used to focus a small amount on people who

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had chronic pain, head neck pain, and of course, at

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that point in time, the dental media called TMJ, you know,

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or mandibular joint syndrome. And so someone would come into

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me and say, hey, you know, doctor, I've got two

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I've got TMJ. And I wrote, wait a minute, no,

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you have two. You've got one on the left side,

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you've got one on the right side. So tell me

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what's your symptoms. And once they told me the symptoms,

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I would discover that most of the time it really

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didn't have anything to do with that joint. It had

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everything to do with the with the nerves, It had

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everything to do with the muscular relationship and that type

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of thing. So when we talk about emotions and you

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bring up the point, and I think it's very valid

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that emotions create that energy that create the law of attraction.

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The challenge is is what's below those emotions, because all

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of a sudden I look at events and you know,

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I see that. In fact, it just happened to me

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just the other day. Is you know, here's an event.

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There's no emotion tied to an event, but I applied,

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based on my perception, an emotion to that event, and

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once I did that, it created all sorts of interesting

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experiences for me. So let's talk about a little bit

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about that. What are your thoughts about that as far

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as what is the basis of those emotions.

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So it is, in my opinion and from my experience,

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emotions are what you said, an event happens, our mind

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makes up a story about it, and that's done at

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a subconscious first brain level as well as in our

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conscious brain. So emotions are valid in the moment as

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part of our guidance. Now, some people say, oh, emotions

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are your guidance system. I want to clarify that an

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emotion we feel in the moment we first feel it

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is a valid guidance towards something good or away from

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something bad. So we have the thought, we have the

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observation or experience, we have the thought, we make up

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a story, we have the emotional experience that then is

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designed to drive us towards that thing or drive us

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away from that thing. This is from before our prefrontal

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cortex's evolved. And so I have this experience of say,

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a bad experience, and I'm going to go away from

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this problem, and so that energy is designed to drive

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my body to take action. Well, now my brain gets

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involved and slows me down, and I'm looking around or

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people going to judge me for my actions? Is this

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the best thing to do? And the problem is the

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conscious thinking brain gets in the way of letting the

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emotion come through and be experienced and released. So if

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I feel twenty say I feel eighty percent of the emotion,

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but twenty percent of that energy that's designed to move

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me towards her way get stuck in my being, in

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my body and my energy field whatever way. I can't

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describe that, but I know if my experienced energy is there,

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that energy wants to be released. It doesn't want to

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stay within me, and that energy that last twenty percent

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of that emotional guidance message that's stuck in me is

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still vibrating. It's like storing gasoline in a metal can.

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If I start gasoline in a metal can for twenty years,

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I could pour it out and burn it. But I

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only have to burn it once and then it's gone.

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So emotions are bigger than time and space the mind.

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Let me slow down here to put it all together.

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Our mind is our thinking mind is never in the

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present moment. It's thinking of the past, it's thinking of

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the future. It's a stream of thought, and like music,

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it has to be played out over time. We can

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observe in a moment, but that's different than our thinking brain.

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our body only exists in the now, and emotions are

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bigger than time in space. They know no time, but

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they have to be experienced through our physical body. So

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we store this emotion. It's in our energy field. It

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doesn't expire, it doesn't go away, and it continues to

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attract to us until we find a way to get

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a bodily feeling sensation to release it.

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Well, and we talk about emotional intelligence, and we'll get

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into that a little bit, I hope, but again I'm

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going to challenge it on something and I may not

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be making myself clear. Okay, So I want to really

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get into this because I look at emotions being a

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result of an event. So, for instance, you know, something

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happens and that triggers any emotion, and the reason that

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triggers a particular emotion may have to do with some

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imprint from my childhood that or in my life that

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all of a sudden, And that's why I say, I

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just had that happen the other day, an event occurred

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and all of a sudden, boom, there I am. I'm

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not happy, and I'm looking at that and going okay, wait, wait, wait,

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wait a minute, what is the cause of this? And

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I get back to an element in my past experiences

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where that remembrance of that triggered that emotion. And so

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that's what I'm trying to really have this discussion on

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in your experience on that, because as we look to

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help people, we see those emotions coming up. But to me,

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the emotional intelligence is when you can see those emotions

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come up and go, Okay, why that emotion, whether it's

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good or whether it's bad.

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Well, I'm going to disagree with you a little bit here, Okay, what.

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I'm going to say.

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What I'm going to say is, yes, we want to

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get it, we want to clear it. But my experience

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says I don't need to understand it completely to clear it,

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but I do need to feel it completely to release it.

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So I don't always get back clear to what it

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was I was thinking or feeling and what brought up

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that emotion for me. Sometimes I do, and that's fantastic.

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But even if I can't understand it with my brain,

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as long as I can feel the feeling that's telling

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me it wants to come through my body and be released.

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a lot of times it's tears, even it a little tear,

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a little sadness, some frustration, whatever that is. If I

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can go for a walk, if I can hit a

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punching bag, sing in the forest, ride my dirt bike,

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and let that energy go, then my world changes. Not

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only do I feel better, but the irritation outside irritation.

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It's a gift, I said, gift to remind us of

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what we have to let go. Then when we can

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embrace that gift, feel the feeling and release it. We

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don't need to understand it. Understanding can help. I agree

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with you on that part, but regardless, let that energy

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go and then we don't need the gift of irritation.

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Okay. So basically what you're saying is when that emotion

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comes up, if we're willing to acknowledge it and to

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accept it that heay, here's an emotion that, then let

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it go. Particularly if that's the hard part. Yeah, letting

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it go.

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Letting it go is a hard part because our ego,

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that part of us that's human that's here to protect

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us from picking up a piece of burning wood out

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of the campfires, also protects us from the pain of

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our past emotions. And that's the challenge with our ego

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is it wants the problem. It wants to be a victim.

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Our ego wants to be important, that's part of the

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human experience. And yet at the same time, avoiding that

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emotional pain that we can feel and heal and release

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causes more problems for us as a personality and an ego.

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And so it's a contradiction. But as a reason I

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didn't jump in and heal my emotions That's why I

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avoided my emotions. They hurt. I didn't want to go there.

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I had pain, I had shame, I had disappointment. And

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when eventually I was able to release more and more,

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then my world improved in so many ways. And my

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business in nineteen eighty nine was amazing. But after I

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started to apply spiritual principles to my business, then it

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grew thirty and forty times to what it was when

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I was already successful. But that pain, we don't want

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to feel about it. It's not a fun thing to do.

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The results are amazing, but the process is not fun.

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Well, as you talk about business and what I've experienced,

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and I shure you you have too, is you know

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whatever principles of that you have experienced to improve your business.

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We talked about the business of life, and it's so

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interesting that principles that help us to be truly successful

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in a meaningful way in business or the very same

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prince that help us to be successful in the business

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of life and what we're doing.

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I would agree with that, And if I can tangent

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for a moment, would helped me be successful in business

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is to be centered enough and calm enough and confident

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enough that I was capable, not from an egle point

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of view, but to understand as a leader, I'm capable

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of leading the group to success, and I'm capable of

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helping the members of my group find individual success. Then

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when I realized my power as a leader did not

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come from my title, it came from the success of

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my group, then I could be vulnerable, meaning I could

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admit when I made mistakes, I could help have other

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people help me make decisions. I could take responsibility for

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the mistakes of the group, even if it wasn't my fault,

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and create a safe place for them. I could share

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all the success and give credit for all the success

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to them. So as a leader, my position, my ego

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at least, was as secondary. These people want to do

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their best, they want to succeed, and when they know

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I was going to say when they feel but when

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they really know that I'm there to help them succeed

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and I'm there to serve them as a leader. I'm

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not here to be served. I'm here to serve. Then

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they're like, oh, Randy's on my side, He's going to

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take care of me. I'm on board. Let's make this

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happen and when you get a group of two or

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three or one hundred or thousand people, thousands pretty tough

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to accomplish that with. When you do it with one

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hundred people, and now they know Randy's here to take

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care of me and we're going to win this together,

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then even though I'm vulnerable, I'm more respected and I'm

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more appreciated, and they feel appreciated and they produce and

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we have a winning team. And that's how I was

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able to produce the success in business. It wasn't through me,

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it was through my team wanting to succeed and knowing

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they could show up as themselves without having to put

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on a facade.

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Well, let's talk about ego. You know, Kar totally wrote

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a number of books on about ego and and what

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I find when we talk about emotional intelligence, how much

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how much of being able to acknowledge and literally be

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aware of our ego and recognize that there's a very

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important aspect of our ego a good one, but also

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it can take us down a path that's not very healthy.

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And how do you quite the emotional intelligence of an

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individual with how they're able to be aware of and

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acknowledge that ego and recognize when it's going in a

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direction of all I have to have this, I have

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to have that. This is making me important. Now I

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feel important, rather than recognizing that it's just a healthy

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thing to understand spiritually of who you are.

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I think a person's words give them away a lot

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when they talk about me or I rather than we,

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when they use the word you accept in a place

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of praise. I stopped using the word you when I

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talk to somebody, except when I'm praising thirty years ago,

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because people get defensive. Say you, and if we're talking

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about success, I need to say we. And that's a

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good indicator. It's not fool proof, but that's a good

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indicator of is the leader looking to be important or

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is the leader looking to be of service to their

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group and humanity. And the only way that I can

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really find fulfillment is to connect with the people that

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I lead. Otherwise there's a separation. And we're not here

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on this planet to be separate from each other. Now,

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there's some people I want to be separate from. There's

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some toxic people. I want to set some boundaries with

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some certain people. But if I'm working with the right

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group of people, whether it's in my neighborhood, whether it's

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at work, then I want to connect with them. I

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want them to feel acknowledged by me. I want them

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to feel they're contributing to the cause, and I want

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them to feel they belong to the group like they

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would belong to a family. And when I can accomplish

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those three things, the acknowledgment, the sense of contribution, and

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sense of belonging, they show up completely differently. And it's

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a deeper experience for all of us. Now that's not

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just about a deep experience. Yeah, that's wonderful, and that's

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to me, that's really freaking important. But at the same time,

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that deeper experience that I had with the people I

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worked with that created financial success. And we can have

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personal relationships and deep connections with the people we work

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with and still be respected and achieve even greater financial success.

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And that's kind of ironic, but that's what I find

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to be the truth. And leaders are afraid of the

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same thing I was afraid of. When we become vulnerable,

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we make we show up compassionate and caring, then people

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might not respect us. That was my fear.

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Okay, So I want to move away from business. I

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want to get to personal Okay, because you keep talking

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about business and financial success, Let's talk about quote leaders,

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leaders of our own life, maybe as parents, leaders of

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our family, and as you mentioned, in a community, as

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we're as we're doing that because let's look at what

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going on right now when we talk about emotions, the

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look at what's happening in the US right now. I

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mean the anger, the frustration, all of that is just

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destroying the healthiness of the country to such a large degree.

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But let's take that down to the personal level. As

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a parent, how do I, as a parent lead my

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children and be with them to help them to grow

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up in a more productive, emotionally healthy way. And as

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I'm in a group of people, friends, neighborhood, and so forth,

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what do we do in order to do that? How

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do we help people to really become a leader within

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their own life? Forget the business, because not everybody owns

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a business, you know everyone. A lot of people are

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just working for someone else, which is good.

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And I apologize for getting off track, but I understand

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your question.

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Yeah, okay, extreme and.

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I talk about this Ankins in chapter six of the

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book Extreme Self Responsibility, Meaning my reality is created for

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me in response to who I am, and therefore I

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have zero reason to blame anybody. And so as soon

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as we find ourselves blaming our circumstances, whether our neighbor,

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somebody we work with, our spouse, as soon as we

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start to blame and want to change something outside of ourselves,

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that is an indicator that we're off track.

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And as an indicator that the energy, as you talked

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about at the beginning, the energy that we're putting out

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there is attracting the energy back. So our life experiences

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are basically a result to a large degree of who

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we are. You know, I always come up with the

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saying when we talk about spirituality, you know, did did

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he become who? Did he do what he did in

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order to become or did he do what he did

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because he was? And I think that's so important for

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people to understand that, you know, what our experiences in

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life to a large degree. Obviously, once in a while,

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some things happen that are totally out of our control,

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and I don't believe that we attracted that. But for

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the most part, our life experience as a result of

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who we are and the energy that we put out,

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and that's kind of what you were talking about.

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Right, Yes, and so we are the only one who

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can truly affect our life. Yes, things happen to us

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from the outside, but if we didn't cause that to happen,

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and it appears to be random, our response does not

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have to be random. Our response is up to us.

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So we have the ability to respond. Responsibility means the

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ability to respond. So I have the ability to choose

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what I'm going to think when something happens to me,

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what I'm going to do in response, and how I'm

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going to feel or how I'm going to process through

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the emotions that are reactivated. And when I become aware,

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and this has took me a long time to get to,

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when I became aware that everything in my life is

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for my growth and is a gift for growth and

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a grift for learning, then when something happens to me,

468
00:25:04.039 --> 00:25:06.680
I can say, wait a minute, don't get angry, don't

469
00:25:06.720 --> 00:25:10.519
be upset, don't blame. How do I recognize the gift

470
00:25:10.640 --> 00:25:14.839
in this situation. So when parents blame, their children learn

471
00:25:14.920 --> 00:25:17.640
to blame and feel like they don't have any power

472
00:25:17.680 --> 00:25:21.480
over the situation. But when parents can say, Okay, there's

473
00:25:21.480 --> 00:25:23.519
a gift here, and I'm going to make the best

474
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of this. Then their children will learn to make the

475
00:25:25.559 --> 00:25:28.480
best of every situation that comes along, even if it's ugly.

476
00:25:28.839 --> 00:25:31.039
Even the ugly things that happen to us are an

477
00:25:31.039 --> 00:25:34.279
opportunity for learning. And when we get to that point

478
00:25:34.440 --> 00:25:37.839
of faith, a tipping point where if we've done it

479
00:25:37.920 --> 00:25:40.359
so many times that we know, okay, I can look

480
00:25:40.400 --> 00:25:43.960
at this from a place of of optimism and I

481
00:25:44.000 --> 00:25:45.920
can say there's a good lesson in here. And we

482
00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:49.279
do that enough times, it becomes natural. And when we

483
00:25:49.400 --> 00:25:52.440
look for the positive lesson, I find it every time.

484
00:25:52.759 --> 00:25:55.039
I don't always like or I find it, but I

485
00:25:55.160 --> 00:25:57.079
find the positive lesson every time.

486
00:25:57.119 --> 00:25:59.920
When I take that approach, well, and I think that's showing.

487
00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:02.359
And I appreciate you saying that, because I think for

488
00:26:02.440 --> 00:26:05.720
people to understand that, you know, what life happens. But

489
00:26:05.839 --> 00:26:09.039
as you say, it's the response that we have control over,

490
00:26:09.799 --> 00:26:12.400
you know. And getting back to something we were talking

491
00:26:12.400 --> 00:26:16.839
about a little bit earlier, when people find themselves in

492
00:26:16.880 --> 00:26:20.759
a sense of they're just constantly angry. I noticed that

493
00:26:20.839 --> 00:26:23.680
a lot on Facebook. You know, a number of people

494
00:26:23.720 --> 00:26:26.599
that I've known for years, all of a sudden, Wow,

495
00:26:26.839 --> 00:26:30.079
every post that they make has an element of anger,

496
00:26:30.319 --> 00:26:33.480
an element of frustration. And you know, as you look

497
00:26:33.519 --> 00:26:35.240
at and I don't know how much you get into

498
00:26:35.279 --> 00:26:37.920
the emotional scales, but you know, as I look at

499
00:26:38.000 --> 00:26:42.799
the Hicks Emotional Guidance Scale, which I love, and looking

500
00:26:42.920 --> 00:26:47.759
at the fact that anger, irritation, frustration is below that

501
00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:53.400
healthy line, how do people in your experience overcome that?

502
00:26:53.519 --> 00:26:55.920
And Number one, I guess, be aware of the fact that, wow,

503
00:26:56.000 --> 00:27:00.480
I'm constantly angry and acknowledge that that. Secondarily, how do

504
00:27:00.559 --> 00:27:04.079
they ultimately start to move up that spiral to where

505
00:27:04.119 --> 00:27:07.799
at lace there's contentment and maybe even hopefulness and then

506
00:27:07.880 --> 00:27:11.200
ultimately joy and freedom. Where are your thoughts on that?

507
00:27:11.599 --> 00:27:14.960
Well, I think the first place to start is understanding.

508
00:27:15.200 --> 00:27:20.640
We understand that our reality is created by us and

509
00:27:20.680 --> 00:27:24.920
our responses to everything around us. Then it also helps

510
00:27:24.920 --> 00:27:27.000
to realize that when we're four years old and we

511
00:27:27.039 --> 00:27:29.960
complain and cry and make and blame, somebody takes care

512
00:27:30.000 --> 00:27:32.400
of us. And maybe they still do when we're fifteen,

513
00:27:32.440 --> 00:27:34.680
and maybe they still do when we're twenty five. But

514
00:27:35.359 --> 00:27:38.039
when we become a grown adult, if we hang onto

515
00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:41.119
those behaviors we learn when we were younger, they don't help.

516
00:27:41.160 --> 00:27:43.400
So first we have to be aware of our own behavior.

517
00:27:43.720 --> 00:27:45.759
We have to be aware that the law of attraction

518
00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:48.119
is here to serve us, not in a bad way,

519
00:27:48.519 --> 00:27:52.079
just as simple reflection. So the understanding of our bad

520
00:27:52.119 --> 00:27:57.160
behavior and our wrongful approach, incorrect approach, un effective approach.

521
00:27:57.160 --> 00:27:59.519
I don't want to use words that are judgmental, but

522
00:27:59.559 --> 00:28:01.960
I want to be discerning and say when I blame

523
00:28:02.039 --> 00:28:04.480
and I get angry, it's not going to help. And

524
00:28:04.519 --> 00:28:07.559
then if I understand, Okay, yeah, it feels good to

525
00:28:07.559 --> 00:28:11.119
blame in the moment, but that's not moving my life forward,

526
00:28:11.400 --> 00:28:14.319
and I understand that the law of attraction is here

527
00:28:14.359 --> 00:28:17.640
to respond to my good thoughts and my good actions

528
00:28:17.880 --> 00:28:21.319
and respond to my gratitude, and gratitude is a great,

529
00:28:21.519 --> 00:28:25.240
great cheat code, and respond to those more positive emotions.

530
00:28:25.240 --> 00:28:27.720
And then my mind says I've had enough of the

531
00:28:27.799 --> 00:28:30.680
negative means this isn't working. I want to try something different.

532
00:28:30.759 --> 00:28:33.319
A person has to come to that place where they

533
00:28:33.319 --> 00:28:36.119
make a choice and they make a decision to try

534
00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:39.519
a different approach. And if they never come to that decision,

535
00:28:39.559 --> 00:28:43.000
they're going to live their life in misery. And God's patient.

536
00:28:43.039 --> 00:28:45.680
God will give them a thousand or ten thousand lifetimes

537
00:28:45.680 --> 00:28:47.799
with that to figure it out. But the moment we

538
00:28:47.839 --> 00:28:50.559
say this isn't working and I'm going to try something different,

539
00:28:50.960 --> 00:28:53.759
and if they read the book, I outline it in

540
00:28:53.799 --> 00:28:55.960
a way that makes good sense. It gives people some

541
00:28:56.079 --> 00:28:58.640
light at the end of the tunnel to be willing

542
00:28:58.720 --> 00:29:02.200
to take a different approach. And so again it's awareness

543
00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:05.599
of our bad behavior and awareness and education about how

544
00:29:05.599 --> 00:29:07.400
the law of attraction really works well.

545
00:29:07.400 --> 00:29:10.920
And you mentioned gratitude, and I think that's so essential.

546
00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:13.240
But I think for a lot of people that can

547
00:29:13.319 --> 00:29:17.519
be really difficult to express gratitude when they're experiencing something

548
00:29:17.599 --> 00:29:21.480
that is not necessarily on the surface, something you can

549
00:29:21.559 --> 00:29:25.480
be grateful for. So, as you have written in your book,

550
00:29:25.640 --> 00:29:29.839
how do people begin to develop a sense of gratitude

551
00:29:29.960 --> 00:29:33.759
even in those situations where it's kind of difficult to

552
00:29:33.799 --> 00:29:34.519
figure that out.

553
00:29:34.920 --> 00:29:36.960
That's a place where we kind of have to fake

554
00:29:37.000 --> 00:29:39.559
it till we make it. But in gratitude, if we're

555
00:29:39.599 --> 00:29:44.039
intending to find something positive, and we can start out going, Okay,

556
00:29:44.160 --> 00:29:46.480
I got I get I live in a shitty neighborhood.

557
00:29:46.480 --> 00:29:49.559
At least they got a house and the weather it's raining,

558
00:29:49.559 --> 00:29:53.400
but at least I'm not flooded, and my hot water

559
00:29:53.440 --> 00:29:55.200
heater is not working, but at least I have water.

560
00:29:55.799 --> 00:29:58.680
Those are negatives that are kind of in versus a

561
00:29:58.680 --> 00:30:01.920
little bit positive. If we can start to tiptoe baby

562
00:30:01.920 --> 00:30:05.680
step towards the positive, we're setting the intention. And even

563
00:30:05.720 --> 00:30:08.799
if we do a bad job of being grateful, we're

564
00:30:08.799 --> 00:30:12.799
setting the intention, and the blob attraction will get behind

565
00:30:12.839 --> 00:30:17.720
our intention. And even if we're not wholeheartedly finding things

566
00:30:17.759 --> 00:30:22.440
to be grateful for, we're stepping into new territory, and

567
00:30:22.759 --> 00:30:26.400
law of attraction is patiently waiting for us to look

568
00:30:26.440 --> 00:30:29.279
for more positive things, and we find we go looking

569
00:30:29.319 --> 00:30:31.960
for And even if I'm cynical when I start down

570
00:30:32.039 --> 00:30:35.359
that path, I started down the path, and I set

571
00:30:35.400 --> 00:30:37.920
the intention to find things to be grateful for, and

572
00:30:38.000 --> 00:30:41.160
my experience says, it just takes one step at a

573
00:30:41.200 --> 00:30:43.799
time in the right direction, even if I'm not doing

574
00:30:43.799 --> 00:30:47.759
it wholeheartedly, and the entire universe will get behind me

575
00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:51.200
and support me on my intent to find something to

576
00:30:51.240 --> 00:30:54.000
be grateful for. And the power of gratitude credibly.

577
00:30:53.640 --> 00:30:56.160
Strong well, and it's fascinating. As I mentioned, as I

578
00:30:56.200 --> 00:30:58.400
did a little research, the first thing that comes up

579
00:30:58.400 --> 00:31:00.640
and then you just talked about it is a mind action,

580
00:31:00.960 --> 00:31:03.799
so we have that attraction, but then we put in

581
00:31:03.880 --> 00:31:07.640
that alight action, and I think that that's so important.

582
00:31:07.799 --> 00:31:10.440
And the other thing, I don't know how much you

583
00:31:10.440 --> 00:31:15.920
know with your experience and background scientifically that as we

584
00:31:16.200 --> 00:31:18.400
and I like how you talk about it, even as

585
00:31:18.440 --> 00:31:22.480
we try hard to show positive gratitude, and sometimes that

586
00:31:22.519 --> 00:31:25.200
can be very difficult. But as we continue to do that,

587
00:31:26.200 --> 00:31:28.640
what happens if you're aware of it, what happens to

588
00:31:28.680 --> 00:31:32.799
the neurological pathways in our brain to the point that

589
00:31:33.079 --> 00:31:36.119
all of a sudden, everything that occurs, the first thing

590
00:31:36.200 --> 00:31:37.960
that comes up is what can I be grateful for?

591
00:31:38.240 --> 00:31:43.599
Our pathways are wired to repeat what rewards us now

592
00:31:43.680 --> 00:31:47.200
Ego like Acertolli says, the pain body wants to complain

593
00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:50.440
and it gets the insert reward of feeling important. But

594
00:31:50.839 --> 00:31:54.000
if we find a place we can feel gratitude, something

595
00:31:54.079 --> 00:31:56.519
we can feel gratitude about the law of attraction, the

596
00:31:56.599 --> 00:31:59.400
universe will bring us something else to feel grateful for

597
00:32:00.079 --> 00:32:04.480
that will amplify over time. And then when we're rewarded

598
00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:09.000
by positive thoughts and positive actions and by feeling some

599
00:32:09.079 --> 00:32:12.079
gratitude and we see a positive response in our life,

600
00:32:12.119 --> 00:32:16.400
and our brain will automatic rewire and say positive out

601
00:32:16.400 --> 00:32:20.039
come came from this positive input. It automatically makes those

602
00:32:20.039 --> 00:32:22.559
connections for us, whether we're aware of it or not.

603
00:32:23.119 --> 00:32:25.680
But we just have to start down that path of

604
00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:30.519
taking action towards being optimistic and towards seeing the good

605
00:32:30.599 --> 00:32:30.960
and things.

606
00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:33.880
It starts with intent and I think even affirmations. As

607
00:32:33.920 --> 00:32:36.279
we continue to do that in a positive way, we

608
00:32:36.319 --> 00:32:41.279
start to create new neurological pathways that ultimately change that

609
00:32:41.400 --> 00:32:43.640
law of attraction, as you say, because it changes the

610
00:32:43.759 --> 00:32:45.680
energy within us. You know, when I went on to

611
00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:48.200
your LinkedIn site, I found a quote that I just

612
00:32:48.279 --> 00:32:50.279
loved it. I want to read it here for the

613
00:32:50.319 --> 00:32:52.680
audience and then have you come in on it. You say,

614
00:32:52.720 --> 00:32:56.920
the energy you carry speaks louder than your mindset ever

615
00:32:57.039 --> 00:33:00.640
will what was behind that? And and what are you

616
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:01.720
trying to say there?

617
00:33:01.960 --> 00:33:05.680
Well, okay, so speed of light is really fast. It

618
00:33:05.720 --> 00:33:07.880
will go around the Earth seven times in one second,

619
00:33:08.079 --> 00:33:10.480
pretty fast, but it still takes eight minutes to reach

620
00:33:10.519 --> 00:33:13.599
some sun. To us, emotions are bigger than time and space.

621
00:33:13.640 --> 00:33:16.160
They're not bound by time and space. So when we

622
00:33:16.359 --> 00:33:20.559
feel something, the entire all that is, this universe and

623
00:33:20.640 --> 00:33:24.519
every universe out there, some level gets that message instantly

624
00:33:24.640 --> 00:33:28.799
the moment we feel something through kind of interpretation of

625
00:33:28.839 --> 00:33:32.079
string theory, where everything's just a vibration at the smallest

626
00:33:32.160 --> 00:33:35.680
level there is. There are no speed limitations to that,

627
00:33:36.039 --> 00:33:39.599
and so the emotions that we carry good, bad, or

628
00:33:39.599 --> 00:33:42.319
otherwise we're feeling in the moment, the energy of that

629
00:33:43.079 --> 00:33:46.160
is transmitted everywhere all the time. So if I walk

630
00:33:46.240 --> 00:33:49.359
into a room, now it's appropriate for people to interact

631
00:33:49.400 --> 00:33:52.759
with me at an energetic level because they want to

632
00:33:52.799 --> 00:33:54.839
be aware of who I am. I'm closer to them,

633
00:33:54.880 --> 00:33:56.680
they're going to be talking to me or avoiding me,

634
00:33:56.799 --> 00:34:00.119
or whatever that might be. And so everybody feels everything

635
00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:01.640
at some level. But when you and I are in

636
00:34:01.680 --> 00:34:05.039
the same room, suddenly we're feeling each other more. And

637
00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:08.719
we look and look as Doug making eye contact or

638
00:34:08.840 --> 00:34:11.679
Rainy making eye contact, is he's smiling as he look grouchy,

639
00:34:12.159 --> 00:34:14.760
And I'm looking with my mind and my eyes on

640
00:34:14.840 --> 00:34:18.000
my mind to assess the situation. But our aura, our

641
00:34:18.159 --> 00:34:22.039
energy field, walked into that room before our physical body did.

642
00:34:22.239 --> 00:34:24.159
And it's the same way with the law of attraction,

643
00:34:24.280 --> 00:34:27.400
the law of attraction feels our energy field and our

644
00:34:27.440 --> 00:34:32.760
emotions before we even take action on those emotions. And

645
00:34:32.840 --> 00:34:35.239
so it's a it's like a radio signal that goes

646
00:34:35.239 --> 00:34:37.559
out ahead of us, and it's a radio signal that's

647
00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:39.920
faster than the speed of light. Did that answer your question?

648
00:34:40.239 --> 00:34:42.840
Yeah, I think so. And I like the fact that

649
00:34:42.880 --> 00:34:45.599
you talk about when we walk into a room, you know,

650
00:34:46.199 --> 00:34:50.320
we put out an energy that can be so positive

651
00:34:50.639 --> 00:34:53.440
or in many respects negative, and people pick up on

652
00:34:53.519 --> 00:34:57.800
it immediately. And you know, as you think about that,

653
00:34:58.000 --> 00:35:00.239
and as we talk about the law of attraction, as

654
00:35:00.239 --> 00:35:04.960
we talk about creating within ourselves that positive synchronicity, that

655
00:35:05.039 --> 00:35:09.760
positive element and energy, what happens if we continually surround

656
00:35:09.760 --> 00:35:15.639
ourselves with people or media that is always negative. What

657
00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:16.599
happens to us?

658
00:35:16.719 --> 00:35:20.280
It drags us down. It's like taking a beautiful tuning fork,

659
00:35:20.280 --> 00:35:23.000
a beautiful instrument and throwing a wet towel over. It

660
00:35:23.199 --> 00:35:28.159
stops vibrating at a beautiful harmony, harmonic, it stops vibrating

661
00:35:28.679 --> 00:35:34.039
at the frequency we intend. So those negative thoughts that

662
00:35:34.079 --> 00:35:38.000
we have, negative stories we observe, and negative people we

663
00:35:38.039 --> 00:35:42.440
interact with, that dampens the beauty within us that wants

664
00:35:42.480 --> 00:35:43.159
to shine through.

665
00:35:43.599 --> 00:35:46.159
So what do we do? What do we do to

666
00:35:46.280 --> 00:35:49.639
avoid that so that we can literally create within our

667
00:35:49.679 --> 00:35:53.079
mind and create within our energy that positive aspect to

668
00:35:53.119 --> 00:35:56.079
really experience that sense of joy and freedom and love.

669
00:35:56.400 --> 00:35:59.159
We set the attention. We learn to say no to

670
00:35:59.559 --> 00:36:02.480
the people, the things that drag us down or can

671
00:36:02.599 --> 00:36:05.960
drag us down. We become aware of our own negative

672
00:36:05.960 --> 00:36:08.719
emotions we're hanging on to through journaling or whatever that

673
00:36:08.800 --> 00:36:12.679
might be, and work through breathwork, and so we remove

674
00:36:12.719 --> 00:36:16.559
ourselves from the negative, and then we outside of ourselves.

675
00:36:16.679 --> 00:36:19.159
We remove ourselves from the negative of the outside world.

676
00:36:19.159 --> 00:36:22.639
Then we become aware of the negative emotional energy within us,

677
00:36:22.920 --> 00:36:25.440
not because we're going to amplify it, but because we're

678
00:36:25.440 --> 00:36:28.880
going to identify it, find a modality to work through it,

679
00:36:28.960 --> 00:36:31.920
like breathing or tapping or some exercise to work through

680
00:36:31.920 --> 00:36:34.559
it and release it. And when we release that negative

681
00:36:34.639 --> 00:36:38.559
energy within us, love fills that space immediately. Then it

682
00:36:38.599 --> 00:36:41.360
makes it easier to attract to us good news. It

683
00:36:41.360 --> 00:36:44.880
makes it easier to attract to us happier, more positive people.

684
00:36:45.239 --> 00:36:49.119
So we say no to the outside negativity, We embrace

685
00:36:49.199 --> 00:36:52.559
and release the inside negativity and law of attraction will

686
00:36:52.559 --> 00:36:55.159
guide us to more positive things without us even having

687
00:36:55.199 --> 00:36:56.239
to try so.

688
00:36:56.599 --> 00:36:59.199
In your book, do you get into meditations, You get

689
00:36:59.199 --> 00:37:03.119
it at tapping. You get into breathing as a particular

690
00:37:03.199 --> 00:37:06.840
element of how to start to eliminate those negative emotions.

691
00:37:07.039 --> 00:37:10.920
Yes, I have fourteen different exercises in chapter seven, and

692
00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:14.559
I also share on my website Randy Lyman dot com

693
00:37:14.760 --> 00:37:18.320
and how to I share some of the practitioners I

694
00:37:18.400 --> 00:37:21.679
work with today still, whether it be for a massage

695
00:37:21.800 --> 00:37:26.639
or hypnotherapy or chiropractic, whatever it might be to allow

696
00:37:26.760 --> 00:37:31.760
energy to come through my body, and there are several modalities.

697
00:37:31.800 --> 00:37:34.360
It's different for everybody. I cannot sit still and meditate.

698
00:37:34.440 --> 00:37:36.679
I can ride my dirt bike at fifty miles.

699
00:37:36.440 --> 00:37:37.920
An hour in the rough desert.

700
00:37:37.920 --> 00:37:42.400
And I'm calm and I'm clear and beautiful information comes

701
00:37:42.440 --> 00:37:45.280
to me. But I can't sit still. Everyone is different.

702
00:37:45.559 --> 00:37:48.559
So I've shared a lot of different things that work

703
00:37:48.599 --> 00:37:50.599
for me and work for my friends, and I just

704
00:37:50.679 --> 00:37:55.039
tell people find what will help your mind stay occupied

705
00:37:55.239 --> 00:37:57.559
while the deeper peace can find a way through.

706
00:37:57.880 --> 00:38:00.639
Yeah. I love that, and for me it's walking meditation.

707
00:38:02.400 --> 00:38:04.719
I'd like you to sit there for thirty minutes to

708
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forty five minutes. Can't do it. But I could walk

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for three miles for an hour, and with meditative music

710
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in there, I can literally experience an amazing meditation. And

711
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so I love what you talked about there that you know.

712
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But and again you talk about different tools, and I

713
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really appreciate that you've put that in there because I

714
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think for people, as you know, one tool work for

715
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one person that won't work for another person. And for

716
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you to have that in your book of tools of

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how they can literally start to achieve that, I think

718
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is really important and essential. So I appreciate that.

719
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Well, thank you. We're all different. So I one of

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two of the things I included. One is dance. I

721
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can't dance. I have no rhythm. Of some people they

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really can express through dance and singing. I can't sing

723
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that some people to sing it just helps them connect.

724
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And So a friend of mine told me thirty years ago,

725
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if we can find God or higher experience through beer

726
00:38:58.280 --> 00:39:02.199
and pizza, great, God doesn't care. We shouldn't care. As

727
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long as we can find a way to find more

728
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peace and find more centeredness. Do what works.

729
00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:10.480
Yeah, that's so true. Well, as we as we come

730
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to a close. What would be that message that you

731
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really ultimately want the audience to understand.

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Every one of us is a spark, a divine source.

733
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Every one of us is beautiful inside. Every one of

734
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us deserves an amazingly beautiful, successful, healthy life that comes

735
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in a lot of different shades. But anybody who's starting

736
00:39:31.800 --> 00:39:34.119
to visualize, can it be better for me? My answer

737
00:39:34.199 --> 00:39:36.480
is yes, it can find a way to love yourself,

738
00:39:36.800 --> 00:39:40.280
work through your emotional blocks with the intent of life

739
00:39:40.360 --> 00:39:43.159
getting better, and the universe will jump in and support

740
00:39:43.199 --> 00:39:46.159
you and help you move in that direction. You're worth it,

741
00:39:46.360 --> 00:39:47.559
You're deserving your love.

742
00:39:47.920 --> 00:39:51.239
Great. Great, So just we've talked about it, but let's

743
00:39:51.360 --> 00:39:53.159
kind of reference it one more time here and near

744
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the end. How do people find you? And how do

745
00:39:55.679 --> 00:39:56.760
people find your book?

746
00:39:57.039 --> 00:40:02.440
So they find my book the third element through typical

747
00:40:02.480 --> 00:40:05.440
online booksellers. I can't say names because that doesn't always

748
00:40:05.440 --> 00:40:08.079
go over well depending on the platforms you're on. But

749
00:40:08.119 --> 00:40:10.440
to my website Randy Lyman dot com, they can find

750
00:40:10.440 --> 00:40:12.360
links as to where to buy the book. They can

751
00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:16.440
find links to free offers that I have free workbooks

752
00:40:16.440 --> 00:40:20.440
that I offer tapping meditations. So on my website Randyliman

753
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dot com. Again, I offer a lot of things that

754
00:40:23.119 --> 00:40:25.000
are free. This is not about making money for me.

755
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This is about helping people find their power, finding ways

756
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to improve their life and for the world becoming a

757
00:40:30.280 --> 00:40:31.320
better place well.

758
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And it goes to the whole point of this podcast

759
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is making a difference in other people's lives. And you know,

760
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when if we can all get to the point where

761
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you are, as you said, where you know, I'm not

762
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here to make money. I'm here to make a difference

763
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in someone's life. I think that becomes so essential. And

764
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if we could learn to pay that forward and always

765
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do that, I think that would make such a change

766
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in the world. Don't you absolutely I agree hundred percent time. Yeah. Hey,

767
00:40:57.079 --> 00:40:59.960
well listen, Randy, thank you so much. This has been great.

768
00:41:00.239 --> 00:41:00.960
I appreciate it.

769
00:41:01.639 --> 00:41:04.480
Here, welcome, it's been fun being on your questions. Fantastic.

770
00:41:04.679 --> 00:41:07.599
I love your work, appreciate it, and folks, thanks for listening.

771
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I hope you'll join us again soon. This is doctor

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Doug saying no mistay